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I’d say make sure you start in Bangkok and end there. At least that was my experience. Luang Prabang is a beautiful place, but I never found anything there beyond the temples. It is definitely worth a visit, but not a sex destination. As others have said, you might get lucky on the apps, but probably with other tourists.

You go up the stairs from the street, enter and take off your shoes (there are very big signs). Put your shoes in a shoe locker. You’ll need a 10 yen coin. Take your key to the counter and give it to the guy at the desk. He will give you a locker key with the same number (pay attention to the shoe lockers - some of them are for private rooms only). They will point to a sign to ask you what you want. I have been there many times but only just realized there are several options - a private room (not necessary), a towel set + robe, or just a towel set. I never wear the robe, so the last time I got just the towel set - small towel (which you carry in the bath area) and bath towel (which you can wear in more public areas). You can pay with cash or credit card. Just the towel set is about 2,900 yen, towel + robe is about 3,300 yen. They ask you your name. I think they all speak some English at the desk. Don’t expect a friendly greeting. LOL. Don’t take it personally. Grab your stuff and go straight to the back on the same floor to find your locker. Strip and wrap your bath towel around your waist, take the small towel with you and go up to the third floor (you are entering on floor 2). Again, head towards the rear (pun intended) and you’ll find some cubicles (some with little doors) to store your bath towel. I always choose one of the covered ones near the bottom. You can put your bath towel in one of those if you want. Remember where you put it. Enter the wet area. There is a row of plastic stools and everything you need to wash up. Do the bathing ritual. You’ll see two baths - one is hotter the other is cooler. Soak if you want. It’s a good spot to see who is there and get your bearings. From the bath area, if you walk to the back, there are showers and two dry saunas. Beyond that, there is a cold plunge, and two steam rooms - one of them is very wet. Cruising and fun can often happen in the saunas or steam rooms. The steam room all the way at the back is usually where I have the most luck. You can also play in the shower stalls if you want privacy (a few of them have glory holes). There are two toilets in the shower area that have hoses if you are planning on bottoming. Go up to the fourth floor for “dark rooms”. There are several rooms with beds. This is not my favorite part. This is where I went last Friday with the Malaysian guy. Beyond that, the floors are private rooms. Nothing seems to happen there. I guess guys who get rooms meet someone and take them there? Or maybe they sleep. The very top floor is an outdoor roof deck. During the week, there seems to be a lunchtime rush of mostly Japanese guys. Depending on what you look like, this might not be the best time to go. That rush seems to last a few hours and then it gets quiet until later afternoon when it starts to get busy again. I’d say about 3 p.m. is a good time to go. I’ve always had luck at that time. Early on a weekend day is a nice crowd (for me). Enough people to get lucky, but not too many where it becomes overwhelming. By 5 or 6 it gets really crowded. They close the shower/sauna area around 5:50 for cleaning, so that really limits your options until they are done. If you go after 6 on a Friday/Saturday, it will probably be very busy. I have never gone that late. I’ve always gone early and always found someone to play with. One thing I noticed on a Sunday early afternoon was that there were a lot of people sleeping in the dark room area. I’m assuming the were leftover from Saturday night. So early Saturday seemed better than early Sunday. When you finish, go back down to your locker, get dressed and return everything to the desk. There are signs saying you’ll be charged if you don’t return all of your towels, so make sure you have everything. They will return your shoe lockers key. Go back to the entrance and put on your shoes in the small entryway. That’s it! My recommendation would be to go around 3 p.m. on a weekday. It will be busy enough that you’ll be able to have fun but not so busy that you’ll be overwhelmed. Eat before you go in case you want to stay more than a few hours. Saturday anytime seems to be good, but early is better in my opinion for reasons I’ve stated. Sunday later in the afternoon seems better, after those who have slept over have left and a new awake crowd arrives. One thing I like is that there are enough guys there who are attracted to older guys and guys with bellies that everyone seems to be able to find someone to play with. This also seems like a good time because there are many tourists in town, meaning a bigger variety of guys to play with. I met the hot Malaysian this past Friday. The last two times I went, I met hot Korean guys. Japanese guys are hit or miss. Many of them only like other Japanese, but I think the ones who choose this location might like foreigners as well. I like having more options though as a 65-year-old with a bit of a belly. Hope this helps. I understand the shyness, but everyone is there for the same reason. If nothing else, go and have a good soak/sauna and enjoy the eye candy.

I just realized it’s Pride weekend in Tokyo, so that may have contributed to the crowds yesterday. Not sure what Pride is like here in Tokyo. I went back in the 90s and it was a very small little procession under a freeway with people covering their faces. I’m assuming things have changed. Anyway, now I’ll have to go back again on another Friday just so I can make a fair comparison.

I tried it when I was here in January/February and I really didn’t understand how it worked, so I deleted the app. I am meeting people on Grindr and to be honest, at my age, I really can’t handle more than what I’m getting. The equipment just doesn’t work like it used to.

I’ve been in Tokyo for 5 weeks now. Having a wonderful time and while I’m not having sex every day, I have definitely had more action in 5 weeks here than I have in a year in the SF Bay Area where I live. So far I only paid once. I’ve met a few guys on Grindr - one looks like he’ll be a regular, had a little luck in the toilets in Shinjuku station and have also had a lot of fun at 24 Kaikan in Shinjuku. Today I went to Thermae Yu, an onsen/spa complex in Kabukicho after an amazing massage in the morning. But as happens when I got to these places, I see hot bodies and nice dicks and I get horny. I decided I would go to 24 Kaikan to see if I fared any better than I did at the one in Ueno where I went at about the same time (2 p.m.) on a Friday afternoon. I was expecting it to be just a bunch of old guys. I’d been there on a weekday afternoon before and it seemed to me that they get busy at lunch and then the place empties out until about 3 when a new crowd starts arriving for the evening shift. But I was horny and thought I could spend a few hours there. Why are the people at the desk so unfriendly? In every other Japanese establishment, you are greeted by a hearty “irasshaimasse”, but at the gay cruising places I’ve been to, it always seems like they are angry you are there. Well, once I got past grumpy, I stripped and went up to the baths, did the bathing ritual and walked back to the showers. As I was entering the shower area, I caught a glimpse of a thin guy walking back towards the sauna with what looked like an enormous hardon. did my eyes deceive me? I had to go find him to see if it was true. I walked into the sauna and it was dark so I couldn’t see well. There were two guys there. One on the left and one on the right. I took a chance with the one on the left. I sat next to him and put my arms behind me to support myself. Within seconds he was touching me. I reached over and touched him. He had a thin hard body. As I reached down to his crotch - BINGO - yep, it was true. It was a big fat one. So in case you didn’t catch that. I paid, stripped, washed and within minutes was playing with a huge cock on a slim young guy. He was cut, so I was trying to figure out where he was from. I found out later he was Malay, from Malaysia. We played a bit in the sauna but it got too hot, so we moved to a shower stall with glory holes (my preferred spot because people can watch and maybe participate, but you don’t have to deal with the aggressive grabbing that sometimes happens in other areas). We didn’t stay there long because he wanted to fuck me, so we went upstairs and climbed into a bunk bed. Yadda yadda yadda - he came, but I didn’t. I thought that was it. We returned to the bathing area and as we were storing our towels he asked if he could keep in touch with me. I said yes and agreed to give him my number. We went in to wash up. He sat down on a stool, but I went back to the showers. When I finished and returned to the bathing area, he was gone. But then he reappeared and got into one of the baths. I hadn’t cum yet, and it was now pretty crowded, so I went into the back to explore. It didn’t take long until I somehow found myself involved in a threesome in the steam room that eventually turned into an orgy. My question about Ueno vs Shinjuku had been answered. There definitely was more action in Shinjuku. There were quite a few Caucasian guys and a lot of Asian guys who were probably not Japanese, but on vacation. I think there were some Japanese there as well. It was hot and it was active, and as a 65-year old white guy who has seen better days, I was still quite popular and in demand. I was sucking on a beautiful cock and came and slipped through the crowd in the sauna to find my Malaysian friend still sitting in the bath waiting for me. I nodded and left the wet area and he followed. I went down to my locker and he followed. I thought we’d just exchange numbers and he would stay, but when he saw me getting dressed, he also got dressed. We left together and exchanged numbers outside. I thought that was the end. He suggested we go for tea. To be honest, I really wanted to go home and relax. I told him I was tired and just wanted to go home. I said I’d walk him to Shinjuku station. Again, he mentioned going for tea. The more I thought about it, what was I going to do - return to my Airbnb and scroll on Grindr? We went to Muji cafe and had iced tea and talked. When he found out I liked Malaysian/Indonesian food, he suggested an Indonesian restaurant in Kabukicho, so we went for dinner. At this point, I couldn’t just send him home because it was rush hour and the trains would be packed, so I invited him back to my place figuring we’d just snuggle until it was a better time for him to get on a train. My Airbnb is about a 15 minute walk from Shinjuku station. We got on the bed together and talked a bit while we snuggled. Eventually he started grinding on me and finally said, “I have to take it out” and there it was - this enormous cock begging for attention. I sucked him until he came. He showered, and I walked him to Okubo station. He said he will see me every weekend until I leave. While I’ve had good luck at 24-Kaikan before, it never happened this quickly and not just with the Malaysian, but also with the orgy that formed around me. Is it because it’s summer and there are a lot of horny tourists in town? I don’t know. But for anyone wondering if older guys can still have fun or if afternoons are worth it, yes to both. The past few times I’ve gone I went on weekend afternoons because I don’t like it when it’s super crowded, but today, a Friday afternoon, it was very busy and I was very popular. I really don’t want to go back to the drought at home, but for now, I’m just enjoying the popularity and look forward to seeing my new Malaysian friend a few more times before I leave.

I have hired several. My first was in Kamakura 10 years ago. I was drawn to him because of his tight white shorts and beautiful legs. I was rewarded nicely with an amazing view, but also a really fun ride. He was very entertaining, knowledgeable and he gave me a coupon for a discount and told me they also had rickshaws in Asakusa. So the next day I went to Asakusa and hired an absolutely adorable guy - same deal - very funny, knowledgeable, and terrific ass. When I came here in the winter, I hired a guy in Kyoto and another in Asakusa at night. They are not all young and cute, and it’s kind of the luck of the draw unless you are very strategic about who you approach, but they are always funny, highly entertaining and they give great tours. They also love to take photos of you in front of different stops along the way. As far as gay for pay, I really doubt it. They work very long hours and it’s hard work, the last thing they’d be interested in is having sex with someone just for money. I’m assuming they are well-paid because of the long hours. I definitely recommend doing it - one of the best things I’ve done on any trip, and it gets you away from the tourist crowds, you learn a little history and it’s a really fun time. In Kyoto, my driver took me down a special path in the bamboo forest away from the crowds and took some amazing photos of me. If you are fantasizing about them though, Re:Born has costumes you can ask the boys to wear and I think one of them is a rickshaw driver. You might even get him to pull you around the room a bit if you’re lucky.

I haven’t been to Nikko yet, but that is gorgeous, thanks for sharing the photos. I am trying to avoid places with too many tourists. Next week, I’m returning to Chichibu, Saitama for three nights. I hired a driver to take me to the 34 Kannon temples on the Chichibu Kannon pilgrimage. Chichibu shrine is apparently related in some way to this temple in Nikko, and I can see some similarities, but I read things and then forget, so don’t quote me on that. I’ve been having some luck on Grindr and today went to 24-Kaikan in Shinjuku where I had much better luck than I did in Ueno (also on a Friday afternoon). I’m about to write a post about my adventure today. It involves a young Malay guy with an enormous cock who couldn’t get enough of my old ass.

Not sure if that’s him. The guy I hired had a scar on his upper chest. I can’t tell from the photos if this guy has it.

Wednesday evening I sent an email to Re:Born to schedule a session for today (Saturday) with a guy I saw back in February. I had the best time with him and truly believed him when he told me he loved me, so I wanted to see him again to discuss our marriage plans. I tried to be as clear as possible in my email. I gave them the date, time, length of session, preferred provider and two choices for the room - 1st choice the club room, 2nd choice the gym room. They replied to my email on Thursday morning. Even though Sakaki was listed as being available from 14:00, which is the time I requested, they wrote back to say he was not available until 14:30 because of work. I replied that was fine or I could do 15:00 if he needed more time. I was on my way to Chichibu and then was in the onsen being followed around by a cute boy who ghosted me (see my other post) and didn’t have my phone. When I checked out of the onsen, they wrote - “What about the massage?” They wanted confirmation. I told them I was confirming. They sent me the directions to Higashi-Nakano. It was the same building I went to before. I was familiar with the location. Then they message me and said the club room wasn’t available. Would I like my 2nd choice, the gym room? Uh, yeah, that’s why I put a 2nd choice. Again, I said, “I am confirming.” And asked for the price. And this is where things went left. They asked if I wanted a massage or escort course. This was new. The last time it started as a massage and then we had sex. It was perfect. I asked for 100 minutes this time instead of 70 because I figured we wouldn’t have to rush, but now, what was this escort course? Had something changed? I said “I think massage. What is the difference?” They said basically if I wanted sex, it was the escort course. I told them I didn’t see it on the website and asked the price. I should have just said massage. But now it got even more complicated. And to make matters worse, I was on the train back from Chichibu and we stopped after only about 30 minutes and sat without moving. There was a fire on the tracks ahead and eventually I had to get off of that train and get on another much less luxurious train and make several transfers to get home 2 1/2 hours later than planned. All of this time, I was responding to emails. (I counted and there are at least 25 emails from them). So in response to my question about the price, they sent a new price list, which was basically the same except now there was an additional room fee (the previous price list included the room fee) 100 minutes massage course was 18,000 yen. 100 minutes escort course was 18,000 yen, plus 3,000 for the room for a total of 21,00. Because I was exhausted by the train dilemma at this point, and I was hungry, and I felt like I’d been very clear up front about what I wanted, I got frustrated and said “Just give me the 70 minute massage course at Higashi-Nakano” I told them I was familiar with the location. I had not made the connection between the change of room and the possibility that it would be a different location. Stay tuned. The next morning when I woke up, I re-read the emails and was confused, so I asked about the pricing. Why was it 18,000 plus 3,000 when they had previously told me the room fee was included? Long story short - as a non-resident of Japan, you pay 1,000 yen for a private room, but that doesn’t include an actual room. The club room is an extra 1,000 (2,000 total), the gym room is an extra 2,000 (3,000 total) and the VIP room in Shinjuku is an extra 3,000 (4,000 total) - all in addition to the price listed for the course (which on Re:Born is just one list of prices - no mention of escort services). I was really ready to cancel at this point, but Sakaki said he loved me and he was waiting for me. Finally, I confirmed, 14:30 at Higashi-Nakano with Sakaki for 70 minutes at 15,000 yen. I set off today to meet my love. Higashi-Nakano is one stop from Okubo, where I’m staying, so I arrived very quickly. I wasn’t paying attention when I left the train and found myself at the opposite exit. I took the West exit, but the directions said East exit. To make matters worse, typhoon force winds and rain had moved in and my wind-resistant umbrella from Family Mart just gave up. Google Maps was not helping me find where I wanted to go and it was getting close to 2:30. I walked along the tracks and fortunately found the East exit. I found the building (per the directions) and returned to the exact same spot I had been last time (which was the club room - I still had not realized it was a different location). I rang the bell and no one answered. I emailed them and told them I was there. They responded that they were waiting for me at the Higashi-Nakano Park Tower room 16XX. Then it hit me. Yeah, different room would be in a different location, but they had never sent me the location. I had very careful directions from Higashi-Nakano station that they’d sent me, but they had sent them before they told me the club room wasn’t available. I asked for the correct directions. The rain, fortunately had subsided because my umbrella was just a shell of its former self. I followed their directions which took me back to where I had initially been with my “mistake” - turns out the gods had been guiding me to the correct location without me knowing it. I wrote back and told them that this was their mistake and I wanted the time to start from 15:00. They didn’t respond. I’d see what Sakaki had to say. Finally, I found the building - a very fancy high rise with a guard behind a window and an intercom system. I pressed the number of the room and was let into a first set of doors. Then I had to do the same thing again and may have missed my opportunity to enter (because someone was also leaving) so I had to do it again. By the time I reached the room I was frustrated and extremely stressed. Sakaki opened the door in a cute little pair of sexy underwear and gave me a big smile. He brought me into the gym room, which was like an actual gym with a bench set up. How were we going to do a massage? He immediately hugged me. His body was tight, smooth and warm. I was still stressed and couldn’t wait for the shower. We didn’t do a shower or mouthwash. I thought maybe to save time? We were kissing and playing with each other, I eventually got down and started to suck him, but this wasn’t what I wanted. I wanted to start with a massage and ease my way into this. I was too stressed. I stood up and said, “What about massage?” And he said, “pay now?” Oh, that’s right, money is always up front. He then told me 18,000 yen. I couldn’t believe it. After all of the emails and me confirming several times what the final price would be, here we were with a naked boy telling me a different price. It was only 3,000 yen, but I was irritated that it was different than what I had confirmed. I went through my emails and finally found the one confirming the price. He said okay and took 15,000. My mood was ruined at that point. He took the money and left (was the office in this same apartment?) When he came back, he moved some of the gym equipment around and put a mat down. He had me lie face down and he started the massage. I began to feel better. He then moved up to my head and something hard was poking me in my ear. He really seemed like he wanted sex. I started sucking him and remembered that he liked it when I ate his ass, so I flipped over and began doing that. He responded by sucking my cock, and the next thing I knew he was sitting on it. If this was the massage course, what more would I get with the escort course? Yadda yadda yadda and then I came. I opened my eyes and saw a clock above me. The time was 15:38. It was almost the end of my 70 minutes. I pointed to the clock and asked “daijobu?” And he told me we had until 4:10. So ha my time started at 3 rather than 2:30 because of their mixup? I began feeling better about the mixup. We were kissing and snuggling and then he asked if I wanted a massage. I turned over and he began giving me a really good massage. As he began playing with my ass, I started moving to show my appreciation and before I knew it he had jammed his hard cock inside. Was this really the massage course or was this because he truly loved me (he said it again today - several times). And just when I thought he was going to start going to town, he pulled out and said, “Time” All I can say is he made the whole experience worth it. When you look at the website, his photos don’t do him justice. He has a very hard, tight body, totally smooth except for his pubes and a little hair on his asshole, his eyes twinkle and he has the warmest smile. He really is dreamy. Oh, and he has the perfect ass, which is accentuated by his love of tanning beds. He had the perfect tan line from a very skimpy speedo. He took me to the shower and we soaped each other up. He continued kissing me and telling me he loved he, he liked me a lot, and calling me daddy. He said he remembered me and thanked me for coming back. When we got back to the gym room, I told him I felt bad about the money and wanted to pay more. He told me it was okay. I told him I’d see him again. I left very happy and satisfied, and I will be seeing him at least one more time before I leave. So there you have it. If you use Re:Born, don’t make the mistake I did and fall for the escort trap. I don’t know what that was about. At least in my case, it wasn’t necessary. I hope I’m not steering you wrong, but I honestly don’t believe that I am so irresistible that Sakaki could not just give me a massage. I think sex is part of the massage course. I’d love to know if anyone else has tried them. https://reborn-storeinfo.com/ I emailed them and told them that Sakaki-San had made everything better and I want to see him again. They thanked me and said they were sorry that the information about the private room was difficult to understand. I wanted to write back and say that they sent me the wrong information, but I am going to leave it there. Live and learn. I will be very clear and careful next time. Just one more note: I prefer the club room. It’s set up like a locker room and there is a mat on the floor for massage and play. The apartment where the gym room is much fancier, more difficult to get in (two places where you need to use the intercom to be buzzed in) and the actual room is small. The mat has to be laid out. Apparently the VIP room is very big and fancy and there are DVDs and toys available. It’s near Shinjuku Gyoen-Mae station.

Thanks for the report. India has been on my list of “should go but…” places. I’d love to see it and this has definitely piqued my interest, especially the deal on the flight and the hotel as well as the popularity. Hope you tell us everything.

I moved to Okubo for the next month and wanted to see how long it is if I want to walk to Shinjuku station. Good news, it’s not far. I’m very conveniently located for trains. As soon as I got near the station I recognized where I was and knew I was near the cruisy toilets. Like a moth to a flame… I decided I would just take a look and not bother going in and out of the toilets and bothering with whatever happened at the urinals, though I did have to go in an pee once I got there. It was after 5 on a Friday and the restroom was surprisingly quiet. A few guys came in and showed interest, but I wasn’t up for the ritual. I went back outside and just waited to see if anyone interesting came along and if they showed any interest in me. I was standing outside the Shinjuku L Tower (in the underground concourse). The restroom there seems to be the secondary cruising spot. The main one is outside of Odakyu near Exit A16 (I think) and there is an annoying announcement that keeps repeating. This spot seems less known, but is still very active. I kept looking at the guy who was now standing directly across from me and he was definitely cruising me. I went into the restroom and stood at a urinal. No one else was there. He came in and pulled out his cock and got hard immediately. Ok, so now what? Another guy came in and ruined our chances of doing anything there. I zipped up and washed my hands. He followed. I waited for his lead. He left and went back towards the main cruisy restroom. I really didn’t want to bother and if he went that way, I was going to signal that I didn’t want to. Back in the 90s, I’d done plenty there, but now there is a sign on the inside of the door in Japanese and English saying police might knock on the door to make sure everything is okay - their way of saying “we will come and check if we think you’re fucking in the toilet”. Thankfully, he turned to go into Odakyu. He kept turning around to make sure I was following. I thought the art of cruising had been lost with the dating apps. It was still alive in the bowels of Shinjuku station. He walked towards the back, towards the restroom on the first floor of Odakyu, where I’d been led the other day but interrupted by an annoying cock blocker. Rather than going there, he turned to go down the stairs to B3. This was a new one for me. I wasn’t sure where we were going. There was a sliding door that he opened that led into a restaurant hall or something. I need to go back and check it out. I was too focused on following this guy to see what was there. Right inside the door was a sign for the restroom. I went inside and he was at the urinal. Another guy was legitimately using the restroom. I went into one of the stalls and waited. When the other patrons left, I unlocked the door and he joined me. He was a really cute guy who was probably in his early 20s. Nice cock, beautiful body and lovely little nipples. He took off his shirt and had me take off mine. We kissed, sucked each other and He eventually came while I was sucking his nipples (at his direction). I didn’t cum (saving it for today and I was still too nervous). It was a fun time and now I’m encouraged to keep checking. When I lived here in the 90s, I met several guys who I ended up seeing more than once. There were no dating apps, and the saunas were not really welcoming places. The only bar for us was GB. A lot has changed, but I really miss the days of good old cruising. I’m glad to see it’s still alive and well in Tokyo.

Thanks for the report. Since I’m in Japan, when I saw this post, I thought it might be here and got excited when I first started reading it. But of course it’s Thailand. Sounds nice. I wonder if anything can ever replace Babylon, but this sounds like it might be close? Do you feel farang were welcome? What about older guys?

This week I found a new favorite spot just outside of Tokyo - Chichibu. I went mainly because there is this very cool train - Laview - that runs from Ikebukuro to Chichibu. I didn’t know much about the place itself, but I fell in love with it. One of the best things about it is that there is an onsen right next to the train station. It’s part of the station complex, which includes a food hall, bear and sake bar and a gift/souvenir shop. My question is about cruising at onsen. Does it happen? If so, how and where does it go? I went up to Chichibu on Tuesday and then returned yesterday. There were several hot guys in the onsen. Quite a few were openly showing off. One had a semi-hard on which he partially hid. Yesterday, there weren’t as many people, which was kind of nice. I noticed one guy come out from the lie flat baths who was checking me out. He was cute, had a nice body and nice plump dick. I was sitting a lounge chair outside letting my body cool down after sitting in one of the baths. He sat pretty much directly across from me. Every now and then, he’d sneak a glance at me. We continued exchanging glances and he was sort of following me around. I’d get into one of the baths and he’d follow. I’d get out, and he’d get out. I wasn’t sure what to do. Then he went inside and sat on a chair. I had a massage appointment, so I went inside and changed to the pajamas I’d rented. I went to the relaxation room to wait for my massage and there he was, fully dressed, in a chair just a few feet away. I went and got my massage, then returned to the baths. As soon as I got into a tub, he reappeared. It definitely seemed like he was following me. I only had a little time after my massage before I had to get ready for my train. I went into the locker room to change and he followed. As I got dressed, so did he. I left and he followed. We went downstairs to the kiosk to check out. He was right next to me. We walked out to the shoe lockers and got our shoes. He walked out first. I expected to see him waiting outside as soon as I left. I walked through the exit doors into the parking lot and he was gone. He had completely vanished. So I have two questions. What do you think this guy was up to and why did he follow me out but then disappear and is cruising ever possible at an onsen or sento? Attaching a few photos of Laview.

I wasn’t planning on paying. He approached me and wanted sex. He never mentioned money. And after what happened, I definitely would have never engaged with him again, but if that’s your thing, enjoy.

Yesterday, I went to an onsen in Chichibu. There were some really hot guys there. Young Japanese men have the most incredible asses. One guy was super hot and had a really nice big dick that he was happy to show off. I also noticed a few semi-hardons. Well, needless to say, after all of this, I was horny, so when I got back to Tokyo, I decided to try the toilets in Shinjuku station again. There is the one right outside of Odakyu and then there’s another one I learned about around the corner right outside of Shijuku Tower. Both of them were very busy and several guys were showing off some really nice cocks. And then there were the annoying cock blockers. One guy just seemed to show up every time I got close to making a connection. I can’t remember how I did it back in the 90s, but somehow I would find places to have sex. I kept trying and if nothing else, I was getting a lot of exercise (but to be honest, I’m too old for this). A cute younger guy made eye contact and as he walked past me did the old turn around (It’s been years since I’ve seen this move) to see if I was following him. So I did. He kept walking and turning around, and I kept following. He led me to the other busy toilets. First we went to the B2 of Odakyu. I remember Odakyu was also a place I’d hook up with guys, but they seem to have moved things around. As we entered Odakyu however, he comes the annoying cock block out of nowhere. We raced towards the restroom in the back and he was right behind. We went into the restroom and the guy I was following pulled out his dick and started to get hard, and then cock block shows up. I went and washed my hands, the guy I was following (to make it easier I’ll just call him Kenji) zipped up and we left. We walked to the elevator and got on. He pressed 8. I thought we’d ditched cock block. The 8th floor is restaurants and one of the restaurants near the restrooms is closed, so I thought we had a chance. We went into the restroom and two guys came in to actually pee. When then left, sure enough, here comes cock block. Kenji and I zipped up and left. We walked around the 8th floor and cock block followed. I was seriously getting annoyed. Kenji walked back to the restroom and cock block followed him. I just got on the elevator and went back to the cruisy restrooms in the station. Before I knew it, Kenji was back, starting over, giving me the look. He led me back to Odakyu, but they were closing. This time he led me to another restroom next to Odakyu in a sub-basement where there were some little restaurants. I typed into Google translate, “Do you only want me to chase you?” And showed it to him. It felt like a game with no conclusion. He shook his head “no” and pulled out his dick, which seemed harder now. I thought I had a chance, but the restroom got busy. I left again and walked back to starting point. This time when Kenji returned, he led me into the restroom in Shinjuku Tower. This was also one of the restrooms where I used to meet guys and fool around. One guy worked in a stationary store on the same floor and would take me into the closed store and we’d fuck there. I thought all of these restrooms were super patrolled now and the action had died. Apparently not. As soon as Kenji and I got to the stalls, another cock block showed up. I gave up. I left. It took a while for him to show up again, but this time when Kenji gave me the look, I just waved. I was done chasing him around. So, the point of this post is to say the restrooms in Shinjuku station are still very active, but I can’t for the life of me figure out how to actually do anything with anyone there, and at my age, it is much easier just to hire someone. Now, about those boys at the onsen…whew!

Since we’re sharing stories of when we were in similar situations, this happened to me in Santo Domingo. I was sitting on an outside terrace of a hotel in the Zona Colonial (I forget the name and am not sure if it is still there). They had a policy of charging for visitors and it wasn’t cheap. A guy approached me, seemed quite nervous and said he wanted to fuck me. He also had this weird story about his ID. It was very complicated. That should have been my red flag. I told him he needed ID to come up to my room. He said he knew a place we could go and told me the price. He made no mention of me paying him. Of course, I should have known. I went up to my room and got some cash. I don’t remember the price, so please don’t get stuck on this number, but let’s say it was 250 pesos for the room. I grabbed 500. (This number could be totally wrong, but this happened years ago and it’s been a while since I’ve been to the DR, so I forget prices of things). I didn’t bring anything else with me. We went to this place near the entrance of El Conde and got a room. When we got there, I paid. I was supposed to get half back in change. He grabbed it from the woman and we went to the room. I was okay with that, even though it was not the “deal” I thought we had. He fucked me like crazy. It was actually very hot. When we finished, he asked me how much I was going to pay him. I told him he never mentioned money and he had already taken my money. He said he wanted more - some crazy number like $100, or maybe even more. I said I had to go back to my room. We walked down El Conde. My mouth was dry and I was freaking out. We passed a police box and I thought of approaching them, but wasn’t sure how they would respond. When we got to my hotel, he had to wait outside because he “didn’t have ID”. I went up to my room and called the front desk and told them what was going on. A little later, I went downstairs and he wasn’t there. I was totally shook from the experience. It was a close call. Since then, when I have gone back to the DR, I’ve stayed in a hotel that requires ID. When they say they don’t have ID, it is definitely a red flag.

Yes, love motels seem safe. When I was in Medellin, I used one once. It was a bit of a strange experience, but they knew what we were there for. They told me to lock up my valuables and also they made sure to check the ID of the guy I was meeting. He was a professional escort I met on Grindr, (but also advertised on Mileroticos) and would not even leave his home until I was checked into the motel and sent him a photo. There were precautions all around.

Thank you for helping him and sharing this with us. It was a horrible situation and I hope James can recover from the trauma. This serves as a good warning for us. Yes, there were red flags, but it’s very easy to miss them when you are being hit on constantly by really hot guys who would otherwise ignore you at home. No judgement on “James”. This could have been any of us.

When I lived here in the 90s, I had a lot of fun in the toilets in Shinjuku Station and the BYGS building in ni-chome. When I came back 20 years later, in 2015, I thought Grindr and security cameras had put an end to all of that. On this trip, out of curiosity, I stopped by the toilet in Shinjuku Station and found it was still cruisy. Nothing happened on that first visit. Since then, every time I’m in the station, I have stopped by there, just to see what is going on. Today, Saturday, I went to Thermae Yu, a sento/onsen/spa where I think things might happen, but so far I’ve not had any luck. After seeing some beautiful young bodies, I was horny and on my way home, stopped in the toilet again. This time it was very active. Several younger guys were standing at the urinals and it was clear they were interested in me. One guy went from the urinal to a stall. I followed. He had the door open. I stood there looking to see what he would do because there were still people at the stalls and I didn’t want to be obvious. Some older Japanese guy just came over and stood in front of me - um, hello, you were not invited sir. I signaled to the guy in the stall to go somewhere else. I walked out and he followed. Then I let him lead the way. He took me around the corner to another restroom and went into the handicap stall. I followed. We had a fun time. He had a really nice dick and seriously wanted to get fucked. We just fooled round until he came and then I left. To be honest, I was feeling nervous. I guess the part of my brain that considers consequences hadn’t fully developed in my 30s, but at 65, I was imagining the police dragging me off to jail. Anyway, for those who might be interested. The cruisy toilet in Shinjuku station is right outside of Odakyu Department store. I think the exits are A17 and A18. You’ll know it when you see it. There are usually guys standing outside of it or around the corner. I’m glad to see it is still active. Not sure how much I will actually play there, but back in the day, I met some great guys who became fuck buddies.

Thanks. I thought it was kind of funny that he asked me if his dick lived up to the photo. Well, at least he bought me lunch

I’m here in Tokyo for two months and while I’m not having sex every day, I am definitely having more than I have in the sexual desert of the SF Bay Area (mainly because of where I live + my age). I could hire guys, but my experience with that has been mixed, and it can get expensive. But I know there is one guy I definitely want to hire (I saw him last time and it was the most satisfying sex), but I’m waiting until I really need a good fuck. In the meantime, I’m relying on Grindr and 24 Kaikan in Shinjuku. Initially, I wasn’t going to write about this encounter because maybe it’s not that interesting. But for what it’s worth… When I first arrived, I had several guys hit me up on Grindr. One was a kind of nerdy looking Japanese guy who had a really nice dick. Unfortunately, he lived in Saitama prefecture, probably about an hour from where I’m staying. He said he comes to Tokyo sometimes, but also invited me to visit him there. When I was in Kyoto in February, I went to a guy’s apartment and the place smelled like cigarette smoke. He had a huge ashtray that was filled with cigarette butts. I couldn’t wait to leave. Is this a sign of my age that I don’t want to go to someone’s place if they are a messy housekeeper? I was hesitant to travel all of that distance to find myself in a small, smelly apartment with a stranger. But I was horny, so last weekend, I messaged the guy to see if he was available, used Japan Travel app to plot out the route, and set out to Saitama to meet a 27-year-old with a nice dick. The trip was fun. It wasn’t that complicated and I took an express train part of the way, so it went fast. The guy was waiting for me at the station and was cuter in person than in his photos. His English was very good, and exchanges with him were kind of funny. He said things in English that only someone who had lived in the states would say. He seemed to have a good sense of humor. This also came out in person, though I think he might have had some sort of attention deficit disorder because he’d ask me a question and as I started to answer, he’s ask a different question. I found it challenging to talk to him. As we were walking the 10 minutes up and down hills to his place in the 80-degree humidity, he revealed to me that he wasn’t Japanese. He was Cambodian. He thought he had mentioned it in our exchanges, but he hadn’t. It didn’t matter to me. He was tall and thin and cute and kind of funny. By the time we got to his apartment, which was small, but clean and filled with aromatherapy products (so it smelled nice) I was drenched in sweat and exhausted. He had a small kitchen and a bedroom with only a bed to sit on. Well, you know where things went. As I started playing with his dick, it seemed smaller than in the photo. He asked me if it lived up to the photo, which I thought was an odd question, because in fact it didn’t. It was definitely the same cock, but it looked much smaller in person. Did he somehow enlarge it in the photo? Why would he ask me that question. I just said, “hmmm… I need to examine it closer” and went down to suck it. It did not live up to the photo. After we finished, he took me to a cute little Chinese restaurant in his neighborhood. I think he wanted me to stay. He was going to make a desert and bought steak for dinner, but I was ready to return to my spacious Airbnb, so I left. I was glad I went. I got to see a part of Japan I’d never seen before. I got away from the tourist crowds and met a cute, funny, albeit a bit quirky guy. I will probably see him again even though his dick definitely did not live up to the picture. Sorry this isn’t terribly exciting, but I thought I’d share this unusual experience. Maybe someone can explain the dick pic to me.

The one who wanted me to go to his city was actually very hot. My issue was he must have sent me an expiring dick pic, so I didn’t have anything to look at. Even though he did a video call and showed me his dick, it still wasn’t enough for me to want to take several buses to get to where he was. I didn’t understand why he initially told me he was in Takasaki when he wasn’t. And in the end, I was having more fun visiting these interesting, out of the way sites, and it meant I would have had to give up at least a half a day to go meet a stranger. The second guy had a big dick, but in some of the pictures it looked really ugly. If he had been more insistent about coming to where I was, I probably would have said ok. It was a nice adventure, and sometimes it’s not about the sex. What really surprised me was that there was no one on Grindr. There must have been some gay Japanese in the area. How do they meet each other?

Update on the Nepali guys I went to see. The first one, who was really cute, had a nice dick and did a short video call with me, told me he was In Takasaki. When I did a little research about Takasaki, it looked like it might be a good place for a short visit, so I booked 3 nights in a hotel and went up by Shinkansen. When I told him I was going to be there, he then informed me he lived 45 minutes away. As I prepared for my trip, I wasn’t sure if I was going to see him or not, but I figured if I did, it would be a bonus. The other guy who contacted me was in the capital of Gunma, also a short distance away from Takasaki. Well, long story short, I never saw either one of them. But, I had the best time (non-sexual) in Takasaki. I visited three very interesting temples, and absolutely loved the place. It was like Tokyo but without all of the people, and I was definitely one of the few western tourists there. In the end, I was having more fun visiting these amazing sites and didn’t want the hassle of going to some guy’s place for what could be a disappointing encounter. Back in Tokyo now and hoping to have some fun this weekend.

Thanks. Apparently, there are many in Gunma prefecture, where I am headed now. I’ll report back. I’m intrigued.

I’m in Tokyo for two months. I retired a year ago, and the US is too crazy right now (plus, I get bored at home), so I came here for a little sanity. I’m trying to hold off on hiring guys and have been exploring places I’ve never been before, like the Glory Hole Place (Suck’d Glory) and other saunas. The toilet in Shinjuku Station where I used to get lucky back in the 90s is still active, though the guys I’ve seen there are not really my type. Anyway, one thing I’ve noticed is there are a lot of guys from Nepal. I met one in 24 Kaikan who then found me on Grindr and said he wanted to meet again (but when I saw him again this past Saturday, he wasn’t interested). Two very hot guys messaged me from Gunma prefecture and I decided to spend a few days in Takasaki, Gunma, just to see something else and also see if either of these guys were available to meet. I’m wondering if anyone has had experience with guys from Nepal. What’s the deal with them? Are these guys gay? Are they gay for pay? Am I asking a question about something that is nothing? It just seems odd to me that so many of them would be contacting me on Grindr. Or is it just not odd at all? (I’m just wondering why guys who are so far away would be contacting ME). BTW, there was another guy, also from Nepal, who was very insistent on Grindr. I could see he was far, so I wasn’t really interested. In a case where I am not really interested, I have a saved phrase that I send immediately (helps weed out the scammers) “Show me your dick”. I sent him that and he said he didn’t have any photos, so I told him to take one. He said it was 8 cm. I asked, “8 cm?” To make sure he hadn’t left off a 1. He said it was big. I just kept insisting - take a photo. When he said he wasn’t alone, I told him to go into the bathroom. Normally, I would have just blocked him, but I was having fun in a strange way because the whole interaction was so stupid. Finally, he sent me a photo of a big beautiful cock. But he forgot to crop off the bit at the bottom about where the photo came from (some porn site). I responded with a laughing emoji, but he persisted. Eventually, he did take a photo of his cock. I don’t know if it was 8 cm, but it was small. At that point, I just said, “you lied to me and I can’t trust you” and blocked him. I’m off to Gunma today to see if anything happens, and if it doesn’t, at least I have a few nights in a new place. But, if you have had experience with guys from Nepal, either in Nepal, or in Japan, or anywhere else, I’d love to know your experience.