Hansen25 Posted Saturday at 01:38 PM Posted Saturday at 01:38 PM Okay this has been bugging me. Pretty much every guy at the shops and bars is listed as straight or top. Like… all of them. Is that actually true, or do they just write that? Because if you’re a top, it feels like there’s nobody left. Do a lot of these “tops” still bottom if you ask, or is that label usually real? Also, what about you guys — top, bottom, or vers? Not trying to start a debate. Just wondering what it’s like in real life vs what’s on the profile. Quote
Members zazzu Posted 14 hours ago Members Posted 14 hours ago Most of the "top only" guys are straight. I doubt any of them are willing to bottom. The only time I had a straight guy bottom for me in Bangkok was a guy who worked at one of the gogo bars - the mamasan promised he could do "anything". He did bottom for me but reluctantly, and it was distracting and a turn off. There are plenty of bottoms out there though. If they are listed as straight at the massage spots, I would not bother trying to get them to bottom. Even topping can be a struggle for them and usually involves them watching straight porn just to stay hard. I'm vers but only recently, like in the last 5 years or so. I was exclusively a top before that and I could find bottoms in Bangkok very easily. Hansen25 1 Quote
Hansen25 Posted 12 hours ago Author Posted 12 hours ago I actually think topping is harder for a straight guy than bottoming. You have to stay hard with someone you’re not attracted to, and keep it going. Bottoming doesn’t require that. That’s why I don’t really get the ones who insist on top only. Are they worried it would make them gay? Ha, I don’t think it works that way. Anyway, thanks again for the reply. Quote
Hansen25 Posted 11 hours ago Author Posted 11 hours ago 2 hours ago, zazzu said: Most of the "top only" guys are straight. I doubt any of them are willing to bottom. The only time I had a straight guy bottom for me in Bangkok was a guy who worked at one of the gogo bars - the mamasan promised he could do "anything". He did bottom for me but reluctantly, and it was distracting and a turn off. There are plenty of bottoms out there though. If they are listed as straight at the massage spots, I would not bother trying to get them to bottom. Even topping can be a struggle for them and usually involves them watching straight porn just to stay hard. I'm vers but only recently, like in the last 5 years or so. I was exclusively a top before that and I could find bottoms in Bangkok very easily. Thanks for the reply, that’s really useful. I’m top only, and honestly the idea of topping a guy who’s listed as a straight top is what does it for me. I know that sounds messy. What I’ve noticed at the shops is the labels feel a bit crude. If he only tops, he gets filed under straight. If he’s vers, he goes under gay. I might be overthinking it, but it kind of looks that way. I’ve never actually asked a straight-listed guy to bottom. I didn’t want to come off like an asshole client. That said, if extra money can be discussed, I wouldn’t mind trying — I don’t need him to be into it or put on a show. Just willing enough to go through with it, and not hostile about it. A blank face is fine. A bad mood would kill it for me. Anyway, appreciate you taking the time. Gives me a clearer idea of what not to waste time on Quote
spoon Posted 11 hours ago Posted 11 hours ago 57 minutes ago, Hansen25 said: I actually think topping is harder for a straight guy than bottoming. You have to stay hard with someone you’re not attracted to, and keep it going. Bottoming doesn’t require that. That’s why I don’t really get the ones who insist on top only. Are they worried it would make them gay? Ha, I don’t think it works that way. Anyway, thanks again for the reply. And yet we have gays thats strictly top. zazzu 1 Quote
kram987 Posted 10 hours ago Posted 10 hours ago This might be a time when using the Hamadan might be helpful. Let them know what you want and they might make the arrangements (for a tip) Quote
kram987 Posted 10 hours ago Posted 10 hours ago I remember years ago in a blog Bangkok bios I think him mentioning that at the time gay was slang for bottom , and straight slag for top even if only hooked up with men… Quote
Hansen25 Posted 9 hours ago Author Posted 9 hours ago 1 hour ago, kram987 said: This might be a time when using the Hamadan might be helpful. Let them know what you want and they might make the arrangements (for a tip) Thanks, that’s a really good shout. I’ll try that. Quote
Hansen25 Posted 9 hours ago Author Posted 9 hours ago 1 hour ago, kram987 said: I remember years ago in a blog Bangkok bios I think him mentioning that at the time gay was slang for bottom , and straight slag for top even if only hooked up with men… Thanks, that’s a really good shout. I’ll try that. Quote
bkkmfj2648 Posted 6 hours ago Posted 6 hours ago 4 hours ago, kram987 said: I remember years ago in a blog Bangkok bios I think him mentioning that at the time gay was slang for bottom , and straight slag for top even if only hooked up with men… Yes you are correct. I loved Rush and his exciting BLOG - his writing style was so addictive. Thank GOD for the former owner of the SawatdeeNetwork for agreeing to host the archives of Rush's bangkokbois wordpress blog. I believe the below update from 2011 discusses this straight boy being a bottom topic: https://bangkokbois.sawatdeenetwork.com/2011/04/19/getting-a-straight-boy-to-go-gay/ Quote
Members zazzu Posted 4 hours ago Members Posted 4 hours ago Some spas, like K Man, call out the fact that most of their tops are straight, but a few are gay but only top (they name them). Yes, it can be difficult for a straight guy to get hard enough to top a guy but they usually try to use straight porn to get themselves in the mood. This is why I usually ask if a guy is gay/bi or straight when hiring. However, that doesn't alway work in my favor if I'm looking for a top because some gay guys are mostly or completely bottoms but they advertise as vers. The guy I offed from the gogo bar who was straight but "could do everything" grimaced the entire time I fucked him. While I was able to fuck him, it was a turn off to some extent. I'm not into causing pain or roleplaying rape scenarios, etc. As you said yourself, you are "top only". Would you be able to bottom for guys just because it's your job? That said, I guess if you want to find a straight guy to fuck, maybe try the gogo bars and ask the mamasan who is straight but willing to bottom? Quote
khaolakguy Posted 3 hours ago Posted 3 hours ago 2 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said: Yes you are correct. I loved Rush and his exciting BLOG - his writing style was so addictive. Thank GOD for the former owner of the SawatdeeNetwork for agreeing to host the archives of Rush's bangkokbois wordpress blog. I believe the below update from 2011 discusses this straight boy being a bottom topic: https://bangkokbois.sawatdeenetwork.com/2011/04/19/getting-a-straight-boy-to-go-gay/ Thanks for linking this. I enjoyed reading and certainly a good turn of phrase! Quote They may not think they are gay, but finding a straight stud to slide further up the Kinsey scale is a lot easier than you’d think. bkkmfj2648 1 Quote
hank75 Posted 1 hour ago Posted 1 hour ago 4 hours ago, bkkmfj2648 said: Yes you are correct. I loved Rush and his exciting BLOG - his writing style was so addictive. Thank GOD for the former owner of the SawatdeeNetwork for agreeing to host the archives of Rush's bangkokbois wordpress blog. I believe the below update from 2011 discusses this straight boy being a bottom topic: https://bangkokbois.sawatdeenetwork.com/2011/04/19/getting-a-straight-boy-to-go-gay/ Thanks for posting this, I haven’t thought about this site for a long time. Whatever happened to to the original author, Rush and his partner Num I believe it was? Quote
bkkmfj2648 Posted 1 hour ago Posted 1 hour ago 21 minutes ago, hank75 said: Whatever happened to to the original author, Rush and his partner Num I believe it was? Unfortunately he passed away: This SawatdeeNetwork thread discusses some extra details but there still remain many unanswered questions about Rush: how did he pass away, what happened to his partner NOM. https://sawatdeenetwork.com/v4/showthread.php?21705-Dancing-with-the-Devil-in-the-City-of-Angels&highlight=bangkokbois+rush+died After Rush passed away I was very saddened and on one of my trips to Bangkok I specifically went to HotMale to try to learn about where NOM was. Unfortunately, nobody at HotMale was able to help me identify this NOM character who supposedly worked at HotMale - the love of his (Rush's) life. That made me even more depressed - as it made me think that perhaps NOM the character in Rush's blog was just a virtual character? @hank75 and @kram987 What do you say? Quote
