joizy

I have two poppers stories. I came out when I was 17. I had a friend who was a few years older. Back then, we called them “fag hags” - she fit the stereotype - a little chubby, only gay friends who thought she was fabulous, not attractive to straight men at all (let’s just say, she was a bit much). She was my date to our homecoming dance in my senior year. She wanted black flowers. We had been going to gay discos for a few months together by then and always did poppers on the dance floor. We decided to sneak poppers into the homecoming dance. But how would we do them without being detected. She had the brilliant idea of putting them on a tissue and hiding it in her flowers, which we did. As soon as we walked into the cafeteria, where the dance was, people started freaking out. “What is that smell?” They were looking all over. She went into the bathroom and flushed the evidence down the toilet. No one ever figured out it was us. When I moved to SF in the 90s, I was getting acupuncture at a clinic near my apartment. One night I went to a sex club. I had poppers in my cargo shorts pocket. I woke up late for my acupuncture appointment the next day, threw on my shorts and walked very quickly to my acupuncture appointment. By the time I got there, the cap had come off of the poppers and my shorts were soaked. I couldn’t go back and change. As I sat in the waiting room, the receptionist reacted first. “What is that smell?” They couldn’t figure out where it was coming from and fortunately, I was not a suspect. Then when I went into the treatment room and the smell followed, no one made the connection. The window was open and there was construction outside, so they blamed that and closed the windows. I couldn’t not get out of there fast enough. I have stopped buying them, but if someone offers them to me I usually don’t say no.

So true.

Does anyone use Snapchat? It’s a whole other world and I am curious if anyone can help enlighten me. I’ve been asked before if I had Snap,when I asked people for photos and I said no and had no interest in downloading it. But for some reason, after I arrived for a month-long stay in Philadelphia, I downloaded it and created a profile. Not long after that, it came in handy. I was visiting my brother in New Jersey in a small town about 40 minutes from the shore - really in the middle of nowhere. As we were heading back to Philly, I saw I had a message on Sniffies. A guy was saying I should visit a certain Italian grocery store there which I was familiar with because my brother loves it and I am so envious that it’s where he lives. It is Italian grocery Mecca. I told this guy I loved it, and then figured out that he worked there. When I asked him for photos, he asked if I had Snap, and this time I did. He became my first friend. He sent me a video of him jacking off and shooting an amazing cum shot. Then he sent me another. And another. It was wild. I was new to all of this, so I didn’t know the etiquette. I saved them (and still watch them because they are really hot). He’s a really cute NJ Italian deli boy. I so wanted him but he just wanted to flirt on snap (and may have a girlfriend). Then I noticed friend suggestions (after I made sure none of my friends or contacts could find me). They were things like “gooners” and “bators” and lots of guys with some variation of “hung” in their name. I am assuming they were all friends of my new friend, deli boy. I started adding friends and they added me back. Some of them are straight, some haven’t added me back, but quite a few have sent me snaps of big beautiful cocks swinging around, cumming or jerking off. What is this? As one who used to have to sneak into an adult bookstore to buy a porno mag, this is a whole new level of access to sexual stimulation that I am bewildered and intrigued by. Can anyone share helpful insights on how we might use this for fun? Otherwise, I think Snap is useful for those guys who are still closeted and afraid that someone will discover their deep dark secret.

I am heading back in a few weeks and this time I have Snapchat installed, so we’ll see if that makes a difference. I’ll be in Calabria and probably visiting Sicily. Now that I am familiar with the fascination that some Italian boys have with daddies, I’m going to try to use that to my advantage. Fingers crossed. In Puglia, my Grindr profile was looking for a conversation exchange partner, and I will do the same in Calabria. It really is my first priority and I’d rather converse with another gay person than some random stranger where I feel I have to hide. I had one good partner in Puglia, and even though he wanted to kiss me and wanted more that I didn’t deliver, he took me to some interesting places and I feel like it was a worthwhile exchange.

Beautiful photos. I don’t know if people do these things for bragging rights. I think a more likely motivation nowadays is so they can post it on Instagram, so maybe that is a form of bragging. I have found that people aren’t really interested in some of the more amazing things I’ve done. And the things where I experienced hardship were not for any bragging rights (or even to post on social media because I did them before it existed), but because I was not aware that I could say no when a guide suggested I climb a mountain in the heat and humidity of the Cambodian jungle to see lingam (whatever that is), or that I climb a mountain in Tepoztlan, Mexico to see a graffiti-covered temple. I’ve had many painful experiences and now, thanks to my age, I can simply say “no thank you” when someone suggests I climb something. Though I must say, one of the more amazing things I have done, which wasn’t terribly difficult, was to climb to the top of Borobudur to see the sun rise on my birthday. I’m not bragging though.

Today I had a very pleasant surprise. I’ve been here for four weeks. Using Grindr, Sniffies and Jack’d to find guys (see above), and while I’ve had a few hot encounters, there has also been a lot of game playing that had left me feeling frustrated and a little cranky. In addition to all of the scammers that have invaded Grindr, I’ve also been having an issue with seemingly hot guys who are either catfishing me or just playing games. We’ll communicate and then they go silent and/or block me and disappear. At this point, I really was tired of it. Yesterday (Saturday) I had the usual run of scammers and game players so by the afternoon I wasn’t in the mood. A very hot, cute, younger guy hit me up on Grindr. He had a nice body and a nice cock. He said he was driving and on his way to a wedding reception (texting while driving?) but could meet later that day or today (Sunday). All seemed cool until he asked for more pics. I sent him album and he went silent. I wrote ‘I guess you’re not interested”. A little later, he messaged me and said he was driving but thought I was really hot. There still was hope, but frankly, I didn’t think anything would happen. And then another guy messaged me. He sent face, full body with cock, and a dick pick. He was super cute, really nice smile, brown skinned, but ambiguous racially, with a nice big dick. When I asked what he was looking for, he said, “your lips on my cock” and called me a hot daddy. I was already feeling burned, so when he stopped messaging me, I wrote, “I guess you’re just playing”. I wanted to write more, but left it at that and deleted the message. I was looking forward to going home in a few days. This morning started off with a bunch of new messages - some interesting prospects, a few I wasn’t interested in, and a bunch of scammers. As I was on my way home from the gym, I got a message from the guy from yesterday. His profile is not filled out and has no photo. Fortunately, he was replying to my message from yesterday where I said I thought he was just playing and wrote, “Not at all. Just got busy.” so I knew who he was. He asked if I wanted to hang out. I said “sure” but was skeptical, so I asked him to do a video chat. He agreed and sure enough, he was the same guy, looking very cute in person. We talked for a bit, he agreed to come to my place (after first wanting me to go to his) and before I knew it, he had Ubered himself over. He was a super cute 22 year old light-skinned black guy, student at Penn, on the ski team, bi and tennis player. I couldn’t believe he was attracted to me, but he told me he liked daddies and thought I was very hot. He ended up staying four hours. We made out a lot. I sucked his dick, he came all over me (and the bed) and we cuddled and talked while his dick kept getting hard just about any time I moved (ah to be 22 again). He came one more time before he left and we exchanged info. It was such a fun and pleasant experience and restored my faith in humanity. He said he had discussed the ghosting issue with some friends and said it was because people get freaked out and change their minds. We kind of laughed about my grumpy response to him and he said it happens often with older guys. I told him I hoped I gave him a new perspective on why it might be happening (if other guys are experiencing the same time wasters I am), but I also learned that there are some real people out there, so maybe a balance between being cautious and open might work in my favor. I’m sorry he hadn’t found me sooner, but at least I am leaving Philly with a very sweet memory and a new friend. As I get myself back into shape after my COVID body phase, I am finding that there are quite a few people to whom age is not really the issue, but fitness does seem to matter. Not sure how long this will last, but I am enjoying my hot daddy phase of life.

I don’t know why we don’t have a USA forum, but since we don’t, I’ll just post this here. I’ve been in Philly for a month. I am from just across the river in South Jersey and I lived here in the 80s. Came out in 1977 and the streets were filled with sex. When I lived here in the 80s, pre-AIDS, sex was also everywhere, but once AIDS hit, things calmed down somewhat, though there were still many public places to have sex along with bookstores, bath houses, arcades, etc. Now, things have change. There are still a few parks and public places, a few bath houses and a few arcades, but nothing like what it used to be. Apps have taken over. I am 65 years old, well past my prime, but recently getting back in shape and not bad looking. This is a rundown of my experience and some tips for visitors. Apps: Grindr is a huge scam operation now, but I did make a few contacts. One cute young Latino with a nice dick who hit me up the next day for a repeat. But the scammers are out of control. Sniffies seems to be much more popular here than where I live in California. Perhaps because this is a big city and where I live is more suburban. I made many many contacts through Sniffies. The thing I like is you can see where they are. Also, the scammers haven’t taken over like they have Grindr. I’m currently waiting for a bi married guy I had a great time with the other night to tell me when he wants me to go back to his hotel for another round. He found me three weeks ago before he came to Philly on a business trip and told me when he’d be here. I didn’t actually believe he would follow through, but we had the best time and I can’t wait to see him again tonight. However, Sniffies did have a problem with guys who would contact me, express interest, even go so far as to set up a day and time, and then either ghost me or block me. It happened enough and others told me it happened to them, that I believe it was not just a fluke. Something about the app and the guys here. So it’s something to be aware of. Jack’d is popular with men of color and those who like them. I also had a few hits there. Met one guy, who was a disappointment. Was contacted by a few others who seemed promising but never came though. Baths There are two bathhouses in Center City - I went to Club Philly last Sunday evening. It’s half off on Sundays after 4 (also during the week at lunch time) - you have to get a membership (daily membership is $10) and then room or locker is extra. For a room last Sunday it was $30. The crowd was sparse, and tended towards older, but I played with a few hot older guys. Ended up sucking off a hot daddy (if he’s younger than me is he still a daddy) who after we finished saw my Italian horn on a chain that I wear and said, “Italian?” When I said yes, he said, “figures. With that mouth.” Hmmm…I don’t know if it was a compliment or not. He then called me “Sal”. I think he was kind of jerk, but he had a nice dick and I enjoyed sucking him off. Club Philly is several floors with quite a few play areas. It seems to get very busy on the weekend with a line out the door waiting to get in. As has been my experience around the world, the front desk staff is not friendly at all. But don’t let them deter you. It is worth a visit. Escorts I did make contact with a few on Grindr and Sniffies but never followed through. I thought I had an agreement with one guy and then he never got back to me. His loss, since I was willing to pay. He was asking $100 for me to suck him. He had a beautiful body and cock. I didn’t bother to check the official escort pages because I knew they were out of my range. I think there are quite a few guys available for hire if you can figure out how to do that. I had a bad experience here a few years ago, so I have been more cautious about who I invite to my place (I’m in an Airbnb where I am not supposed to have guests). I have been very sexually active while here, and while not all were people I’d want to see again, it has been fun to feel desirable at my age. My married friend told me I was the best sex he ever had with a man. So,if you are looking for a US city to visit and if sex is one of the things you would hope to find, I’d say put Philly on your list. There are also many other wonderful things about the city - great architecture, theater, arts, museums, parks, and restaurants galore. Lots of neighborhoods to explore beyond Center City. I may be biased but it is up there on my top five list of favorite cities in the world. I also love the people. Friendly, but blunt and direct. I always know where I stand with Philadelphians (unlike people in California, who confuse the hell out of me). If you come, avoid the heat of summer (or dead of winter) - late August/early September has been very nice, a few hot days, but mostly pleasant. Lots of hot young college boys running around in short shorts and/or shirtless, so there is always eye candy. Definitely put Philadelphia on your list.

Such a joke when they ask you to be specific. As if they are unaware of January 6, the “perfect phone call” to Zelenzky, the call to Raffensburger, sending troops into US cities to round up and intimidate American citizens. I don’t even bother responding to them because they are so unserious.

I like to check in on these forums every now and then to see what folks are up to, and of course when I am traveling abroad, it’s a useful source of information, but right now I am in Philly and I wish I could get the kind of information about men for hire that I can get when I’m traveling. Is it because it’s so expensive here, or it just doesn’t exist in places like Thailand, Colombia, DR or Brazil? I have been using Grindr and Sniffies and having some success with free sex, but I would love to be able to hire a really hot guy and know it’s safe. I would appreciate any tips if anyone has any.

Yeah, that was my experience and I didn’t find anything in this forum about good massage plus extras like what you find in Thailand. Seems Peter found some options, but you’d be going in blind since no one here has written about them, so we have no first-hand experience. Maybe you can try one and let us know? I think there is nothing like Thailand when it comes to getting a fully satisfying massage.

I was just looking through this forum and forgot this had happened to me. I wanted to post an update in case this happens to anyone else. When I got back, I called Metro PCS and they said that they didn't have my address for 911 emergency calls. I don't know if this was because I was abroad, using a VPN or what, but it seemed very odd to me that this became an issue after more than a month in Japan and changed from morning to evening. They assured me I wouldn't have this problem again. So, if you find that all of a sudden you don't have WiFi calling, reach out to your carrier if you can. Seems kind of obvious, but of course, I couldn't make any calls.

There are several agencies in Osaka and Tokyo featuring a lot of twinks (as well as other types). As others have said, best to read through the Japan forums. I contributed a lot recently and so have others. I found the information there extremely useful and it's not too cluttered. Happy to answer more specific questions once you've read some of the other posts if you still have any. Also, they are not really "massage" places. I had a few massages and they were mediocre. You're hiring for sex, or if you want, a bf experience. It's not like in Thailand where massage is a precursor to other things.

Baggage fees are not that much. I have found it’s about half the price of a business class seat. Not sure if you’re talking about lie flat or economy though.

I’ve flown Zip Air and it is very basic, but if you want a lie flat seat, I’ve found it’s about half the price of business class so it’s worth it. There are extra charges for everything. I pay for checked and extra carry on luggage, but not to choose my seat (only necessary if you are traveling with someone and you want to sit near them). I skip the amenity package and bring my own blow up pillow and blanket. Also, skip the food. It’s not good. What I like about it, opposed to business class, is I don’t feel like I need to stay awake for the food and drink (because I feel like I’m paying for that), so I go right to sleep. I pack snacks and order water on the flight (you can also order from a limited menu in flight). They have free WiFi but it’s spotty (for me). I also pay for the express service, which means my bags are priority tagged, so they come off first, and you get express check-in - though at Narita they asked to see my receipt first (!) until finally someone looked me up and found that I had indeed paid for the service (they are much stricter and a little weird in Japan). I flew them twice this year to Narita and it’s so much better than sitting upright for 9-11 hours. If I could find a business class seat on another Japanese airline for anywhere near the price I get on Zip Air, I’d definitely go with them, but this works and makes the trip bearable. I also like their departure and arrival times from SFO.

Personally, I had a hard time with Brokeback Mountain. I think I was influenced by the Celluloid Closet - a great documentary about censorship in film that basically made sure that gay characters did not exist, and if they did, they were portrayed as unhappy, in unfulfilling relationships, were suicidal or died before the end of the film. I saw Brokeback as fitting that pattern. I much preferred In and Out which got much less attention, but still featured some pretty big names. I made the mistake of seeing it at a theater in San Francisco and missed half of it because the laughter was so loud. It was much more positive and really about acceptance. And it was hysterical.

I don’t think BKK is the best place for public toilet cruising. It used to be possible in the toilets in Silom Center, but there is always a cleaning person there now. I used to try it in the 90s, because in Tokyo where I was living, that was the easiest way to meet people, but never had any luck in BKK. If you want to try it, it still happens in Shinjuku Station in Tokyo, but if you’re older and not hung, it’s basically a waste of time. Here’s how it works though. You have to be in a cruisy toilet. Just any old restroom won’t do. Stand at the urinal and play with your dick. If the guy next to you is interested, he’ll do the same. Sometimes people just jerk off at the urinal. Sometimes, you can sneak into a stall, but that is less common now because security people are on to it, there are often cameras, and like I said in BKK, cleaning personnel seem to always be present. In Tokyo, I often met guys in toilets and then we’d go back to my place. Toilet cruising was how we met each other before apps. I was never a fan of bars, so I often met guys in cruising areas - toilets, parks, etc.

I’d rather die than remain in detention indefinitely. If the ICE goons tried to kidnap me, they’d have to kill me, because I definitely would not go willingly, especially to a torture center in El Salvador.

Ok, this is what I was referring to in Old Daddy’s post. I really find this unfortunate and not my thing at all. If this is what the majority of guys in the Philippines have done, I definitely won’t be going there.

Good tip. Not sure what mooks are - those balls that they have inserted? I think in the Philippines it’s more than a poor snip job. Isn’t it a cultural practice? I think I read it here.

I had that experience with a Malay guy I met at the sauna here in Tokyo. The first day we met, he wanted to go out for tea. I just wanted to go back to my Airbnb, but he was persistent, so we went out for tea and then dinner. He’s 30 years younger than I am, so we really didn’t have much to talk about. He came to visit me last week. Ended up staying so long, I finally said, “I’ll walk you to the station.” (He had actually said he could spend the night, but I told him I can’t sleep with someone in my bed.) I kind of thought it was because he’s living here alone and doesn’t really have a social circle and just wanted a boyfriend experience. Maybe we’re over that phase of our lives and just wanted to have sex and then go take a nap. How were their cocks though? One problem I have with Filipino cocks is I don’t like the half circumcision that they do. I don’t like sucking them (I actually prefer uncut) Did you find that a lot in your encounters or is it less common than it appears from my limited experience with them?

One more complication I discovered the past few days - getting a taxi. I have been walking A LOT! I did a 34 temple pilgrimage in Chichibu, and even though I hired a car and driver, I still had to walk a lot. One temple had 296 steps (it was worth the climb). My feet have been killing me and I have tendonitis in my right foot. So I’ve been trying to minimize walking and am taking the bus to the station or trying to take taxis. The other day, returning from Thermae Yu, where I have been soaking to try to help with the foot pain, I tried catching a taxi to come home. None of them would stop. I thought maybe I was in a no stopping zone, so I moved away from the intersection and eventually got one to stop. Yesterday, I went to Therma Yu early and it was pouring down rain. I stood on the main street near my Airbnb and one taxi after another passed without stopping. At first I thought it was because I was a foreigner (anti gai-jin PTSD from the 90s activated), but then I thought maybe they couldn’t stop because it was a four-lane busy street. So I moved to another street where it seemed more likely they could stop. They didn’t. I ended up walking. I asked Chat GPT about this and was told that there are places where taxis are unable to stop and there are fines for violations. It reassured me that at least it wasn’t because I was a foreigner. What I don’t understand though is that the street where they would not stop to pick me up is the same street where I was dropped off the other day. So they can stop to drop you off but not to pick you up? Chat GPT recommended going to some taxi pick up spots - the nearest was an 8-minute walk, which if I did, would put me 4 minutes away from my destination and absolutely defeat the purpose of taking a taxi. Does anyone know about rules for taxis in Tokyo these days? My only experience from when I lived here was catching a taxi in ni-chome if I missed the last train. There was usually a line of taxis on the street and as long as it wasn’t a peak period, it was pretty simple catching one. Oh, and I have used the app, but there’s a service charge. Also wondering, if they can’t pick you up when you hail them on certain streets, would they be able to pick you up on those same streets if you use the taxi Go app? None of this makes sense to me.

Compared to other times when I walked in and was met with a hardon at my locker, this was pretty empty and it really took me a while to find fun. But glad I eventually did.

To complete my research, I went to 24 Kaikan in ni-chome today to see what it was like on a Wednesday afternoon. My goal for this week was to try to go after 5, but it doesn’t look like that is going to happen. I got there around 3 and left around 6:30, so I can report on what it was like. When I arrived, there were only a few guys in the bath area and just a few wandering around in the back. No one was interested in me. The seemed mostly Japanese. It was pretty boring for a while. Then I took a chance with a guy in the dry sauna who was lying on his back with his dick exposed. When I touched him and he didn’t brush me away, I went ahead and started sucking him. While I was doing that, I felt someone behind me start playing with my ass. After the guy I was sucking came, I turned around to see this Japanese guy I had played with a few weeks ago was the one playing with my ass. He was a top and liked to rim and fuck. We went to a shower stall because the sauna was too hot and then he led me into the little room with a sling. I’ve never used a sling before, but it was actually a lot of fun and really hot. He eventually came and I continued walking around. It seemed like that was all the action I was going to get. No one seemed interested in me at all. I knew that they cleaned the wet area starting at 5:50, so I went to the 4th floor and took a nap and then walked around a bit up there. One couple was fucking in the video room and a bunch of guys were standing around watching them. I was thinking it might be time for me to leave, but I went down to the 3rd floor again to see if it was closed for cleaning. I was surprised to find it still open, so I went in. There was a cute guy in the bath, but otherwise the place was deserted. I walked to the back to the rain shower room (or whatever it is called) and the guy who was soaking in the bath soon joined me. We started fooling around and then two other guys came in. Eventually it turned into a mini orgy. I took turns sucking all of them, we all kissed and one of the guys sucked me a bit. One of the guys was Taiwanese (we spoke afterwards), another looked Indonesian, and the third was Asian but not Japanese. Other than the Japanese guy who fucked me earlier, as usual, Japanese guys were only playing with other Japanese. When I finally left the rain sauna, I was exhausted. I spoke to the Taiwanese guy a bit, and the Japanese guy who fucked me followed me to my locker and we exchanged numbers. In spite of the slim pickings, I eventually had a wild time. My assessment - Friday afternoons seem like a good time to go, and of course weekends, but other than that, weekdays seem pretty dead in the afternoon. I thought it would get busier after 5, but it didn’t. Since I seem to have a better time when the number of foreigners is higher, I’d say Friday-Sunday seem best for that. I might go back again on Sunday for one last hurrah before I leave.

Yeah, it’s crazy. They finally sent me a photo from Google street view and asked if it was my building. It wasn’t. It was a house around the corner. Even though a taxi, a Grindr hookup and Uber Eats found my building, for some reason the address on Google maps brought us to a house around the corner. It was enough for me to take a screenshot and draw an arrow showing them where he had to turn if he arrived at that location (and the address is clearly marked on my building).

I lived here for 6 years and this is my fourth trip back since I left. My Japanese is basic. I can read hiragana and katakana, and I know some basic kanji. I don’t know how I survived here for 6 years without GPS, translator apps, etc. They have made things so much easier.