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Yeah, all good Latbear! I read between the lines, and understood what you meant. It’s somewhat similar in Bali, parts of Thailand and some European countries; they have different and some cases broader and healthily perceptions on attraction, connection and the like in my experience.

Hey badboy! It’s all good, it was just the way he expressed himself that made it clear to me on another level is all. I guess we all get things differently in our own way, and I am thankful to those who have responded. I was just asking a question out of interest, and it’s difficult in a forum of short burst commentary to explain the totality of ones interests, experience, thought process or personality, and easy to see only a one-dimensional perspective of someone and presume you know the rest. Like many, I’ve had lots of tough lessons and hard knocks - it’s just life and life has a way of making us humble, and it makes you wiser and more aware, but I also choose to live with a tender heart and an open mind while being discerning and street wise. Anyways, thanks for your input.

Tomcal, seriously, you answered that perfectly and authoritatively, and your words resonated very deeply - thank you. I was extremely wary about being someone’s ticket to freedom, as have been that previously if only for friends in Brazil with whom I developed strong bonds and the deepest of affection, and you are right in that I am looking for something more like love and with substance and it can be someone older - around my age - and not in the saunas. I was looking to spend 2-3 months there this time to actually immerse myself more fully into the culture and see what can be nurtured. Anyways, who knows! Thanks again - funnily, enough, I am even more interested in hanging out with and meeting like-minded people like yourself and others on this forum! Haha take care and thanks for responding so clearly and eloquently!

Thanks Badboy and Solace!!!!

Oh nice, appreciate that streptomy. I hear ya, and yes, it makes sense.

Haha! I take your point badboy... I am fit, healthy, active, handsome, 42, and lived in other parts of Brazil about a decade ago for about 18 months, and I speak Portuguese quite well... I also know that having lived there I formed strong kinships as friends with guys non-sexually that I still speak to today, and yet in other respects I also know the culture well enough to know that you can be seen as a $$$ sign, a walking ATM and a gringo, too. For this reason, I will also be using scruff, jack’d and tinder for just non-paying encounters too. I am realistic, pragmatic and certainly open to having fun but I guess there is a part of me that is looking for something a little more longer lasting. Don’t get me wrong, I know of guys here in Australia who have dated and are in longer term relationships with dude who they met when they hired them originally as hookers, so anything is possible however improbable! it’s good getting some grounded perspectives... thank you

Thanks Tomcal and Redxs soooo much! Appreciate it... I was meant to travel but am in lockdown in NZ after leaving Sydney to travel. Tomcal as a seasoned expert and someone who has been so many times, I am keen to know your personal experience around finding a genuine connection with true affection with any of the garotos? I’m not naive but it would be nice if there is real friendship with romance, and natural tesao not simply something transactional where the guy is mostly straight, needs straight porn and viagra or has to close his eyes to think of someone else to get make it happen. Have you had anything long term or even relationships form out of this?

Hi! newbie here, I’ve read the threads here, and have some questions: 1) I find the guys on garotoscomlocal and netgay and olimpos super cute, are similar types at saunas and do they also work there? 2) does anyone take their own padlock for the lockers in the saunas? 3) what is safer, taxis or Uber in Rio? 4) does anyone catch up eith other expats and non locals to socialise in groups or only with locals? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! And 5) does anyone know if drey is still around and organising trips? I remember his other site and he was always super helpful!