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I can assure you Steven Draker is no TROLL. He is an actual escort you can hire and spend time with. However, much like me, Draker has the capacity to behave like a troll. I'm not speaking for Draker when I say this, but in certain situations, unfortunately, behaving like a troll is necessary. I wish it weren't so, but I know how the haters use the internet to get their jollies. I know he bullied you quite a bit, and I believe he did enjoy it. There were a few other "regulars" who found you annoying and enjoyed Draker's bullying, too, as I recall. But I view this as: you can't expect everyone to like you or like everything you post. Your rather direct criticism of Darker is interesting, given the times you click "like" for another well known TROLL who finds nothing but pleasure in bullying other posters. What's up with that hypocrisy? As long as you're not on the receiving end, it's OK? As long as the TROLL "likes" you back, it's OK? What's the expression? People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones? I believe you just pronounced your own guilt. Perhaps you should tell yourself in the future that the "like" button isn't a juicy piece of chocolate the next time your favorite TROLL posts something that gives you an erection or puts a smile on your face. Draker did seem to go bonkers for a minute. However, have you ever tried to have a successful escorting career? Shit happens in life, and trying to please some of these review-craven bitches can be like trying to take a fist up the ass without lube. I can imagine after awhile the pressure can get to you. I'm not excusing Draker's treatment of you, but I expect he's grown from his mistakes, as hopefully we all do. Wow. I guess he hit your sensitivity button pretty hard, because that's a pretty harsh judgment of someone you probably never met. I'm sorry to hear such bitterness coming from you. I certainly know what it's like to deal with escorts who choose to play TROLL, but I'm not the type of person to carry animosity or resentment around with me. Life is too short, as far as I'm concerned. I feel the best way to deal with a TROLL escort is to NEVER hire him and warn ALL my escort-hiring friends to stay away. Nothing hurts an asshole escort more than word of mouth. The world is smaller than a lot of guys think it is. I have a feeling, as far as Daddy is concerned, I may be "banned for life" as you say. I don't think I'm deeply flawed at all. In fact, I believe Daddy is the one who is deeply flawed, and I could list each flaw quite clearly. But I no longer care about or take issue with his flaws. He's made changes at his website, and I view the changes as positive. I hope I helped him achieve that in some way. I always thought Steven Draker was hot. I enjoyed my private conversations with him. There's no one better to escort you around Belgium. I also thought he has great taste in men:

Thank you for the clarification. Since 99.9% of the post seemed to be a copy of an article from Huffington Post, appearing to eulogize her, your being facetious was lost on me. Good to know. I rarely read political posts on these boards, and I don't read Huffington Post. I also don't remember many details from regular posters who posted from the days when I last did. Testing my memory, I think you're a somewhat large Black man with a girly side, who once lived in California but now live in Florida, and you used to butt heads with Steven Draker over at the site that dare not get mentioned. Am I close? That's about all I remember. I welcome any corrections. I can relate to Amy Schumer when she says, if she discovers a new friend is voting for Trump, she feels the immediate need to question the friendship. Thank goodness none of my friends would ever consider voting for Trump, and that's a great thing when you consider some of them are Republican.

These threads do have a way of veering off track now and then. Ah, my infamous underwear thread over at the "other site." I sure did enjoy writing that one. Perhaps some readers would be interested in the outcome of that post from many years ago. There is a Black escort from days gone by that I see from time to time. While blond, lean guys are mostly my thing, I've always liked variety when I'm in the mood for it. This particular Black escort is smart (has a great day job), witty (he always makes me laugh), very masculine (killer body, scent, and voice), and strikingly handsome (great taste in clothing). We have similar body frames. I find him terrific fun in bed, and I enjoy his company when sex is completed. I've known him a long time. I saw him shortly after I posted that thread, and he said I should try on his underwear, and I did. It was a brand that I had never worn before, and lo and behold it was exactly what I was looking for. The discovery and the circumstances around it gave me a good chuckle. I don't intend to reveal the details or feed any trolls, but I will say this, unless you have your underwear custom made with a bolt of your favorite fabric that you store, there's no way you can control the quality of the fabric that rubs up against your naked cock head and shaved balls. (The skin on my cock is sensitive and my balls are shaved.) Any large, manufactured brand will change fabrics through the years by default. It's the nature of the way large manufacturing works. If you're like me, and you buy in bulk to last several years, and it's time to renew your stash, you can't expect the fabric quality to be the same. Trying new brands and styles is the only way to discover something new to enjoy.

I never liked her. What gay man who wasn't self-hating would like her? It's good that people don't live forever. Generational change and enlightened thinking can move a culture toward progress.

MsAnn/Bigvalboy, just to be clear about the LIES of a TROLL, there were no "nasty attacks" in my reply to you, and nor were any intended.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-online-secrets/201409/internet-trolls-are-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sadists

Well, well. Now there's a name from the past. It's good to recognize the old name behind the new name. But why would you pick a woman's username here? Bating on these boards is a two-way street, and you're an educated grownup who should know that by now. I won't speak for Lucky, but I definitely know who bated first upon my return. I hope you do. If not, I'm always happy to share. MsAnn, none of us are stupid enough to think that. To repeat once again: TROLLING is an addiction. What more do you need to know about addict behavior? No need to play your version of Cora, dear. TROLL behavior is a cancer on any board. Ask Daddy. Do a little research. The findings are CLEAR. The FACTS are well documented. You may have a bias. It's OK. He earned my respect. Well, that sure is one way to judge an escort. Should we all respect your opinion? I don't know how you define "rag," but I know a used Tampon, err, I mean troll-language when I read it. Perhaps you need a reminder, Bigvalboy. This from Oz's Code of Conduct: "That Message Center members shall be expected to behave as adults is not an undue burden. The expected conduct standard for the BoyToy forums is the same as that observed everyday in society by adults in our neighborhoods, towns, and cities. It is based on straightforward mature behavior, civility and courtesy that you find in a neighborhood Pub or Tavern where neighbors and acquaintances joined by occasional strangers come together to socialize in good temper, to share conversation, and to hoist, in moderation, a glass of favorite beer or wine or a cup of coffee or tea. These forums are NOT presented for abusive arguing and name calling, score settling, thread stalking, or general cyberspace blood sport for the chronically bored." The words make sense to me, but there's a serious disconnect from the words and the reality on this board. It's time to step away from denial. The future success of this board is at stake.

I hear she mentioned something about "inner circle" (LOL) and had the ignorant audacity to include the disclaimer, "supposedly." Bitches, PLEASE. Let the TROLL post her photo. I'm absolutely sure she possesses no photo of me. If I remember correctly, many hater-asshole-trolls posted some funny photos over at Daddy's, claiming they were photos of me. Some of those men were truly gross, but I'm sure a lot of members felt mocked by the attempt at ribbing me, because they looked like the guy in the photo. What can one ever do about being a victim of troll behavior except call it out when you experience it or ignore it? I think everyone knows by now that I know how to play bully, too, and I won't hesitate to slap down a hate-filled BULLY-BITCH. Now make no mistake, when an escort I like requests to see a photo in the course of conversation, I send one. The photo will never include my face, but I have no qualms of sharing nudes of my body. I work hard on my body, and I'm happy to please a sexy-looking voyeur. Without a photo, how else can anyone get decent sex these days? But I can assure you this, all my photos are watermarked, and you can't get rid of the digital signature in Photoshop. I'm armed with knowledge and skill. On top of all this, I joined Hooboy in 2005. I have never kept my height and weight a secret from readers or escorts. I'm sure if you had no life, and could figure out how to work Daddy's new Search feature, you could find plenty of threads through the years where I post my stats: over 6' tall, just under 210. I know Lucky has joked about my weight on the board, but I adore her affinity for fiction. My weight doesn't fluctuate. I lead a very active lifestyle and I enjoy my workouts at the gym.

The review portion of the Hooboy site was great, way ahead of its time. I remember reading it almost every day to see who was "Coverboy." It's there I discovered Benjamin Nicholas and fell in lust. It's no secret, I have a thing for handsome, healthy, lean blonds who possess a sexy, adorable, delicious ass. When I first visited Hooboy's Message Center, I was horrified. The place SCREAMED of hate. It took me many years before I acquired the gumption to join, and the only reason I joined was to fight back the vitriol that was being hurled at Benjamin Nicholas on an almost daily basis. Then my agenda slowly changed. He shuts down potential shitstorms much sooner than he ever did. He gives warnings to members when their treading too close to his line. After a fair amount of time and tolerance, he doesn't hesitate to put someone on Time Out. If you accumulate too many TOs, he doesn't hesitate to ban. He currently will ban an escort if the escort pushes him over his limit. I think all of this is progress, and it makes his forum a much more civil and enjoyable read. On the other hand, he has always played favorites, and I'm confident that spills over to the review site. I've done the research, and I know the behind-the-scenes on review "verification." Here's the ugly truth: Without exposing the identity of the customer, it's very difficult to verify a review. Too many customers want to remain anonymous, and they don't want the escort to remember or figure out which customer wrote the review, especially if the review is critical in any way. So I'm a bit dubious about any "service" review section, similar to how I feel about Yelp. The only way to make it work within reason is to promote the writing of reviews among customers in order to accumulate as many reviews as you can. The more the merrier. After a buildup, the process becomes a percentages game that benefits everyone. However, if escorts don't love your website, if they don't feel they'll be treated fairly by the owner and/or its members, if they feel the owner enjoys troll-speech too much, the escort is very unlikely to support your effort and ask customers to write reviews for your site. This is a delicate dance of trust and more trust. Trust requires work. You simply can't phone it in from a vacation spot. Again, actions speak much louder than any words in the TOS or COMITY AGREEMENT.

Or the chemical scent of acrylic nail glue. The low-rent salons where she works all smell like glue-sniffing factories. Much more toxic than Aqua Net.

I have been reminded via private message that I was mistaken with the above statement. Wayne (Socalguy) is the one who spearheaded the effort to raise money for his husband Rob (Robster). The owner of the site came in six posts later to cheerlead. My apologies.

Duh. If you don't type any text or upload any files in the "About Me" section of Edit Profile, the "About Me" page disappears from your profile page. Fucking coders call that shit "intuitive." (Kiss my ass.) I guess the members whose profiles I looked at, all decided not to add any additional information about themselves. I suppose there are a lot of people who have no need or desire to utilize any number of features that come with the forum's software. Or, if there was a user-friendly How-to video, members might be a little more interested or committed, especially if the software trainer in the video was Phil Affleck: I'm sure someone could find a nude, young gay to do this very important job.

“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people." Colin Powell I doubt we will ever know the truth, but what we do know is not pretty for all involved. Perhaps some customers won't know any difference, like the ones who never come to a place like this to do research. Who recovers and who moves on to another life: Time will tell.

Clever thread title, Oz. Unfortunately, new readers will not know that you created it, and it now appears as though I've responded to a thread started by a TROLL, when I have her on IGNORE. Oh well, the whims of the owner.

That's precisely what TROLLS do. Suggest = LIES. If you read the psychology behind trolling, this one is a CLASSIC. The ignorant stupidity of this one is beyond the pale, though, and I have no problem exposing this TROLL for what she truly is: a D-class hairdresser working at SuperCuts, who has a mouth that doesn't quit until an excessively large cock blocks air from entering. The mere notion, considering my business, and my knowledge and experience with the internet, that I would somehow play fast and loose with photos of myself is laughable. Given what I know about code writing, digital signatures, and security, I sincerely doubt there's ever been a forum member better insulated from a TROLL threat. That loud-mouthed BITCH may have a lot of photos to entertain fellow members (a ploy to stay popular), but I know for a fact, none of her photos are of me. You're right citylaw, I have a fierce set of balls and I can handle this BITCH-TROLL's lies, but what potential new member, what escort - looking for community support, camaraderie, or more business, wants to come face-to-face with this shit-filled hole? Here's the problem: The TROLL behavior never ends until someone in authority ends it. Most TROLLS are addicted to TROLL behavior, and the owner of this site seems to enjoy these antics. If Oz truly wants to improve his board and attract new participants, he's going to have to recognize and strongly consider the current success of the "other site" and do something similar in execution. The conversations at the "other site" have never been more diverse, collegial, and informative, and the current level of comity is impressive. For goodness sakes, the members raised a substantial amount of money to help a fellow member dealing with a health crisis, and the owner of the site spearheaded the effort. I don't know how any of you define "community," but this is serious progress compared to the meltdown years of the Hooboy era. On a positive note, I do want to congratulate Oz for deleting a current controversial thread. I know there is a contingent of gay men who want no moderation whatsoever, but I venture to guess they've never run a successful service business, or any business of any kind. When push comes to shove, someone has to lead, and I'm very glad Oz chose to lead in this instance. I hope he does more of the same moving forward.

I'm sorry to have to tell you this, JD, but I can't read your writing beyond a sentence or two. I lasted up until the line, "other prestigious well-known porn stars/escorts," and then I wanted to barf. There's nothing prestigious about sex. I find your writing style histrionic, pretentious, and gut wrenchingly incomprehensible. You come off as utterly phony and insincere. Just because I gave you 10% of my attention and 10% benefit of the doubt in this saga, it does not mean we're buddies or online friends. I believe I understand a little of what you may be going through, but I don't admire or approve of the way you handle yourself or your career. You claimed in an earlier thread that you've had a "change of heart." Here's a life lesson that I hope you learn real fast: Actions speak louder than words. Your words continue to add fuel to the fire, which basically means you, too, enjoy behaving like a mean-spirited troll. A popular saying in my dad's house: Shit or get off the pot! Make up your mind about who and what you want to be, and then find a smart way to make it happen. Stop making the same mistakes over and over again. Good luck. RH

From a business perspective, I'm disappointed to hear this. Not because I'm a fan of Spam solicitations (I'm not), but because I'm definitely in favor of folks making money from dedicated, hard work. It seems from the research I've done on forum life, it's very difficult to create a vibrant, fun, engaging place without some way to afford a path towards serious growth. E-commerce can be that path. Bandwidth costs money: The more people who visit, the more bandwidth you have to pay for. Great UI costs money: If you want to be a cut above the software that is available for free or on the cheap, you may want to consider a custom software program, unlike this one, that is free of bugs and glitches. Good code writers are not cheap. Good IT professionals are not cheap, either. Competent hosting, especially if you want your servers in a foreign country are not easy or cheap. Great Style and Design costs money: If you want your site to be as attractive to gay men as the hottest selling underwear ads (which it should be), it costs serious money. And last but not least: Moderation. If you want dedicated, 24/7, quality moderation, it rarely comes in the form of volunteer work, provided by a few retired queens who have no experience in Human Resources or managing personalities. I can promise you this: if you don't figure out a way to discourage troll-speak, none of your forum dreams will come true. Building and running a site like this, and doing it well, is time-consuming work. IMO, no one should have to do the work for free. None of us should be relying on the generosity of some owner who feels like doing this as a hobby project. One day the site is here, the day after his death, the site is gone. The days of the Hooboy incentive are LONG GONE. The internet of tomorrow almost requires some aspect of e-commerce to thrive. As I learn more about the site and this glitchy software, I'll be happy to offer other suggestions. I'm still trying to figure out why my Profile Page has an "About Me" link but others don't. Perhaps one can turn this off. I haven't found that feature yet. But I'm loving how easy it is to upload some of my favorite photos from my archives.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-online-secrets/201409/internet-trolls-are-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sadists

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_troll

I totally agree with this analysis. Young escorts are the only way to get that fresh, optimistic breath of fresh air. Many of us enjoy our memories of yesteryear and don't look upon youth as a reminder of our failures or missed opportunities. Some of us aren't interested in sex with the younger male, but a lot of us enjoy engaging with a young mind in the delightful art of communication. Many young men love to be in the company of smart, fun, older men. But today's kids are very savvy. I doubt they'd have much patience for obnoxious, hateful trolls.

I completely agree with rvwnsd on the tacky photos edging my screen. However, I can deal with bad graphic design if I enjoy the subject matter. I tolerated that cheap, free, no-design software that the "other site" used for many years. Their latest upgrade is basically more of the same with different colors. I'm a HUGE fan of clean white space, but very few web designers have the talent of those working for Apple. Plus, they're very expensive. RE: self portraits Dearest readers, Just to put an ignorant, naive, gullible TROLL in his place, there are no photos of me on the internet that do not possess a digital watermark. If anyone claims they received a photo of me and it does not have the digital watermark, then you've been played for a stupid fool. How would you know the watermark is mine? I'd have to see the photo and then I'd be happy to tell you. Does a photo exist on the internet that shows my face? Absolutely NOT! Thank you for reading my posts and supporting my stance on muzzling the hateful trolls.

Cocksuckers tend do go bonkers when they first see my cock pop out of my underwear semi-erect. The facial expression is always the same: gluttonous rapture. Back in the day, before the beta blockers, cocksuckers loved to worship the rock hard shaft I could eventually deliver. Frankly, in my experience, I always felt my cock was too large for most people's mouth, because it was a rare experience to meet a man who knew how to suck it without causing me great pain. I'm not a fan of large cock while having sex. I wish mine were smaller so that I could enjoy oral sex more. I've met a lot of adorable men who can't handle large things shoved up their ass. Some of the hottest sex I've ever had was with men whose cock was much smaller than my own. Another thing I've learned through the years: Men who are obsessed with cocksucking - you know, the guys with scabs on their knees that never heal - are among the most selfish men on the planet. They're like whiny, crying babies who won't shut the fuck up until mommy shoves a pacifier in. Obsessed cocksuckers are fucking miserable people until you stick a cock down their throat. They need their cocksucking fix 24/7 in order to make them "happy." Too bad this software doesn't offer a big-cock drop-down feature for some members to suck while posting. New lurkers might enjoy the quiet sound of a baby not crying all the time, and they might decide to join.

Try clicking on your brain. I won't be holding my breath, waiting to see if it works for you.

Oy vey is the truth. You can lead a Queen to the 2nd Floor Shoe Department at Bergdorf's, but you can't force her to buy a pair of Gianvito Rossi's. Sometimes you throw a dog a bone and he spits it back at you. At least I tried.

The silence is SO ENJOYABLE, Oz. I LOVE the IGNORE feature. I don't even need to click on mine to make it work. Great software!