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You're hardly alone. I like sexually dominant guys too. The idea of being some straight jock's bitch is hot. However, fantasy and reality aren't the same thing, and I learned to broaden my taste and give my imagination more free run in the bedroom. So if the guy I have isn't exactly what I want, I can still enjoy myself. But my tastes are finicky enough that I hire because I don't want to sleep with anybody who wants to sleep with me! I wish you luck. I think you'll spend a lot of time frustrated though. Straight guys are straight because they like pussy, and no matter how much you tuck, you're still not fish!

My personal experience is that trying to figure out what makes other people do crazy things is a sure recipe to go crazy yourself. You can't control other people, and sometimes they do things that just make no sense. The thing that you can control is how you respond to other people and their insanity. There may well be no magic thing you can do to make this guy like you and interact with you in the way that you want. Because really, isn't that what you're asking? Not so much to understand him as the key that will get him to behave the way you want him to? It is incredibly hard when you're emotionally/hormonally engaged to step back and realize that you have zero control over the other person. That there is probably _nothing_ you can do to get them to respond to you the way you want them to... But if you can make that hard step, then it can be incredibly freeing. You stop trying to perform some miracle, and just be yourself and let it happen or not as it will. In my 20s (more than a few years past!), I was a bit of a control freak and I thought somehow if I just figured out what to do or say to a guy I liked that I could get them to like me. I was sure that it was in my power to win any guy I liked over to me. It was a hard lesson to realize that that just wasn't the case. Good luck, but from what you've described, you don't have what this guy wants now. Maybe it's insane amounts of cash. Maybe he's got internalized homophobia and now has guilt about enjoying time with you so is pushing you away. Maybe you smell funny (joking!). The point is that the list of maybes goes on pretty much forever and you can't control most of them. So stop trying. So, I'd just leave him be. Maybe he'll come back around, maybe he won't. You can't control that. But _trying_ to control that will just make you crazy so don't.... My .02, anyway.

Good riddance, but I seriously doubt the next one will be any better.

While magical things can happen between an escort and a client, for every one that does, there are a thousand stories of poor fools being taken in by handsome young hustlers. I very seriously doubt you're one of the lucky rare ones... Who knows what happened to the money you gave him? Maybe he spent it on drugs, maybe he bought clothes and toys, maybe he just put it in the bank and lied to you and said he spent it all so you'd give him more. So far, his strategy of telling you he needs money seems to be working since when he asks, you give it to him. He was working in a bar where he exchanges his sexual favors for your money. It wasn't you he wanted, it was your cash. He may be a nice guy, he may like you, but don't mistake the nature of the relationship. If you stopped paying your mechanic, even if you liked each other, he'd stop helping you. I think the problem is that lots of us who hire have an emotional need that escorts can fill. That's ok as long as we're very honest with ourselves about that. If we aren't, then we can fool ourselves into believing that the escort's act is real. It isn't. I think you're letting your emotions cloud your judgment. It has happened to all of us at one time or another. But step back and examine the escort's behavior dispassionately. It sure looks to me like he's taking you for your money and doesn't give a damn about you. Either that, or he's a complete train wreck and you are better off staying well away. If he's into drugs and trouble, you aren't going to save him. The only person who can save him is himself. Good Luck.

I'm sorry, but I think this perspective is wrong. If somebody said, "I don't serve niggers at my diner," we'd all think that was wrong. This is the same thing. If you open a business, you have an obligation to the community and to the law to serve people. If your religion precludes you from following that law, then you need to get into another line of work where you can be a bigot and not break the law.

Thanks for this. It reminded me how far we've come over the years. When I hear about kids coming out in junior high school it just blows me away. Those who came before me did great work, and I'm gratified that me and my generation pushed the line even more. I think it's just a matter of time before gay marriage crosses the country and then, maybe, a new generation will arise that realizes that love is good, however it is expressed.

I hope so. I was a boy scout back in the day before it went religious crazy and I enjoyed my time. Now, I can't support them.

My only hesitation is that I think the "Not for me." is really not a score at all. So if you can opt out of scoring for whatever reason, any scale works for me.

When I start contemplating what crimes I would commit to get the man into bed with me, that qualifies as stunningly handsome.

I'm too old to bareback. I'm old enough to remember the time before HIV, and I barebacked then. Then the plague came and I watched lots of people die and my community get decimated. I was lucky that I was a bit picky and hung up, or I may well not have lived through that time. I'm really, really happy that we've made such great progress treating this horrific disease, but it isn't the common cold. If the medicines don't work for you, or the virus mutates, you die. I can't be flippant about this disease. I hope we find a full cure soon, because so many young in our community are picking up a loaded gun and playing with it when they practice unsafe sex. Sure, it's their choice, but so is playing russian roulette. It's a bad, bad choice to make.

Dorothy Parker is a real treasure trove of great lines: “Take me or leave me; or, as is the usual order of things, both.” ― Dorothy Parker

This is typical stupidity of small town government. You can't regulate these things at this level. If people don't want to do it, they'll just move. So all you do is annoy the companies and damage your economy.

No, they weren't just 'doing their jobs'. Prosecutors have huge discretion about what charges to file and what to do. That they choose to attempt to crucify this young man was uncalled for, and their decision alone to do.

She wants her privacy. As a child star who has been stalked by the public her whole life, who can blame her? She doesn't owe us her coming out, and she's been very consistent on that score over the years. She wants to take her career in a new direction. It isn't that hard people.

I've slept with women in my youth, but I never found them arousing. It was more a strange form of masturbation. I'm glad that straight young men are opening up about sexuality, but I think that there are boxes for a reason. Most people fit in them.

As an ex-smoker, the idea of smoking now nauseates me.

Like expat, Mr. happy is particular in his tastes, so I don't think I could have gotten it up for older men.

No, actually, as long as you never invoke those browsers it doesn't matter.

I predict that two football teams will play each other. I won't watch or care what the outcome is. They wear too much clothing to really make it an interesting sport to watch for me.

Yeah, Fuck Pluto. Little bitch isn't even a planet any more.

That's my initial reaction as well, but the people involved are very good at what they do, so I'll wait and see.

So when you say cheap rentboys, how much exactly are we talking?

Well, the site is one where we discuss hiring other men to fuck us, which can be a bit off-putting to some, since it is both illegal in many places, and second the people that do it often don't want others to know about it. As a consequence, I'd guess many who wander by are terrified that their secrets might come out if they registered to post here. As for me, my wife knew I was gay when I married her, so I've got nothing to hide

Agreed. I left years ago because I felt the place wasn't well run, and just brought out the crazy. Nothing has changed.

Daddy has a lot of personal issues as you can tell from his various posts about problems finding work and the like. There aren't new, and he seems to take out this issues with random and ill-considered acts against people in his forums.