Marc in Calif

I hope you're not trying to say that they are NOT 'well-educated' based on your discussions with them. It's very likely that they could have answered your questions. They just didn't want to discuss political questions with you, a foreigner whom they'd never met before. They also didn't want to answer your political questions in front of three other guys from Myanmar at the same table. Would you (a white man) have asked a Thai guy what he truly thinks of the king, the government and the security forces -- in front of other Thai guys? There's your answer. ☺️

Please don't forget the gorgeous young Malay, Pakistani, Indian and Eurasian guys on the planet -- all together in this tiny city-state. ☺️

And which one is the best size for you? 😘

There's plenty of massage and sex available in Singapore. But staying there can be very expensive compared to countries such as Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia and Laos. This is why sex tourists don't spend time there

This makes you sound like a boring person who has no hobbies or interests whatsoever. You know only one thing: work. But we already knew that. You mention it incessantly! 😊

An exaggeration with some truth. Spies did suggest that the male "cak" chorus for the traditional sanghyang (trance ceremony) be enlarged and used to accompany a scene from the Ramayana epic, in which the chorus was used to portray monkeys (indeed, the first time they portrayed any characters at all). He suggested that the cak chorus be seated in concentric circles around the center -- which was where the story was danced and told. And he promoted the resulting new genre, kecak, to foreign visitors and local officials. The vocal style of the cak chorus remained as it was in the trance ceremonies. He had nothing to do with the choreography, however. That was I Wy Limbak (and the villagers in Bedulu). And the only "wild" thing about it is how certain producers have decided to light and stage it. ☺️

I first visited in 1971 and stayed in the same place! I returned in 1973 to stay for several years in a few villages around the island. It's been painful to trace the destruction of land and traditional customs to do over-tourism and over-development. Even the widespread available of electricity, indoor plumbing and telephone communication didn't do much to traditional culture and land use. At first, it was the Aussies who used Bali as their backyard Ft. Lauderdale all year long. The destruction started in the beach villages of the south and spread north, east and west from there.

Great photo! The masseurs are men rather than little boys. 🙃

For the same reason that u oftn wrt lik ths? 😘

It's very likely not open during the daytime. But I'm quite sure that it's open after Iftar (the breaking of the fast at about 7:30 pm) each day. Malaysians spend their nights celebrating, eating, and frolicking during the fasting month. And sex is not prohibited after dark. Have fun!

He hasn't posted on that IG account in nearly two years. is is still a valid way to contact him?

Well, there's no way that Losari (which is the most popular and central Makassar beach) is clean and pristine with clear water. It's more like a municipal pier with lots of food and concessions, but nobody swims there. It's a domestic tourism site that's mostly about restaurants, concessions, and other tourist attractions. There's no sand -- just rocks and pavement. The AI description is pretty misleading! However, Pantai Biru and Pantai Tanjung Bayang are indeed much closer to the types of beach that you're seeking. There are many others like them, plus the small islands I mentioned.

Your experience in Mactan Newton township made me think of that partcular complex in Makassar. I think you enjoy modern-ish neighborhoods and enclaves that can give you the amenities you like. On the whole, I think Makassar as a city is more pleasant than Cebu City. However, you own't find the beaches to be the same as in Jomtien. Most of them are public, although a few small areas of sand and beach belong to hotels. It's a city, so the sand won't be pristine and white. Neither is the water (for the most part) clear and blue. It's a port city, so the water is too deep for casual swimming and wading. Typically, you can't walk on sand for kilometers at a stretch. So this will probably be a deal-breaker for you if you need to do your beach walking every day. Not too far from Makassar are indeed nice beaches with clear water. There are also islands where you can explore.

I generally have no problems with streets, sidewalks, pathways, hills, or crowding. Streets in Jakarta are just like streets in hundreds of other Southeast Asian destinations. Don't you complain about walking around certain places? What's your problem? Poor you, Old!

If your goal is to find an apartment or condo with expansive sea views located in a walkable area that is close to some type of gay life, your options in Indonesia are severely limited outside Bali. Very few urban centers have high-rise rentals with expansive sea views and a decent gay life. (Even Bali has no high-rise buildings of the type you enjoy in Jomtien.) In Jakarta there are some, but your transportation options from the northern edges of Jakarta will be terrible. And there won't be much to walk to except golf courses. Moreover, the land beneath your building would very likely experience flooding. Surabaya also doesn't offer you what you're looking for. Its coastal condo complexes are in the far east of the city -- in the mangrove swamps! So your choice is basically a low-rise building in Bali, of which there are many. Walkability and neighborhood-like feelings might be limited. But apps will give you the companionship that you enjoy. Where would I choose? I've been going to Indonesia for move than 50 years, living there for several. My pick for an urban center with a few high-rise complexes that have ocean views would be Makassar, the largest city on Sulawesi island (and in all of eastern Indonesia). It's a lovely "smaller" city (pop. 1.5 million), walkable, with malls and other attractions. It's also close to plenty of day-trip sites. Most of the guys are circumcised (Muslim), and the demographics include immigrants from other islands as well as the hinterlands of Sulawesi, which is itself a huge, amazing island.