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Save for insisting your partner wear a bodycam 24/7, I wonder how does one prove monogamy or fidelity. Sure, it is easy enough to say one is in a monogamous or faithful relationship but there is really no way of proving it, is there. I mean all it takes is twenty minutes for them to leave the house, fuck their lover around the corner and be back home for dinner. Okay, forty minutes if they share a beer and a somtam after. And sometimes they don't even have to leave the house! 😏

May I suggest very gently and with lots of lubricant. Remember to use a fresh condom each time and save that cattle prod only for special occasions. 😏😉

Yes, it would make him happy. Terrible analogy @mima_bk. Have you been following the scandals involving monks in Thailand in the last few years? They fuck around like rabbits and drink like fish! But we understand the point you're trying to make. Carry on. 🙏🏻

Whether he enjoyed the massage or not, I hope @ChristianPFC used a fresh condom. He has publically bragged that he washes his used condoms, puts them out to dry and re-uses them. 🤢🤮You read that right. This has been corroborated by the boys. It is a filthy and dangerous practice that puts an already high risk group even at higher risk but the boys can't say no because they need the money or they'll go hungry otherwise. His parsimony is one thing but the fact that he is proud and willing to put those already in a vulnerable position in harm's way shows the kind of person he truly is and is very, very disturbing. Agreed. In fact sociopaths like Ted Bundy and John Wayne Gacy were seen as kind, charming and normal individuals by their communities. ...as if those vulnerable young men are cattle being slated for slaughter...no empathy whatsoever. And he takes his "method" further, by picking out the most vulnerable and the most desperate young men, the ones who would find it difficult to say no to his demeaning offers and dangerous practices.

That made me laugh out loud. 🤣 Glad to see there are still members of this forum who don't take themselves too seriously! You're alright, @kentguy2025. Are you from Kent? Sweet is the country, because full of riches; The people liberal, valiant, active, wealthy; Which makes me hope you are not void of pity. @Keithambrose Without googling, can you tell me where that quote is from? There's coffee and cake in it for you. 😏🤭

Oh that's right, there are no moneyboys on Grindr and he's unlikely to meet other farang working in a weed bar in a backwater like Krabi which, frankly, most international tourists haven't heard of. Damn those Silom hoes! Were you stoned at the time? Six nights is a lifetime! You're well within your rights to have all those expectations of him and to demand total and utter fidelity. I'd ask for it in writing - in blood!

In my humble opinion, the cultural difference is that foreigners, and westerners in particular, always look for the most complicated explanations whereas I have found that, in my more than twenty-year association with Thailand, the simplest and most obvious explanations are often the most accurate. Little fibs will lead to bigger lies in the future. Reticence in reciprocating your shows of affection means he's not really interested; oh he'll string you along if you're willing to put up with his behaviour and spend money on him but otherwise it's no loss to him. It's been five months since you met; he's probably met someone else, assuming he wasn't already with someone else when you started going steady. Yes. Somebody should pin this up somewhere.

Who do you think wrote it for me? 😉 Seriously, figuring out the signs and signification was easy based on my own general knowledge and having access to Thai friends and relatives from a wide variety of backgrounds. The writing took up a bit of time which I had while waiting for my father complete his annual physical. Seventy-eight and he passed it with flying colours. All we've been hearing since we left the hospital is how his doctor had said he had the blood pressure of a teenager: 118/78. 🙄 Field research? 😏

No, not all roads lead to Bali. My trainer, who's straight and a popular fitness model in Bangkok, was just complaining on his social media this morning that, based on reports from his many followers, his pics, all taken in Thailand, were being used without his permission on gay hook up apps and commercial sites and have been seen in Singapore, Malaysia, Taiwan and places in Thailand he had never been to. His pics could be mis-used all over the globe for all he knows. Such is the nature of the technology and the disingeneous nature of man. Therefore it doesn't mean that, if somebody had seen my trainer's pics three or ten times on a Grindr profile in Singapore, the profile belongs to my trainer or that he's physically in Singapore. Common sense. When I first saw the pics posted in this thread, my first thought was that the first guy was either of south Indian or Timor Leste origin and the second was from one of the Tai tribes in northern Thailand and I will explain why I believe this to be true. Besides his features which I feel are typically south Indian if one takes away the bright flash filter, there is a poster on his wall which I've attached below by Vidya Sharma, a modestly known local writer, guru and mindfulness coach from Karnataka State in South India. It follows that a budding bodybuilder from the same region would be inspired by a quote from Vidya Sharma than one remotely in Bali. Secondly, the staircase design and barrier is quite common in more modest south Indian homes, as confirmed by my friend at lunch today. My friend is Malaysian of south Indian origin and has been all over South India to visit his relatives and Bengaluru for business numerous times. When he showed me the pic, he immediately teased me that I had gone Indian in my tastes (I have no racial or skin colour preference). Coincidentally, we were at a banana leaf restaurant where all the staff were from various parts of South India and the three we asked all said the guy in the pic is south Indian and one even claimed it was his friend from Cennai. 🤣 Now, I shall move on to the cute guy in the second pic. The bird/garuda/owl? chest tattoo wasn't very instructive as it is not unusual in cultures with Buddhist or Hindu influences and consequently elements flowing from the Ramayan. Next was the full choker tattoo and stretched earlobe. Stretched earlobes aren't common in Balinese culture. I thought he could possibly be Dayak from Kalimantan or East Malaysia but the Dayak do their neck tattoos and stretched earlobes differently. And he's just too cute to be Dayak (my bias). 😅 So I went back to my first instinct and sent his pics to two good friends in Thailand: one is a tattoo artist and the other a cultural anthropologist. They both came back with nearly identical replies: the overall tattoo design and style of dress would suggest the young man is from a northern Tai tribe but they couldn't pinpoint which because of cross-cultural influences. Even the stretched earlobe isn't confined to the Kayaw or Lahu tribes anymore and it has been adapted by other tribes/cultures to look "more cool" by having only one earlobe pierced or stretched these days instead of both. To say that my circumspect analysis and reasoning show that all roads lead to South India and northern Thailand would be too arrogant and simplistic, but I would leave them here as a plausibility worthy of consideration.

It's reckless and irresponsible to use pictures of two random guys obtained online and raise suspicions on their characters when they aren't here to defend themselves. Putting a so-called disclaimer doesn't help: imagine taking a random pic, obtained online, of an older white male seated next to a tiny twenty-year-old, youthful-looking Thai guy, posting it on some faith-based forum and calling the white male a paedo, with a fine print on the bottom of the pic saying the Thai guy could actually be an adult but he's just small built. The damage is already done and potentially libellous as one doesn't have to show malicious intent to prove culpability under Thai defamation laws. What's worse is that the image will forever linger in people's minds, possibly with a question mark, disclaimer or no disclaimer. Imagine if somebody used your pics indiscriminately and cast aspersions on your character - or are the reputations of brown-skinned, probably impoverished Asian guys who haven't had the opportunities that you've had, not worthy of protection because only the reputations of "superior" blue-eyed, fair-haired Aryans matter? There are certainly enough bootlickers here who are quick to jump in to defend the latter. The correct way of managing suspected fake profiles or those used to solicit funds under false pretenses, is to simply report them to the site's administrator*, instead of indiscriminately posting the pics that were used in those profiles and raising unfair suspicions on the subjects who aren't able to defend themselves. And if they are working boys, you could possibly be destroying their livelihoods. Honestly, people who live in glass houses shouldn't cast the first stone. As I said earlier, the circles we move in in "gay Thailand" aren't that big and word gets around. *I believe all hook-up apps have a "report dubious profile" function.

Not at all. Quite a few guys in Pattaya (Thai, Khmer and farang) know you and of you and your habits. Not everyone is a sycophantic old farang desperate for validation from a middle-aged white cock. And remember, the assumption underlying the law of defamation is that the injured party has a reputation to protect, an assumption I would never make of you. So there isn't a problem then. You said yourself initially they were slow to respond. Or has your precious ego been hurt so badly after being rejected that you needed to post the pics of these two men when there are perhaps hundreds if not thousands of non-genuine and dubious profiles on gay hook up sites?

What is the basis of your very serious and potentially defamatory allegations? Perhaps your alleged reputation for being a finicky customer and "generous" tipper 🙄 has preceded you and/or they're simply not interested in you. Word gets around, you know, especially as regards someone who claims to have been around as long as you have.

Sorry to tell you this but they're only after your body for sex. 😏

Surely not a problem for most forum members who could easily show the immigration officers the precious florins and farthings they've accumulated from their days of youth. 😏

https://www.bangkokpost.com/thailand/general/3235598/review-seeks-quality-tourists Are you a quality tourist? 😏