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I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.
I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.
The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.
So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.
Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 
I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.
I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.
The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.
So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.
Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 
I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.
I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.
The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.
So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.
Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 
I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.
I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.
The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.
So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.
Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 
I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

I had a meet up with an acquaintance I have not seen or heard from in twenty five years recently. It was odd and awkward in so many ways.
I first had to establish that this fella was no longer using hard drugs. No I have been lied to about this by many addicts but I usually can suss out the truth quickly and make decisions using that information. I don't automatically discriminate against drug users- I just like to know what I am dealing with. This fella had used Crack in the past and that is not a drug with effects that I find pleasant. He told me he had not used Crack in four years.
The other issue I wanted to clear up was what he looked like these days. I found his FB profile but there were so many "looks" that I guessed I had to see for myself. Well he is not the young fella I played with from 25 + years ago but I have changed a lot also.
So I agreed to meet him. I asked him about going to lunch/ coffee near his place and he agreed_ asking to pick him up first. All of that was forgotten I guess when he asked me in. :(  A brief chat ( where he overshared) led to him wanting to roll around which led to a lot of uncomfortable roll play scenarios finally after an hour of me trying to get him off he got up to smoke and I got up to get dressed.and leave.
Welllllll now I have a stalker! UGH! 
I guess on the one hand I should be flattered that someone want to have sex with me for free but on the other hand...well it just is not worth the bother.

I shared LurkerSpeaks penchant for Insomnia. So I was awake when I got a mysterious pm at 2 a.m. asking me if I knew of any family contacts for him. This was after telling him repeatedly to stop messing about with OCT meds and go to a clinic (and giving him the name of a recommended clinic) a few days ago. On Sunday he confirmed that he was at the clinic. And then no further communication from LurkerSpeaks.  I asked a mutual friend to investigate and this morning I got confirmation of my fear. Much thanks to TotallyOz for doing this for our community.
I have lost a dear personal friend as well a fellow Hoovillian. I have been trying to process this sad news all day The fact that he left this world on the eve of his birthday makes this all the more tragic.  
LurkerSpeaks died as I hope to die. On an adventure! May he now rest in peace.

Thank you for the report Latbear4blk. 

Jeffrey Hurrant was released from prison last month He is still on Parole (and will be for some time) and now he will try and get his life back together. Even with the generous donations of his friends he is pretty much broke now- but he is optimistic about his future 

Fascinated at the responses to Rockhard's travel thread (everyone must love him to be so passionate about him). I felt a bit guilty that I have not contributed a good review recently. I hope this helps!
Walking into the Burger King, the first thing that envelopes you is the ambiance. While many trendy restaurants these days attempt a muted, minimalist look, with subtle tans and creamy whites, this restaurant announces itself to you. Bright colors abound, making a statement that an era of fashionable dining is just around the corner. But more than that, it seems like a comment on the way culinary progress has become nearly imperialist in the post-Michelin era.
Once you have soaked in the visuals, the next thing you'll notice are the fragrant aromas that wash over your senses. It hints at traditional dining with a bit of neoclassical fusion. Immediately you want to become part of this experience, to dive into it, flow with it, move with it like a classical jazz concert.
Next, you discover that the chef has done away with traditional table service. As if to say that the masses should be set free and equality should rule, diners line up while inspecting a menu directly over the kitchen itself. The experience literally breaks the fourth wall of culinary spectacle.
For my meal I asked what the specialty of the chef was, and learned an entirely new word for food, called a “Whopper.” The server was very helpful and suggested that for the full experience, I should add “fries” as an amuse-bouche and “Coca-Cola,” selected by their sommelier.
The main course was exceptional. The Whopper had a delectable slice of meat, topped with lettuce, tomato, and tasty red and yellow sauces. One bite sent my taste buds exploding, but it was when I then sampled the fries that I realized a perfect combination of tastes had been borne from the heavens.
The Coca-Cola had a deep bouquet and completed the experience – cleansing my palate while energizing my taste buds at the same.
Once I finished, the egalitarian esthetic was complete as I was directed to clear my table myself. It was an excellent touch of post-deconstructionism, returning us to a time when meals were about self-sufficiency.
Burger King is a transcendent experience honoring the proletariat while offering a mélange of tastes fit for royalty.

Lurker was truely a nice guy! He accepted his “flaws” with a self deprication but did not let them stop him from enjoying life!  I remember one night in Rio a couple years ago there were 6 of us in a private room at a sushi restaurant, in the course of the evening a minor argument broke out between 2 good friends, while it was going on Lurker gave his CC to the waiter and paid for everyone’s dinner! No one saw him do it and everyone there made much more then he did!  He was unselfish, funny and a really good guy and that’s how I will remember him!

The main things to ease this situation would be 1) have a well documented contact person who knows your plans and your wishes regarding health emergencies or death. Best to have those plans in writing. 2) Transportation of a dead body is a PIA and is very expensive. If you cannot have money put aside to handle these expenses then you might be disposed in the place you died. You should document that you are ok with this to relive your friends/family of any feeling of responsibility or feelings of guilt. 3) Travel insurance is great- but good policies that would cover the cost of the return of a body to another country are pricey. If you buy travel insurance make sure you know what is covered and also make sure that both your emergency contact and the person responsible for making decisions about such things have a copy of the policy. 4) Stay in contact with friends / family and let them know where you are traveling and where you are staying.. I tend to "overshare" especially when traveling  on Facebook but my family and friends know where I am. 5) Finally, although it is not always possible or desirable to travel with friends it has it's good points. Especially when traveling to new destinations.
If you die - well you will be dead and won't have to worry about any of this! But there are almost always survivors who will have the unwelcome (and usually unwanted) responsibility of taking care of the matters that follow a death.

The main things to ease this situation would be 1) have a well documented contact person who knows your plans and your wishes regarding health emergencies or death. Best to have those plans in writing. 2) Transportation of a dead body is a PIA and is very expensive. If you cannot have money put aside to handle these expenses then you might be disposed in the place you died. You should document that you are ok with this to relive your friends/family of any feeling of responsibility or feelings of guilt. 3) Travel insurance is great- but good policies that would cover the cost of the return of a body to another country are pricey. If you buy travel insurance make sure you know what is covered and also make sure that both your emergency contact and the person responsible for making decisions about such things have a copy of the policy. 4) Stay in contact with friends / family and let them know where you are traveling and where you are staying.. I tend to "overshare" especially when traveling  on Facebook but my family and friends know where I am. 5) Finally, although it is not always possible or desirable to travel with friends it has it's good points. Especially when traveling to new destinations.
If you die - well you will be dead and won't have to worry about any of this! But there are almost always survivors who will have the unwelcome (and usually unwanted) responsibility of taking care of the matters that follow a death.

I have amazon prime pkgs arriving every week at my home! I love amazon but I need to not click on every Gadget I think I have to have! :-)

The main things to ease this situation would be 1) have a well documented contact person who knows your plans and your wishes regarding health emergencies or death. Best to have those plans in writing. 2) Transportation of a dead body is a PIA and is very expensive. If you cannot have money put aside to handle these expenses then you might be disposed in the place you died. You should document that you are ok with this to relive your friends/family of any feeling of responsibility or feelings of guilt. 3) Travel insurance is great- but good policies that would cover the cost of the return of a body to another country are pricey. If you buy travel insurance make sure you know what is covered and also make sure that both your emergency contact and the person responsible for making decisions about such things have a copy of the policy. 4) Stay in contact with friends / family and let them know where you are traveling and where you are staying.. I tend to "overshare" especially when traveling  on Facebook but my family and friends know where I am. 5) Finally, although it is not always possible or desirable to travel with friends it has it's good points. Especially when traveling to new destinations.
If you die - well you will be dead and won't have to worry about any of this! But there are almost always survivors who will have the unwelcome (and usually unwanted) responsibility of taking care of the matters that follow a death.

When I drank I loved a Dubonet and Gin (aka  Pink Gin) which I first learned of from a Noel Coward song! And yes, I was a pretentious little fuck when I was a twink!

I would have serviced every single fella in that number! Bobby Barras is one of my crushes!

The main things to ease this situation would be 1) have a well documented contact person who knows your plans and your wishes regarding health emergencies or death. Best to have those plans in writing. 2) Transportation of a dead body is a PIA and is very expensive. If you cannot have money put aside to handle these expenses then you might be disposed in the place you died. You should document that you are ok with this to relive your friends/family of any feeling of responsibility or feelings of guilt. 3) Travel insurance is great- but good policies that would cover the cost of the return of a body to another country are pricey. If you buy travel insurance make sure you know what is covered and also make sure that both your emergency contact and the person responsible for making decisions about such things have a copy of the policy. 4) Stay in contact with friends / family and let them know where you are traveling and where you are staying.. I tend to "overshare" especially when traveling  on Facebook but my family and friends know where I am. 5) Finally, although it is not always possible or desirable to travel with friends it has it's good points. Especially when traveling to new destinations.
If you die - well you will be dead and won't have to worry about any of this! But there are almost always survivors who will have the unwelcome (and usually unwanted) responsibility of taking care of the matters that follow a death.

I spoke with LurkerSpeaks sister the other day. It was a difficult conversation for both of us. I had to use discretion, diplomacy and compassion all at the same time. 
There is a police investigation happening since there was another person (a young Thai male) in the room when LurkerSpeaks passed. I am pretty sure that this fella just happened to be in the wrong space at the wrong time when LurkerSpeaks died of natural causes and unfortunately some prescription medications were removed from his hotel room. .Ifhear otherwise I will post it here.
LurkerSpeaks body was cremated in Thailand and will be returned to his family along with his personal effects.

I shared LurkerSpeaks penchant for Insomnia. So I was awake when I got a mysterious pm at 2 a.m. asking me if I knew of any family contacts for him. This was after telling him repeatedly to stop messing about with OCT meds and go to a clinic (and giving him the name of a recommended clinic) a few days ago. On Sunday he confirmed that he was at the clinic. And then no further communication from LurkerSpeaks.  I asked a mutual friend to investigate and this morning I got confirmation of my fear. Much thanks to TotallyOz for doing this for our community.
I have lost a dear personal friend as well a fellow Hoovillian. I have been trying to process this sad news all day The fact that he left this world on the eve of his birthday makes this all the more tragic.  
LurkerSpeaks died as I hope to die. On an adventure! May he now rest in peace.

I shared LurkerSpeaks penchant for Insomnia. So I was awake when I got a mysterious pm at 2 a.m. asking me if I knew of any family contacts for him. This was after telling him repeatedly to stop messing about with OCT meds and go to a clinic (and giving him the name of a recommended clinic) a few days ago. On Sunday he confirmed that he was at the clinic. And then no further communication from LurkerSpeaks.  I asked a mutual friend to investigate and this morning I got confirmation of my fear. Much thanks to TotallyOz for doing this for our community.
I have lost a dear personal friend as well a fellow Hoovillian. I have been trying to process this sad news all day The fact that he left this world on the eve of his birthday makes this all the more tragic.  
LurkerSpeaks died as I hope to die. On an adventure! May he now rest in peace.

Early days for this. He did have a friend who was very close to him who might be able to help. Unfortunately he did not seem to be close to his siblings so repatriation of remains might be difficult. This is an interesting subject for study and I am consulting with some travel industry friends to find out what happens in a case like this.

I shared LurkerSpeaks penchant for Insomnia. So I was awake when I got a mysterious pm at 2 a.m. asking me if I knew of any family contacts for him. This was after telling him repeatedly to stop messing about with OCT meds and go to a clinic (and giving him the name of a recommended clinic) a few days ago. On Sunday he confirmed that he was at the clinic. And then no further communication from LurkerSpeaks.  I asked a mutual friend to investigate and this morning I got confirmation of my fear. Much thanks to TotallyOz for doing this for our community.
I have lost a dear personal friend as well a fellow Hoovillian. I have been trying to process this sad news all day The fact that he left this world on the eve of his birthday makes this all the more tragic.  
LurkerSpeaks died as I hope to die. On an adventure! May he now rest in peace.