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How great would this be? http://www.complex.com/pop-culture/2013/04/johnny-depp-and-meryl-streep-are-getting-musical

THAILAND is a feast for the senses: it's home to the finest street food, ancient ruined temples and beaches so beautiful they scarcely seem real, writes Matt Bolton. Read his full article here: Read more: http://www.news.com.au/travel/world/the-perfect-trip-to-thailand/story-e6frfqai-1226630038137#ixzz2RgTtQWDu

Has this issue been resolved or is everyone still having problems?

John was a great deal of fun to go out and spend time with him. He made many a boring evening for me very enjoyable and full of laughs. He will be missed. RIP

I am sorry I was in LOS for this years events. However, here are some photos of mine from years gone by. We took a truck outside of Pattaya for the day and really had a great time. I am on holiday for a few weeks and don't have access to all my older photos. but, I hope you like some of these. Enjoy.

Some of us don't read the other sites. How about a link?

Edge Of Seventeen Overall, gay films usually fall into one of two basic types super-sad tragedies or ultra-camp comedies. While straight people get a wide varieties of genres, Hollywood seems to want films about the gay community to either deal with AIDS, homophobia, or silly drag queens. This is what makes Edge of Seventeen stand out. It's neither of the usual tropes it's just a movie about teenagers where the central character happens to be gay. It's structured like St. Elmo's Fire in the sense that there is no logical starting or ending point. It's just a bit of time in the lives of these people in the midwest dealing with shit that teenagers deal with. That it resembles St. Elmo's Fire shouldn't be a total shock, since it's set in the early 80s whatever year Bronski Beat had their 15 minutes of fame. You can tell through various winks and nods that the people who made this flick watched every single John Hughes film from the era. The main characters are Eric and Maggie, two seventeen-year-olds who have lived next door to each other forever. She considers him her boyfriend; he considers her his best friend. She clearly has no gaydar at all, since Eric dresses like a cross between Ducky from Pretty In Pink and the bass player for Flock Of Seagulls and has her put lipstick, eyeliner and a multitude of haircare products on him before they go out anywhere. Maggie can sort of be forgiven this, given that Eric does kiss her and does tell her he loves her. You get a sense that maybe both of these kids know what's going on here, but don't want to look the obvious straight in the face. Or, they may simply be very naïve and need to wait for life to happen before they figure things out. That the film lets you interpret it either way makes for interesting thought and discussion when the end credits roll. The two of them get a job at a rib shack in a theme park over the summer where the manager is lesbian named Angie (played perfectly by Lea DeLaria), and there is an out and proud college dude working alongside them. Both Angie and the college dude named Rod immediately figure out that Eric is gay, but mostly keep their mouths shut about it. Rod waits until the last day the park is open for the summer, and then seduces Eric into mutual oral sex. This is when we get our second sign that this is not a typical Hollywood movie, because the sex is as explicit as you can get without being actual porn. Eric wakes up the next day convinced he's in love with Rod. But when he reaches out to Rod a few days later, he finds out that Rod only wanted to do him because he'd never been with a guy before and that shit turns him on. Meanwhile, Maggie is upset that Eric isn't trying to bone her so that night, when she and Eric go to a house party, she starts flirting heavily with one of the dickweed jocks there. Eric, realizing he should feel jealous, storms out; but instead of going home, he heads to the only gay bar in the area. Inside he finds out that Angie's new job is managing the bar, and even though he's ridiculously underage, she lets him in and gets him drunk. Another college age guy then chats him up, and they end up in the guy's car with the dude giving Eric his first rim job leading to this hilarious exchange of dialogue: Shouldn't you wear a condom? For my tongue? It should come as no shock that this guy, like Rod, only wanted some sex and refuses to even talk to Eric or give him his number once the rimming has been completed. Eric freaks the fuck out and heads over the Maggie's place, where he tells her what's been going on. She's still not completely sold on him being gay despite the fact that he's been with two dudes and has never even touched her boobs. They agree to continue dating. The next weekend, he invites her on a date to Angie's gay bar. Maggie takes so much time getting ready in order to impress/seduce Eric that she shows up about an hour late, at which point Eric is making out with another douchecanoodle college dude on the dance floor. Maggie freaks the fuck out on Eric and says she never wants to see him again. This causes Eric to be so upset that he actually finds Rod's college dorm room and throws himself at Rod. Rod lets him in, but makes it clear it's only because Eric has never been fucked up the ass and his fetish with virgin territory remains strong. As you would expect, once he's done fucking Eric, he blows him off. Eric then tracks Maggie down and tells her about this. And she is like, Dudes just want sex, figure it out. And he's like, I want love. And she's like, Well, if you want love, you should fuck me instead of getting fucked by meathead college dudes. So, he finally fucks her and both of them are shocked when he's completely unimpressed with pussy. That's when she tells him to eat shit and die and never talk to her again. Then, he goes back to the gay bar and starts dancing with a bunch of guys. Has he decided to find love with dudes, or has he decided just to be a gay slut? The movie doesn't tell us. It just ends. What makes the film fascinating, beyond the fact that there isn't really a comparable gay film, is that it all seems very real. While neither Eric nor Maggie make particularly intelligent decisions, they seem like the kind of fucked-up decisions real teens would make. And, that's a trope straight teens have been able to see in countless movies, so it's nice to see it in a film not directed at straight teens. The one downside is that the film is so explicit that I doubt most teens were able to actually see it when it came out. cc boytoy.com 2013

It is not good for any owner to have such thin skin. When you do a message board, you must be willing to take the heat at times. I always found this easy as I have pretty thick skin. But, running one of these boards is not easy. It is a hard job and it is all the little things that make it so difficult at times. When you mix so many personalities who are so passionate about the subject, you will get tiffs here and there. Lucky that this board has few of these and the owners and mods are easy going do a great job here.

Songkran is my favorite Thai holiday. I hate I missed it this year. Great post and photos. Thank you for sharing this!

Whether you are just out of the closet and learning about gay culture, or have been gay for a while but stuck in a rural city, at one point or another you are going to have to learn about gay icons. That's because no matter how masculine you like your men, they are bound to come up in conversation at some point – and you don't want to lose your chance to go down on a hunk because he thinks are you clueless. With that in mind, we at Boy Toy decided to spend the day giving you an up-to-the-minute primer on gay icons – so you'll know enough to sound like an expert the next time you are talking with a Friend of Dorothy. So, let's go on a wild ride of gay icons from today and yesteryear! We'll tell you just the tidbits you need to know, to seem like you know it all, you hunky homo! • Judy Garland. The original gay icon. Starred in the Wizard of Oz as well as many other movie musicals. The Stonewall Riots happened when her death was announced. What you need to know to sound in the know was that she was turned into a junkie by the Hollywood system and given tons of speed during the day to keep her skinny, and even more downers at night so she could sleep. Her concert at Carnegie Hall is a must-have in your collection. • Liza Minelli. Judy's daughter somehow also became a gay icon. While not a drug addict, she is a helpless alcoholic. So, you can always through a “like mother, like daughter” comment into the mix. She's been in everyone's dead pool for two decades, and still somehow alive. • Bette Middler. A croonerlike Judy Garland, but never had any drug or booze rumors surrounding her. Got her start playing in gay bathhouses – Barry Manilow was her piano player - and has worked hard to support the gay community over the years. “The Boogie Woogie Bugle Boy From Company B” - is the song to reference when talking about her. She also goes by the name “The Divine Miss M.” • Cher. An old-school gay icon who is still living. Known for her elaborate stage shows featuring obviously gay male dancers, and sublime costumes designed by the fabulously gay Bob Mackie. If you ever go to a drag party, she looks masculine enough so you could pull off her look easily. Talking point: Her daughter, Chastity, ended up being transgendered and is now a boy named Chaz. Cher used to be married to Sony Bono, who ended up becoming a dickweed Republican politician before he died. • Madonna. Dance queen and all-time gay icon. Her records have matched every single change in gay music trends, and she actually convinced straight people to vogue. She's boned every famous straight dude you've ever had a crush on. To seem in the know, say, “I think Ray Of Light was her last really good album.” • Lady Gaga. The new generation's answer to Madonna. She does pretty much everything that Madonna has done, but because she's younger, young twinks identify with her much more than they do with Madonna. Her signature style is wearing outfits that are so ridiculous, even Elton John would be embarrassed to be seen in them. You can easily tell dudes that you think her meat dress was a bit too far. • Elton John. Not all gay icons are female. Elton John was the original flamboyant gay male rock star. Now he's old and fat and known for being a complete asshole to everyone who works for him. He has an ego that knows no bounds – particularly when all of lyrics to his songs were actually written by a straight guy named Bernie Taupin, a fact you can throw out at your leisure. • George Michael. What Elton John wishes he was: A good-looking, in-shape pop dude who actually wrote his own music. Nearly all of his singles are good and nobody really has much bad to say about him. He is known as a total pothead, and likes to go cruising through parks in the UK. • Boy George. Former gay icon, now completely washed up. Actually called the cops when a rent boy (which is illegal in New York) wasn't up to his standards and invited the cops in while there was a large bag of cocaine sitting on his coffee table. Was last seen picking up garbage in Harlem as part of his community service sentence. • Kylie Minogue. This icon is most generally talked about by Euro gays. Think of her as a B-level Madonna from Australia. Lately it's been considered cool to snark on her, so really any bitchy comment you can make about her will do you fine. • Barbra Streisand. A less-campy version of Bette Middler. She has the largest nose of any popular female singer. She's remarkably popular even though she is even more of a nerd than Cher – something that seems almost completely impossible. Comment that you're so glad she started singing in public again after a years-long hiatus. • Celine Dion. A Canadian pop singer who did the theme song for Titanic. While hated by straight guys, she is beloved in the gay community and is so flat chested could easily be mistaken for a dude at first glance. To seem cool, say that you think her French songs are better than her American pop hits. • Gloria Gaynor. She wrote “It's Raining Men.” Need we say more? • Christina Aguilera. This is another pop diva that gets named dropped by gay guys and played in gay bars all the time. Her main point of interest is that her songs are danceable, but have more complex beats than the typical dance hall diva. The movie Burlesque, which stars her and Cher, is a camp cult classic. • Joan Jett. Quite honestly, the most interesting and talented gay person in the planet. Rejected by 22 record companies because she was gay, she put out her first album herself and it sold more than 2 million copies. Spends much of her time raising money for AIDS awareness and other other gay rights campaigns. Is as loved by straight people as by gay people. If you are not familiar with her get to YouTube stat and search “Crimson And Clover”, “Do You Want To Touch Me There”, “Bad Reputation” and “Cherry Bomb” right away. It will change your life. So, who do you want to add to this list? cc boytoy.com 2013

I am lucky I guess. I have been with the same guy for over 8 years and he loves me and adores me and money NEVER goes from my hand to his. He has never once asked me for anything financial and I made sure that he knows his family is his responsibility. I am one of the fortunate ones that fell for a money boy who didn't want anything in return other than my love and affection. BTW: when I say money doesn't change hands, it doesn't. I detest that. He receives a weekly wire transfer. That means he we never have to discuss the money issue. jk Seriously, I have friends who are very wealthy and the wife has never once worked and has no desire to work. The hubby brings home the bacon. It was this way when I was younger. I even remember when I went to a university to be a minister (forgive me Brother TW) that there was a massive number of ladies that also went to that school to become a "Preacher's Wife." Yes, their desire was to be the wife of a minister. It is simply what they were told growing up was a good profession. I also have many friends who are married and the wife is considered a "trophy" wife. She goes to all the social events and she works out hard every day at the gym to be the envy of others. Is there really any difference in that and and older/younger man to guy relationship?

WELLINGTON, New Zealand — Hundreds of jubilant gay-rights advocates celebrated at New Zealand's Parliament as the country became the 13th in the world and the first in the Asia-Pacific region to legalize same-sex marriage. Lawmakers voted 77 to 44 in favor of the gay-marriage bill on its third and final reading Wednesday night. People watching from the public gallery and some lawmakers immediately broke into song after the result was announced, singing the New Zealand love song "Pokarekare Ana" in the indigenous Maori language. "For us, we can now feel equal to everyone else," said bank teller Tania Penafiel Bermudez, who said she already considers herself married to partner Sonja Fry but now can get a certificate to prove it. "This means we can feel safe and fair and right in calling each other wife and wife." In one of several speeches that ended in a standing ovation, bill sponsor Louisa Wall told lawmakers the change was "our road toward healing." "In our society, the meaning of marriage is universal – it's a declaration of love and commitment to a special person," she said. She added that "nothing could make me more proud to be a New Zealander than passing this bill." Most political party leaders had encouraged lawmakers to vote by their conscience rather than along party lines. Although Wall is from the opposition Labour Party, the bill also was supported by center-right Prime Minister John Key. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/17/new-zealand-gay-marriage_n_3098762.html

WELLINGTON, New Zealand — Hundreds of jubilant gay-rights advocates celebrated at New Zealand's Parliament as the country became the 13th in the world and the first in the Asia-Pacific region to legalize same-sex marriage. Lawmakers voted 77 to 44 in favor of the gay-marriage bill on its third and final reading Wednesday night. People watching from the public gallery and some lawmakers immediately broke into song after the result was announced, singing the New Zealand love song "Pokarekare Ana" in the indigenous Maori language. "For us, we can now feel equal to everyone else," said bank teller Tania Penafiel Bermudez, who said she already considers herself married to partner Sonja Fry but now can get a certificate to prove it. "This means we can feel safe and fair and right in calling each other wife and wife." In one of several speeches that ended in a standing ovation, bill sponsor Louisa Wall told lawmakers the change was "our road toward healing." "In our society, the meaning of marriage is universal – it's a declaration of love and commitment to a special person," she said. She added that "nothing could make me more proud to be a New Zealander than passing this bill." Most political party leaders had encouraged lawmakers to vote by their conscience rather than along party lines. Although Wall is from the opposition Labour Party, the bill also was supported by center-right Prime Minister John Key. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/17/new-zealand-gay-marriage_n_3098762.html

You snooze..... I have had so many regrets when I don't take things up fast. I have learned that waiting is often bad so I try not to do that and just grab the bull by the horns, so to speak. When I am in Thailand, if I walk into a bar and I see Mr. Right on the stage, I immediately (before I even sit down) hold out my hand to help him off the stage and buy him a drink. We don't often know the intentions of others but the only way to find out is to put yourself out there and test the waters. it is often a very scary thing to do but always ends in more success than just backing away.

Thanks for your patience guys. Since we can't seem to figure out what is causing the slowness, I have just started removing things that were done in the past few weeks. We did one today and hope that may rectify the issue. Is anyone still having issues?

Yes, this has been fixed. sorry, programmers are trying to find the cause to the site slowness.

No, today a friend sent me the entire thread before it got deleted. All I can say is WOW.

We have programmers and our hosting company working on this but when they test, they can't get the same results. If anyone can do a QuickTime (or any other way) screen capture movie of when this happens to them, it will help. I have experience the same thing and when I go to make a recording, it works perfectly and have been unable to get this. Any assistance is appreciated. BBB, the Maintenance was only for forum and down when we upgraded to newer version.

One of my friends is on the Rickshaw Run team that just got underway! Looks like they are off to a great start. Good luck Chris! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DpoiY2wW3WI

I just went to look at the thread there and only see 3 posts. I don't see any responses from anyone on this site including FH or Firecat. Am I missing something?

I also admire you standing your ground. But, I am not sure I would have been able to do it. I might have just given him 1k baht and sent him away. That said, I have had friends in similar situations and they didn't know how to get out of it and at times it turned violent. I am glad your situation did not end in violence and I am glad you have people in the building that could have supported you when you needed it.

Gay Palm Springs – Can You Hit 18 Holes? When you go on a gaycation, it can be fun to head off to Asia or explore Europe. Many of us like to check out the beautiful boys of Brazil and Argentina. But, our budgets won't always stretch far enough for an overseas vacation. And it can get boring hitting San Francisco year in and year out! That's why it's important to know about some of the other fabulous cities you can sexplore during your time off. Yummy men are everywhere, and many of them know how to have a gay old time. With that idea in mind, we want to spend today talking about one of the best gay vacation spots in America – Palm Springs, a city that has undergone a lot of changes over the years. Palm Springs first became a thing in the 1930s, when movie stars would turn up with their lovers while their wives or husbands thought they were on location. It became more public in the 1950s, when Lucy and Desi Arnaz moved into town, quickly followed by the Rat Pack. By the 1970s, Palm Springs changed again and became a retirement resort. But, it was not destined to stay that way forever. In the '80s the gays started moving into town and practically took over. Today, an estimated 40 percent of the population of Palm Springs is gay – and if that doesn't tell you that your odds of hooking up when you are in town are high, nothing will! So, my terrific twinks, bushy bears and turgid tops, let's spend a little time exploring gay Palm Springs – you'll thank us in the morning. Resorts! Resorts! Resorts! The main attraction in coming to Palm Springs are the many, many gay resorts you have to choose from. They are beautiful, and they keep the breeders out because they know they don't belong here! Palm Springs has the highest concentration of gay resorts in North America – and many of them are clothing-optional. This is handy if you don't want to end up kneeling before a “little surprise” when you get a guy up to your room. The resorts surround numerous golf courses, which makes sense since hitting the back nine is the main sport in Palm Springs. You'll also find they have beautiful swimming pools and all the amenities you could possibly want. It should seem obvious, but the local rent boys have learned to work the gay resorts, so if you are looking for a pay-for-gay experience, you'll have no problems if you just discreetly ask around. The Weather One bit of crucial advice when it comes to Palm Springs – you want to go there in the spring and fall. In the summer, the temperature regularly skirts 100 degrees. In the winter it drops down to around freezing at night. So, even though there are over 300 days of sunshine on average in Palm Springs, sometimes the sun will be too hot and sometimes it will be too cold. Be like Goldilocks and head over there when the temperature is just right. Gay Events Given the large gay population, it should be no surprise that there are more than enough gay events to keep you happy all year round. By far the most fun – and deservedly notorious – is the White Party, held every Easter Weekend. This is a cruising sextravaganza. You might want to pack some extra Viagra for the event if you decide to go. In November you get Gay Pride, which is just as out and proud as you'd expect in this city of sin. You get another Pride chance with the two-day-long Arenas Street Party. Then there is a third Pride event on Halloween – this one obviously very friendly for all of your dramatic drag queen urges. If that's not enough, on Thursday nights Palm Canyon Drive becomes a weekly street festival that is pretty much designed for gay cruising. The Dinah Shore Weekend, held every April, is also very gay focused, but does attract a lot of lesbians, so if that's not your scene you can give that one a pass. Other Activities Sitting by the pool, hiring rent boys and cruising should be your main activities in Palm Springs when you are not playing golf. But there are some other things you can do as well. The Aerial Tramway will give you great views of the city and surrounding mountains. The Indian Canyons are sacred Native American sites that you can hike through at your leisure. The Palm Springs Film Festival is a two-week event in January that not only attracts big name celebrities, but is also open to the public. Touring mid-Century celebrity homes is also a popular tourist activity. If It Was Good Enough For Lucy – It's Good Enough For You! So why not meet me in Palm Springs? I'll save a pitcher of martinis by the pool! cc boytoy.com 2013

Boys Don't Cry Boys may not cry, but grown men may want to once they finish this movie particularly when they discover it's based on a true story. This is real tragedy, the type that comes from ignorance and repression and the all-too-human hatred of people who are different. But, this isn't your standard Hollywood tragedy, where a perfect example of a minority group is struck down by evil members of the majority. There is nothing saintly about the main character, Tena Brandon. She's as flawed as anyone else in the film and that's what makes it work. Because s/he comes off as human and not a cliché, we feel much more for Brandon when the world comes crashing down than we would have otherwise. It goes to show that imperfect people have the right to happiness as well, and you don't need a minority to act like a token to get your point across. What's interesting is that the movie works not only because of the main storyline, but also because of the other things that happen. It takes place mostly in a trailer park in a flyover state and we get to watch how people live and love and try to get through the day in rural areas where there just isn't much to do. The movie is as much about how poverty, lack of access to mental health care, and poor education lead to tragedy more so than any innate sense of evil. Even the characters who do horrible, horrible things at the end of the film are themselves victims of the system. Both are diagnosed with poor impulse control and can't get treatment and it's unclear if the system even thinks it's worth providing people like them with treatment. What's going through their heads when they lash out isn't I hate fags or fucking dykes; it's just, I was lied to. I was made a fool of. Now I need to strike back. Then, once it's done, you can see the horror on their faces. They just couldn't stop themselves. It's almost like their destiny was just as doomed from the start as Brandon's was. The story is fairly basic. Brandon is a dude born into a woman's body in a time and place where transsexual issues were not clearly understood. Everyone in his home town knows he doesn't have a dick, so when he tries to pick up girls there he gets hassled by the local homophobes. So, he decides to head a couple hundred miles away and try to find people who don't know him - and will assume that he really is a man. His choice is helped by the fact that he's been charged in his home state with grand theft auto, stealing checks, and burglary a fair motive to leave town beyond any gender identity crisis issues. He eventually gets into a bar fight with a redneck who is being shitty to a girl in a bar. She and her friends decide he's cool, and invite him to crash with them for a while. Brandon decides to stay, partly because he's feeling real friendship for the first time, and partly because he meets a girl named Lana played by Chole Sevigny who he at first wants to bone and then falls in love with. Lana falls in love with him too, and the two of them start having an affair (with him making a ton of excuses as to why he likes to go down on her but doesn't want to take his own pants off). Brandon continues to be sort of a sketchfest, stealing checks from one of his new friends, making up stories about his family back home being wealthy, and even pretending he has a son back home. This all falls apart when he decides to use a stolen check to pay a traffic ticket, and the cops realize he is a she. Remarkably, Lana is totally cool with her boyfriend not having a penis, and even lets him instruct her on how to eat pussy. The rest of his new friends, on the other hand, feel angry and betrayed, and decide they need to get revenge. This is where shit gets real. First, they rape Brandon and tell him that if he reports it, they will kill him. Brandon tries not to report it, but Lana calls an ambulance and the cops get him to sign a complaint against the rapists. Lana's mom doesn't want her daughter to turn lesbian, so she tells the guys where Brandon is hiding. At that point they turn up and in a drunken rage, shoot several people to death (not necessarily the people you are expecting them to kill). Along the way, we learn what life is like working in a factory, see interesting sports you can play with a pickup truck, and see a lot of people drinking booze and smoking weed simply because they are bored. One character's dream in life is to own a trailer park. That's the greatest ambition any one of them can actually have. So, the real tragedy here is poverty and ignorance. We see a bunch of generally good people who end up ruining their lives, and the lives of others, simply because they don't see any alternative. That's the real tragedy of America that the richest country in the world lets poverty like this happen, and then is shocked at the results. Boys Don't Cry makes that message very clear and is rightly considered one of the best LGBT films in history. cc boytoy.com 2013

I was thinking you were proving he is an bigot and an idiot. But, I guess since you don't seem to like gays, it is OK to tease them, provoke them or discriminate against them? Me personally, I love the gays. Love hanging out with them, having sex with them and doing business with them. They are the best at sex you know.

This bar is great. Sad that it will close. Does anyone know what plans they have to move?