Hi all

I'm in my twenties 100%bottom gay living in thailand with my thai boyfriend.

I have BDSM fantasy and my boyfriend never wants to do for me.

He fuck me great and often i come without touching my cock.

But i want to be dominated by someone and get fucked.

He refused to do it so i ended up start looking for escort, massage boy, and massage shops.

I went to "'my hero" and turn around and came back home.

I felt guilty by just searching and thinking of cheating him.

I have no idea what should i do.

+ He never ask me to do his fantasy and he told me he doesnt have any fantasies.

 

How should i convince him to do as i wish.

No clue. Help me

Consult ChristianPFC's blog.  He covers all eventualities.

Do u have communication problem ie he didnt really understand what u means by bdsm? Have u tried showing a porn video of the thing that u exactly want him to do? Maybe that can change his mind. Other than that, maybe discuss possibility of open relationship some couple have, that if he is ok, will make u less guilty? Or 3some with an escort that will do what u want? Ok im out of ideas now.

I have no idea what should i do.

+ He never ask me to do his fantasy and he told me he doesnt have any fantasies.

How should i convince him to do as i wish.

No clue. Help me

 

If you have a good monogamous relationship, he should be willing to do what pleases you in sex.  But maybe he does not understand it, or, very probably, it is not in his nature to be an overpowering, domineering top.

This is the case with me, I am a top (simply because I'm not a bottom) and I have no interest to overpower, domineer anyone. 

 

And here is the problem with a monogamous relationship:  if you two complement each other perfectly, great!  If not, you are out of luck. Add to this the fact that many of us like variety in sex and not be restricted to do it with only one "until death shall us part", and it is logical that most monogamous relationships are short lived.

 

The solution is of course an OPEN relationship, where you are in love exclusively with each other but you are free to have sex with others. Your mutual love includes the desire that each independently enjoys the best sex possible, like you should independently enjoy the best foods according to your taste. 

 

Hopefully your BF can understand the situation, and is agreeable to an open relationship, at least one where third parties can join you two to provide the satisfaction you both need. 

Consult ChristianPFC's blog.  He covers all eventualities.

 

 I write about a lot of stuff, but the OP's question is a subject I can not help with.

Might I suggest you aquire many differnt dildos differnt in size. color, and one and two headed (variety is the spice of life) for the other part duct tape your mouth and feet together with one arm as to leave the other to work the dildo of your choice..Good luck!

To each his own..What you like is a fetish and don't expect your wonderful BF to enjoy it.

Instead of the usual vanilla love-making, ask him to go deeper and harder for you.

Sometimes, stepping up the tempo helps.

 

Now if that still has not satisfied you, buy yourself and wear a set of handcuff (make sure the key is around) and let him top you while you are in custody.  Stretching things further, buy yourself a whip or cane from Toy R us....surely things can work out for your fetish...

The Castle BDSM Club on Third Road in Pattaya (near to the famous Buffalo Bar) has recently opened a Gay section with a side entrance. I am sure they will service​ ALL of your needs and more.

Remember you have a boyfriend..

A Bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush..

So treat me with respect and adore him like "Trésor". - the heirloom from your grandparents.

The Castle BDSM Club on Third Road in Pattaya (near to the famous Buffalo Bar) has recently opened a Gay section with a side entrance. I am sure they will service​ ALL of your needs and more.

 

That closed down about a year ago, unless they reopened during the last weeks.