EscortJamahl

Yes, and did it twice when I was 16 and 17. Now can you stop with the alternative career suggestions? That has nothing to do with the topic at hand. 

I don't notice more African Americans being uncut. But I do notice most Latinos are. I think it's more coincidence than anything. I'm sure there probably are more cut white guys based on religion/culture (the bible speaks of the need for circumcision (though that was mostly Old Testament law), and America was founded on Christian values), but there's also likely more white gay guys, and more gay white guys in nude situations. So when you do come across a few black ones that is uncut, versus the few that aren't, you think oh wow...there's lots of uncut black dudes. 
 

I can't believe another member encouraged me to read this gibberish. To avoid reading the entire post, I had to do a search for my name. IMO, JD should never write another word until his writing/grammar acumen equals his ego.
One way to seriously lose my favor and respect is to misquote me. To describe Daddy, I NEVER used the words "dislike this piece of trash" or "him being an asshole." I really despise being misquoted, almost as much as I despise having my member name appear in the same sentence as the TROLL.

Dear fellow lovers of escorts, hookers, porn stars, etc.,
I love this site and I love our members. But, please follow the rules. I don't fucking care about Daddy or Deej or anything that goes on at that site.  Unless relevant to a discussion on this site, leave their bullshit at the door when you come here.
I suspended a member today.  I warned another member.  I'll be keeping a closer eye on the site and while I don't believe that moderating is needed very often, at times I need to step in and ask members to cool off.  This is one of those times. I have moved some content to the Sandbox and may even move it to the Invisible Man Forum (where no one can see but me). 
Please play nice.  Please participate.  Please have a Happy New Year.
Oz

A 22-year-old member of the Kennedy family arrested after a bar fight early Thursday was defending a gay friend who was being bullied, his father said.
“Conor has always reacted against bullying,” said Robert Kennedy Jr. “I’m happy he stood up for his friend.”
John Conor Kennedy — who goes by Conor — had asked a group of four men to apologize to his friend for calling him a common homophobic slur an hour before the fight erupted at about 1:40 a.m. outside the Bootsy Bellows nightclub, Robert Kennedy said.
One of the men did come over and apologize to his friend at that point, he said. But when the crowd began leaving the club an hour later, at least two of the men began using homophobic slurs against Conor Kennedy’s friend again and he told them to stop, Robert Kennedy said.
http://www.aspentimes.com/news/cops-kennedy-family-member-arrested-after-aspen-bar-fight/
 

What I see among younger (like under 40) friends just discovering the wonderful world of hiring is that their main source is backpage, where most all advertisers ask for same-day bookings only.
I must say once again that backpage's shady image is less and less deserved as time goes on. I've found more than half a dozen reliable, quality guys here in Raleigh who advertise exclusively there, every day. Excellent providers, and good and kind people.

Actually before I opt out...I might as well discuss this topic. Might as well Kill 2 issue in 1 thread. Its actually pretty imaginable. I think it's more unimaginable than even I can imagine. Because ignorance is bliss. 
Awhile ago, a client referred me to check out a working lady's website and get in touch with her to help with my marketing (though it's a work in progress, my marketing has got me by for the last 6-7 years. Maybe not the best, but considering that I'm usually the only 1 or 2 consistent advertising black escort in most markets...it's got to say something). 
Anyhow, after having reviewed her website...I figured I'd contact her because she's local. However, one could only book thru email. Just as I was about to message, I seen in her ad that she DOES NOT SEE: Black, Middle Eastern, or Indian men. Granted she may have only been referring to clients and it's fairly common to see that in female escort ads...nevertheless, I declined to reach out to her. Hell, I could have been Shemar Moore or Idris Elba or Ben Carson for all she knows. I'm curious as to what kind of message does that send to White clients? Unless she gets too many offers of watching her do a Black guy...which seems to be a popular fetish of choice in the south. 
That's just one example of exclusion. Imagine how much more are lurking out there. And one can't compare it to anyone else. Especially in the gay world. Go to any gay bar that has big screen TVs of sexy photos of dudes or even porn playing. They'll show 20 pictures of a white guy for every 1 picture of a person of color. I think even Asians have an easier entry point than Black guys in the gay community: The San Diego to San Francisco markets are inundated with Asians looking for White arm candy. Ive been to California 5-6 times and have yet to be hired by an Asian...who makes up a large portion of California's population. I've seen White, Latin and Asian models on Andrew Christian's underwear line, but not sure I've seen any Black guys. 
That's why I harbored some resentment with Ray D, whom I respected him as an porn actor/entertainer, and whom is into Black men. He couldnt feel the empathy of the differences therein exist. Most guys just have no idea the things we notice and have to contend with. Why are we excluded? They'll just say, "get over it", or my all time favorite invented circa Treyvon Martin: "stop playing the victim". as if that's supposed to make it all better and go away. 
Earlier this year I had a white guy friend of mine say how snubbed he felt being the only white guy among the patrons at an Atlanta bathhouse. Whether it was just in his head or not, I just laughed, HA...now YOU see how I felt living in Denver all those years. 

Guys, this is all gotten to be too much. Its becoming a scandal of exorbitant proportions. The stuff being said is appalling. Mental illness requires a diagnosis from a licensed practitioner, and I don't know who's qualified to make such claims.
My recommendation is for us to all come together and pray, let go of resentment, think about the liberties we have, and how far we've come. There's a far darker world out there than the issues of the forum(s). 
For anyone feeling resentment, I'll advise what I do when I feel things are getting too much: turn it off. There's a power button. It all goes away. I can search 100 miles in every direction and never see anyone from the forum. 
Personally, and this is just for me and my sanity: I eventually want to relinquish participating and lurking in such message boards in the next 9 months. For personal reasons. The things I'm going thu with the business tends to make the forums an attractive option to discuss topics. Almost always, I end up regretting it. I'm finding it better to just directly speak to the client regarding any issues I have. 
I know I'm getting off topic here. So in the words of Mark Cuban, "I'm Out."
 

"Actually, not entirely unimaginable. More than once, when I was with black and brown friends in Harlem or Inwood or Washington Heights, and we were out on the street making noise late at night, a cop came up to us and told us to take our party inside the house. It was obvious that the presence of my little white ass as participant -- and credible witness in court -- was the thing that stopped the cop and his partner from doing a stop-and-frisk, or more." Adam Smith
 
But don't you see, Adam, that having the white ass necessary to save minority friends just can't continue. Minorities need to be given their rights and not have to rely on white asses to come to their rescue. I know you have done lots of good working with poor youth both black and brown to keep them in school and off of drugs, but the white man is not the savior. Step aside, and you will find these folks standing up for themselves. At least that's the way it should be.

Every escort of every race I've ever known has had to find some way to deal with those troubles.
Asian guys face their own subtle, unique versions of racism when escorting in America.
What you and Jamahl, as black men in America, have to deal with is just unimaginable to me.
Actually, not entirely unimaginable. More than once, when I was with black and brown friends in Harlem or Inwood or Washington Heights, and we were out on the street making noise late at night, a cop came up to us and told us to take our party inside the house. It was obvious that the presence of my little white ass as participant -- and credible witness in court -- was the thing that stopped the cop and his partner from doing a stop-and-frisk, or more.

Those sound like very positive and constructive actions.
If each of us doesn't protect ourself and stand up for our own interests, the world is certainly full of enough pointlessly destructive people who want to take down everybody they come in contact with (you and me) while they take themselves down in flames.
Those are the people we have to detect at the earliest possible instant, then cut off contact with. Exactly as you describe here.
None of us has enough time or energy or saintliness to deal with those people, much less try to fix them.

Fair enough.
Unfortunently I didn't read your last post on puddies reviews as I wasn't able to give a final word. At this point, I'm just over it. But trust me, I've considered that. I've been doing that. However, I'll take your consideration of it and do it more on top of what I'm already doing. 
One of the things I'm realizing now, everyone in a service based business right now seems to be getting backlash for dealing directly with customers. People; mainly men, in America are just mad and overly entitled. Election Day/year should be banned because it's probably cost businesses billions in losses/productivity. I have witnessed too many times myself in resturaunts and stores, how men will use employees time to vent about politics, donald trump, or how and why it's bad customer service to run out of crispy chicken. I think about those same people going home and doing the same to us. 
Amd because of that, I realized I have to urgently make changes. They been made. For the first time ever, I'm enforcing and making it clear I'm charging hourly for texts, cancelling the same day or day of, and reviewing/blacklisting intentional flakes. No more free texts after 30 minutes. And people who bullshit will get fried like bacon, sliced like ham, and eviscerated like chitterlings for Christmas dinner (hyperbole). 0 tolerance for the crap from now on and going into 2017. 
Since then, even the most nervous client made himself show up this week. And all was good, saith the dude...

Everything you said here is well considered and well thought out, and true, and I do genuinely agree with you here.
And I apologize that the tone I used in responding to you Over There was condescending, antagonistic, and not helpful.
The reason I responded at all was I thought that, by posting, you really meant to ask for advice. I accept and understand very well what you said here just above about the daily challenges of trying to survive and remain human, while doing the work that you do now.
The one thing I might be able to constructively offer is that you go back to my last post to you Over There, and look at it to see if it has any ideas you can use. I mean the idea that it really is possible to change how you manage and run your business, so as to minimize and even eliminate these sources of friction and irritation that come with really any job. I've done it, and I've seen escort friends do it, as they figured out ways to eliminate those client/prospect-caused sources of irritation from their lives.

When you discover that somebody is a douche, walk away from them and don't look back.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is to think that you can change who somebody else is. It never works.

Losing your temper is never a good thing.  I understand you feel like he is your friend, but money gets in the way of that.  I think he revealed his true thoughts about you. You don't need someone like that in your life. You shouldn't feel guilty.  I recommend that you move on.