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But the illness Social Anxiety makes you think people are watching you and judging you ,I know it's sounds weird. But yes your goal was to visit boys only,but if your a long termer or expat you would want to talk to other same farang sometime as well. A social anxiety person would find that difficult Can you walk into a crowded beer bar and strike up a conversation? I'm not talking specifically about you Peter ,but I wonder how many of you use this excuse ,I'm only there for the boys" because deep down you do have some aspects of social anxiety and scared others may reject you

I think social anxiety though can limit your life Don't take this the wrong way but I gathered you too Scott are more introverted type person , N ot that being introverted has anything really to do with Social Anxiety but it can limit your life because your sort of scared to say go to a beer bar and grab a seat inside among the crowd A few times I walked past the House bar in jomtien complex to see a few farangs sitting playing bingo , I really just couldn't bring myself to walk in and shout hello everyone I'm playing too or something so I just kept walking, it would be different if I was drunk of course 🥳🥳🥳

I want to talk about something which many of you probably have never noticed ....unless you have it . And that's called social anxiety. It's a term that the meaning for me is people who are scared to mingle, people who think others are being negative to them ,look it's hard to explain actually But I saw this a lot in the gay community in Pattaya compared to the straight community,meaning if you walk around the straight areas Soi Buckhao etc you will see many of the farangs together and mingling. Then walk around jomtien & Sunee you will see many farangs sitting apart by themselves at tables ,in fact The Venue stopped letting one person sit by themselves during a show I don't find the gay farangs as friendly as the straight farangs in Pattaya,in fact most of my 6 weeks I spent in Soi Buckhao mixing with straight farangs,now that could be my social anxiety kicking in and not really true !!!! Sure there was some friendly guys in a few bars in jomtien complex but even of a few seemed to have social anxiety. They were not talking,head down in their phones ,scared to look up ,sitting by themselves Even I have this previously and it's not easy to cure I still have it actually It's not meaning the same as introvert or extrovert , It means if one for example was walking thru jomtien complex he would think everyone is staring at him,he wouldn't feel ok sitting amongst these farangs ,some farang would look at him and he would think the Farang are judging him. They are thinking negative of him, a social anxiety person wouldn't go into busy places or like to walk through crowds . Look I'm going to be brutally honest, I had to have a few drinks to go into busy areas such as jomtien complex a few times ,I didn't feel relaxed to brave the crowds and music ,not that there was any crowds just I didn't feel ok. Music was loud , people walking past trying to bump into me, not moving out the way etc but I did feel safer say than Walking Street That first bar on the left as you walk into jomtien complex used to be my regular bar at the beginning of the night to have a few drinks BEFORE I walked down that complex before I braved that walk I know your thinking I'm crazy but it's a illness ,you thinking I never heard this before,but many have it just they cover it up by getting drunk or avoidance It's a illness many don't understand

I know Vinapu speaks a lot on weight control and overeating . Can I ask many if you as you get into your senior years are you still taking care of yourself And what I mean by that is ,you guys past 50 are you eating a good diet ,doing any exercise and no smoking ,limited drinking or have you let yourself go? Look I'm going to he honest ,if I was past 80yo I probably wouldn't care what I ate or drank but you guys going past 50 are you taking care of your body ? How many of you actually go to the gym to lift weights? Or do swimming ? I wonder how many runners are here or cyclists ? Or be honest you stopped exercising.

True 🤣 🤣🤣 They offered me free counselling at the sexual health clinic but I declined ,I'm too old now to change and I told the doctor my motto Grow old disgracefully 👍👍

I take it no baggage then? Saves you waiting at the carousel

Sometimes I think punishment really doesn't help stop people from committing crime Maybe psychological counseling would be better 💜

Last month when I was in Pattaya I walked around near the Pattaya police station in beach road Very interesting building,I wished I could of filmed it but I felt a bit apprehensive. On the top you see a big managers office with balcony all done up nicely inside however on the side road you will see what looks like accommodation rooms for police The building looks small but is huge .

I guess it also depends on where you live , you have a better chance at the age group eg over 30yo. Potential boyfriend can't he everything you want him to be ,that would be impossible,it would be fantastic if we all could find our soulmate I wonder if anyone ever had found a real soulmate ?

Yes I have had Covid twice in the last 8 months so I'm hoping it's a connection and not HPV,in the last month I have taken antibiotics doxycycline without success and now on Cilicaine VK... I'm just hoping it's not HPV . I sucked a lot of dicks in the last few months, really deep throated a few and swallowed precum and a lot of young straight guys and one enormous young half Filipino arabic guy who was a straight 19yo I met in a gym in Cebu who had his girlfriend outside whilst he mouth fucked me in the toilets ,some if them really throat fucked me and I tried deep throat but I also rimmed a lot of young guys .

Even at 62 I now prefer free sex over paid sex . I'm not always successful but I had the most luck in the Philippines so I'm going back I got a little tired of business arrangements with money boys in Thailand, negotiate a price ,timing it,etc and it all seemed to be robotic ,and I got no satisfaction. After the Philippines getting a lot of free sex I went back to Thailand and back to the " how much you pay me" boys again,it wasn't sexually satisfying . But I guess some farangs may have the fantasy of paying boys to do things they don't really want and I don't mean that in a negative way,but after the Philippines I just wasn't that horny to spend money on hiring the services of a money boy.

Unfortunately the Philippines gets a bad rap on many forums . The only thing is ,it's not for lazy gay people,and I say gay because the straight scene is your face in regards to lady Go Go bars etc but the gay scene is not,you have to go look for it ,either by using the apps for both money & non money boys or find the gay bars and gay saunas yourself. Thailand it's in your face,no need to look for it ,its there ,much easier obviously. But your all missing out on cute Filipino boys particularly if your a bottom . A lot of free guys looking for sex and of course many are seeking boyfriend type of experiences I hated Manila but there are gay saunas there but I'm lazy and stingy I prefer meeting free guys on the apps and I get much more a success rate in the Philippines particularly in the outer cities such as Davao etc .

May I ask what country your in Vinapu

And drinking alcohol too I guess

I will ask the HPV specialist when I see him this week whether it's still works if you already have it. They say 95% of anal cancers are caused by HPV and so many throat cancers . It's best to get the anal swabs every year ,I know it's embarrassing but better to be safe

Yes someone just confirmed to me that the Bondi was once in the same building as The Venue? But I do recall it being down towards the beach as well, I can't remember,I'm getting old now😂 I always found it strange two guys from the UK would name their hotel bar the same name as a famous Sydney beach 😊

I am now 110kg but I used to live weights everyday ( up till last month when I got sick ) Your right though ,many guys our age let their bodies go . I saw so many guys middle-aged and above trying to cram their bellies into economy class Is it overeating or less exercise? I know many blame it in slowing metabolism?

Do you actually go to any Christmas dinners on Christmas day ?🤶🤶🤶 I have a feeling Xmas maybe busy this year but of course never as busy as 10-15 years ago , I think all the old timers have died off and many of the next Gen of gay are not interested in spending Xmas in Thailand well I should say Pattaya, because to me I see many younger gay farang couples more into Phuket areas or Bali ,even the islands if Philippines are becoming popular for gay farang couples. When I was in Pattaya last month a bar owner ,I won't say where ,but everytime I went to the bar he mentioned how he was selling it , xmas will be very busy he said. However I don't see a future in it like the past ,anyway I'm getting off track about Xmas 😂

Last time I went to Pattaya /thailand during Xmas was December 2016. It was high season and all I remember was crowds everywhere. Years ago they used to have the famous Xmas dinners at every venue, Poisendon I recall I had mine I know some guys go every year only at Xmas Whats your Xmas schedule particularly you guys with no family are you going this year? I guess Yupins in jomtien will probably have a do again How do you celebrate Christmas? I'm not into religion I'm an Atheist actually so no religion for me I'm not interested in that

Love Shameless Mack, See the old report from Bondi , time has gone quick I wonder what ever happened to the lovely 2 guys who owned Bondi,I think one was a air steward? I believe they were from the UK Didn't at one stage the Bondi was the former Venue? Although this is an old report from 2011, it may still be a useful reminder not to accept, uncritically, products and services – or their pricing – from any vendor who flies the rainbow flag.

Yes as Macaroni said, try Airbnb I had some fantastic 5 star Condos from that company. If you ever see the condo owner you can always negotiate a lower price long term together as well

I will ask the throat specialist this week on behalf of all of us if it's ok to get the HPV vaccine at our age ,and if you can get this vaccine if you already have/had HPV.I imagine about 95% of us have HPV,would that be correct ??I don't want the end up with this HPV turning into something,so I think we ALL need to find out about this vaccine! I'm not sure if you can get it if you already have HPV ,I'm not sure if it's any beneficial. Here is a copy that is interesting There are many different HPV types, only some of which can potentially cause serious illnesses including cancer. The Gardasil 9 vaccine protects against the most frequent types that can cause disease. Sometimes HPV does not clear the body naturally – usually when the infection is with one of the more serious types­. We call this 'persistent' HPV infection. Sadly many of you have never heard of HPV 😟😟😟

Any of you guys have any plans to visit the Philippines soon ? I ask because many of you on here have never been there and I guess are comfortable with just going back to Thailand and maybe side trips to Cambodia. Can I ask what is stopping you? The rumours about crime?The gay bars spread out too much? whats stopping you from making a side trip there maybe for a few days? it's 3.5 hours flight from Bangkok only in many cases it's a lot cheaper than Thailand and in some cases I found Filipinos wanted sex without money with foreign guys

I think if I lived there I would rather have a concealed gun on me,better to be safe than sorry . Interestingly when I was in the Philippines last month there was gun shops in the malls 😳 I had no idea you can buy guns there legally although you need a permit ,but displayed in one window of a gun shop was a machine gun !!

That's why my motto is " Grow old disgracefully" 😂