Philadelphia Trip Report

[joizy]

I don’t know why we don’t have a USA forum, but since we don’t, I’ll just post this here.

I’ve been in Philly for a month. I am from just across the river in South Jersey and I lived here in the 80s. Came out in 1977 and the streets were filled with sex. When I lived here in the 80s, pre-AIDS, sex was also everywhere, but once AIDS hit, things calmed down somewhat, though there were still many public places to have sex along with bookstores, bath houses, arcades, etc.

Now, things have change. There are still a few parks and public places, a few bath houses and a few arcades, but nothing like what it used to be. Apps have taken over.

I am 65 years old, well past my prime, but recently getting back in shape and not bad looking.

This is a rundown of my experience and some tips for visitors.

Apps:

Grindr is a huge scam operation now, but I did make a few contacts. One cute young Latino with a nice dick who hit me up the next day for a repeat. But the scammers are out of control. 

Sniffies seems to be much more popular here than where I live in California. Perhaps because this is a big city and where I live is more suburban. I made many many contacts through Sniffies. The thing I like is you can see where they are. Also, the scammers haven’t taken over like they have Grindr. I’m currently waiting for a bi married guy I had a great time with the other night to tell me when he wants me to go back to his hotel for another round. He found me three weeks ago before he came to Philly on a business trip and told me when he’d be here. I didn’t actually believe he would follow through, but we had the best time and I can’t wait to see him again tonight.

However, Sniffies did have a problem with guys who would contact me, express interest, even go so far as to set up a day and time, and then either ghost me or block me. It happened enough and others told me it happened to them, that I believe it was not just a fluke. Something about the app and the guys here. So it’s something to be aware of.

Jack’d is popular with men of color and those who like them. I also had a few hits there. Met one guy, who was a disappointment. Was contacted by a few others who seemed promising but never came though.

Baths

There are two bathhouses in Center City - I went to Club Philly last Sunday evening. It’s half off on Sundays after 4 (also during the week at lunch time) - you have to get a membership (daily membership is $10) and then room or locker is extra. For a room last Sunday it was $30.

The crowd was sparse, and tended towards older, but I played with a few hot older guys. Ended up sucking off a hot daddy (if he’s younger than me is he still a daddy) who after we finished saw my Italian horn on a chain that I wear and said, “Italian?” When I said yes, he said, “figures. With that mouth.” Hmmm…I don’t know if it was a compliment or not. He then called me “Sal”. I think he was kind of jerk, but he had a nice dick and I enjoyed sucking him off.

Club Philly is several floors with quite a few play areas. It seems to get very busy on the weekend with a line out the door waiting to get in. As has been my experience around the world, the front desk staff is not friendly at all. But don’t let them deter you. It is worth a visit.

Escorts

I did make contact with a few on Grindr and Sniffies but never followed through. I thought I had an agreement with one guy and then he never got back to me. His loss, since I was willing to pay. He was asking $100 for me to suck him. He had a beautiful body and cock.

I didn’t bother to check the official escort pages because I knew they were out of my range. I think there are quite a few guys available for hire if you can figure out how to do that. I had a bad experience here a few years ago, so I have been more cautious about who I invite to my place (I’m in an Airbnb where I am not supposed to have guests).

I have been very sexually active while here, and while not all were people I’d want to see again, it has been fun to feel desirable at my age. My married friend told me I was the best sex he ever had with a man.

So,if you are looking for a US city to visit and if sex is one of the things you would hope to find, I’d say put Philly on your list. There are also many other wonderful things about the city - great architecture, theater, arts, museums, parks, and restaurants galore. Lots of neighborhoods to explore beyond Center City. I may be biased but it is up there on my top five list of favorite cities in the world. I also love the people. Friendly, but blunt and direct. I always know where I stand with Philadelphians (unlike people in California, who confuse the hell out of me).

If you come, avoid the heat of summer (or dead of winter) - late August/early September has been very nice, a few hot days, but mostly pleasant. Lots of hot young college boys running around in short shorts and/or shirtless, so there is always eye candy.

Definitely put Philadelphia on your list.

[joizy]

Today I had a very pleasant surprise.

I’ve been here for four weeks. Using Grindr, Sniffies and Jack’d to find guys (see above), and while I’ve had a few hot encounters, there has also been a lot of game playing that had left me feeling frustrated and a little cranky.

In addition to all of the scammers that have invaded Grindr, I’ve also been having an issue with seemingly hot guys who are either catfishing me or just playing games. We’ll communicate and then they go silent and/or block me and disappear. At this point, I really was tired of it.

Yesterday (Saturday) I had the usual run of scammers and game players so by the afternoon I wasn’t in the mood. A very hot, cute, younger guy hit me up on Grindr. He had a nice body and a nice cock. He said he was driving and on his way to a wedding reception (texting while driving?) but could meet later that day or today (Sunday). All seemed cool until he asked for more pics. I sent him album and he went silent. I wrote ‘I guess you’re not interested”. A little later, he messaged me and said he was driving but thought I was really hot. There still was hope, but frankly, I didn’t think anything would happen.

And then another guy messaged me. He sent face, full body with cock, and a dick pick. He was super cute, really nice smile, brown skinned, but ambiguous racially, with a nice big dick. When I asked what he was looking for, he said, “your lips on my cock” and called me a hot daddy.

I was already feeling burned, so when he stopped messaging me, I wrote, “I guess you’re just playing”. I wanted to write more, but left it at that and deleted the message. I was looking forward to going home in a few days.

This morning started off with a bunch of new messages - some interesting prospects, a few I wasn’t interested in, and a bunch of scammers. As I was on my way home from the gym, I got a message from the guy from yesterday. His profile is not filled out and has no photo. Fortunately, he was replying to my message from yesterday where I said I thought he was just playing and wrote, “Not at all. Just got busy.” so I knew who he was.

He asked if I wanted to hang out. I said “sure” but was skeptical, so I asked him to do a video chat. He agreed and sure enough, he was the same guy, looking very cute in person. We talked for a bit, he agreed to come to my place (after first wanting me to go to his) and before I knew it, he had Ubered himself over.

He was a super cute 22 year old light-skinned black guy, student at Penn, on the ski team, bi and tennis player. I couldn’t believe he was attracted to me, but he told me he liked daddies and thought I was very hot.

He ended up staying four hours. We made out a lot. I sucked his dick, he came all over me (and the bed) and we cuddled and talked while his dick kept getting hard just about any time I moved (ah to be 22 again). He came one more time before he left and we exchanged info.

It was such a fun and pleasant experience and restored my faith in humanity. He said he had discussed the ghosting issue with some friends and said it was because people get freaked out and change their minds. We kind of laughed about my grumpy response to him and he said it happens often with older guys. I told him I hoped I gave him a new perspective on why it might be happening (if other guys are experiencing the same time wasters I am), but I also learned that there are some real people out there, so maybe a balance between being cautious and open might work in my favor.

I’m sorry he hadn’t found me sooner, but at least I am leaving Philly with a very sweet memory and a new friend.

As I get myself back into shape after my COVID body phase, I am finding that there are quite a few people to whom age is not really the issue, but fitness does seem to matter. Not sure how long this will last, but I am enjoying my hot daddy phase of life.