joizy

I've been surprised as I get older that there are guys who are attracted to me specifically because of my age and body type. Well, at least outside of the US. I met a beautiful guy in the DR who only wanted to be with older men, and not for pay. He said younger guys are always trying to sleep with him but he has no interest. And the only quality guy I met in Medellin was the same. Great body, handsome, super nice, and only interested in "mature". I felt both were out of my league, even in my younger days, but my age turned out to be an asset. Not sure about the wining and dining, but I wouldn't write it off.

Well, as I said, I have never worried about it. Maybe because I generally avoid crowded spaces, and don’t spend a lot of time in CDMX. To be clear, this whole conversation started with the racist who was disparaging Mexicans and Thais and somehow became about the dangers of Mexico because two Chinese guys were robbed at gunpoint. My point is simply that in my experience, I was robbed twice in Bangkok, and had a few other close calls, but nothing has ever happened to me in Mexico and my first trip there was in 1983. This is my experience. I love Mexico. I recognize there are dangerous places there, just like there are dangerous places in many US cities and elsewhere in the world, but in general, Mexicans are warm, hardworking and trustworthy.

I just chose the most popular on this forum. Most European countries are dangerous if we’re using robbery as the measure. Sure, it may not be at gunpoint, but losing all of your money, passport and especially phone can be devastating. I’ve never worried about pickpockets in Mexico. I am extra careful in Europe.

I learned that lesson. Point is, I was robbed twice in Thailand but never in Mexico. And I had other close calls.

Mexico City used to be very unsafe. The first time I went there, I was terrified and only in transit, so I stayed at the airport. But I have been many times since, and have not had a problem. Meanwhile, I was robbed twice in Bangkok. Once a guy I brought back to my hotel took $300 out of my wallet while I was in the shower (he left me $300 fortunately, which I needed for my next trip). The other time, I had a chain stolen at Babylon without even realizing it. You might not get held at gunpoint in Thailand, but you can definitely get robbed.

The woman who helped me get my visa overnight ran an agency that did the fast track thing. When I told her I was an ESL teacher and had had many Vietnamese students over the years, she said she would get my visa fixed free of charge - Merry Christmas! So to thank her, I signed up for the fast track thing. I didn’t want any more problems. It was totally worth it. You definitely don’t want to run into an immigration agent who decides they need a little extra cash that day. Personally, Vietnam is not a country I am interested in returning to, even though the food was amazing.

I’m just saying, pointing out one case does not prove that Mexico is any more dangerous than Thailand, Brazil or Colombia.

Yes, those things happen. I think you like to go to Thailand. Haven’t people been robbed and murdered there? As I said, I’ve never had a problem in Mexico and never felt unsafe.

I got my Vietnam visa online. Did it months in advance. When I went to the airport, they wouldn’t let me board the flight because my passport expiration date was wrong. I know it wasn’t my mistake. I was lucky enough to be in a FB group for Vietnam travel and I posted there and a woman from San Jose was able to contact the embassy in HCMC and get my visa corrected. I was able to fly the next day. Point it, you can probably apply online. But be very careful. A friend told me the same thing happened to her daughter. Also, Hanoi was a disappointment. Way too many motorbikes and not much to see.

Thanks for the recommendation. It definitely has potential. One thing I like about it is that you can see who is near you on a map, unlike Grindr, which just has distances.

I finally hooked up with someone else from Grindr last night. He’d messaged me before and appeared to be a time waster, so I just deleted his messages. I should have blocked him. He messaged me yesterday and after wasting more of my time, finally came over. The many face and body pics he sent me were old. He’d gained weight, which wasn’t a huge problem for me, but I hate dishonesty. And then when I was sucking him, he grabbed his phone and started filming and taking photos without asking if it was okay. When we finished, he said I needed to be careful because there were guys who target foreigners. After the weird message from the guy earlier, it made me uncomfortable and I said, “ok well then you should leave”. It was not the best experience so I was surprised when he messaged me afterwards and asked if I enjoyed it and said he wanted to be friends. After the old photos and filming me without my consent, I didn’t think it was worth explaining to him why I didn’t enjoy it. I just blocked him. I hope he enjoys the photos. I met one really great guy so far and that’s enough for me. I have one more week and I will be blocking liberally.

I haven’t hired any guys on this trip. As I get older, I get more selective (and I guess less horny), and I’d much rather be with someone who wants to be with me than someone who just wants the money. On my last trip here 4 years ago, I tried two guys from Mileroticos - one was a guy named Maycol, who has an enormous dick. Turned out his photos were ancient and he really wasn’t worth it. The other, a cutie from the Atlantic coast, was a lot of fun and definitely worth it. But this time I looked and the only guy I was interested in wanted 350,000 for an out call (300,000 in). Not worth it to me.

I forgot one more gem from today. A blank profile, no photo, sent me a few messages - something like, Hello how are you? With rainbows and flowers or something dumb. I didn’t block, I just deleted. A little later, he wrote again. I just said “I’m not interested”. He wrote back and said something like “Why? I’m not one of those people who kills foreigners.” And then repeated a similar sentiment. So for those who think I’m missing out on “gems” by instantly blocking, you’re right. This one was definitely a gem. He’s now blocked. And I will go back to blocking blank profiles who just write “hola”. It’s clear, they are not the kind of gems I’m looking for.

Today, Saturday, July 4, the scammers and time wasters are out in force. First, I was contacted by a guy who has been writing me all week. I keep telling him after 4 (because that’s when my doorman leaves). We’ve been going back and forth and missing each other. Today, the doorman was gone by noon, so when he messaged me I told him I was free. He said he was going to shower and get dressed and be on his way. After one hour, I messaged him again and he said he was leaving soon. I wrote back that I was tired of messaging back and forth and wasn’t interested. He said “okay”. So he was never serious. Not sure what’s up with these guys who get their kicks out of just messaging and not following through. Then this super hot guy messaged me. Something told me he was too good to be true. Grindr doesn’t let you take screen shots of photos anymore, so I used my phone and took a photo on my iPad and did a reverse image search since he had such a clear face shot. The guy in the photo is some sort of Brazilian Tik Tokker. I blocked that one after trying to do a video chat with him (he declined and said he was not alone). Then someone messaged me and sent me a Porn Hub link. Even though my profile is clear what I am looking for and I repeated it in my message to him, he wanted me to watch the video and do what was in it. Instant block. Be careful. If they are too good to be true, they are. And don’t click on any links anyone sends you.

I haven’t been to Brazil yet. I was under the impression that it wasn’t safe to meet guys on Grindr, but I guess the risk probably isn’t much greater than it is here. The guy I eventually did meet is really high quality. Turns out he’s some kind of fitness influencer on IG. He’s super sweet and I really enjoy spending time with him. Still weeding out the flakes and time wasters.

My profile clearly says no photo no chat, and when I am getting 20-30 messages per day, even now into my second week here, I can’t reply to everyone. I’m not running a charity for people who can’t read. The main reason for people not sending photos in their first message is usually because they are a scammer (ie “Faza from Dubai”), or they know they aren’t my type. Easiest to just delete. My profile is very clear.

Honestly, I was beginning to lose hope and in a fit of frustration, I bent my rule and agreed to meet someone from Sniffies who wanted to fuck. Big mistake. I won’t go into it in detail, but let’s just say - halitosis, old photo, and he had me balancing on a pile of pillows and didn’t know how to give a bottom pleasure. I finally told him I couldn’t do it anymore and jerked him off. Don’t think he’ll be back. So today, Monday, some guys from the past and whole group of new guys contacted me. A lot of time waters. People from hundreds of miles away. Guys I wasn’t really into. A lot of “Como estás?, Bien y tu, Bien” back and forth. I used one of my free “right now” sessions from Grindr and got a few hits. One guy wanted money and continued after I told him I didn’t pay. It was tempting, but he only wanted 50,000 and that is a red flag for me. I held my ground. And then “Activo” contacted me. His photo wasn’t much, and his dick looked nice but not a “wow” dick like the guy who wanted money. But he seemed reasonable and sane. He said he was working and would contact me when he was finished. He contacted me when he was finished. He contacted me when he was 10 minutes away. I liked all of that. Major turn on for me - keeping me posted rather than hanging. I went down to meet him when he arrived. He reminded me of the Rock - both face and body. Not as big as the Rock, but not far off. He looked a little mean, so I was worried that he was disappointed. Let’s just say he was very hot and we had a really nice time. He kissed and cuddled. He like when I ate his ass, and his dick was beautiful. He looked way better than he did in his photo. When I walked him back down to open the door, he said he’d write to me and send me his WhatsApp. I decided not to wait and sent him mine instead. He just responded and now we’re connected on WhatsApp. I do expect to see him again. I really don’t need any other guys while I am here as long as I can see him regularly. Even though the first guy I met made me realize I didn’t really enjoy getting fucked like I used to, this guy made me rethink it because the way he fucked my mouth, kissed and held me and caressed me after he came made me think he might know what he’s doing. So things are looking up and now I can really turn up the filter on Grindr. The bar has been set very high. Not sure how helpful this is, but for those who are thinking of coming and wondering if they can actually meet quality guys on Grindr who don’t want money, it is possible. With this guy I know I am going to have a good time and don’t have to worry about getting robbed or murdered. Other than that, it’s been almost a week that I have been in Laureles, and I love it here. It’s a quiet, tree-lined street that is close to cafes and restaurants. I’m going to do a few touristy things like museums, Comuna 13, etc., but mostly I’m here to escape Bay Area summer and have the experience of living in Colombia. After today, it could not be more perfect.

By a razor-thin margin, the right-wing, zero experience, Trump backed, “law and order” candidate won the presidential election. Colombian presidents are limited to four-year terms, so there is not a big chance that he can do too much damage. Colombia, and especially Medellín have turned around due to focusing on the root causes of crime and violence, not “law and order”. This guy wants to reduce taxes, cut social programs and build mega prisons in the jungle. Fortunately, he will be faced with many guardrails that will make it difficult. Here’s what Gemini had to say. Preliminary results show that far-right candidate **Abelardo de la Espriella** has won the runoff election by a razor-thin margin. With over 99.9% of the ballots counted, De la Espriella secured **49.65%** of the vote (12.95 million votes), narrowly defeating progressive senator Iván Cepeda, who captured **48.70%** (12.7 million votes). The margin is incredibly close—separated by just under 248,000 votes. Because of this tight gap, Cepeda’s campaign has announced it will challenge the initial results from roughly 33,000 ballot boxes and await the final, legally required ballot-by-ballot verification by judges and notaries. Assuming the victory is certified, De la Espriella’s capability to successfully deliver on his major campaign promises faces several steep structural hurdles. ### 1. Addressing Crime and Security De la Espriella won largely on a platform promising an "iron fist" (*mano dura*) approach to security, vowing to end Gustavo Petro’s "Total Peace" strategy of negotiating with armed groups. * **The Strategy:** He intends to rely on a heavy, military-led strategy to crack down on criminal organizations and narco-trafficking networks. * **Likelihood of Success (Moderate to Low):** While a militarized approach may yield short-term security boosts in specific urban centers or targeted zones, total military suppression across Colombia’s complex geography is historically difficult. Ending all peace talks risks pushing various factions (like the ELN or dissident FARC groups) back into full-scale offensive operations, potentially leading to a sharp escalation in rural violence before any stabilization occurs. ### 2. Resolving Economic Problems To boost the economy, De la Espriella plans to cut taxes, reduce the size of the state by up to 40%, slash regulations, and aggressively expand oil, gas, and mining projects. He has also stated he will keep some popular social measures, such as recent minimum wage increases. * **The Strategy:** Attract foreign investment through deregulation and aggressive fossil fuel and natural resource exploitation. * **Likelihood of Success (Mixed):** Reopening the oil and gas sectors will likely attract foreign capital and provide a boost to state revenues. However, cutting the state apparatus by up to 40% while attempting to fund a massive military expansion is a difficult fiscal balancing act. Rapidly shrinking public sector jobs and cutting regulations could also trigger intense social unrest and nationwide labor strikes. ### 3. The Political Governance Reality The greatest obstacle to his success is **governance**. > Colombia’s electorate is profoundly polarized down the middle, and the legislative branch reflects this division. > Because De la Espriella won by less than one percentage point, he lacks a sweeping popular mandate. The left-wing coalition and independent centrist blocks retain substantial power in the Colombian Congress. Without a clear legislative majority, his most radical proposals—such as restructuring state ministries or passing major tax overhauls—will likely face severe gridlock, forcing him to compromise heavily or rely on executive decrees that will face immediate challenges in the constitutional courts.

Sounds like a scam to me. What is the guarantee that they will meet once you subscribe or buy their content? I know on Grindr it’s a total scam.

This is my experience on Grindr. It may not be yours. I’m offering this as a report for those who may be interested. I know there are a lot of “Medellín experts” here. I am not one. This is my experience so far… I arrived on Tuesday and as on my last trip here, Grindr immediately exploded. I’m 66, in fairly good shape, but I am old. And I am only interested in sucking. I will bottom after I get to know someone and occasionally, I will top if the ass is right, but my profile is pretty clear what I am looking for initially. That didn’t stop everyone from writing though, so my Grindr strategy here has changed from looking to filtering. The Good News Older men are very much in demand. A lot of guys are open to just getting sucked. This is a high volume Grindr population. It definitely seems to be the app of choice. The Challenge Even though my host said I could have visitors (I asked if I could have friends over for lunch or conversation), there is a security guard at the door until 4 and I don’t want to bring multiple guys in, so I am saying I can only host after 4. Much of the interest seems to be earlier in the day. I’m guessing people are working or studying nearby who then go home (I’m in Laureles). People don’t read. I can’t tell you how many ugly asshole shots I have received. I honestly find the anus to be the least attractive body part. There are some pretty ones, but most are hideous. I’m also getting messages from guys who are hundreds of miles away. People don’t understand no reply, and some don’t understand no. There are a lot of flakes (it’s Grindr). My Strategy 1. Block - I don’t even waste time anymore since I’m getting so many hits. Blank profile with “hola” message? Immediate block. Asshole shot? Immediate block. I’m trying to keep track of the possibilities and weed out the time wasters. 2. I’m not chasing - if someone is interested, they will make it work. 3. My profile is clear - I have clearly stated on my profile that I am not interested if they are not in Medellín or an escort. I have clearly said what I am looking for and when I’m available. It’s not working 100%, but at least I am trying. 4. Patience - I am not looking for quantity. I’m looking for quality. Colombian men are incredibly sexy and I can wait for the right one. I’ve been working with Chat GPT since my stay in Reggio Calabria last year where we identified success factors for someone like me (older tourist who is an oral bottom). My ideal city is smaller pool; fewer tourists; people living at home so the ability to host is a plus. Medellín is not my ideal city. But it excels in other ways - it is high volume and people are attracted to older men. And the men are incredibly hot. The challenge has been to weed out the time wasters and find a way to meet those who match what I am looking for. I’m here for a month, and at my age, I’m not exceptionally horny, so I’m taking my time. I have about 20 guys in my queue who are potentials. I think I will have fun here, but because of my limitations, it’s going to be slow going. I’m not going to be taking 100 loads a day or going wild, but I hope to meet a few quality guys who I can see more than once. I’m staying in Laureles and I really like it. It’s a beautiful, green, quiet neighborhood and there are a lot of restaurants nearby. It’s very walkable and feels safe. The weather has been perfect, and I am enjoying the experience of “living” here. So there it is. If you’re thinking of coming and not depending on escorts for fun, Grindr is definitely hot. If you’re younger, a top or verse, you’ll have even more possibilities, but I am very happy with the prospects for the month ahead.

The scammers are usually pretty easy to spot. If it's not "Fazza" it's the too handsome to be real guys, often with a dog, who will say, "Hey, how has your day been?" when it's 9 am your time. Or the ones writing from thousands of miles away. It really seems like a very long-term investment on their part to do all of this work, so I guess it must pay off at some point. But honestly, you'd have to be really gullible to fall for them. Thanks for sharing this. The more you know.

Yes, they've done so well historically. And of course they love queer people, so you'll be welcomed like a true sister.

I immediately know it’s “Fazza” now. 43 years old. Blank profile. Not near but not too far. Do they think we haven’t caught on by now? And why can’t Grindr stop them?

I would rather live next to a Mexican than a bigot like you. I somehow missed all of the danger in my 40 years of traveling to Mexico. And I never met anyone as disgusting as you.

Delusional on top of everything else. Donald, is that you?