AtlOneguy

I have been lurking on the forms researching for my frist trip in a couple of months and this has been a very helpful summary post. I have a list of a few places I want to try based on the thorough review on these post. I am just curious how do you bring up top/bottoming. I know most of the ads state what they will do and if not you can let the receptionist know what you are looking for but when you get in the room, is it just a very direct coversation i.e. I am interested in topping or bottoming? From reading the forms there seem to be two groups: 1. just go with the flow and see what happens and 2. negotiate what you want up front. I am just concerned on how to respectfully ask for what you want.