rand32 Posted November 8 Posted November 8 A few days ago I was discussing with a friend why it is much harder to find a hookup or date using online apps or sites than just 3-4 years ago. My idea is simple: I am getting older. No matter I good look, have some other preferences and so on. Friend told me to read post about online dating reset, In some moment it makes sense that hookup or date online game is changed in past years: sites and apps works worst than ever. You need to pay various credits and subscriptions, still with minimal chances to meet someone. Also, my impression is that most apps/sites have no goal to find person for you. I think they just want you to stay as much as they want so you can pay for subscriptions again and again. So we would close that discussion if he didn't asked me do I see same change in my real life? That was interesting because in real life, in my ages I have better results than ever. Probably it comes with confidence, probably it comes with expirience. I am confused, did hookup online and date omline culture is changed so chances for males are lower than ever? Or this is just my expiriece? If you have, Experiences, opinions, "theories" about this? Quote
vinapu Posted November 9 Posted November 9 1 hour ago, rand32 said: That was interesting because in real life, in my ages I have better results than ever. Probably it comes with confidence, probably it comes with experience. I can say the same and also notice plenty of good things coming my way, unfortunately Trump's tariffs spoil experience to a degree when comes to an income side, but that;s just nuisance, not a problem. Quote
rand32 Posted 16 hours ago Author Posted 16 hours ago @vinapu, thanks for sharing similar expirience and impressions on this topic. vinapu 1 Quote
jimmie50 Posted 11 hours ago Posted 11 hours ago My only experience using an app was the recent trip to Bangkok. I found Grinder to be useful for hook-ups. When I think of apps, I cannot imagine they are really good for serious dating or relationships. From my perspective, they are more about casual hook-ups. I had great success with online dating sites 15-20 years ago. That is how I met my ex and we were together for 10 years, but I have not checked out an online dating site recently to know how they compare or how successful you can be these days. As has been discussed in other posts here regarding communication, back to basics and face to face conversation is much better than talking via apps, text, etc. Enchanted_Elixir 1 Quote
PeterRS Posted 6 hours ago Posted 6 hours ago 5 hours ago, jimmie50 said: I had great success with online dating sites 15-20 years ago. When the apps arrived, I too had more than considerable success. Not here in Bangkok as the bar, sauna and spa scene did not require additional hook-ups. In my Asian travels, though, they were a godsend and I met many guys including a few whom I met regularly for a period of time. Some sites were better than others in certain countries. There was a site named fridae.com which allegedly had half a million members and covered virtually the whole of Asia for several years. Meeting guys in South East Asia was easy. Another, I believe gaydar.com, was great for meeting guys especially in Taipei and Tokyo. Jack'd, Hornet and Grindr gradually become more prominent, and then for those of us in Asia Blue'd was for a time great on my travels outside Thailand. But apart from fridae, I have never paid any membership fees. Then fridae changed hands. It still exists but checking just now, under Personals it claims 1,521 members on line of whom 55 are in Thailand. Click on Thailand and you find just 2 - one aged 63 and the other 75! Try Taiwan. 58 supposedly onlne but only 6 listed and an average age around 50. Don't waste your money on that crap! For at least ten years the site has been at death's door. I still get hits on other sites when out of Thailand and have met a few guys. But as @jimmie50 writes, I first prefer to meet guys face to face now. A sign of ageing no doubt. Quote
floridarob Posted 4 hours ago Posted 4 hours ago 7 hours ago, jimmie50 said: I cannot imagine they are really good for serious dating or relationships. I met my current bf of 8 years on Grindr, open relationship. He hesitated about open relationship, then I reminded him where we met and expecting almost ANY man gay/straight to be monogamous is like searching for a pot of gold, lol PeterRS 1 Quote
BjornAgain Posted 44 minutes ago Posted 44 minutes ago 3 hours ago, floridarob said: I met my current bf of 8 years on Grindr, open relationship. He hesitated about open relationship, then I reminded him where we met and expecting almost ANY man gay/straight to be monogamous is like searching for a pot of gold, lol "Chasing rainbows and leprechauns". No chance. Quote
