I completely agree. It was a never ending rollercoaster of realizing that I had abandoned friends (some never returned) and family who knew they were helpless to offer any real help. I remember one time when I was about to lose the house and I took my sister to dinner to ask her for $700 to help make the mortgage. I pulled myself together the best I could, but I was a shaking mess and sweating like a pig. She quietly sat there and listened to me, eyes filled with pain, knowing the money wouldn't really go toward the mortgage, then she said, "I can't, I don't want to enable you" ...She paid the bill and got up and walked out. I understood...Today, she is my best friend.