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I delight in male beauty and have at least tens of thousands of men in various stages of disrobement. While there are probably a dozen or so whose pictures I often go back to if I'm not feeling too horny, I've never felt any one is so unique that I'd be willing to pay large sums of money for racy photos. I contributed some photos of Alex Espenshade, for example, to the photo gallery. Yes, he is probably the world's most handsome redhead. For your and my collection, I found some nudes of him on LPSG, and noticed from chatter on that website that he was charging $100 for 5 nudes, and $1000 for a short sensual video. Obviously there are those willing to pay that, and on LPSG strings I often find people who seem to lose all reason with men they obsess over. I have almost never paid for photos of anyone, since I figure there are tons of handsome men who are willing to show their goods for free. I have occasionally briefly done a $5/mo OnlyFans, but even that's rare. In my mind, there are so many proud, gorgeous men who flaunt their bodies, the supply is nearly endless. No man is uniquely handsome to me (though true 10's are few and far between). If someone wants me to pay serious dough to see his body, I just move on. How about you? Has any man so captivated you, that you're willing to spend major cash just to see his photos or videos?

I agree...

Guilty! 😄

Well, I find it difficult to believe that nothing matters to you when it comes to looks, and that it's all about personality. I can't say that I'm 100% turned off by redheads, but I can only think of one redhead who's a real turn-on for me: Alex Espenshade. He and my husband used to be acquaintances, but they haven't met since we've been together. Other than his hair, the rest of him is so hot that I can overlook his hair color. I've never bumped into him walking my dog, but this photo is taken from where I walk my dog almost every day (unless it's raining or over 26C).

I'm definitely with you on that. I once hired an escort (who, as it turned out, also worked as a hair stylist) whose Rentmen ad showed mostly photos of him with black hair, but some with green hair. I asked him which hair color he had at the present, since that would determine my decision on whether or not to hire him. He said it was currently green, but he'd turn it back to black. He ended up being a good lay.

Incidentally, I looked him up online, and apparently he has not identified with any specific sexual orientation.

My husband and I were watching Saturday Night Live yesterday, and I wondered openly if Ben Marshall might be attractive if he had dark hair. Other than marked obesity, red hair is probably the biggest turn-off in a man for me. I played around with Photoshop to try to darken the hair to see what he'd look like with darker hair. It seemed to be a a marked improvement. What are your big turn-offs? Before: After:

In past years, I've sent money to political campaigns, but I've been getting more political spam texts. I click on "Block and Report Spam" time and time again, but the spam keeps coming. Although I feel strongly about the coming election, I haven't given any money, as I'm afraid it will encourage even more spam. Even if I don't leave my phone number, the Democrats clearly know my phone number, and I'm afraid of receiving more spam than I'm already getting. How about you? Have any of you stopped political donations for fear of getting more spam? I've never once donated money in response to texts, so I'm at a bit of a loss to understand why campaigns feel it's smart to spam me, when all I do is click "Block and Report Spam"...

Just so that I understand you correctly: are you saying that you like the person but would be embarrassed by what others think of you if you were together?

Well, I understand your perspective, since, by your account, a non-masculine man would be physically unattractive to you, no matter how hot a body and face he may have. What I'm having more trouble understanding is those who find non-masculine men physically attractive, but who wouldn't want to be involved with them long-term. What are the feelings/thoughts in those cases? That's what leaves me puzzled.

Your language sounds similar to another member's--maybe you're related or know each other? 😉 Well, in any case, Lulu seemed to embrace his feminine side, which some other members here seem to reject. I hope that wasn't involved in his decision. I know from RuPaul's Drag Race that having a feminine demeanor can be emotionally taxing, as many on that show have confessed to severe depression and/or suicidal thoughts. Some drag queens definitely look better in drag than out. However, some look pretty hot to me when out of drag. One of my favorites is Ella Vaday/Nick Collier. I definitely wouldn't have minded him as an intimate partner (nor does his husband, obviously). I guess some members would say thumbs-down to this?

That reminds me of earlier this month when hubbie and I went to a standup comedy routine by Hal Sparks. He played a not-so-masculine Michael on Queer as Folk. I'd always assumed he identified as gay. Imagine my surprise when I found out he was married to a woman. I guess those were the days in which no gay man was considered talented enough to play a gay man. My husband actually wanted to talk to him after the show to tell him that he helped my husband come out. However, he took off quickly after his routine. No interacting with fans, even in a small comedy venue.

Well, what do you think when it comes to voice and mannerisms?

Thank you for your honest response. I'm particularly interested in your feelings, since you said you could enjoy the sex, but not being with the person over time. I can think of certain characteristics a man might have, which would lead me to be willing to have sex with him, but not being in a relationship with him--however, these would all be behavioral and likely to harm me. For example, I'd never want to be in a relationship with a liar, an abuser, a substance user, and so on. I suppose it would also be quite challenging for me to be in a relationship with someone whose values are very different from mine (for example, a highly religious person or a Republican). However, those reasons would involve something which would cause continuing friction in the relationship (arguments, conflicts, etc.). Thus, I hope someone can help me understand why a non-masculine voice would be a barrier to a long-term relationship. Is it that you'd somehow feel ashamed to be partnered to someone with such a voice? Would this be a source of conflict in the relationship? Are you fearful of comments from family or friends? I would admit that I prefer a masculine voice. However, of all the characteristics a person may have, it's one I would consider quite minor. People sometimes say to myself or to my partner that I'm lucky to have him (despite his non-masculine voice). I always agree heartily, adding "Yes, we're so lucky to have each other!" ❤️

Of course, one of the most handsome men I've ever met, Hunter Gallagher, is also one of the most masculine (professional fighter). But I admire him for his beauty and talent, not his voice.... https://www.queerty.com/hunter-gallagher-on-his-hot-girl-attitude-taking-a-bump-in-the-ring-being-wrestlings-most-popular-sugar-baby-20250403/

Another man who turns me on, but doesn't sound like Mr. Macho is DJ Joey W. Suarez. https://www.facebook.com/JoeyWSuarez/

Cory Tyndall is another man I think is hot, although his voice isn't the most masculine...

I was in a social setting, and one of the people in the conversation stated that a "gay voice" or non-masculine manner of speaking was a big turn-off for him. I told him that one of the most handsome men I can think of, Jason Caceres, is often accused of having a very gay voice, but that I didn't care one iota about his voice. When I showed him his photo, he admitted that he'd "pay him to drink his used bathwater." Were I not happily married, I'd be overwhelmed with happiness at being able to get physical with him just once, and would feel I'm the luckiest person on the planet if he were to be my husband. Of course, I'm close enough to the luckiest person on earth to have the husband I have. 😃 But I'm amazed that the way a person talks could be such a turn-off for someone. Would it matter to you? Would you just feel awkward having a spouse/domestic partner with such a voice? Or would you even decline sex with someone because of his voice? My husband's voice isn't exactly macho either, but I could hardly feel more proud of him. Is a man's voice a big factor in your attraction to him? Would you feel this is a reflection on you? Would you actually decline sex? Or just refuse to have him as your boyfriend?

To qualify my (usually) immediate response above, the response may not be so immediate in Alabama, Arkansas, Alaska, and South Carolina.

In the US, one can get an immediate response (usually) by simply dialing 988. The crisis doesn't have to be immediate. Only in rare cases do they have to send someone to help, although they will if necessary.

I haven't been able to verify the exact method of suicide, but since he did it in a fairly small room, and there was no mess, it follows that it was probably substance-related. His room-mates were present in another part of the property, and checking in on him fairly frequently. It could have been an OD with recreational drugs. If he was an insulin-dependent diabetic (and I never heard that he was), I suppose that an insulin OD could also result in a fairly rapid death as well. As far as I know, the coroner hasn't yet announced the cause in the death certificate.

I would put "family values" in quotation marks.

Lady Gaga just had her first baby. I have it on good information that the pregnancy was a surrogate one. I looked it up on the internet, and apparently it's not common knowledge. I can't figure out the reason for the secrecy on this matter...

Among apes, there is a monkey?