Hey sexy man! When do you talk abut money? (A Poll)

[bucknaway]

We all have our ways of doing the same thing when it comes to offing staff from a bar.  Some of us will establish how much money the guy wants for a tip before leaving the bar, and some of you have said you just pay the established rate try to stand your ground if more is requested.

 

I hope this poll will give us an Idea which approach is used most by the members here.

 

Happy voting!

[Guest whall]

I definitely want everything clearly stated. I always treat this as a business arrangements.

[vinapu]

I definitely want everything clearly stated. I always treat this as a business arrangements.

I'm the same but for a different reason, I  don't like awkward situations on parting ways and I assume , perhaps wrongly,  that boys are like me  and are trying  harder knowing how much they will get.

 

Often when offing boy offed previously I will give them money in the room  up front, no they never so far took an advantage of situation and skipped on service or time.

[Guest whall]

Yes. Regulars you know and trust to live up to what is agreed to is fantastic!

[Guest ryanasia]

None of the options really fit for me. I usually wait until after I take him out of the bar to see how things go. Have a drink somewhere more neutral and then after a drink or two I will talk money. I have become very explicit about what I expect so there are no misunderstandings and offer the usual tip that is the going bar rate with a promise of a bonus for good performance. 

 

This seems to be the best way to encourage a good time. It makes it up to them how much I give and I am pretty  generous if they give mind blowing sex. They still do okay if it is average but after the first time if they are really good they know to give good service in the future and I don't normally have to discuss it twice. 

 

If I really like a guy he can get up to 5,000 but I don't give it away for nothing. lol So I find it pays to tell him I will give 1,500 to start and more if he is good. It is the twink bonus incentive program.

[traveller123]

Wow Ryan 5000 baht.

Are you interested in a 70 year old with a pot belly. I could travel ha ha

Your current topic - have a good trip to Burma,

[Guest ryanasia]

5,000 is the exception to the rule. Do you prefer a high level of service T123? Bare in mind I am pretty needy. Burma isn't set in stone yet just doing the feasibility research on it. 

[Guest]

If I have to talk about money, I prefer to quote a figure at the bottom end of the going rate range & then pay over it for anyone providing at least average service.

[vinapu]

I'm somewhat surprised so far with poll.

Over years judging by responses in various threads I thought people like me sealing deal up front are minority  but it seems not so.

[vinapu]

 Regulars you know and trust to live up to what is agreed to is fantastic!

still there are exceptions. In June one  of my boys offed few times previously all of the sudden in the morning came with request of 1000 more of what he was receiving from me before, I suspect inspired by his friend from the bar who did the same.

 

Knives are sharpened for revenge already, LOL

[Guest whall]

I'm somewhat surprised so far with poll.

Over years judging by responses in various threads I thought people like me sealing deal up front are minority but it seems not so.

I think you have to be crazy to not make sure everything is negotiated before the deed is done. I don't want any confusion!

[Travellerdave]

I almost always mention the services I expect and and the tip I will pay when in a gogo or bar. I think my long time rate of 2000 baht is good and I cannot recall a refusal. I have mentioned higher tips to ensure a second or subsequent nights when the boy is particularly attractive or his performance in bed was very enjoyable. When I go into daddy mode I mention potential benefits like presents of clothes or a phone in order to keep him performing.

[Guest ryanasia]

If making your money stretch is the goal than saying things up front is the best way to do this in my opinion. *I am not sure if this is the best strategy for sex or outright fun. But for sure saying what you are willing to pay up front will lead to the cheapest prices. 

[Guest]

still there are exceptions. In June one  of my boys offed few times previously all of the sudden in the morning came with request of 1000 more of what he was receiving from me before, I suspect inspired by his friend from the bar who did the same.

 

Knives are sharpened for revenge already, LOL

Saying no is permitted.

 

I think my long time rate of 2000 baht is good and I cannot recall a refusal.

Which location are you talking about ?

For Pattaya, I think it would be good. I don't think I've gone beyond 1800 there yet.

I imagine 1800 LT in Bangkok might result in a few complaints, but since Bangkok is always at the start of my holiday (with jet lag), I have not tested the LT market.

[Travellerdave]

Z909

The 2000 I quoted was in respect of boys in Pattaya, where I spend the majority of my Thai trips. Obviously the cost will be increased by the off fee, boy drinks and maybe a breakfast in the morning.

[a447a]

These days I only negotiate with the guys in Bangkok. What they don't know is that the fee we settle on is the minimum I'm willing to pay. They get more if they put in a good performance.

 

I don't really worry about discussing the fee in Pattaya. I find the guys much less mercenary and I don't recall ever being pressed for extra money after the event.

 

Unfortunately, it's happened a few times in Bangkok so it's best to make things clear from the start.

[vinapu]

 But for sure saying what you are willing to pay up front will lead to the cheapest prices. 

if cheapest prices are somebody's foremost goal. Sometimes this may clash with fun expected to be had

[Guest cdnmatt]

By no means am I demanding in bed, and I've already just paid 2000, so never had a problem with that.

 

I've never bothered deciding on a price based on level of service, and instead have always used level of service to decide whether or not I'll be a repeat customer.

[Travellerdave]

I have been told that I pay too much. A while ago, two years I think, I took a boy to the beach and happened to sit close to a farang also with his Thai boyfriend. We got into conversation during which he asked me how much I was paying and declared that 2000 was too much. I pointed out that my boy (a very cute twink) had only been with me 3 days and that I would put the remuneration on a different basis if I was like him, a long term resident with a steady boyfriend.

I did in fact cut the 2000 down during my second week with him, but that was compensated by gifts (clothes and earrings) I bought for him. This must happen a lot i.e. Take a boy from a gogo or GR who you find attractive and who performs well in bed so you keep more than a few nights. You then conduct a secondary negotiation on becoming his daddy.

[Guest ryanasia]

People always love to tell others they pay too much. For some this seems to be an ego thing. It is usually the same kind of person that talks down to you like you are fresh of the boat and then says something in completely terrible, bar Thai to demonstrate what a profound knowledge of the culture he commands and his over all Thainess. If you paid 100 for your flip flops this guy paid 20 we all know the type. 

 

I told an Australian last time in Jomtien I paid 2,000 and he swore he never paid more than 500 for a boy. I never said anything to him about it but was thinking how lucky the boy sitting next to him must feel. 

 

At least it is nice knowing that 2,000 is above market price and if you have no problem paying this as your default for a reasonably good time you aren't really pressed to negotiate at all if you don't want to. 

[firecat69]

I would never criticize anyone for being too generous unless he was a new visitor and had no knowledge  of the minimum acceptable price.

 

There are some first time visitors that go to the escort section on Planetromeo and might think 2500-5000 is the norm , especially when that is still far less then their home country.  

 

They deserve to have information on the accepted norms and then they can decide the amount that is appropriate.

 

But just information not criticism!

[abidismaili]

Some guys say here "when he performs well in bed I will pay extra".

 

But what is that extra performance you mean here? If I fuck a boy they all lie down or sit on top of me and I fuck them. What can they give as extra performance in this case? Make moaning sounds? Because it is a very passive activity for the boy. He is just being fucked. Other than some extra moaning sounds there isn't much 'extra' he can do.

 

Are you alluding to if he is willing to kiss? Then I understand. But in stead of paying him more if he wants to kiss,  we should pay boys less then the amount agreed if they don't want to kiss in bed. For me kissing is just a standard part of sex. Like cuddling, touching. If you off a boy for sex and fucking is agreed to, then it is normal to assume kissing is included too. I do not inform in advance: "Can I huddle you? Can I kiss you? Can I hold you in my arms?". That should all be included by default. I only ask if he is a bottom. That can not be assumed namely. All the rest should be standard.

 

But if it is standard, what is then this extra performance you guys are alluding to and which warrents an extra tip?

[Guest ryanasia]

If he just lies down and I fuck him this is normal. If he is a power bottom and I fuck him hard six ways to Sunday this would be different. I am also not completely vanilla so anything BDSM related deserves a tip. I will also give extra if they clean my house. lol It is hard to find maids here so this is convenient. 

[a447a]

"But if it is standard, what is then this extra performance you guys are alluding to and which warrents an extra tip?"

 

I don't want a guy to just lay there like a dead fish, then jump up when the deed is done and head for the door as fast as possible.

 

If I decide to bottom, I want a guy who can get it up, keep it up and last more than just a few minutes. The guy I off during the day from a bar in Bangkok can fuck me for well over half an hour - and with incredible enthusiasm. I'm the one who always gives up first.

 

And I expect the guy to be nice to me. I don't want a friend -we both have our own friends. But I do want him to be friendly.

[abidismaili]

"But if it is standard, what is then this extra performance you guys are alluding to and which warrents an extra tip?"

 

I don't want a guy to just lay there like a dead fish, then jump up when the deed is done and head for the door as fast as possible.

 

If I decide to bottom, I want a guy who can get it up, keep it up and last more than just a few minutes. The guy I off during the day from a bar in Bangkok can fuck me for well over half an hour - and with incredible enthusiasm. I'm the one who always gives up first.

 

And I expect the guy to be nice to me. I don't want a friend -we both have our own friends. But I do want him to be friendly.

 

Thanks, clear. Since I never bottom performance in a boy is never an issue for me. I do however regurlarly  (50% of offs I estimate) encounter boys who indeed after the deed run immediately to the shower and want to go home. I prefer to lie down a bit after the deed to rest and to talk a bit before we go shower. But it doesn't bother me because I assume it is a job for 95% of money boys and they are not really attracted to older bodies. I am always full of understanding. I understand after the deed they want to go back to their friends.

 

Some linger a bit more. Unless I settled for long time I rarely have a short time boy stay with me long after the deed. Within 30 minutes they are out of the door in most cases. I thought that was normal. (Unless I settled for long time and take him afterwards to cinema, shopping, dinner, after which we have a second session.)