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I have been with the boyfriend for 5 years. I adore him and think he is the most amazing person to step into my life in decades (or at least 5 years and in the LOS). We get along well but have little in common (other than we both he is adorable). I love going to bars and hanging out. He loves playing video games and riding fast motorcycles. I am a computer geek and like taking things slow while he always feels the need for speed. I wanted us to do more things together that were special and I envisioned this trip with him on a bicycle for 2 weeks. I asked him about him many months ago and he said he wasn’t interested. We talked about it for a while and he wasn’t sure he would be able to do it. It finally came down to he just said that he didn’t want to do a bicycle trip that maintains about 90 or so kilometers per day. I understood that and finally gave up. Then, sitting in America missing his smile and his devilish demeanor, I knew I just have to have him with me when I did this bicycle trip. I sent him a text message and said, “Please go on bicycle trip with me.” He responded, “OK.” I was ecstatic. I thought I had won the lottery. I was almost jumping up and down for joy. Then my sister said to me, “You are fucking nuts. He didn’t want to do the trip and you are going to have the most miserable 2 weeks of your life.” I dismissed this and decided that the trip would be good for him and he would be able to tough this out for 2 weeks. I then started my victory dance again. A few weeks later I was in San Francisco and was doing the Annual Aids Lifecycle Bicycle Ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles for the 3rd year. The event rasised money for the SF Aids Crisis Center and the LA Gay and Lesbian Community Center. Since the state of California is having a terrible time this year financially, the cut backs to services provided by these organizations have been drastically cut. I had raised the 3k dollars needed for the event thanks to friends and family and I spent 2 months in Los Angeles preparing for the ride. On day 1 of the ride, we had a consistent uphill that seemed to last forever. I think the upward sloop went for about 50 or more miles. At least that is what my body was telling me. As I made it up the last incline of the day I thought back a great deal to the boyfriend and how much of a struggle he would have on a trip like this. I was absolutely miserable and thoughts of vanishing into an airport and flying to an exotic location were in my mind. The only thing that stopped me from checking into some hotel for a week and getting a daily massage was the fact that so many friends had donated money to make this event possible for me. It was on this first day that I knew I could not ask the boyfriend to do a bicycle ride with me and how totally unfair it was to ask him to attempt something like this. I called my sister and told her she was right. As usual, she said she knew that, as she was always right. So for the next 7 days I keep trekking on my bike and I kept cursing. As always, when the event was over, I was thrilled I did it. But the 7 days and 550 miles that it took really did take a toll on my body and my mind. That was less than 2 weeks ago. Now, I am in LOS and the boyfriend said he would do the ride with me. The ride starts this weekend. It is a charity event that benefits the Thailand Blind Institute, which is a great organization. I told him I wanted it to be “up to him” and he should not go for me. He has thought about this for the week I have been here already and decided he wants to do the ride. I don’t want him to hate me or to have a miserable experience. He is a street fighter and I am sure he would be fine in a 4-minute brawl. But I am not sure if I am setting him up for defeat. I have told him how hard the journey would be and how I would love to have him with me but I also made clear that he should not go in order to make me happy. I try to sound convincing when I say this. He still says he wants to go and give it a try. He is not prepared for this physically. He smokes a pack of cigarettes a day. I don’t want him to hate the adventure or me. What should I do? Should I try to talk him out of going? Should I let him attempt this? If there are days he can’t make the full ride there are support vehicles that will take him but he will be on a journey with a group of farangs and none of his friends. This really is a dilemma for me as I adore him and only want great things for him but I am not sure if I have made a mistake in not telling him just to stay home and I’ll be back in 2 weeks. Any advice?

I am headed over to the Boyztown area this weekend and will try to do a few reviews. Any places of interest to anyone? Any bars I don't want to miss? Should avoid?

While not gay or related to Thailand, I did find this article about Ray Bradbuy very interesting. Having read his books when I was young, I have always been a great admirer. I love his tip on the success of life and it works well for everyone. “I tell them do what you love and love what you do. That’s the story on my life.” Read the full article here: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/06/20/us/20ven...rss&emc=rss

(CNN) -- Myanmar pro-democracy figure Aung San Suu Kyi turned 64 in prison Friday, while a judge considers when to hear her appeal to allow more witnesses at her subversion trial. Suu Kyi, under house arrest for 13 of the past 19 years, had been expected to be freed by the military junta last month, until the new subversion charge was filed. Thousands of supporters left birthday messages of 64 words or less for the Nobel Peace Prize laureate on a Web site created for the occasion. This message, posted late Thursday, was signed by a woman in the United Kingdom: "This message isn't going to be remarkable. 64 words are not enough for this injustice, not that 64 million would be; but I hope you find them heartening. I am just one of many wishing the world fairer, and you are one of so few self-sacrificing for just that outcome. You are an inspiration, a fighting soul and an aspiration; a hero. Stay strong." Another supporter in Norway wrote: "People around the world have followed your fight for freedom and democracy for the people of Burma. God bless you!" Suu Kyi is accused of violating her house arrest by offering temporary shelter to American John William Yettaw, who swam to her lakeside home on May 3. She said she doesn't know Yettaw, didn't know of his plans and didn't do anything wrong. The trial is taking place near Yangon at Insean Prison, where Suu Kyi has been held since last month. For entire article go to: http://edition.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/asiapcf/...ref=mpstoryview

The BF always wants to go to Blu Bowling at Major Cinemas in the Avenue. I think he likes the colors and the music. When I was in Central the other day, we saw a bowling area. I did not have time to look inside. Anyone been there? Prices similar to Blu? Is it as packed as Blu often is?

If you have never read TOQ's blog, it is a must visit. It is: http://toqs.wordpress.com/ Anymore Blogs that we need to keep an eye on?

I have spent time in LOS quite a bit and have many friends who have a "boyfriend" here that is going on longer than 10 years. That is a good length of time and I am always impressed when I hear someone that stays together that long. I have been with Current BF for 5 years and don't think it will end anytime soon. But, you never know. I work hard to make it work and I am sure he works even harder. Most of my "flings" here last a few months to a year but not any longer than the current guy.

WASHINGTON (CNN) -- President Obama will sign a memorandum Wednesday granting health care and other benefits to the same-sex partners of federal employees, two senior administration officials said. The signing will take place in the Oval Office and follows sharp criticism of the president over a Justice Department motion filed last week in support of the Defense of Marriage Act -- which opposes same-sex marriage -- that used the government's interest in opposing incestuous marriages to support its position against same-sex marriage. Gay and lesbian advocates have also faulted the Obama administration for not moving to repeal the military's "don't ask, don't tell" policy that bars officials from asking about a service member's sexual orientation but also bars the service member from revealing it. The president rankled gay advocates before his inauguration when he named megachurch pastor the Rev. Rick Warren to deliver the invocation at his swearing-in. Warren, in an interview with Belief.net, likened homosexuality to bestiality and incest. He also supported California's Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage in that state. During the Warren controversy, Obama -- who frequently spoke in favor of gay and lesbian rights during the campaign but has said he opposes same-sex marriage -- declared himself "a fierce advocate for gay and lesbian Americans." http://edition.cnn.com/2009/POLITICS/06/16...fits/index.html

I went to Krazy Dragon the other night for a while. They had many dancers on the tables that were moving around. Since there were few customers when I was there, I had the attention of quite a few boys. I found one boy in the place I thought was really cute and bought him a drink. 99 baht for a drink is a very reasonable price. I didn't see a charge higher than that for his drink as compared to mine. Krazy has a very laid back atmosphere. The music was no so loud and I was able to have a conversation with the guy I was talking to. The mixture of boys was everything from older guys to a few twinks. All seemed to be over 18. Most were showing off their goods beneath the shorts. Some were very impressive. I always get asked more from the boys in this bar to buy then a drink than in any other bar. I wonder why this is and my thought is that they are so close to the customers and able to bend over and chat with them. Or, do they get a percentage of the drinks? I always bring in 20 baht bills to tip the boys here and do that until I have no 20's left. I already had a "date" for later in the night so I didn't off a guy from here. I did enjoy my time at the bar and wish the continued success in Sunee as they seem to be one of the consistent strongholds in the area.

I had heard many complain on this trip about new immigration polices and the new laws related to home ownership and the way the Thai government changes it laws and does not grandfather in those that were abiding by the laws when they bought but now are in a state of limbo. I have also heard about those that are actively looking at Cambodia and Laos for their new place to travel and live. Are the laws in these places as stable (even though I don't think Thailand is all that stable). Are home ownership rules different? Is the gay scene there as open? Are people really considering a move to one of these places or is it just frustration? For me, the new 150 baht per ATM transaction is the one thing that really bothers me. It is a little thing but I give all my BF's an ATM when I leave that is US based and for them to take small amounts out is now not possible. The fee here is higher than anywhere I travel. The ability to buy a place here is harder than anywhere I know. It seems that the government keeps making things harder and not easier and I just don't get it.

A friend from Canada asked me to look at this place today for him. I did that and I thought it was nice. The rooms were spacious and clean. If you are staying for a short stay, they clean the rooms daily. The pool seems a bit small but it was nice. Apparently, some of the rooms are condo and owned by others and some are rented. All in all I thought the place was the nicest Serviced Apartments I have seen in Pattaya. They are much larger than the Mosaik. They are also more expensive. Has anyone had any experience in bringing back boys to this place? Any issues? What about management? Easy to deal with? Professional?

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Definition: 1. rice queen A homosexual male of non-Asian descent who is predominantly attracted to Asian males. Contrary to derisive stereotype, rice queens may fall within a wide age range, as may the objects of their physical and romantic attraction. The professed rice queen does not necessarily project a racist ideal of the submissive Asian onto his desired partner, though cases of this kind of projection do exist. Moreover, relationships between rice queens and potato queens in which the Asian partner enacts the sexual bottom role are not inevitably plagued by an unequal or exploitative power dynamic. Nor does rice queen status necessarily signal an Orientalist fetish; in many cases, the rice queen will simply tend to be attracted to certain physical features genetically common among males of Asian descent. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=rice+queen I was recently in USA and met a few Thai guys who I hooked up with and one of their friends called me a "Rice Queen". I really never thought of myself that way as I have special friends in Brazil and Europe and never really discriminate against anyone. I have had fewer white boyfriends over the years than Asian, Latin or Black but I do love guys of color. I wonder how many here are exclusive to Asian guys?

I have seen more of these on this trip than before. The girls are especially noticeable. I sat with a few the other day and chatted with them. They were nice girls but obviously here for work and they said mostly Middle Eastern Men. I also met one guy who was about 24 from the same area who is here to work. Having seen the Russian girls for years, I guess I should not be surprised that others are coming to Pattaya. I just wonder what kind of a market there is here for this? They don't seem to work in the bars. Do where do they get their clients? Baht busses? Streets? I know the Russian girls charge more here. I wonder if same is true for others who come here?

I had the chance to check out this new bar in Sunee Plaza tonight. I was very impressed in many ways. First the staff was friendly and accommodating. The drinks were average price for the area. The decorations were upbeat and classy. There was plenty of light to see the boys. The boys were a nice mix of gay boys, ladyboys and manly boys. I didn't see anyone obviously underage in the place. Of all the bars I have been in Sunee this trip, this place had the most boys on stage. I counted over 25 at one point. The bathroom was clean and smelled nice. There was no cigarette smoking when I was there. I didn't ask about the off fee but I will go back to the bar. Fir my first visit, I was impressed by the entire place. If you get to the area, stop by and support this new venue!

I will be curious to see the specifics of this. Naturally, I love the Clinton plan but that was shot down and caused turmoil. How will Obama change this debate? How will he insure the success of the plan we know he wants without sacrificing himself?

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I saw several new projects that I had not seen before that were built and now ready for occupancy in Pattaya. I am curious as to what the market is like in Pattaya. It seems like a bad market to buy anything in most places in the world. Is the same not true for Pattaya? I went to the Avenue for bowling and saw the place directly behind the Avenue that had a sign saying starting at 2 million baht. That is for a small studio. That seems high even for Pattaya. What is going rate for meter here? Are things on the market for long periods? Has construction continued on the major projects or are things slowing down?

I made my way into Sunee Plaza last night for a bit before I went to some clubs and discos. The streets were not as packed as I thought they would be. The stages were more bare than I expected. I did not get time to go into all the bars but I did get into 3. All 3 were fairly quite and even though they had boys on stage, there were not as many as I have seen. Most of the boys said that times were hard and few customers. The farangs I spoke to said that the boys seemed to be hurting with the economy. Several boys I have been friends with for a while were not around and I was told they went home to their family. It seems that when times are hard, the family is always there to help. That is the case for some but not all. Villa Rouge had more guys that the other 2 bars I went to. They have a nice staff and tons of waiters and servers. I guess I'll see over the coming weeks how things change and I hope for the better for all the bars and I hope more customers come into the area. I'll try to get to Boyztown in the next few days so I have a point of comparison. Any bars or clubs that anyone wants a report on? I'm here for a bit and am happy to check them out.

The BF had a birthday today and I flew in to see him. He is so adorable on this birthday and since it is a once a year treat to see him on his best behavior, I had to spend some time with him. He picked a few friends and they all went bowling. I am still tired from the over Atlantic trip so I skipped the bowling. The BF wanted to go to Hollywood. Great place and great music. The show was live and excellent. It is mostly straight and not the nice gay mix it was at the old location. We then wanted to try Nab disco as it is fairly new and it was White Party night. Our group went and the place was packed. They had reserved us a table up front and I was one of the very few farangs in the place. Their is a beautiful chandelier in the middle of the place and lots of mirrors and the walls are a beautiful red velvet. The place was filled with eye candy galore. Gay boys abound here and it is mostly a Thai place. The crowd was friendly. Nab has a second floor with nice private rooms, a balcony and a short bar area. The private rooms were great and I got to make out a little with a boy I met there as their are tons of nooks and crannies in Nab. The music was great and the show was the best cabaret show I have seen in a long time. The outfits and costumes were fantastic. The dancers were hot and the music was a great beat with a lot of dancing going on all around me. The toilets were clean. It was not filled with smoke. The prices were reasonable. The owners spent a nice sum of money to keep this place alive. I wish them well and hope that they are able to draw in crowds nightly as I will be back for more in the future! I can't quite explain the location as the BF took me by motorcycle. It is close to Hollywood and near second road and a McDonald's. If someone has an exact location, please post it. For those of you that like dance clubs, give this place a try!

I had taken this trip the last time I was flying and the plane was horrible. The seats were not International business class seats but regular USA business class seats. That is not what most pay for and no one was happy about it. It looks like NWA/Delta went back to the older configuration on this route. It is now an A330-200 aircraft with the same telescoping seats as the larger 747. Looks like NWA got the picture. Perhaps they swap in and out between the 2? But, I have been told by 3 who used this route that the larger seats format are back.

Obama has a real chance to follow through on his campaign pledge to abolish the Don't Ask Don't Tell policy. Will he take a step in the right direction? http://edition.cnn.com/2009/POLITICS/06/08...?iref=hpmostpop

The 2009 ride is over and I will say that I had a great time. The ride into LA was awesome. It is great to turn around over Malibu and see the LA skyline. Barr was at lunch each day serving a smile and a friendly welcome. I got to meet DavidSF for the first time and he seemed like a sweetheart. On the first day I met Steven Draker and we ran into each other several times and I had several conversations with him. I can see why so many are enamored with this sexy guy. What a wonderful man. He was alway smiling and upbeat and full of life. Even after sitting on a bike for many hours his smile was shared with everyone. People that do these rides do so for the community. In Thailand, the boys would say that they "have a good heart." This ride is always filled with some of the most amazing people. While my body is a bit beaten and my muscles are a bit sore, I'm sure I'll be doing the ride again in the future. Thanks for Barr, David and Steven for the friendly smiles and nice chats.

LOL. Well, it is better than you think it is and for someone like me who is a movie buff, I was thrilled to see the movie. But, I was a fan when I was much younger and was able to get his autograph which I still treasure. Even that aside, the movie was really excellent. If you wake up one morning and want to do something other than smell the roses and look beautiful, just rent the movie and watch it. If for no other reason than to say, "Oz, you are a fucking nut. The movie sucked."

What a true shame that the court allowed this to stand. I think we all knew it would be the final decision given they had requested security and protection once the verdict was reached. But, the decision was not even close. What is the next step for California? http://edition.cnn.com/2009/US/05/26/calif...iage/index.html