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Is there any gay place (cruise club, sauna, club, etc) where I can have some fun (playing with myself or with my partner) in a locked cubicle and yet exhibit to anyone outside who’s interested to watch? Saunas have cubicles, but you will have to keep the door open for someone to be able to watch the action inside, and this means I have to be prepared for others to enter and physically join in the action, which may not be something intended at the particular moment, as I may want to keep the action private but yet enjoy the thrill of being watched. What I have in mind are cubicles like those in some cruise clubs I’ve been to in other countries which have ‘windows’ or openings which can be opened from the inside at one’s option if there is a mood to exhibit and be watched. Please help with any recommendations. Thank you in advance!

The topic says ‘fun’ for couples. So here goes (and don’t get alarmed...). For my partner and I (I’m 50 he’s 45) fun for us in bkk is: going for separate massages (Non gay specific), lounging in cafes over latte in the pm, enjoying Thai food anytime of the day, and having evening sundowners at gay bars (non go-go), with the occasional trip to DJ Station. We’ve been doing this every December for the last 16 years perhaps and still loving it.

I love these simple and unassuming Thai eateries too, but get paranoid about patronizing those directly fronting busy roads with their uncovered trays of tempting food exposed to all the dust and pollution of the passing traffic. I usually go to those tucked away within food courts or eating houses and relatively less exposed.

Looks like this thread is digressing... To steer it back somewhat, when crossing busy roads, I always raise up one hand to the traffic and generally motorists will slow down. This works even in busy KL. As for my own scary experience, it is more of a supernatural kind. Not sure if this is within the intended ambit of this thread and trigger another digression, but anyways, here goes.... It was about 20 years ago. I returned to my hotel room one evening after dinner to pick up something and when I opened the door, noticed the tv was turned on to a Thai channel. I thought it odd since I had would not have left the tv on when leaving the room and more so on a Thai channel. Nevertheless, I proceeded to pick up whatever I came for and went back out. One of my friends who was waiting in the corridor when I entered my room later mentioned to me something that spooked me. This friend has what you call a ‘third eye’ ability, that is, the ability to see supernatural beings. He told me later what he saw as I opened the room door. There were 2 kids on the bed watching tv. As soon as I opened the door, he caught a glimpse of the kids looking towards me and as though caught red-handed, they immediately floated towards the window and out through the window. When he told me that, I was terrified. I had been staying in that room for the past few nights without incident. And that was to be my last night before I caught an early morning flight back home the next day. My friend (and his partner) offered to host me in their room that night. I accepted, and told them I needed to go back to the room and just pack up my stuff. So we went back to my room and they followed. This time, there was nothing unusual. However, my third-eye friend followed me into the room, and upon peeking into the bathroom, noticed a lady peeking back at him through the drawn shower curtain from the long bath. He did not tell me this immediately, but only mentioned it after we had left the room and were in his room. That was terrifying for me. I now make it a point to knock on the door or ring the door bell before entering a hotel room for the first time upon check in, not to mention bringing along my rosary and holy water.

I am not retired yet. I just turned 50, which is the milestone I had earlier set for myself to retire. I have just also become debt-free after paying up the last of my mortgages, so that will make the decision-making easier. I am working in Singapore, and now that I have hit my 50-milestone, the process of deciding when I should actually take the retirement plunge begins in earnest. I plan to retire in Johor Bahru just next door to Singapore across the straits, where I have a condo which I had bought off the shelf a couple years back as a retirement home. It is in a nice gated development with a riverine and coastal boardwalk and pocket parks, courtesy of its Australian builders. When I do retire, I plan to live off rental income from an investment property and spend a couple of months in my Johor home, alternating with a couple of weeks in Singapore where my partner has a home (he has no plans yet to retire), with short trips to Bangkok and other places in SE-Asia in between. My partner and I are both from this part of the world and hence comfortable with the climate and lifestyle. I have thought about retirement in Thailand as the eligibility criteria for retirement visa is fairly achievable. However, I guess my partner and I would need to spend longer periods in Thailand to be able to decide whether it is a viable option for us. For now, Malaysia seems a good place for affordability and amenities. The gay environment is not a pre-requisite as we are not active in the scene except when in Bkk when we visit the Silom bars for partying at most. It would be nice to hear from any of you who retired early in your 50s or even 40s about how you made your decision and how you manage their finances.

Thanks for all your lovely recommendations, will be sifting through them slowly. So many exciting choices, but only one anniversary dinner...but heck, we may just celebrate it as a week-long affair, why not, in that way we’ll just get to savour more than just one if not all of them!! Also heard about the Kitchen Table at the W which, although serving both Thai and international fare, has received some accolades from Thais themselves about the standard of its Thai food.

My partner and I will celebrate our 15th anniversary in Bangkok this weekend and are looking for recommendations for a nice dinner place for Thai food in the Silom area which is not too over-the-top pricey or a must-go touristy place like Vertigo, State Tower LeBua etc. Thanks in advance!

Hi Abang, I'm also keen on buying a 2-bedroom for occasional stay leading perhaps to permanent stay one day. What's the going rates for units this size based on your research? Are they priced psf or psm and what is the current range? How did you go about scouting for available units - online property sites or property agencies? What areas were you looking at? Are there particular areas in bkk that are popular with the gay community?

Ah ok thanks!

Awesome! Is the approval given only for a particular number of years after which it must be renewed?

I love roaming hypermarts too! Which is the most centrally accessible Big C, is there one opposite Central World? Does anyone have any recommended Thai pre-mixes for cooking chicken?

It's been some time since I visited Bkk and would guess a number of new saunas may have entered the scene and others closed down. I just wonder if there has been any cruise club that could have sprung up, or if any of the saunas/clubs have theme nights for sneaker /socks fetishers - anyone knows? Thanks!