TotallyOz

AUGUST 8--A woman and her male companion were charged this week in a Nevada federal court after the duo allegedly committed a number of lewd, indecent, and obscene sex acts on each other during a June flight from Oregon to Las Vegas. According to a U.S. District Court complaint, as Allegiant Airlines Flight 557 flight took off from Medford, a fellow passenger--sitting across the aisle from Jessica Stroble and Christopher Martin--observed Stroble perform oral sex and manually stimulate the genitalia of a male passenger sitting in the window seat next to her. After the act was completed, the witness, identified as J.S., watched as Stroble wiped off her mouth while the male put his penis back inside his pants. A second passenger, sitting two seats over from J.S., also saw Martins exposed penis and told an FBI agent that the male passenger had his hand on the back of the females neck and was in his own world. After Stroble, 33, cleaned herself up and Martin put himself away, the fellow flyers then watched as Martin placed his hand down Strobles pants, touching her crotch while he began rubbing it up and down and the female assisted him. More here: http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/sex/couple-busted-for-in-flight-sex-456912

I love Ryan Gosling but if you have seen this movie, what did you think? Were you in awe of its cinematic qualities? Or, were you just left with an open mouth wondering how this movie got released? I did love the movie being based in Thailand and I loved seeing the Thai music and Karaoke in the movie. But, that was not enough for me. Perhaps I just didn't get it. But, I don't forgive my time being wasted on this movie.

Is anyone else watching this show?

This week's episode was great. This show has great acting. Just simply great stuff. I love the characters.

You are wrong in everything you say. But, I do not expect you to admit that and that is OK. I grew up in Alabama and experienced gay bashing first hand. Don't sit on your high horse and tell me that I don't know the hurt that these things have. I had a lover burned alive in his car. I had friends burned in their trailer. I saw things that you have never seen. I had things done to me that I do not discuss and will not on any forum. So, while you may have more experience holding hands of victims, I do not think your experiences make you a better judge of what one should understand. We all come to the table with different experiences and while you seem to think yours should have more value than others. They don't. What was said in the ONE poll was the discussion. What other poll did I start a few months later? I referenced the ONE poll on the subject. You will not find another poll as there was not one. There was one poll I started and I used quotes from it. I also said it would not be in my vocabulary in the future and it has not. The article on Porto Alegre has been on the site for a long time. I even re-posted it in the forums and linked to it. I did not edit it or put it up recently. It has been on the site and in the City Guides area. The only thing I changed was the addition to the businesses in that area. I also created a special forum for the city and I placed business listings in that particular city. Nothing else was changed. I did not change the article and I do not have the ability to do that unless the programmers make that change. Why? It is hard coded html with photos in it that are arranged. I don't edit them. Other people make changes to html on the site. You say I had a chance to remove it, I didn't reread it and even realize it was there. But, I refuse to argue with you as facts do not seem relevant to you. Several posters in this thread have summed things up very nicely. I have even stated that I would never use the word again as it is offensive to some even if used in the "campy" way I used it. That is not enough for you. So, I'm done with this discussion with you. If you wish one based on facts as opposed to emotion, let me know. Otherwise, don't expect another comment from me in this thread regarding this.

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OK Expat. On your advice, I just bought both seasons on ITunes. Now, I have never been into scary movies or shows. I am hoping I don't have nightmares. I much prefer porn to ghosts. But, I'll give this a go and see how it goes. On a nightmare scale of 1-10, what are the odds I have a few?

Big Brother is the main show I buy from ITunes EVERY year as I love it. I can't wait to see each episode. So, why do I constantly view Monty's TV spoiler alerts to see who is up for eviction and wins POV? It is like an addiction. I know I shouldn't go there, but every day I check it out.

Pardon me guys. I am sorry, but I went back to check my email and it was not sent from Marriott but from Gay.com. I started wondering how they knew to target me as well after NCBored mentioned that and I went back to that email. It mentioned nothing about gay.com in the email and the only thing in it was what I attached for you.

I remember a few years back a full grown tiger was found to be raised in a public housing project. I am not sure how that happened either but Animal Control finally got wind of it and took it away to the dismay of the residents.

I have decided to watch this show this year. Will I be lost as I have not see the other seasons? As for Dexter, I know what happens. LOL The young psycho takes over Dexter's role and kills him. At least that is my guess.

Thank you very much. I very much appreciate that. I know from years of doing this that I will ruffle some feathers along the way. I have come to accept that I can't please everyone all the time. For this issue, many of these articles have been on this site since 2012 and some before and perhaps people just didn't read them. I understand that as well. But, I guess I don't understand the tone for an article that has been here for over a year now getting anyone upset. In fact, I re-posted the article here in Jan: http://www.boytoy.com/forums/index.php?/topic/12667-the-boy-toy-guide-to-porto-alegre-brazil-home-to-the-best-money-boy-sauna-on-earth/?hl=alegre I guess my campy humor (my thoughts) didn't come across back then as no one mentioned the use of the word fag. But, be that as it may, this would have been easily resolved had someone kindly sent me a PM and said, "Oz, I do not like that word. It would be great if you would remove it from that article on Porto Alegre." I would have said OK. But, when I wake up to a bulldog attack, I tend to shut down. That is life I guess. And, to you Mr. Ihpguy, who gave me the best city tour I have ever had in Rio, I want to apologize to you. As the day went on and I got tired, I am sure I uttered words like, "I am fucking exhausted." or "Jesus Christ, can we sit down yet." Or, perhaps even, "Mother Fucker, I want to get to the sauna by taxi." If I offended your sensibility on that tour, before we got to the Meio Mundo Gentleman's club to talk and discuss "business" with the companions that were there, I apologize. (how is that for a kinder gentler Oz)

Stephen Fry on Vladimir Putin: "He is making scapegoats of gay people, just as Hitler did Jews. He cannot be allowed to get away with it." Read Stephen's passionate letter to David Cameron: http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2013/08/07/stephen-fry-compares-russian-winter-olympics-to-nazi-hosted-1936-olympics-in-letter-to-david-cameron/

I love the email I got from Marriott today.

Can you give me the link to the discussion LAST year? Notice, I said last year as that is what you stated. And, you are insulted by the use of the word meltdown. I didn't have a meltdown. You did. I quote: "As the person who stated his opposition to the word fag being used in an article on this site, I find it insulting that my reaction is now being put to a vote. Thank you for allowing me to post on this site, but my retirement is effective now." The meltdown I was referring to was you leaving the site. You may not consider that a meltdown, but I did. After a lengthy discussion, I said: "OK. You all have convinced me that it is offensive to some and thus, it is removed from my vocabulary for this site." Now, you may have taken that to mean that I would go back to over 90 articles I have written for the site and have my programmers make edits to them immediately, but you were mistake in that thought. It is not as easy as you suggest and it takes time and man hours to accomplish this. However, once again, can you refer me to a post where I said that I would edit all the city guides that have been written? If you can't show me that, or if you can't show me this discussion last year, admit you were mistaken and happy that I agree to your demands not to use the word in the future.

A friend sent me this link today and I found it interesting. http://flavorwire.com/407418/the-25-best-websites-for-literature-lovers/view-all

I am enjoying this show more and more as the weeks go by. I am not sure how well it is doing in the ratings, but The Bridge is really great for me.

The Clinton's are again causing a bit of controversy. This time with the RNC. LOL They don't want documentaries of one of the most influential people in the world to be on CNN and NBC. The RNC has even stated if that happens, they will boycott debates by those networks. http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/tv/showtracker/la-et-st-gop-at-war-with-cnn-and-nbc-over-hillary-clinton-tv-projects-20130805,0,1452845.story I myself am looking forward to Diane Lane in the role.

When I lived in NYC, I use to go to the clubs and bars often, almost nightly as my BF was a drag queen and we loved drag shows. One of my favorite nights in NYC for years was Faggot Feud at Blu Bar. It was a hosted competition between 2 groups of guys. We had Campus guys there several times. Other groups would be the softball teams, dykes on bikes, etc. The teams of 5 each competed in a nice game of family feud but the questions were all gay related. The place was packed nightly. And, it was a blast. Not once did I ever question the use of the term Faggot Feud but this was 15 years ago. Looking back, I don't think anyone did. But, I know that event takes place in Portland and Seattle from time to time as I often get the questions and am asked to give answers for it. Again, I am not advocating the use of the word fag. But, I do believe that one must consider context.

Joseph, I think a lot of this is generational. I am mid 40's and was not around when Stonewall was going on or the gay rights movement was one where danger lurked around every corner. But, I did grow up in the deep south and words like queer, fag, gay, pussy, queen, were used in a way that made me feel terrified. But, they were used by guys I knew to be hateful. When I came out, at 27, I was in NYC and in a different world. I hung out with many younger guys and the words seemed to me to be part of the gay culture. I even remember my first gay pride parade in NYC with the words Queen and Fag used on posters of the marches tell others that were gay. IMHO, that was not used in a bad way. But, some on this board are much older than I am and I don't have their experiences and thus, I do understand their hatred for the use of the word and thus, why I agreed I would be careful with my use of it on the site or in posts. I have no problem with the word fag. I have no problem with its use from another gay man if used in a loving way or even a funny way. But, I try my best not to offend people and thus I will be careful of its use. That does not mean I agree with those who feel the word itself should be banned from society. Today, I got a message from a friend in NYC and it said, "Faggot, get your ass back to NYC. Fire Island is a blast and we miss you." The guy is in his early 30's and I was not offended by his remarks at all. Others have different experiences than I have and I try my best to be cognizant of that.

This was not a joke. It was a hate based crime. How does it relate to someone that is gay and saying they are OK with the word Fag, Queer, etc? Do you believe that if we stopped using the N word, that hate based crimes would stop? Many blacks use that word often and among friends. Are racist crimes today because they use this word themselves? If you believe either of the above, I would disagree, but I would be willing to listen.

I hate and despise the word Queen. I find that offensive and distasteful. I find that gay men that use that word try to relate all of us proper gay men to ladies in waiting. I am not a lady. I am a man. Using this horrendous word just makes the world think we are all ladies born into male bodies. It is taking gay rights back decades. I am appalled when this word keeps getting used. Please, please lucky, don't equate me or others with such disdain. We are as worthy and as valued as anyone else.

Advocating? You are grasping at straws trying to prove a point which is absurd. When the word was used in a "cutesy" way months back, I said that I would not use that word in any other articles for the site. I stand by that and I have not. You don't seem to be happy with that. That is life I guess. I will state once more that I have never had a problem with another openly gay man using the word among other gays. I have no issue with the word queer or dyke or whore or slut used inside that group either. My friends use all the words and I have no issue with it. The younger generation use it often and I am sure some of that has rubbed off on me. Also, being a New York Queer, oops, sorry, gay man, I have a bit higher tolerance for words. I have been told in the past that I use fuck and shit and bitch way too much in my posts but I try to curb that as well. My own language is not curbed at all. I talk like a New Yorker and have for 30 years. Perhaps that shows I am a bit lower class that you, but I am OK with that as well. I do have issues with those outside the group using it. I have issues when those words are used in a hateful or harmful way. When the discussion was held months back, and I saw that some, like you, do not differentiate with context the word was used in, I made sure that all future things were more carefully worded. But, get real, you try to use an article written last year to prove a point you with to make today. That is disingenuous at best.

The articles were written over a year ago before some guys had a melt down over the word fag and queer. I wonder if gay is next?