Newbie Question

[Tom2025]

I'm a solo traveler and will be in Bangkok for the first time in September. I'm staying at gay hostels and enjoying gay bathhouses/spas. Do Asians make the first move on westerners (for sex) or is it up to me to approach them first.  I'm not sure what is the proper etiquette in Asian countries.

[Gottago]

It’s a mixed bag. The older guys will be pretty direct, the younger twinks will wait until you’re in a darkroom or away from where friends can see.

Or you might be there during an orgy or foam party, then it can be hard to keep their hands off:)

So it really depends. The universal smile, eye contact and light touch work here the same as anywhere else in the world. 
 

Good luck!

[PeterRS]

The only point I'd add is once again fairly general elsewhere. If you happen to let you hand stray a little and touch the leg of a cute Asian you have an eye on, should he brush it off it means he is not interested. So just pass on to the next guy.

[floridarob]

There’s definitely a lot of sticky rice, especially in certain circles… but thankfully the potato queens are around too 😁.

I always joke with my Asian friends who say they’re shy or conservative—that may be true in public, but behind closed doors or in a dark room, they’re up for everything