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@Jtmjxn I wouldn't bring lube and sex toys with me, but I wouldn't wipe my phone either. Support the local sex shops, buy local Which airport are you flying to? This whole immigration issue is mainly limited to Medellín, the city is plagued with passport bros nowadays.

I strongly suspect that most of these "buy content before we meet" offers are scams. A guy on Grindr offered me his content for 50 kCOP and a subsequent meeting for another 50. I offered him 100 kCOP to buy his content and meet at the same time, but he flatly refused. Besides, this guy posted in 2 different cities on the same day: https://co.mileroticos.com/escorts-gay/buscar-3147980841/

shi It depends. Most do it for the money, others want to experience having sex with a gringo (happens more often in places less frequented by tourists), and others genuinely like older men.

A very late report, I've been busy with work lately. I found back my notes today and thought I'd share a brief summary of the trip. --------- I landed in Bogotá on a Friday afternoon. I always fly to Bogotá because I hate the long lines at immigration in Medellín. But I wasn't so lucky; the wait was almost two hours. Interestingly, the immigration officer mentioned that the "biomig" system for foreigners will soon be available. It will only require pre-registration at the airport, and you'll be able to enter and exit through the automated gates (for now, it only works for leaving the country, for foreigners without residency). Bogotá I only spent one night in Bogota, enough time to have fun with S, a libanese/venezuelan guy that I knew from previous trips, and a visit to montserate. Sex with S is like fighting a wrestling game. He's the most dominant bottom I ever met. He's amazing, but not the best cure for jetlag. The next day, I packed my bags and went to salitre bus station, to catch the bus to Villavicencio. Traffic in Bogota (and most other cities like Medellin) is a disaster on Saturdays. All cars are allowed to drive, while on weekdays, most cities have 'pico y placa' in place, where only a limited set of cars are allowed on the road. It took 2 hours for the bus to get out of Bogota and another 2 hours to arrive in Villavicencio. The route is very scenic. Villavicencio Villavicencio (or Villavo for the locals) is the gateway to the Llano (the plains), the land of the vaqueros (cowboys). On one side, you have the mighty Andes, on the other side the great plains that reach until Venezuela. This was my first visit and I immediately fell in love with this town. I booked the GHL hotel for 2 nights at 50$ and another night in hotel 'Casa del Sol' (for some reason, the GHL hotel price doubled for that last day). GHL hotel is a luxury hotel, with a rooftop pool and great views over the city. I only had one 'joiner', but front desk assured me that it wasn't a problem to invite people, as long as they were registered. Before I knew, I was talking on grindr with Jesus, a 22 years old uni student, who was more than pleased to be my personal guide. He fulfilled that role until the moment he waved me goodbye at the airport. This boyfriend experience for three days was a lot of fun. Our agreement was that I was going to pay all costs. The first night we went to a roadside barbecue stand (usually a makeshift tent on the side of the road). Villavo is famous for its meat. We enjoyed an excellent steak at a very affordable price. I went to bed early, still jet-lagged. The next day we went to a shopping mall, Primavera Urbana. Quite a unique place, since it's integrated into nature, with meandering creeks and a huge pond. You should go during the day, to enjoy the beautiful walking trail through the forrest. In the afternoon, we strolled to the city center and a couple parks and relaxed at the swimming pool. The weather is hot, but with a cool breeze in the evening and night. We went early to bed, because the next day, we would become cowboys. Tiuma Park is a real paradise. An adventure park, a 30 minutes taxi ride from Villavicencio, where you can go zip lining, horseback riding and even follow a short course to become a cowboy and learn how to herd cows. Plenty of activities to do and we both enjoyed it a lot. We had the whole park for ourselves. Once back in Villavicencio, we went to an amazing venezuelan restaurant called 'De Pana' (Tequeños! cachapas!) and later a game of bowling in a local commercial center. The following day I was leaving for Medellin. Jésus was heartbroken, just like me, which lasted until I opened Grindr in Medellín a couple hours later. I booked a direct flight with Clic Air. It was a bit more expensive, but the advantage is that you land at the small airport near Laureles and El Poblado (saving you time and taxis). Plus, I like flying on a propeller plane; it's a different experience. Best place to stay in Villavo: the hotels around the GHL hotel in the south (safe area with plenty of restaurants and shopping centers). Gay stuff: Gay disco Mantra (I didn't visit, since I was still suffering from jetlag). Gay sauna 'Club B' (or CB club). According to my contact, a bit rundown. Grindr: I had a couple offers from escorts. Rates were between 50kCOP - 100 kCOP Medallo During the flight to Medellin, I started talking with a young handsome backpacker from the UK. He was going to walk to his hostel from the airport. I talked him out of the idea and offered to share a taxi since I was heading in the same direction. Nothing would have probably happened, but I'm not convinced that it's a great idea to walk through the infamous barrio antioquia with all your belongings, at any time of the day or night. Sadly, he turned out to be hetero, my gaydar is completely unreliable these days. Medellin was great as always. The following days, I contacted a bunch of regulars and met a couple new guys from grindr. Rates are around 150kCOP for paid sex. I can confirm that there are freelancers roaming Sauna Cruising (I asked one of them, 20kCOP oral, 50kCOP sex). Plenty of handsome guys. I went with a group of guys I know and they told me that the youngsters who used to frequent 'El Castillo' now go to Cruising. We ended the evening nearby at the 'La Purísima' bar in front of Boston park. Not a gay spot, but excellent cocktails in a great atmosphere. One of my regulars was going to celebrate his 23rd birthday and I joined his birthday party at the "Salvaje Perreo" discoteca in Bello. It's not a gay disco, but LGBT friendly. It was the first time I went out in this street full of bars and discos. I had planned to go to Parche at PV (Prado Verde) afterwards, but ended up in a motel nearby with the 'hetero' nephew of the birthday boy, after he had brought his girlfriend home. You gotta love Colombia. Premium is still busy with big crowds on Wednesdays since there's no cover fee. Some motels like ibiza do not allow entry to Venezuelans, unless they have a passport or PPT. Luckily, there are plenty of motels that don't make a problem of it. I found a small and cheap motel 'aloha suite' (30kCOP for simple room) next to Unicentro Laureles. Very convenient to meet your grindr date at the mall and only have to walk 50 meters to start the action. Cúcuta fuck the police I hadn't heard from one of my regulars for months. He joined the police force and it's not a joke over there. They have to turn in their phones and they stay at the academy for 3 months. After three months, they are allowed to use their phone again and they get 1 day off a week. That's a lot of effort for earning the minimum wage with no possibility to climb up the hierarchy and even have to pay a large sum (16 million pesos) for their equipment and training. He looked great in his uniform and we got the motel room for free (it looks like the job comes with a couple perks though). Afterwards, we had diner and cocktails in Caobos. 4some A friend was in town (he normally lives in Venezuela) and he wanted to meet me again. He made the deal more enticing by offering to bring 2 friends with him. We ended up in motel picardias. Their Aruba room isn't cheap at 180kCOP, but you can stay for 6 hours and it has a large swimming pool. This was the second foursome I ever had (both were in Cucuta) and certainly to be repeated. We had a blast. The next few days I went dancing at La Redoma and visited the city center, ecoparque and a couple small pueblos with regulars. Grindr was very active and I met 2 new guys, both from Venezuela and both great company. Some random observations: Pandora le club is no more.. A gay institute has fallen and been replaced by yet another straight disco. Disco 'La Celosa' has taken over part of the public, but it's not a gay disco. La Redoma has female strippers now on Friday evenings and male strippers on Saturday evenings. I hadn't expected to see 'caminantes' again (after not having seen them for years). Caminantes are Venezuelans who walk all the way to their destination (which can be another country). It seems that the situation in Venezuela hasn't improved much.. Cúcuta felt more safe with a lot of police in the streets. Maybe it was because of the elections at the time. Rates are 30kCOP - 100 kCOP for paid sex. --------- Overall, another amazing trip to Colombia and I'm already looking forward to go back. If only to go to Cali, a city I have not yet visited. I'd say half of the guys I met were regulars; the others I contacted through Grindr or by recommendation from regulars.

I suspect you put "Columbia" there just to make sure @floridarob reacts. 😅

I assume you're staying in Chapinero. There are a lot of motels around Carrera 15 and Calle 62 (and the surrounding streets). I usually go there with my date and discuss prices and room features with the doormen / barkers. I tried several, and they were all fine; the only one I remember is Samara Suite (recommended, but you have to haggle). Also, keep in mind that while you can often buy condoms, lube, snacks & drinks at the motel, the prices are usually high. I bring my own lube and condoms and I visit an Oxxo shop (open 24 hours) to buy drinks and snacks.

Thanks for the report and I'm glad you enjoyed yourself in Medallo. Fidelina is indeed a great-looking restaurant. If you like restaurants/bars with a quirky design, you should definitely try Ambar Bocarriba next time (one block from primer parque Laureles).

I still use the old sim cards myself, but I'm pretty sure they can configure that for you at a claro shop. Search for 'CAV claro' in google maps and go to the nearest one. They will probably ask for your passport.

I think they 'merged' with nature boy, but I could be wrong. If I remember well, there was a sign that said 'golden cock - nature boy'. In that same street, I almost followed a couple cute boys into an establishment called 'simply'. Luckily I noticed that it's a tomboy bar before I got in. There is another bar there called 'h.i.m.', not sure what their audience is, since I didn't enter after almost getting involved with tomboys.

I have no idea. I spoke to a Filipino and a Thai in that bar.

Indeed, I managed to pick the only 'top' in the whole bar.. Don't worry, I would never describe you as a porn star 😅

For @vinapu, my rating of chicken with cashew nuts 😅 1. Sophia's Kitchen (Pattaya): The clear winner for me, I loved it. Amazing food for a great price. 2. foodland (Bangkok): good quality, rather small portion. 3. happy beer garden (Bangkok): dissapointing. Received few cashew nuts.

Bangkok Day activities: A visit to the Mahanakhon skyscraper. The view is impressive, as is the skywalk. bicycle tour by night. Great experience, but I prefer the day tour. Bars: Fresh boys: great selection of boys and I loved the show (only one ladyboy lip-syncing act). I invited #19 and #28 to sit with me. #19 was very cute but top only. I would have taken #28 if it was any cheaper (asked for 3000 baht). Not sure if that's normal practice, but the papasan said that I had to pay the full amount to the bar, including the tip for the boy (?). Maybe I misunderstood. Good boy: good selection of boys but I arrived just before the show started. I lran away after three kathoey acts. Golden Cock: The door was open, but the bar was empty. No one in sight. I left after 5 minutes. Super A: I was the only customer. Drinks are 200 baht and the off fee is 500 baht. The guys are fully clothed, one of them attractive. I invited him to sit with me, and he immediately unbuckled his belt to get a better look at his goods. He's straight, but "can do anything." I put that to the test, and we went to the hotel, and what a surprise... The best sex I've had all week. He's an enthusiastic kisser and loved being fucked. He asked for 1500, but I gave him 2000. Sometimes you find what you're looking for where you least expect it. Massages: Avalon massage: A cute guy comes up to me and says, "Massage, please, sir." I can't resist (massage 685 baht). I really enjoyed the massage. Then came the question I was hoping for: "Would you like something extra?" We discussed the details and the price (a 2,000 baht tip), and he undressed. He insisted we be very quiet, as there were other customers getting a massage in the same room (seperated by curtains). I really tried to be quiet, but I think I failed miserably. It was very enjoyable, anyway. oneSpa (saphan kwai): I chose "Min" a guy from Myanmar who could bottom. Special offer, 1 hour 499 baht. Minimum tip 1000 baht. Luckily, I paid an extra 100 baht for the VIP room, because if that was a VIP room, I don't want to know what the regular rooms look like. The massage was better than expected, with a pleasant body-to-body massage. As soon as I turned over, the real fun began. Min turned out to be a very enthusiastic bottom. We showered together at the end. From start to finish, 70 minutes. Highly recommended. Grindr: Probably a coincidence, but the money boys were much more responsive than in Pattaya. I got one boy into my room within five minutes of our conversation. I ended up meeting two boys, paying them 1,200 and 1,500 baht respectively. Both were okay. ---- I had a wonderful trip to Thailand. It was great to be back and see how things have changed. Some for the better (Jomtien Complex), some for the worse (Sunee, Boystown). After visiting Colombia often over the past five years, it was good to have a change of scenery. Will I go back? Definitely, but my next trip will be to Colombia again. Thailand has so many advantages over Colombia. It's very safe, the food is great, the hotels are cheap and high-quality, you can get a good massage, and it's very easy to find a money boy... But what I miss most in Thailand is what they call "morbo" in Colombia. It's hard to describe, but the sex is just hotter, more intense, more passionate. And there's a lot of kissing (more than half of the guys in Thailand didn't want to kiss). I also miss the long conversations, having drinks together, going out together,... With guys from South Asia it's just more difficult, because we don't speak a common language and I don't like using translation apps all the time.

For the first time in five years, I visited Thailand again, albeit for only nine days. The first seven days I spent in Pattaya, the last few in Bangkok. I stayed at the Zing Resort in Pattaya and at The Raya in Bangkok. The Zing Resort is a simple but pleasant hotel. The staff is super friendly, no problem with guests and it's always nice to have a pool. The Raya: I was unlucky enough to have a room on the fifth floor (where the reception is), but they don't even bat an eye when you go up to your room with your boyfriend of the day. The room was very nice (with a naughty shower), but I didn't like the bed: a mattress on viagra, rock hard. Pattaya I took the airport bus to Jomtien. Even though I didn't have a reservation, I only had to wait 20 minutes for the next bus. Grindr had a good selection of guys, but it was difficult to make appointments (no or late responses, guys who didn't show up, etc.). I ended up meeting three guys, only one of whom was memorable. On average, I paid 1,500 baht for bar boys and 1,000 baht for guys from Grindr. Daytime Activities: Ramayana Water Park with a Grindr contact (free, but I paid for admission, transportation, and food). A bit pricey (999 baht admission), but great slides and lots of fun. The guy loved it. Koh Larn with a guy from M Bar. We went to Tien Beach. It's still one of my favorite beaches on the island. A sexy photoshoot among the rocks on the other side of the island was the highlight of the day. Trip to Bang Saray (by Songthaew/motorcycle taxi). Strolled around town for a bit. Bars & Massages Jomtien Complex: M bar: My favorite bar in Pattaya. The guys are cute and the show is entertaining (the fuck show in black and white!). I've offed three guys from Laos (technically, I only offed one, since the others joined me after closing time). One night, a big spender got all the guys drunk. One of them fell asleep on my lap. Another asked if he could sleep at my place because he lost his keys. Of course, I didn't mind and the next morning he proved that having sex is a perfect remedy for a hangover. Gus bar: The guys are very twinky. The "sexy boys" show is just energetic dancing, but I enjoyed it. The cashier came to my room after closing time, and we had a great time. Peter bar: I enjoyed a game of pool at this bar. The location is great. You can watch the comings and goings and see the various shows. I assume they employ freelancers, because I offed a guy from the bar and didn't pay an off fee. Sunee bar: I met two forum members. They were both lovely guys MV Massage (one of two massage parlors near the bakery "O Delices"): A very cute twink caught my eye. The massage started with him fully clothed and he stayed that way throughout the session. His massage skills were non-existent, the worst massage I've had in a long time. Not that I expected a good massage there, as long as there was a sexy part. But alas... nothing. After 45 minutes, the session was over. I considered how much to tip him and thought 200 baht would be more than enough, even generous. He looked at me as if he was very offended by my tip and even ostentatiously turned his head the other way as I walked past to leave. Well, they won't see me again. Jomtien Health Massage (near the entrance to Jomtien on the Thappraya): There are both men and women working there. My expectations were rather low, but one of the men was cute. He gave me an excellent massage and halfway through asked if I wanted extras. After a brief chat, he jumped out of his clothes and we had a good session. I think I was lucky I was the only one on the top floor, as the massage tables are only separated by curtains. Afterward, I showered alone. Bars & Massages sunee plaza: Everything is closed except Nice Boys, Winner Boys, Diamond Bar (lights on but empty) and that bar on the corner. Nice boys (or whatever they are called nowadays): only one Myanmar guy on the stage, the rest are Thai. All boys in jeans / long trousers. I had a chat with the owner khun beer. He tells me that they had no choice, he couldn't pay the tea money for the BiB anymore with the profits of the bar. I miss the old Nice Boys. For old time's sake, I started a cum contest for 300 baht. Most of them wanked frantically and one of the boys won in less than 10 seconds. Winner boys: a couple cute twinks, friendly atmosphere and you can have some hands-on fun with the boys. Bars & Massages boystown: Toy Boys: Nice mix of boys, I counted 12 boys. Papasan told me they expect 2500 baht tip for short time, no pasarán. Cupidol (or whatever it's called now, the go-go bar next to Panorama): lots of cute twinks. One guy immediately caught my eye, but he was top only.

Motels operate in different ways; some are safer than others. Since we're talking about Medellín: (Almost) all motels will at least check your visitor's ID and often question him to verify it's really his ID (the only one I visited that didn't check ID was Las Cabañas ) Many motels will keep you locked in with your companion until the end of the session. They only "release" you once you've paid (e.g., the Ibiza motels and 3D Suite Motel). All the motels I visited had security. Nothing is impossible, but with so many easy targets around (just look around when you're in pq Lleras), I doubt they would make the effort, unless you look very rich. In my opinion, it hasn't become more dangerous. I do think, however, that the huge influx of tourists has made us a bigger target than before.

A short report on my last trip to Colombia. The plan was to first go to Bogota and then, via Pereira and Manizales, to Medellin, finishing the trip with a few days in Cúcuta. After receiving an invitation to a gay wedding in Barranquilla, I unfortunately had to cancel the Pereira and Manizales part of the trip. I'm top and mostly interested in cute bottom twinks nowadays. Prices: 1 kCOP = 1000 COP = 1000 colombian pesos (+- 0.25$) Bogota I stayed in Chapinero. My Airbnb had a change in its visitor policy, requiring me to register visitors 24 hours in advance. As a result, I mainly used the motels around Calle 61 and Carrera 14a (basic rooms at around 45 kCOP). Those motels are a bit hard to reach though, due to the works on the new metro system. Gay disco: Teatron, still one of my favorite gay discos. Guys: Two 'free' boys from Bosa & Soacha (grindr). I paid the moto taxi costs. It's easy to order a moto taxi with Uber for someone else and you can follow their itinerary, but I haven't figured out how to do it with the other apps (indrive, didi, ..). Two guys from mileroticos (100 kCOP - 200 kCOP): Camilo mileroticos (on webcam) Gabriel mileroticos Both of them were great. However, Gabriel will change his services to top only in the future. Barranquilla Northern Barranquilla is quite nice. I stayed at the Prado Hotel, a 5* luxury hotel for an incredible price (3 nights for $160). You can simply let security know you're inviting your companion to the pool bar or restaurant. If they're staying overnight, you have to register them. The wedding was fun, with a party in a finca in Puerto Colombia, near the beach. Gay discos: lives: closed for renovation Patio / phuket: Patio is outdoors, phuket indoors. Nice atmosphere, music not too loud. Legacy: music volume deafening, but cheap and plenty of cute guys. Nightlife is mostly limited to Friday / Saturday evening. Saunas: Dark: looks promising, but they close early and I arrived near closing time. They also run a motel (not at the same location). Guys: Grindr is very popular. Most men are happy to meet you for free or for a small fee (50 kCOP is common). Because almost all of them live in the south (the city's poorest and most dangerous neighborhood), they ask you to pay for taxi fares, which can add up. You can't use Uber Moto Taxi, as it's illegal in Barranquilla for two men to ride a motorcycle. Medellin It was quite hot in the city of eternal spring, and I'm not just talking about the men, but also about the weather. As always, I had a wonderful time. Sauna: Cruising: According to friends, it's the most popular sauna these days. I went there at 5 p.m., and it was packed. All types of men. gay discos: industry club: A "plaza" now is in control of Industry Club, a local gang that claims a monopoly on all drug sales in the club. If you bring or use drugs that weren't purchased from them, you'll receive a multa (a fine). Gang members patrolling the entrance, the dance floor, and the restrooms kind of spoil the atmosphere. I don't use drugs myself, but because I often go to the restroom after a few drinks (small bladder), they even started harassing and interrogating me. A bit of a downer. premium: plenty of eye candy, the place to be. Music not too loud and a great 'flow' like they say over here. prado verde: 'remate' disco & motel located in a very bad part of centro, but they have excellent security (they walk you to your car). Very popular nowadays. People start arriving around 2am and by the time the other discos close, it's packed. Since it's also a motel, you can immediately take your friend of the night to a room (basic rooms at 38kCOP). Recommended (for night owls). Guys: I have my bunch of regular guys in Medellin. I met a cute guy at cruising (sauna) and in prado verde. For a change in my diet, I also went with an older hunk in motel roma (they have guys available on site). One guy from mileroticos: Alejo mileroticos on twitter Fun fact: I met his (gay) older brother before, so I guess I'm a friend of the family now. Alejo is a sweetheart, but you will have to bargain. Cucuta: A friend and reader of this forum accompanied me on this part of the journey. As I said before, it's not a place for the faint of heart. I would only recommend to go there if you have plenty of experience travelling in South America, good situational awareness and you speak sufficient Spanish. We had a great time anyway. There were plenty of handsome guys, and the advantage of not being alone is that you can keep an eye on each other (share your location). Some changes: la redoma: These days, there are professional male and female strippers on Saturdays and Sundays. The nightclub has a great atmosphere, but security still leaves a lot to be desired (no age checks or weapons checks). Foam party at pandora le club on a tuesday night was amazing. I'm not sure if it's a recurring event. Apparently there's a bar / disco called gata ebria in centro, with male waiters in underwear. I didn't have time to check it out. Police checks: make sure you take a picture of your passport AND the entry stamp. If you can't show the entry stamp, they will detain you (unless you give them some tea money). Guys: My regulars + a couple of new faces (from grindr and an old webcam contact). Price ranges from 40 kCOP to 100 kCOP New face Camilo, he used to work on webcam. More twunk than twink nowadays, but a great guy. A couple of the guys of the 'wallen' groups on webcam here and here (and other pages) ---------------- I had a fantastic trip, with just one minor hiccup. In Cucuta, the police tried to fine me for jaywalking (I didn't, even though half the city does). After much discussion and my refusal to pay the 300 kCOP fine immediately, they relented and let me go. My next trip is to Thailand, my first in five years. I don't know what to expect. Oh well, I'm sure the massages and food will be better.

My next visit to Pereira is scheduled for next month. I report back on that trip

As far as I know, no Venezuelans are there illegally. Cúcuta forms a special economic zone with Táchira (in Venezuela). Colombians and Venezuelans can cross the border without restrictions. I wouldn't call it small either, with 1 million Cucuteños (underestimated, lots of Venezuelans and refugees of other parts of Nte de Santander are living there nowadays). Cúcuta is an explosive cocktail of gang activity, drug cartels, terrorist groups (ELN) and a corrupt police force. And let's not even talk about the unbearable heat. If that doesn't deter you, here are some tips: bar estación digital: a combination of a gay bar / discoteca / internet cafe / cabinas. Only been there once for a party. rask2 / raskaditos: go go bar, boys dancing in white undies.Very local clientele. Not sure if they are still open though. At the time, price for a guy was 50kCOP all included. pandora le club: gay disco, good security, but atmosphere can sometimes be a bit tense. Open drug use. Full house on special events. la redoma: gay disco, lacks security, open drug use but the two times I visited, there was a fun atmosphere. Occasional nude dancing on the upper floor (by customers). Makarena: gay friendly nightclub. Good security, no open drug use, more civilized liberty: gay sauna, but rather rundown. In any of these places and/or grindr, you will very easily make contact with a handsome lad. More often than not, he will work on webcam. Just be very careful and stay safe. Other places to visit: shopping centers: ventura plaza and jardin plaza. centro: only during the day and you should blend in. Tip: centro comercial alejandría, hot and very crowded, but you can find everything for sale there. caobos: good restaurants for small prices. tip: 'Galileo' offers excellent fine dining for a fraction of the price in Europe/USA and the '90s pizza bar' is the perfect place to take your boyfriend du jour. The motels near the Venezuelan border with your newly acquired boyfriend(s): once built for rich Venezuelans and their Colombian escorts. With the design of castle (el Castillo), bunker (motel el bunker) or with '50 shades of grey' themed rooms and private swimming pools (motel qatar). Other things you can enjoy with your date: ecoparque comfanorte (nice waterpark), iguana park (simple amusement park, next to ecoparque), bolera club (bowling) or the paintball shooting near jardin plaza (prepare to be soaked in your sweat). Or you can take him on a trip to Chinácota to escape the heat (and Cúcuta). Price of an escort is 100kCOP or less, but keep in mind that a sicario doesn't cost much more. I highly recommend considering safer places like Pereira for a weekend trip.

Latinboyz: I recognize guys from Cúcuta, Medellín, Ibagué... Probably most are from Cúcuta. I guess they don't have a fixed studio, but rather travel all over the country.

Gabanna Club: Visited on a saturday night. The dancers go full nude, but no sex shows. There were four strippers. There is a dark room where you can invite the go-go dancers for some fun. They have their dance routines, so they don't have much time. You can invite them to your hotel / Airbnb or a love motel after closing time. Overall a fun place with lots of eye candy. Roma Club Video Bar: Formerly known as Geminis. Its location has changed (it used to be near Avatar). The Google Maps location is correct. Alfonso, the owner, is a great guy. If you don't see anyone you like, he can hook you up with some local guys. It's a very local spot, although tourists are welcome. Don't expect "models," but more like "guys next door." An affordable and fun place without the frills. Check their instagram for show times: https://www.instagram.com/romaclubvideobaroficial/

I understand both sides. I suppose it all depends on your risk aversion and your willingness to take extra precautions while traveling. My paisa friends also don't appreciate the massive influx of tourists in Medellin the last couple of years. Prices (although still low according to our standards) have skyrocketed for them... and everybody seems to blame the tourists. On my next trip to Colombia, I'll avoid the main tourist hotspots (Medellin & Cartagena) and focus on the coffee axis and perhaps explore a few towns like Villavicencio (while doing my best to follow my own safety tips). And well, I still have to see the first natural wonder that can take away my appetite for sex

I do think that sites like mileroticos are safer than the apps. At the bottom of each profile, you can see the various verifications that have been done, how old the profile is, whether there have been any complaints in the past, .. That was also the feeling I had. It could have happened to me. I think I will make better use of the love motels in the future.

I have also had no problems in eight visits to Colombia, sometimes for extended periods. And I certainly admit that I didn't always follow my own safety list. I don't know if there is data about this specific kind of incident. What worried me was that the police weren't the least bit surprised and seemed to be familiar with this modus operandi.

In my opinion, there were minor and big red flags that James missed: Alejandro contacted him, not the other way round. He used a new profile, without any information. He wore the exact same clothes in his photos with the same haircut, as if they were taken that same day. No cedula, a huge red flag. Alejandro acting very nervous when James invited him to his airBnB. Other tips to remain safe: 'No dar papaya', don't flash with fancy stuff, dress down & blend in. Keep low key. Don't brag about how much you earn or how much savings you have to the people you meet. Be very careful with the apps. Meet in public and watch for red flags. Use your instincts. If something feels odd, just walk away. Nightlife in Colombia can be a lot of fun, but there is a danger in it. Don't get drunk, don't do drugs. Go in a group, with people you can trust and who will look out for you. Look out for them. It helps a lot if you speak (basic) Spanish. The more you know about the guy, the better. If he shares his (real) social media with you (instagram, facebook,..), that is definitely a plus. I would not meet at his location. If you rent an Airbnb, make sure that it has security. Use a love motel if you don't want to bring him to your room. Don't walk alone in empty streets or in bad neighbourhoods, take an uber at night. Always be aware of your surroundings, even more so when using your phone. Take an old smartphone with you and keep your fancy phone at the hotel. Only install the apps you will use (no banking apps). Only take the cash you need when leaving the hotel/AirBnB. If you take a debit card with you, don't charge it with a lot of money (I use a 'wise' card for that purpose). Be careful with ATMs, only use the ones in shopping malls. Put a 20 mil or 50 mil banknote somewhere in a separate pocket (your 'take me home' money). I met a lot of guys in Colombia and never had a problem.. but one mistake can have dire consequences.

This post is not meant to scare anyone or discourage you from visiting Colombia. But it is a reminder that Colombia is still a third world country. With great people, and a few bad apples. You should take certain precautions when visiting Colombia. I still think Colombia is a great country, with friendly people, beautiful nature and handsome men, but you should never let your guard down. TinT, this is not Thailand. A few months ago I was visiting Medellin. On Wednesday night I was having drinks at the Chiquita bar in Parque Lleras with a paisa friend. I met an American gentleman, let’s call him James (not his real name). James is a solo traveler in his late forties. It was his first trip to Colombia. He was accompanied by a handsome Colombian hunk he picked up on Grindr. We started talking, mostly in English, since James only spoke a few words of Spanish. Later that night we went to a nearby nightclub called Premium. At the end of the party we exchanged WhatsApp. It is customary (at least among my paisa and veneco friends) to create a WhatsApp group and everyone sends a message when they get home safely. Everyone got home safely, a normal night in Medellin. I had no contact with James for the next days. Fast forward to the following Monday. Early in the morning I received a phone call. James. He sounded in distress. English is not my native language and it was difficult to understand what he was saying. Since he stayed only a few blocks from my house in Laureles, I told him I would meet him at his place. When I arrived, I could tell right away that he was not doing well. His face was swollen, he had a black eye, and he looked completely miserable. This is what he told me about what happened: On Saturday around noon, he was contacted on Grindr by a guy named Alejandro. It was a empty new profile, but Alejandro shared his details and photos in a private chat. Alejandro was a 28-year-old handsome university student. He said he was into older men, but that he also needed some money to pay the rent. They moved the conversation to WhatsApp, discussed the price and agreed to meet at a shopping mall that same day at 6pm. He went to the mall and they had a drink at one of the bars. He had a good feeling about the guy. He looked exactly like in the photos, he even wore the same clothes. He was polite, smiled a lot and seemed at ease. This whole conversation was done via google translate. He did mention that he didn’t have a cedula (identity card) and asked if that was a problem. He had lost it the day before, but he had some paper that was supposed to prove his identity. James didn't make a big deal about it because it was obvious that he wasn't underage. James called an Uber and they drove to his airBnB. His airBnB didn’t have security, which James wanted for privacy. During the ride to the airBnB, Alejandro was nervous and texting on his phone. Once at the Airbnb, they chatted and had a beer. Alejandro still seemed very nervous and kept texting. He said a friend was writing to him about something that happened at the university. James didn't think much of it and went to the bathroom. That was the last time he saw Alejandro. When he came back from the bathroom, Alejandro was gone and there were two rough guys with guns pointed at him. They beat him up, gave him drugs and made him give them everything. His money, his phone, his credit and debit cards. He obeyed. He gave them everything hoping they would leave. They didn’t. Instead, they put him in a car and drove him to a location in a neighbourhood called "12 de Octubre" (this was reconstructed from his Google timeline). Once at that location, more guys arrived, beat him up even worse, threatened to cut off his dick and fingers if he didn’t tell the truth. It was a complete nightmare. He had to give them the codes to his cards. He had to show them everything he had on his phone, including his banking apps. The kidnappers were snorting drugs the whole time and were very tense. For at least the next 24 hours, the kidnappers plundered his bank account and credit cards, withdrawing cash and buying expensive items. They forced him to take more drugs, and his memories of that day are blurry. He woke up, lying on the sidewalk in a street in the Robledo neighbourhood, with his passport and Airbnb keys in his pocket. He had no idea how long he had been lying there. Still dizzy and confused, he took a taxi to the Airbnb. Once inside the Airbnb, he remembered that he had hidden his laptop in the oven (since there was no safe) and forgot to tell the kidnappers. He had WhatsApp on the laptop and contacted the only English-speaking person he knew in Medellin, who happened to be me. When I arrived, he didn’t want to go to the hospital. We checked his banking apps on the computer (and blocked his cards) and when he saw what had happened to his savings, he was devastated. I didn’t feel confident enough in Spanish to explain his story to the police, so I contacted a bilingual friend and the three of us went to the police to file a report. To be honest, the police were cooperative and compassionate. We filed a ‘denuncia’ and gave them as much information as we could. I thought it was strange that they gave his passport back, but according to the police, it’s a well-known tactic: the kidnappers hope that the victim will be ashamed and/or terrified and leave the country as soon as possible without reporting it. The police also told me that this is not specifically aimed at the LGBT community, but that it happens on all dating apps. For obvious reasons, James didn’t want to stay at that airBnB any longer. I loaned him some money to buy a phone and pay for his hotel and living expenses (which he later paid back in full). We saw each other regularly over the next few days. He was still in shock and wouldn’t leave his hotel room. I eventually accompanied him to the airport to catch his flight home. James was able to get some of the money back, but he lost thousands of dollars (he asked me not to reveal the full amount). He is now feeling better, although he is still in therapy to recover from PTSD. He hasn't heard anything from the Colombian police yet. Posted with permission of 'James' This post serves as a warning and to learn from, not to start a victim blaming spree. James knows that he made mistakes. Let's keep this civil please.