Reggio Calabria 2

[joizy]

I was thinking maybe I got a false impression of this place after the initial flood of Grindr messages and my incredible luck at having a hot Argentine neighbor who liked to get his dick sucked. I started looking at the messages I hadn’t deleted and did some more weeding out which reduced the number considerably, but still, I continued to get new people contacting me every day. The problem, as those who use Grindr will understand, is that guys play games. 

I had one guy message me who sent a photo of a nice cock. As I was responding to him, my WiFi froze and the message sat there “sending…” for about a minute. In that time, he blocked me. I have a backup Grindr account, so I logged in and messaged him and asked me why he blocked me and he said it was because I looked at the photo he sent and didn’t respond. I told him my WiFi had slowed and then blocked him. Anyone who would block someone for not responding immediately is not someone I want to invest any time in.

Another guy sent me some very delicious dick pics and messaged me every day since I got here, but then our communications would suddenly stop. Yesterday he said he would stop by after a haircut. I didn’t hear from him again. More on him in a minute.

Another guy messaged me and sent me a photo of a really fat cock. It wasn’t incredibly long, but it was really thick. He was interested and committed to come by around 8:30. I went out to eat and when I got back, he was here in a few minutes.

He was very wiry, like he had drunk way too many espressos, not particularly handsome or really hot, but hey, I’m trying the local flavors. Even though my profile is very clear what I am looking for (still looking for a local guide and conversation exchange, but I am clear that I only suck), and even though our conversation confirmed that I only wanted to suck, as soon as he came in, he pulled down my shorts and started sucking my soft cock. There is nothing worse than receiving a blowjob from someone who doesn’t know what they are doing who thinks that if they are super aggressive you will become hard. I eventually pulled him off of me and got him into position on the bed where I started sucking his cock. It was a really nice piece of meat, very thick and long enough to hit the back of my throat and go down slightly, but not long enough to cut off my breathing. It didn’t take him long to come. He wanted to see me again, but I blocked him as soon as he left since he obviously was not honest in his communication with me and wanted more than what I had agreed to do.

This morning I thought I’d try with my friend who didn’t show up after his haircut yesterday. In his album he also had a short video of him jerking off, so I was sure his photos weren’t “enhanced”, and he seemed worth investing more time in. After we exchanged “buon giornos” and other pleasantries, he told me he was still waking up. And then the conversation stopped (again). I interpreted it as disinterest and told him I wouldn’t bother him anymore. He asked if I was angry and I just said I wasn’t interested in infinite chat. He said he understood. I told him to contact me when he was ready to meet.

After lunch, I came back and took a nap and he messaged me. He said he could come over if I wanted and told me he could be here in 30-40 minutes. One hour later, I message him and asked if he was still coming. Silence… I told him I thought he was playing with me and he insisted he wasn’t. He said he was leaving his house then. 

More silence.

Again I messaged him and asked if he was on his way.

Nothing.

Again, I said I thought he was playing games.

He sent me a voice note saying he was helping his mother. And that he was on his way. At this point I didn’t believe him and was ready to give up, but I restrained myself from writing any more. And then, by a miracle, he told me he was looking for parking. I went out to meet him on the street.

I hadn’t seen his face, so I didn’t know what to expect. I was very pleasantly surprised. He was adorable. Classic Italian boy - short dark hair, mustache, wearing a hoodie and training pants, very sporty looking. He was younger than I expected. His profile said he was 26, but he looked younger.

We came up and he immediately started kissing me. I caressed his body to find he had a perfectly firm ass, smooth body, was nicely tightly muscled and his cock was not a disappointment. We made out a lot and eventually I started sucking him. It was a perfect cock and I really enjoyed it. He lasted just the right amount of time - not too quick, but not too long that I started to get bored. After he came, we snuggled and chatted about a variety of things. I hope I will see him again. He was definitely worth all of the trouble and now that I know that his mother isn’t well and he is here helping to take care of her (he lives in Milan), I will be more patient (even though I think there are other reasons why he was kind of a flake).

So, out of four guys I met so far (this is my fourth day), only one was a disappointment. The other three were really hot.

A few things that I have learned which may explain why it’s different here than Bari. In Bari there were a few gay bars and there was also a sauna. Here there is nothing, and Grindr seems to be the only way that people can meet each other. As my cute friend from today explained, it’s very small and everyone knows everyone. People pretend they are straight (this guy had a Chilean wife who lived in the UK). Sometimes in places that are not open, where people are closeted and discreet, you can meet guys you normally would not have a shot at (because they have so many other options). Here, they may be attracted to me because I’m not local and they can discreetly come and see me without anyone finding out their secret.

At some point, I really need to stop with Grindr though and start doing some sightseeing. The weather has been a little unsettled, so I’m waiting for it to calm down, and then I’ll begin exploring some of the beautiful towns along the coast.

My newly formed impression is not that much different from my first impression. Reggio is a beautiful place, the people are friendly, the food has been amazing, and the guys are plentiful and for the most part, very hot. My friend from today told me he liked daddies like me (he also told me his actual father is a few years younger than me).

Only one guy on Grindr has asked for money, and to be honest, he is nowhere near as hot as my friend from today or my Argentine neighbor. 

So I’d say, if you are reasonably good-looking, in decent shape, or have any other qualities that guys might be looking for, this is probably a good place to meet some hot Italian men.

My next trip will be somewhere up north - Milano or Bologna, so we’ll see how it compares since I know the gay scene there is more developed and open.

Not sure I will keep reporting, but if I learn anything new, I’ll let you guys know.

Now, I have to figure out if I want to continue this conversation with a couple that just hit me up. Couples always confuse me, but it could be fun…decisions…

[12is12]

Joizy, I enjoy reading about ur sexcapades, and I really envy u.

[joizy]

12 minutes ago, 12is12 said:

Joizy, I enjoy reading about ur sexcapades, and I really envy u.

Thanks. Glad you are enjoying my adventure. I really hope to see the cutie from today again for sex, but now I’m thinking I’ll ask him if he’d be willing to be my guide for a few trips. I’m guessing he’s not working here and might need some extra money. I think the sex would still be free and there is nothing like having a cute local show you around.

[PeterRS]

I also enoy your report. A few years ago in Bangkok I chatted on one of the apps with a beautiful young Chinese guy who was here on holiday with his family. They happened to have relocated to Reggio Calabria and he was desperate to meet up with a considerably older westerner here. Sadly our timetables just did not coincide. We continued to chat over the next year. I have a friend I have known for decades who lives in Piacenza. He had met his partner in a gay bar in Milan two decades ago. I was thinking of perhaps visiting him and renewing my acquantaince with that part of Italy, after which I would make the long detour down to Reggio Calabria. But in the end i decided too much time had passed and it would just take too much time out of the trip. Sadly! 

I did however meet my friend. I flew into Bologna and took in Parma and the lovely little nearby town of Pistoia. WIth little time on my hands, I did not even check the apps. I know in Bologna there are several gay bars and lots of students around. It's also a beautiful city. But for gay life Milan will be much more interesting.

Bologna

Pistoia