Thanks for all the responses, I will try to respond to everyone who asked a question. Christian it's actually next April that we may have to postpone (2015) but it is still a possibility I will know for sure in October but if we do it would be put off until the end of next year or early 2016. .I didn't expect April to be the hottest month, what month would be best for first time visiting (as you also mentioned the New Year) things to consider are we don't want to be there at the busiest time, nor the most dead time something in the middle where we could get around but yet everything wouldn't be closed/dead. And cooler would be better (I know cool is a relative term when it comes to a country on the Equator).
Thanks Abang for the recommendations on flights and about the advice about money boys. It would be nice to have some hookups just happen and it be in that nature I am sure we will go to some normal bars and that would be great. But I think the mix would be best like firecat mentioned and there is something about picking a guy out and helping him/paying for it that is a turn on to us. Also that is nice to know about the legalities do they ever arrest people for it in either place that you guys have heard of or as long as you make sure they are over 18 you are pretty safe? And thanks surfcrest we will keep that in mind and will try to work in as many other non sexual activities as we can as well during the two weeks . As for our budget it is Thailand and much I have read talk about how cheap you can do things there for so I would like to remain within a reasonable limit or spend less on the hotels and more on fun but at the same time don't really want shared rooms/hostel type situations. Something comparable to a Holiday Inn (clean bed, hot water, private bathroom etc...) would more than suffice as we would mainly be out exploring. But if there is a really fancy hotel that people shouldn't pass up while there because it's so much cheaper than in America a couple nights at that would be fun as well. As far as Budget would like something in the range of lower than $80 usd for most nights. I mainly just want to make sure we wouldn't be harassed for bringing a local or couple locals back to the room.
Also I don't think I would do anything in America with money boys there seem to be more a chance of stings here than in most places (or tourism towns in other countries that turn a blind eye as you say to it) even in the small town we live in see newspaper articles a couple times a year of them arresting johns or prostitutes (normally straight but still). How risky is Canada kokopelli and can you off boys there as well or is it just more strip bar kind of deal? And vinapu thanks for the detailed post. I had ran across the Rose hotel and it looks nice in the photos online and seems reasonable. The BBB Inn's locations sounds great would it be a place you would stay at for a week or is it more of like a place to go to for a one night hookup? Also one last thing if anyone here knows is the "straight" district in Bangkok anywhere near the gay area a friend may meet us there when we visit and was thinking if they are side by side we could at least be in same hotel and just go to our selected areas at night or are they separated by too much distance?