Bangkok late Feb for 12 Weeks

[differenceday]

Well,

I had been told by a trusted mentor to "Never pay for it.”  
    "Why?"  
    "Because you'll fall in love with them."  

...and my last 7 month trip to BKK-Bali, ignoring said advice, I had a heart attack; finding best solace months later, finally, at the 1:45 closing of my second trip to Tawan (unusual, but the super A, et. al., crowd were unappealing that nite): had a what-the-hell beer; neon lights came on; "Unbreak My Heart" played; thought "who will unbreak my...".   And I saw a barback who was perfect: he was with me until my departure.  He’d never been off'd in 2 years at Tawan, even had to ask how to do it.  Perfect.

Thank you for all, as I was last there in early 2007.

I'm scheduled to be there for about 3 months, starting late February through May.  Probably last trip (I'm older than anyone who says their age on this site recently).   And my intention is to take my mentor's advice and not "pay for it".  (If I were, I'd probably take the "low overhead" route, and just look into the bars, if they still exist, on the Soi by Mango Tree, off Soi Than Tawan).  
So I am looking for following up any trusted 'sign' from my stay there, wherever it occurs.

Telephone used to allow one to meet locals as well as a variety of folks in a social atmosphere if one chose; what place has that kind of appeal, style now? [Balcony, e.g., is not that social kind of bar.]

As my favorite restaurant/bar was Sphinx back then, at the end of Soi 4, if any remembers its ambiance, what is a restaurant/bar that is:
1) comfortable (cushioned),  
2)  quiet enough to talk,  
3) reasonably priced, with 
4) healthy-enough food, in the 
5) Silom/Patpong/gay area Silom
...in that order?       (Foodland with cushions?)

Massage is underrated in western culture, but not by me.  Attractiveness is second to sensitive, client-focused care for full body, while foot/leg massage is fine with good work.

I'm also looking forward to meet folks from this site while I'm there.  

[mauRICE]

Welcome to the forum @differenceday. Are you by any chance related to @pong2 or studied at the same school perhaps?