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Yes, I do have more sympathy for someone who dies of cancer than I have for one who made a decision to end their life on their own terms. You are right, that is what I believe. I did not say that the friends and family of both individuals did not suffer the same. Death is hard to deal with in ANY situation. Young, old, rich, poor it doesn't matter. The family will suffer no matter the way someone dies. I do think that families of those that commit suicide have a lot more going on in their minds thinking about "could I have done something" "should I have spent more time with them." etc. But, sorry for the individual person who dies, I do have more sympathy for someone who dies of cancer than someone who takes their own life. That may make me a prick to some but it is the way I feel.

Oh my. I did not mean to say that I disdained someone that commits suicide. I do not. I just believe that they made that choice themselves and that is a right they have. It is a choice I respect and have no problem with anyone making that choice. But, I do believe it is a choice. If someone has cancer and commits suicide then they made that choice didn't they? Again, I have no problem with that at all and I would completely understand that choice. I am watching this season of The Big C. I have watched every season. If you watch this show and have not seen this weeks episode, SPOILER ALERT The main character decides that she wants to live life without chemo or radiation and enjoy what time she has left in a dignified manner. Having been the caregiver of many who have died of cancer, this is something I completely understand and something I may even choose for myself when the time comes. But, I hope I can always make decisions about my body and my life and my death. Many do not have that choice. Some do and I envy those people and I do not hold them in contempt.

Great. Can I judge a new poster who just joined the board less than one week ago and admits he did not know the man in question by calling the new poster an asshole or a douche-bag or an idiot if his behavior shows that? I mean, you do say we should judge right?

ha too funny dude. My favorite post in a long time.

Sounds good. Tell us more about yourself Kittyboy. Give us your life story and bio. We are all excited to hear about it and once done, we will be sure to tell more truth when you go into the great hereafter. I think that we could all learn from you and you may inspire us to better behavior. So, sit down and tell us all about yourself.

Great post christianPFC. Thank you. I do not think this has been a failure at all. It is a learning curve and you seem to be ahead of the curve. That is great. The other things that you desire will find their way into your life when you least expect it. But, I bet it is still an amazing fucking journey!

It is so interesting the discussion of the dead and the peace and their soul etc. I guess I am one of those that just believe when you are dead you are dead. There is just nothing after that. Do others follow philosophy that there is an afterlife? Or, like Buddhists a reincarnation? What are your views on death? Also, I have said for years that if I were to get an illness that was going to take my life that I would take my own life when I wanted and on the occasion I wanted. I have no desire to die in a hospital or in any place that I can't full take care of myself. I guess I just prefer to go out on my own time. Do others feel the same about this or differently?

Thanks. I check in every day and post some. I can't post as much about my boring family as I can with Thai boys or Brazil boys. But, I spent most of the last week with programmers working on a fix for the speed issues. I am here though. Thanks for the shout out.

Rhode Island became the tenth state in the nation to legalize same-sex marriage after the state legislature approved the measure on Thursday. Gov. Lincoln Chafee is expected to sign the bill at 5:45 p.m. ET. Last week both the Rhode Island House and Senate approved by large margins measures allowing same-sex couples to wed, but more votes were required after the legislation was tweaked. The law will go into effect August 1. Iowa, New York, Vermont, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Connecticut, Maine, Maryland, Washington and the District of Columbia allow same-sex marriage. Their combined populations, based on U.S. Census estimates for 2012, represent 15.8% of the U.S. population. The addition of Rhode Island's 1,050,292 residents will nudge that up to 16.1%. http://politicalticker.blogs.cnn.com/2013/05/02/tenth-state-set-to-make-same-sex-marriage-legal/

I agree. This thread should be about John and the positive impact he had on so many. Thank you for bringing us back on topic.

I knew you would. You are passionate about the subject. I also wrote what I wrote and stand by it. Cancer which is often not curable by meds and people fight hard to survive is not the same as someone deciding to take their own life. I have had several friends commit suicide and while it is hard for friends and family, it is also their decision. An unstable mind may have led to the decision but for many it is was a decision that made that was easier than living. Those that die of cancer do not get to make that decision. Sorry, but there is little comparison between the two and I am sorry about but I don't not feel sorry for those that take their own life. They made a decision and I respect that and I do believe they should have that right. It may be uncharitable of me but I don't feel sorry for someone who makes a decision to do this. I admit that someone young making that decision brings about different emotions to me than someone who is an adult. I am so glad you think of John and Margaret in the same way. You are too kind and I am sure he is happy you consider him so important.

Let me be clear, I am not upset or angry at you in the least. I thought what you wrote was crass and unneeded. The history does indeed speak for itself. There was nothing you wrote that you have not expressed in the past. Was there really a need to rehash it here in this thread? Is it something you just needed to get off your chest? I also think unfair to compare someone who killed themselves to someone who died of cancer. I guess I have so much more sympathy for those that die of cancer based on many family members who I cared for in the end of their life with the same problem. So, yes, I am biased as well in that. IMHO, What he did/said was wrong and nasty. What you wrote was the same. But, I grew up in the deep south and was always taught to not speak ill of the dead. What is past is past. Let me just ask you, do two wrongs make a right? The man is now dead for goodness sake. Let him rest in peace.

Has it officially opened to the public?

I for one was very happy that everyone that posted about him on this forum had class. Until today.

We made several changes in MySQL settings after we did some modifications to the code. They said it worked but I heard this from them 10 times before. LOL

How do you cure Sweaty balls? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pejgGCVaklE

Can others check and see if this issue is solved? The programmers tell me they think they have it fixed. (Again)

It will be hit and miss for a bit as we have installed slow logging queeries on the site. This lets us know exactly where the slow issues are but it slows down my entire server. It was a needed step and I hope they have some more detail on this in the next day or two. I am trying everything possible to resolve this. It is very odd though as I have several sites with the exact same code and none of them are slow or having issues. It is only this site. My programmers have been working overtime on this but as they work, they are taking away things that were done to improve the site in the past few months one by one to try to test the issue. My apologies for the inconvenience.

Thanks guys. I agree that a phone should be a phone but if you can kill two birds with one stone, it makes sense to me to do it. BTW: I recently purchased the IPhone 5 and could not be happier. But, the BF wants a new phone now.

GREAT Video!

I loved the tweets that came in from Chelsea Clinton, Michelle Obama and others. Great stuff and it shows that the political tide HAS turned. IMHO

I thought it was going to the her fucking Will. I was VERY surprised.

Congratulations to Surfcrest on the new ownership of SGT.

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We are always happy that so many of you came over to this site. We are elated that it was the Right Ones that came. Both TY and I have never liked drama too much. (well, there was this one hotel room I had in Montreal and TY was visiting and a group of escorts from NYC was there and we had just a tee bit of drama that was fun to watch) Thank you all for being such wonderful posters and members here.