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That reminds me of earlier this month when hubbie and I went to a standup comedy routine by Hal Sparks. He played a not-so-masculine Michael on Queer as Folk. I'd always assumed he identified as gay. Imagine my surprise when I found out he was married to a woman. I guess those were the days in which no gay man was considered talented enough to play a gay man. My husband actually wanted to talk to him after the show to tell him that he helped my husband come out. However, he took off quickly after his routine. No interacting with fans, even in a small comedy venue.

Well, what do you think when it comes to voice and mannerisms?

Thank you for your honest response. I'm particularly interested in your feelings, since you said you could enjoy the sex, but not being with the person over time. I can think of certain characteristics a man might have, which would lead me to be willing to have sex with him, but not being in a relationship with him--however, these would all be behavioral and likely to harm me. For example, I'd never want to be in a relationship with a liar, an abuser, a substance user, and so on. I suppose it would also be quite challenging for me to be in a relationship with someone whose values are very different from mine (for example, a highly religious person or a Republican). However, those reasons would involve something which would cause continuing friction in the relationship (arguments, conflicts, etc.). Thus, I hope someone can help me understand why a non-masculine voice would be a barrier to a long-term relationship. Is it that you'd somehow feel ashamed to be partnered to someone with such a voice? Would this be a source of conflict in the relationship? Are you fearful of comments from family or friends? I would admit that I prefer a masculine voice. However, of all the characteristics a person may have, it's one I would consider quite minor. People sometimes say to myself or to my partner that I'm lucky to have him (despite his non-masculine voice). I always agree heartily, adding "Yes, we're so lucky to have each other!" ❤️

Of course, one of the most handsome men I've ever met, Hunter Gallagher, is also one of the most masculine (professional fighter). But I admire him for his beauty and talent, not his voice.... https://www.queerty.com/hunter-gallagher-on-his-hot-girl-attitude-taking-a-bump-in-the-ring-being-wrestlings-most-popular-sugar-baby-20250403/

Another man who turns me on, but doesn't sound like Mr. Macho is DJ Joey W. Suarez. https://www.facebook.com/JoeyWSuarez/

Cory Tyndall is another man I think is hot, although his voice isn't the most masculine...

I was in a social setting, and one of the people in the conversation stated that a "gay voice" or non-masculine manner of speaking was a big turn-off for him. I told him that one of the most handsome men I can think of, Jason Caceres, is often accused of having a very gay voice, but that I didn't care one iota about his voice. When I showed him his photo, he admitted that he'd "pay him to drink his used bathwater." Were I not happily married, I'd be overwhelmed with happiness at being able to get physical with him just once, and would feel I'm the luckiest person on the planet if he were to be my husband. Of course, I'm close enough to the luckiest person on earth to have the husband I have. 😃 But I'm amazed that the way a person talks could be such a turn-off for someone. Would it matter to you? Would you just feel awkward having a spouse/domestic partner with such a voice? Or would you even decline sex with someone because of his voice? My husband's voice isn't exactly macho either, but I could hardly feel more proud of him. Is a man's voice a big factor in your attraction to him? Would you feel this is a reflection on you? Would you actually decline sex? Or just refuse to have him as your boyfriend?

To qualify my (usually) immediate response above, the response may not be so immediate in Alabama, Arkansas, Alaska, and South Carolina.

In the US, one can get an immediate response (usually) by simply dialing 988. The crisis doesn't have to be immediate. Only in rare cases do they have to send someone to help, although they will if necessary.

I haven't been able to verify the exact method of suicide, but since he did it in a fairly small room, and there was no mess, it follows that it was probably substance-related. His room-mates were present in another part of the property, and checking in on him fairly frequently. It could have been an OD with recreational drugs. If he was an insulin-dependent diabetic (and I never heard that he was), I suppose that an insulin OD could also result in a fairly rapid death as well. As far as I know, the coroner hasn't yet announced the cause in the death certificate.

I would put "family values" in quotation marks.

Lady Gaga just had her first baby. I have it on good information that the pregnancy was a surrogate one. I looked it up on the internet, and apparently it's not common knowledge. I can't figure out the reason for the secrecy on this matter...

Among apes, there is a monkey?

That, and making it far more difficult to download photos from my computer. I now have to post an entry, then edit the post in order to be given the option to download a file.

I saw a blurb on the local news about a former hospital in the area being turned into a temporary museum, called "The Hospital of Emotions." The rooms in the former hospital were turned into expressive works of art, and one tours the hospital to visit these repurposed rooms. I went into the website, and was shocked to find out they were charging $58 per person to visit this exhibit--PLUS $20 a car for parking! In other words, $138 for my hubbie and myself to visit. You buy a 10-minute entry window in advance. I'm scratching my head to think back if I've ever paid such a sum to visit a museum. I can't recall that I have. I looked up what it costs to get an all-access pass to the castle in Versailles: You can buy official tickets on the Château de Versailles Ticketing Portal. Passport Ticket (Full Estate Access)High Season (April 1 – October 31): €35 standard price, €32 reduced price for EU/EEA residents. Includes the Palace, Trianon Estate, Queen's Hamlet, and Gardens (including fountain/musical shows). Low Season (November 1 – March 31): €25 standard price, €22 reduced price. Gardens are free during this period. So 35 Euros for an all-access pass during high season, or about $40. And this place ain't the Château de Versailles. What's the most you've ever paid for a museum entry fee? Not that we exactly can't afford it, but I can think of better ways to spend $138.

It was a little triggering for me to attend a performance of Water for Elephants in Hollywood last night. The show is a combination musical/circus show, and the circus part of it reminded me of him. There were some hunky performers, including Adam Fullick: https://www.instagram.com/adam.fullick/ And Kayden Woodridge:

It looks as though his fame made it to People magazine! They list his age as 31 and real name as Lucas Drake. In my cell phone, he gave me the name Lulu Drake. I was unaware of the Hunter name. I'll try to find out more, but discreetly and in time... https://people.com/adult-film-star-lulu-lovebottom-dead-12112712?campaign=19780831&did=25952458-20260909&hid=089247988732f9a900151e1f8c73f2c531df3c3a&lctg=089247988732f9a900151e1f8c73f2c531df3c3a&lr_input=3911d0b923e8d92c50f8b74007080afa59d66697825b8a1e414be8db883b8062 "Adult film star LuLu LoveBottom, whose real name is Lucas Drake, died on Sept. 7. He was 31. A spokesperson for the Los Angeles Police Department told PEOPLE that dispatchers received a call at 11:22 a.m. on Sept. 7, and officers “responded for a death investigation” and “completed a death report.” The case was not registered as suspicious, the spokesperson added. The Los Angeles County Medical Examiner confirmed to PEOPLE that Drake’s death was associated with the case. An official cause and manner have not been released. The content creator, who used the name Hunter Hardin online, maintained a following of over 30,000 across his X and Instagram accounts, where he promoted his profile on OnlyFans, a subscription-based platform known for adult content."

Unfortunately, people with dementia rarely understand their cognitive decline. This fact seems to be part of the syndrome. It makes caring for those with dementia particularly challenging. My own mother felt her family, family physician, neurologist, and others were in a "conspiracy" to diagnose her with dementia. Despite obvious, persistent problems with her cognition, including leaving the natural gas on in the house, with the house filled with flammable gas, calling the police to report her car stolen because she couldn't remember where she parked it, and so on, she never accepted her diagnosis, and refused assisted living until the last moments. And, of course, we all know about President Sundowner, who rants all night and sleeps all day. At least the Dementia Don has guaranteed assisted living, paid for by American taxpayers.

Although not a close friend, I was acquainted with Hunter Hardin/Lulu Lovebottom, and found out yesterday that he committed suicide after he apparently timed his announcement of giving up on life to pop up after it was too late, on Instagram. He was a talented burlesque dancer, and performed at one of my parties. I knew him mainly as the friend of some mutual friends. We would talk briefly at parties, but I never got to know him well. His post simply stated "Been hurt for the last time by someone I shared my heart with 💔". I could only wish to have a fraction of his talent, which I admired. Although we weren't close, I had nightmares about his death last night. How many of us wished we could have just talked to him before. I didn't even know until I read the article in OUT magazine this morning that he also did OnlyFans. I admired him as a talented performer/dancer, who seemed to have everything going for him. Would a hug have made the difference? I guess one just never knows what someone else may be going through. 😢 https://www.instagram.com/lululovebttm/ Out MagazineGay adult star Hunter Hardin dies at age 30Friends and family are mourning the loss of the OnlyFans creator and burlesque star.

I did find a work-around. The option to attach a photo comes up if, and only if, I edit a post I already made. So I just have to post one word, then when I edit the post, the option to attach a photo comes up again. Weird, but that's the way it is, at least for now.

I'm another who was a young adult during the 80s. Although the virus wasn't identified until 1983, nor confirmed as the cause until 1984, I had assumed from the onset that the disease was likely sexually transmitted and insisted on condom use since the syndrome was described in 1981. Some of my late friends who said "It's just poppers," or the like, and who didn't use condoms succumbed to the disease. Of course, another factor, in addition to my insistent condom use, which saved me from HIV was the fact that I almost never bottom (but I insisted on condoms as a top as well). One of the biggest demons in the AIDS story was UC Berkeley molecular biology professor Peter Duesberg, who kept stating that HIV was harmless, and that AIDS was, in fact, caused by antiretroviral meds and other drugs. Of course, he never volunteered to prove that he believed what he was saying by letting himself get injected with HIV, and I find it doubtful he believed his own statements. He did convince a number of people to be careless, however, and was undeniably responsible for many deaths. Among those deaths were in Africa, where he convinced governments to forbid giving pregnant women antiretroviral medications, for example. Duesberg is one of the most despicable characters in the epidemic. He was never even disciplined by UC Berkeley, much less found legally responsible for his lies, either in civil or criminal court. That little piece of shit died just earlier this year at the ripe age of 89, never punished in any way for all of the deaths for which he was responsible. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Duesberg

That happened to me once, and the passenger tried to raise the armrests, but the flight attendant scolded the hefty passenger and put the armrests back down. More discomfort for him, but the blubber was kept mostly to his side of the seat, reducing the neighbors' discomfort.

No, that's just a direct link to the photo--until the link disappears. I can also get links to hosting sites, though that adds another step.

Well, whenever my luggage tips over 50# or 23 kg, they attach a red sticker, presumably indicating that it will require two staff members to lift, which is explains the higher fee (though those fees, I agree, are exaggerated and should be regulated). What should be required is extra wide seats on airplanes for hefty passengers. These rows would have 2 seats across in the place of 3, and would cost 150% of the regular fare. Passengers should be required to attest that they can fit into regular seats, or choose the wide seats for the extra fee. If the boarding agent finds a passenger mis-represented his girth, the passenger should be moved to the "hefty row" with a fine in addition to the extra fare (if available, or simply moved to the next flight with available hefty seats). Or, they can just buy first-class tickets. These people know who they are. They almost always pick middle seats, and love spilling over into the seats of hapless fellow passengers on the windows and aisles.