Hansen25

Thanks, that’s a really good shout. I’ll try that.

Thanks, that’s a really good shout. I’ll try that.

Thanks for the reply, that’s really useful. I’m top only, and honestly the idea of topping a guy who’s listed as a straight top is what does it for me. I know that sounds messy. What I’ve noticed at the shops is the labels feel a bit crude. If he only tops, he gets filed under straight. If he’s vers, he goes under gay. I might be overthinking it, but it kind of looks that way. I’ve never actually asked a straight-listed guy to bottom. I didn’t want to come off like an asshole client. That said, if extra money can be discussed, I wouldn’t mind trying — I don’t need him to be into it or put on a show. Just willing enough to go through with it, and not hostile about it. A blank face is fine. A bad mood would kill it for me. Anyway, appreciate you taking the time. Gives me a clearer idea of what not to waste time on

I actually think topping is harder for a straight guy than bottoming. You have to stay hard with someone you’re not attracted to, and keep it going. Bottoming doesn’t require that. That’s why I don’t really get the ones who insist on top only. Are they worried it would make them gay? Ha, I don’t think it works that way. Anyway, thanks again for the reply.

Okay this has been bugging me. Pretty much every guy at the shops and bars is listed as straight or top. Like… all of them. Is that actually true, or do they just write that? Because if you’re a top, it feels like there’s nobody left. Do a lot of these “tops” still bottom if you ask, or is that label usually real? Also, what about you guys — top, bottom, or vers? Not trying to start a debate. Just wondering what it’s like in real life vs what’s on the profile.