November 15, 2025Nov 15 Hey guys, I’m a 32M who’s still in the closet. I’ve never had any experiences with other guys and lately I’ve been wanting to finally explore. I’m attracted to muscular guys, but I don’t talk to anyone in real life because I’m very discreet and scared of being outed. I’m thinking about using RentMen for my first experience, but I’m honestly terrified. This would truly be my first time ever and I have a lot of questions, especially about STDs and staying safe. I’d really appreciate advice from people who’ve been in similar situations. My main worries • STD safety I know condoms are important, but I’m still nervous about what’s considered low-risk for someone with zero experience. How do you bring up safer-sex questions without feeling awkward? What’s normal to ask the other person? • Choosing someone trustworthy How do you tell if a profile is legit or safe? What red flags should I watch out for? Are there signs that someone is professional and respectful? • Setting boundaries Since this would be my first time, how do I clearly say what I’m comfortable with or not comfortable with? Do people usually understand when you say you’re new or does it make things more awkward? • Managing nerves and anxiety I’m excited but also scared. For those who were closeted or late bloomers, how did you calm yourself before meeting someone? Is feeling overwhelmed normal? • Safety when meeting someone new Do you usually meet in public first? Should I tell a trusted friend where I’ll be without giving details? Any safety tips for someone who has to be very discreet? • What to expect emotionally I’m worried about feeling guilty, confused, or even attached afterward. For others who had their first experience later in life, what was the emotional “after” like? This is honestly the first time I’ve ever talked about any of this, even anonymously. Any advice, personal experiences, or tips would really mean a lot. I just want to explore in a safe, respectful, and responsible way. Thanks, guys.
November 17, 2025Nov 17 I think it would greatly help people who are considering giving you advice if you said what country you live in. The advice you’d give someone living in Kuala Lumpur would be different from the advice you’d give someone living in Bangkok or New York. Also, what are you planning with the escort— full penetrative sex, muscle worship, oral only, or something else?
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