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My intent yesterday was to point out that we have three regular posters with a lot to offer the site. I was dismayed to some extent that they seemed to have been caught up in a thread that couldn't find an ending on farts, etc. Believing that these three guys could be the foundation of a successful site, I tried to encourage them to flush the toilet on the thread and devote themselves to topics with broader appeal. We have so many regulars who sign in each day and post nothing. I would like to see that change. The fart thread drew none of these folks into the discussion, so it seemed a good idea to move on. Like most here, I want to enjoy visiting the site.For me, it's not so much a buffet as a potluck. You bring something to the site, you take something with you. But leaving a post or thread or pic behind keeps the site thriving, and when everyone does it, we get a diverse site that keeps getting more interesting. Never did I say that these three guys were bringing the site down, especially lookin. But he chose to take it that way, and I regret that. Everyone should ask themselves what kind of site they want, and then do something to make it that way. We could all come here and find an abundance of interesting topics, pictures, and stories. We already get along very well most of the time, so let's build on that and make boytoy.com the leading message board for gay men. MsGuy has a great sense of humor, is intelligent, and cares. We need him here. Adam Smith may be the smartest poster we have. On several occasions he is just above my head, but that doesn't mean I don't like to be challenged, and I invite him to do just that. These three guys are also regular posters. I can only imagine what a good site we'd have if they put their minds to it and left the farts to the kids. I am just one poster, speaking only for himself. My opinion counts only as others agree with it, and no one should leave the site because they don't like something they think I said or inferred. By speaking up, I only try to make a point. It's not my site and please don't infer that I take any position that I don't have when I encourage everyone to make the site the best in the business.

Uh-uh! Not true, Suck. Four years ago a guy looked up the site on my recommendation. Sure, he was an undercover cop looking for illegal activity, but I did bring him here and add to the numbers, at least for that day!

After 3 hours of testimony in a jury trial, two Kentucky gay men were fined one penny for protesting their inability to get a marriage license. According to the Louisville Courier-Journal, "Dominique James and the Rev. Maurice “Bojangles” Blanchard all but admitted on the witness stand Tuesday that they’d broken the law by staying in the Jefferson County Clerk’s office after closing time — protesting when they were denied a marriage license." They turned down a plea bargain offering to drop the charges in return for five hours of community service, and went to trial, where they risked a $250 fine. Instead, they received the smallest fine in state history. Read more: http://www.courier-journal.com/article/20131126/NEWS10/311260040/Louisville-gay-couple-s-marriage-license-protest-ends-trespassing-verdict-fined-1-cent?gcheck=1

Not everyone in this world can be lucky, and most people only experience good luck in small doses. But, for those who get unlucky and get it bad, Cracked Magazine will tell their story! http://www.cracked.com/article_17416_the-7-most-bizarrely-unlucky-people-who-ever-lived.html

They keep saying that Obamacare will one day be looked upon as fondly as we now look upon the success of Medicare. Rough edges need to be worked out, at the least, but I still support easy access to healthcare for all. Not sure how the Democratic Congress could be bungling given all the obstacles the Republicans put in their way. Are you saying they passed this law against all Republican opposition all the while bungling it? How could that happen in America??

That's interesting logic. You think I denigrated someone, so you start a whole thread denigrating me. But, let us go forward and have fun. We're not attracting new members, and existing members rarely bother to post, so it might be limited fun. The three guys who I think have the most to offer here spent their time on an endless thread of bathroom humor when they could have done so much more. It looked like it was never going to end, so I spoke up, and yes, I am not the most diplomatic one. As I have said, bathroom humor has its place, but it sure wasn't bringing in new members or new posts.

I love a thin-skinned person as much as the next guy. In case you will be traveling for the holidays, maybe you could pick up a copy of this:

Thanks to the travelogues posted here so frequently, we may know a lot about visiting Bangkok bars or Rio saunas without ever going there. But lately I have been looking at gay tourist sites, and here's one that I thought did a good job of helping you get through your first night a Bangkok bar. It's even funny! http://bangkokbois-gay-thailand-blog.com/2011/02/26/first-timers-guide-to-bangkok-gay-gogo-bars/ For a chuckle, I quote the blogger's guess at what you experienced when you went to a message board for information on gay Thailand: "If their first visit wasn’t a spur of the moment decision while already in Bangkok, the newbie probably tried to find out the scoop through the internet. Which means they found one of the gay Thailand forums. What a scary introduction that must be! If they man up and post their questions . . . yikes! Doubtful they’ll get the answers they were looking for. But before the thread goes totally off the track (that’d be by responding post #5) they’ll be accused of being someone they never heard of; someone else will abusively tell them to use the search function; some old disgruntled Pattaya expat will tell them they will be ripped off, left with blue balls, and spat upon; and one of the bar owners in Pattaya will use their post as an excuse to promote his bar." hehe, right?

That's right on, but it hasn't been much of a buffet lately. We're overloaded with shit dumplings. People may come here to eat the buffet, but I'll bet they want more variety. That's what got me started, the endless post on shit and diapers, etc. And you could see that no one was responding to that except for the Holy Trinity.

And the pope would say, who am I to judge? You guys can make this the shittiest message board in town if you want, it's no sweat to me. But you laud Totally Oz when he proudly comes in announcing site changes and then you load his site with shit. Not much respect there, if you ask me. But, all I am doing is prodding folks to contribute their best, and, if shit is the best they can do, well, so be it. We don't need a poll to tell us that dozens of folks are coming to the site and not making a single post. Why is that? For me, I like to come here and be rewarded with something interesting. Then, hopefully, I do my part and leave something interesting. Ideally, there might be something for everyone, and that includes juvenile humor. But that won't keep me coming back, and obviously it hasn't resulted in a swarm of new members or even new posts. Yes, we have some great contributors. I love those who share their travel stories, but it's only partly a travel board. I love nude guys, but if that's all we offer, there are plenty of sites doing that job better. Perhaps my mistake is assuming that MsGuy, Adam Smith, lookin and several others are some of the smartest guys here- the very guys who could be driving this site to success. Yet they seem to be just pooped out, and that's too bad.

Newsweek.com takes a look at CGI, a company that is more a part of the US Government than you might think. In an amazing story, we see that Obama farmed out- outsourced- the creation of the health care website, then sat back and let them bungle it. But, how can we blame the president when so much of the government is outsourced these days? http://www.newsweek.com/too-big-succeed-207325 will give you a good example of how our government has changed, and who really runs it these days. This outsourcing is highly popular throughout the government and the military, something I doubt the Founding fathers envisioned, and something most Americans might not even be aware of. I know I thought a federal agency created the Obamacare enrollment website.

Well, you and lookin can keep your inside jokes and leave others scratching their heads, but the site won't grow with posts from others as long as people see it as a closed club. You obviously have a lot of time on your hands, and we know you're smart, so why not come up with some more challenging material that invites a larger participation? Lookin might even give you some more "likes." There have been 45 members online so far today, and only Santiago, Chile got a thread. Yes, I know, we have some nice pix of naked guys too, but, with those, you look and move on. Threads that keep people talking are the ones that will keep people coming.

We've had some really interesting threads, we have some really interesting contributors, and even if the name Boytoy does not conjure up Keats or Proust, that doesn't mean we shouldn't attempt to have the best message board we can. Posting is down, and I submit it is because of a lack of interest in joining in on threads about juvenile humor- not that juvenile humor doesn't have its place. So all I am trying to do is encourage folks to make the effort to keep the website interesting. If fart jokes is the result, well, then clearly I am at the wrong place, but I don't think I am. I know the holidays will slow things down as well, so all the more reason to push and prod.

Deduct the threads that weren't there when I posted this, subtract all of the nude pix that anyone can find in a cursory search of the internet, and what does draw people to boytoy.com? As you can see, not much, given the paucity of posts over the period. Look how many people visit the site and post nothing. I have liked some of the political stuff, but it seems to be the height of laziness to post someone else's opinion with no comment of your own. And NC, you might not be so Bored if someone posted something worth reading, including yourself. Life in North Carolina must be really dull! ( )

Where are the minds here going? Scat, farts, and stupid butt jokes. Is this the kind of website you really want?

Before you guys decide to continue this sophomoric thread, take note of the deep decline in postings and new topics recently. If all people see when they come here is TV Guide stuff and juvenile humor, what's the incentive to say and try to contribute something more substantive? There's a list of new topics on the right of the page- it's pretty sparse for grown-up reading. Oh, Happy Thanksgiving. Don't eat too much or you might have to fart!

My fall trip to New York was the worst in years. there was so little theater that interested me that I might have well stayed home. I saw Big Fish, and cannot quarrel with its poor box office, and I saw After Midnight, which is more of a jazz show than theater. It was just okay. The best show on my list was A Gentleman's Guide to Love and Murder, starring the wonderful Jefferson Mays, but I took ill right before the show and had to skip it. Spring theater looks more promising. Neil Patrick Harris will star in the wonderful Hedwig and the Angry Inch. No doubt it will be the must see ticket for gays. I remember seeing it off-Broadway many moons ago and being just knocked off my seat. Ticket prices keep climbing. Standard orchestra on Broadway is now in the $150 range, and they are just not giving value for the money, or so I think.

Last night the spouse put the movie Skyfall on the TV. It's playing on Netflix, and I loved it when I saw it in the theaters. Judi Dench is in it, and I like watching her on screen as well. So it seemed natural to go see her newest movie, Philomena. She doesn't play the tough head of a spy agency, but rather a lonely mother who had to give her son away when she gave birth at the age of 14, some 50 years back. Evil, cold, cruel Catholic nuns took her in, took her baby, and then subjected her to years of slave labor to pay their costs. We don't know what those costs were, especially since the nuns sold the babies they took in to US folks needing a baby or two. Philomena has always wanted to find the son she signed away, promising never to do just that. But, as part of a prospective story, a magazine underwrites her trip to the US to find her son, accompanied by a reporter with a back story of his own. After various amusing situations, frustrating situations, and a few closed doors, they finally to learn that the son grew up to be a lawyer, indeed, chief counsel to presidents Reagan and Bush the Elder. He was also gay and died of AIDS. So, we get a double whammy here. Judi retains her faith in the Church despite the sins they exercised on her. And, like mother, like son, as our gay lawyer turned his back on his own community to support Reagan and the Republicans when they themselves tuned their backs on AIDS. Naturally, the son died of AIDS. Did he ever try to find his mother? I'll leave that as my one spoiler left unsaid. The first hour of the movie drags and only comes alive with the discovery of the son. But it does a good job of showing a mother's love for her son and the frustratingly appalling ability of a mother to keep her faith in a Catholic Church that not only abused her, but gays and people with AIDS. Is there any insult a Catholic mother won't endure to keep right with Rome?

They like them, that's how! They are buying up pecans like never before, and, along with bad weather, pecan crops this year are down by millions of acres. With Chinese New Year at the end of January next year, pecans are a bigger part of the delicacies prized for that days long feast. Yet I recently bought a whole bag of delicious pecans just to snack on. It's walnuts that are getting expensive too. We just have to accept the fact that as poorer countries become more prosperous, the goodies we could afford are now affordable to many of them as well. So, share and share alike!

Or a Roto-Rooter man!

My cardiologist is the one who suggested that infrequent grapefruit might not be so bad.

She is going on tours after her current London show. I don't imagine she will ever retire.

Lucky me! I take Crestor! Crestor and Grapefruit Although most statin drugs should not be taken in combination with grapefruit products, Crestor is an exception. While grapefruit can increase the levels of certain statins in a person's blood, Crestor and grapefruit do not seem to have this interaction.

No, I didn't forget. I chose not to post that slanderous accusation against red grapefruit. It wouldn't hurt a flea, especially when limited to 8 oz. per week- even less when considering the drained juice.

I really like red grapefruit. I get a dozen 8 oz. cups at Costco, and eat one each week after draining some of the juice. Yes, I add a bit of sugar.. Yummy! Try it with your toyboy!