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For alcohol abuse, I've heard very good things about: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sinclair_Method

I bank with USAA, no fees, and they rebate the first 10 charges of ATMs a month. Fantastic for a traveller. But they're a bank for military, ex-military, or in my case, kid of a military family. If I couldn't do them, I'd definitely go credit union.

Rush is an enormous dick. How can he say penises are shrinking when he looks in the mirror?

Why feel you have to do anything at all with this 'information'? If he is, so what? Do you want to jump his bones? If not, why not just listen? He can figure out if he wants to do something with the information himself, and how that will play in his marriage.

Color me radical, but letting people ritually maim their children seems like a good thing for the state to stop. It will get overturned, but I wish it wouldn't.

Well, Mr. Ed had a point, but like most who have such a perspective, I think he took it way too far. I don't think I would have wanted to get a PhD under him! Lucky you for escaping. I agree most don't find the term oriental offensive, but since there are other safer phrases that serve the exact same purpose, I just use those.

If you want to understand the issues regarding 'oriental', you can read Edward Said's Orientalism http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orientalism_%28book%29 (I was an asian studies major way back in the day, and this was a big academic debate.) The objections to the term oriental arise more from the assumptions layered over that term. Asian, or something like that doesn't carry as much baggage. Of course, over the years I've gotten a bit jaded about the political correctness of language, since I think political correctness of ACTION is much, much more important. Rice queen is an old phrase for someone attracted to asians, and while I think it has humor, I don't think it has much sting to it. Which is all a way of saying, yes, some people have issues with terms and care a lot. I think most don't. So I wouldn't get too caught up in it, but might want to say Asian instead of oriental. South Asian or East Asian if you want to be more specific.

Apple may end up victorious in the long run, but I doubt it. I've been involved in high tech my entire career, and been involved in a lot of patent suites. Almost always, the only people who win are the lawyers. Samsung has a huge amount of patents too, and eventually that will catch up with Apple, and they end up cross-licensing, and the whole thing will go away. At least that's my bet. I personally hate patents. A fair idea which has, in practice, become a way to destroy innovation.

Dominance and submission fantasies are pretty normal and common. The fact that he has this fantasy doesn't mean he has any interest in the reality. If it weirds you out too much, then so be it, but don't presume that because he has a fantasy that he is indulging that he has any issues at all. You may have issues, but that's another story

Absolutely they do. But in reading the article, I read a man who is just tone deaf to what he's saying. He wasn't saying it's ok, just that it's sometimes more complicated than "evil priest molests innocent child." I think he's frustrated as a priest with the demonization of fellow priest whom he knows aren't all the monsters they're painted to be. I also sense, though I may be reading into it, a man who understands that the vast majority of men weren't built for celibacy, and that trying to keep that vow can twist men. (that's one of the reasons I blame the catholic church for much of this. Its twisted teaching on sex is part of what has made such messes of these men that they do these things.) In the current media environment, these just aren't things you can say. The crowd baying for blood wants the matter to be black and white. Grey upsets them.

I had sex with an older man when I was about 14. I wasn't 'abused'. I wanted it and liked it. While it is an unpopular point of view, I think that saying that sex below the age of consent is always horrific is just not real. Most here would shrug their shoulders if an 18year old had sex with a 17 year old, and scream in horror (justifiably) if a 30 year old had sex with a 3 year old. Between those two points is a continuum, not a step function. So while I find the catholic church reprehensible on many levels, I think we here ought to have a better grasp of the truth than most when it comes to older guys sleeping with younger ones. And no, I'm not condoning it, and wouldn't do it, but I'm not going to hang someone who says that these contacts aren't always instantly damaging to the younger male, and that the younger male can, in fact, be the initiator and like it. I did.

She's was a second grade teacher, so the student wasn't hers. Perhaps because of the consent the prosecutor declined to lay charges. I respect age of consent laws, but am a bit leery about them. They lay down black and white lines in a world of grey. I had sex with an older man when I was 14 I think. He didn't take advantage of me, and I'm not 'traumatized' by it or any such nonsense. When you get into pre-teen ages, clearly there's a problem, but I think we need to be careful about how we apply this. There as a guy in Maine who was prosecuted for sleeping with his 16 year old girl friend when he was 18. He ended up on the sex offenders list, and then some nut job decided that he was a child rapist and killed him for it. (didn't know the guy, just found his name on the sex offenders list and in his own twisted way thought he was doing the world a favor). Here in Oregon, the age of consent is 18, which I think is kinda crazy high. So I'd suggest a little more skepticism about whether she deserves jail or not...

I am delighted. I am outraged that this has become a partisan football. If we can afford the most expensive military in the world, we can afford to make sure everybody has basic healthcare.

Don't let truth get in the way of a good story. I like to think that Marky mark was begging me to fuck him all these years.

I'm with you. Sounds like he got talked into jerking off for the photog and now regrets it (maybe). What does that have to do with A&F really? If I were on the Jury, I'd want a complete re-enactment!

That is awesome.

Oscar Wilde - 19th century writer and wit Larry Kramer - Author and founder (with others) of both GHMC and ACTUP Harry Hay - Founder of the Mattachine Society, the first gay rights group in the US and the Radical Faeries (where I met him)

So sorry to hear this, and my heart goes out to you and your nephew. I'm married to my best friend, my soul mate, and my reason for living. If she died, I don't know that I would be capable of going on. I feel very blessed to have her, but also have to admit that the thought of losing her is very, very frightening.

That's some serious Wood(s)!

He told them that he put in the garbage a few blocks away. They think the body is now irrecoverable, unfortunately. Don't understand how someone could do something like that, and don't really want to understand....

What, this mess isn't over yet? Hot boys, but a total mess of a plot.

I like snakes! We pulled up the burlap in the community garden and found two very cute grass snakes. Of course, I don't like spiders, so I do have some sympathy. These kind of fears really aren't rational (well, at least unless you live in a place with some serious poisonous ones.). If I were there, i would have chased 'em off for you!

I would have been ok with 6 months, but a month is nothing.

When they have a funicular car to the top, I'll go. I'm not risking my life for such foolishness.

The simple answer is no. I've had it explained to me on more than one occasion and my brain can't or won't wrap itself around it. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/String_theory The best I can offer is that the very fundamental objects of creation are small 'strings' that are composed together to make all matter. It is a unified theory that explains all of physics. The problem alluded to by hitoallusa is that these strings are so ridiculously beyond anything we can measure that there isn't really anyway to test the theory. It does explain all existing facts, but...