joizy

I've been surprised as I get older that there are guys who are attracted to me specifically because of my age and body type. Well, at least outside of the US. I met a beautiful guy in the DR who only wanted to be with older men, and not for pay. He said younger guys are always trying to sleep with him but he has no interest. And the only quality guy I met in Medellin was the same. Great body, handsome, super nice, and only interested in "mature". I felt both were out of my league, even in my younger days, but my age turned out to be an asset. Not sure about the wining and dining, but I wouldn't write it off.

Well, as I said, I have never worried about it. Maybe because I generally avoid crowded spaces, and don’t spend a lot of time in CDMX. To be clear, this whole conversation started with the racist who was disparaging Mexicans and Thais and somehow became about the dangers of Mexico because two Chinese guys were robbed at gunpoint. My point is simply that in my experience, I was robbed twice in Bangkok, and had a few other close calls, but nothing has ever happened to me in Mexico and my first trip there was in 1983. This is my experience. I love Mexico. I recognize there are dangerous places there, just like there are dangerous places in many US cities and elsewhere in the world, but in general, Mexicans are warm, hardworking and trustworthy.

I just chose the most popular on this forum. Most European countries are dangerous if we’re using robbery as the measure. Sure, it may not be at gunpoint, but losing all of your money, passport and especially phone can be devastating. I’ve never worried about pickpockets in Mexico. I am extra careful in Europe.

I learned that lesson. Point is, I was robbed twice in Thailand but never in Mexico. And I had other close calls.

Mexico City used to be very unsafe. The first time I went there, I was terrified and only in transit, so I stayed at the airport. But I have been many times since, and have not had a problem. Meanwhile, I was robbed twice in Bangkok. Once a guy I brought back to my hotel took $300 out of my wallet while I was in the shower (he left me $300 fortunately, which I needed for my next trip). The other time, I had a chain stolen at Babylon without even realizing it. You might not get held at gunpoint in Thailand, but you can definitely get robbed.

The woman who helped me get my visa overnight ran an agency that did the fast track thing. When I told her I was an ESL teacher and had had many Vietnamese students over the years, she said she would get my visa fixed free of charge - Merry Christmas! So to thank her, I signed up for the fast track thing. I didn’t want any more problems. It was totally worth it. You definitely don’t want to run into an immigration agent who decides they need a little extra cash that day. Personally, Vietnam is not a country I am interested in returning to, even though the food was amazing.

I’m just saying, pointing out one case does not prove that Mexico is any more dangerous than Thailand, Brazil or Colombia.

Yes, those things happen. I think you like to go to Thailand. Haven’t people been robbed and murdered there? As I said, I’ve never had a problem in Mexico and never felt unsafe.

I got my Vietnam visa online. Did it months in advance. When I went to the airport, they wouldn’t let me board the flight because my passport expiration date was wrong. I know it wasn’t my mistake. I was lucky enough to be in a FB group for Vietnam travel and I posted there and a woman from San Jose was able to contact the embassy in HCMC and get my visa corrected. I was able to fly the next day. Point it, you can probably apply online. But be very careful. A friend told me the same thing happened to her daughter. Also, Hanoi was a disappointment. Way too many motorbikes and not much to see.

Thanks for the recommendation. It definitely has potential. One thing I like about it is that you can see who is near you on a map, unlike Grindr, which just has distances.

I finally hooked up with someone else from Grindr last night. He’d messaged me before and appeared to be a time waster, so I just deleted his messages. I should have blocked him. He messaged me yesterday and after wasting more of my time, finally came over. The many face and body pics he sent me were old. He’d gained weight, which wasn’t a huge problem for me, but I hate dishonesty. And then when I was sucking him, he grabbed his phone and started filming and taking photos without asking if it was okay. When we finished, he said I needed to be careful because there were guys who target foreigners. After the weird message from the guy earlier, it made me uncomfortable and I said, “ok well then you should leave”. It was not the best experience so I was surprised when he messaged me afterwards and asked if I enjoyed it and said he wanted to be friends. After the old photos and filming me without my consent, I didn’t think it was worth explaining to him why I didn’t enjoy it. I just blocked him. I hope he enjoys the photos. I met one really great guy so far and that’s enough for me. I have one more week and I will be blocking liberally.

I haven’t hired any guys on this trip. As I get older, I get more selective (and I guess less horny), and I’d much rather be with someone who wants to be with me than someone who just wants the money. On my last trip here 4 years ago, I tried two guys from Mileroticos - one was a guy named Maycol, who has an enormous dick. Turned out his photos were ancient and he really wasn’t worth it. The other, a cutie from the Atlantic coast, was a lot of fun and definitely worth it. But this time I looked and the only guy I was interested in wanted 350,000 for an out call (300,000 in). Not worth it to me.

I forgot one more gem from today. A blank profile, no photo, sent me a few messages - something like, Hello how are you? With rainbows and flowers or something dumb. I didn’t block, I just deleted. A little later, he wrote again. I just said “I’m not interested”. He wrote back and said something like “Why? I’m not one of those people who kills foreigners.” And then repeated a similar sentiment. So for those who think I’m missing out on “gems” by instantly blocking, you’re right. This one was definitely a gem. He’s now blocked. And I will go back to blocking blank profiles who just write “hola”. It’s clear, they are not the kind of gems I’m looking for.

Today, Saturday, July 4, the scammers and time wasters are out in force. First, I was contacted by a guy who has been writing me all week. I keep telling him after 4 (because that’s when my doorman leaves). We’ve been going back and forth and missing each other. Today, the doorman was gone by noon, so when he messaged me I told him I was free. He said he was going to shower and get dressed and be on his way. After one hour, I messaged him again and he said he was leaving soon. I wrote back that I was tired of messaging back and forth and wasn’t interested. He said “okay”. So he was never serious. Not sure what’s up with these guys who get their kicks out of just messaging and not following through. Then this super hot guy messaged me. Something told me he was too good to be true. Grindr doesn’t let you take screen shots of photos anymore, so I used my phone and took a photo on my iPad and did a reverse image search since he had such a clear face shot. The guy in the photo is some sort of Brazilian Tik Tokker. I blocked that one after trying to do a video chat with him (he declined and said he was not alone). Then someone messaged me and sent me a Porn Hub link. Even though my profile is clear what I am looking for and I repeated it in my message to him, he wanted me to watch the video and do what was in it. Instant block. Be careful. If they are too good to be true, they are. And don’t click on any links anyone sends you.

I haven’t been to Brazil yet. I was under the impression that it wasn’t safe to meet guys on Grindr, but I guess the risk probably isn’t much greater than it is here. The guy I eventually did meet is really high quality. Turns out he’s some kind of fitness influencer on IG. He’s super sweet and I really enjoy spending time with him. Still weeding out the flakes and time wasters.