The whole month in Colombia

[Latbear4blk]

6 hours ago, Birmingham boy said:

You get a strict NO from me🤣 lots of hot bottoms in Colombia tho 👌

I agree. To my taste. Mexican men lose against their Colombian cousins. By far.

However, we all have different preferences. If I were @Chompster, rather than relying on others' opinions, I would visit both countries and have a lot of sampling, to reach to my own conclusions.

[Birmingham boy]

Well my 5 weeks in Colombia just gone like it was nothing. I'm leaving Bogota today and here are my final thoughts. 

First of all, many thanks to all guys on this forum for all the tips and recos, I wouldn't make it without you👍

I think for a beginner Bogota should be the starting point, it feels the safest out of all places I've been to in Colombia, has plenty of paid and unpaid guys with reasonable prices, lovely weather and lots to see in and outside the city. 

I stayed 1w in Cedritos, which was clean and lovely, safe and just enjoyable but it's residential so only local unpaid guys around you, however paid guys were happy to visit Cedritos on request. I managed to meet ppl from Tinder and Grindr, which felt totally safe, local guys are very keen to meet a foreigner. My 2nd week was in Unilago area north of Chapinero, and it felt different, still relatively safe but too many ppl and untidy, although lots of paid and unpaid guys around. 

My last week I just dated one guy from tinder, which was unpaid and he paid everywhere for himself(except when it was too expensive to eat because I wanted to go to a fancy place so I'd pay). Met lots of guys in their 20s, although I'm more after mid age guys, I found those young ones that were bigger and more "masculine" looking so I was happy with the choice. 

Had a few trips around the city and the countryside looks just like a mix of England and Gran canaria which is really unexpected and I enjoyed those little towns and villages very much, they all felt safe and touristy. 

I mostly met with unpaid guys in Bogota but the paid ones were happy to go down to 100-140 COP (after seeing my pics) and I found a few really hot guys there as the choice is vast. The guys in Bogota both paid and unpaid were much stricter on condoms and many rejected even knowing I'm on Prep+doxy, it was a strict NO, however they were guys who were okay to fuck without condoms, but a clear difference Vs other cities in Colombia. 

Overall, I think I over panicked before coming here, basic precautions like wearing what locals are wearing an staying In safe areas was enough for me to have no issues whatsoever. I survived without Spanish just fine, offline Google translate did the job.

I'm surprised with how many guys were genuinely interested to meet, to chat, to go to touristy places, without any financial interest just because I'm a European and they are curious, I was not expecting that. I had more sex in those 5 weeks than I had in the last 2 years lol, probs too much and 4 weeks would be enough. 

Thanks again and DM if you have any questions. 

[12is12]

Glad it was so successful.

I visited bogota twice; tourism-wise, surprised you founf the city and its surroundings so interesting for 5 weeks. Good for you!

[Birmingham boy]

1 hour ago, 12is12 said:

interesting for 5 weeks. Good

Bogota was only 2 weeks out of 5 weeks trip but yeah lots to see in the city and around - the lagoon, the salt church, villages like Guatavita etc. I know it's not the most touristy place in Colombia, but considering it was a fuck trip around the big cities, I think Bogota was the best out of all of them.

[floridarob]

5 hours ago, Birmingham boy said:

I think Bogota was the best out of all of them.

Or maybe you were feeling more comfortable by that time after being in other places....🤔

[aaroninatl]

On 2/25/2025 at 5:47 PM, 12is12 said:

Aaroninatl, I dont want to depress you, but there's a very similar danger with for-pay guys: they demand more money than agreed upon.

And you mentioned a very useful red flag: after agreeing and before the actual meeting, check if he deleted the chat. If he did - ABORT!

Nah not depressing me.  I am far from new to this game. I've just never had a bad experience in a paid situation.  I'm really clear on my expectations and I also usually insist on a taken-today photo (I'll tell them to do something odd like touch their elbow or something that wouldn't be a normal photo pose).  That probably has weeded out the troublemakers.  Plus it lets me know their real look as opposed to that day they felt photogenic 2 or 3 years ago.

The other thing that I do is what I did way back in the AOL chat room or gay.com days when I dated... meet in public first. Feel them out.  Smile and see if they smile back.  A food court, restaurant, coffee shop. If they're unwilling, move on. Most are more the willing, especially if there's a free meal.  I think between those 2 steps, it's how I've avoided the bad experiences except for the one I told you all about.

Agreed on a deleted chat being a red flag.  I've never actually had that happen.  In fact, that troublemaker I mentioned never did so.  I showed it to the staff at the love motel when he was throwing his tantrum.  

My last tip is to do a deep dive on any social media they share.  I feel a lot more comfortable meeting someone who has real friends and a life.  An IG with one headless torso pic with 0 friends on may mean he's just DL. It's not a deal-killer but it's a bit of a warning sign that I need to make sure I do those other 2 things I mentioned.

As for the other poster who asked if I would send the photo, sorry, I'd rather not.  I'm just glad to be done with the experience and lessons were learned.  I wish I had employed my taken-today photo strategy with him... maybe he would have said no and I'd have never met him.  Not sure he would've said no though... the photo I have of him was taken at lunch that day and not in an undercover way.  He smiled/posed.

[davet]

On 3/1/2025 at 4:31 AM, Birmingham boy said:

My last week I just dated one guy from tinder, which was unpaid and he paid everywhere for himself(except when it was too expensive to eat because I wanted to go to a fancy place so I'd pay). Met lots of guys in their 20s,

Did you get the feeling any of them were playing "the long game"? Colombia is a hot bed for straight guys looking for either a quick fuck or a potential wife ("una chica seria") more gorgeous than they could ever get back home. And many of the Colombian women, smartly, are aiming for the second option.

I'm just wondering whether there's that kind of expectation or hope even among the nice guys. I'm not saying that's a bad thing, if you know what you're getting into.

[speedoo1]

If you mean if these guys (Colombian  or Venezuelano) will message you afterwards (when you are back in your home country) with request for help to pay rent, university fees, gym supplies, ...you name it, I can almost guarantee you that it will happen. I would say that it is the exception if support/ayuda doesn't come up in your post-sex Whatsapp communication with these guys.

Just so you know what you get into if you stay in contact with the guys after leaving Colombia.

[Latbear4blk]

Only one of the Colombian escorts I have hired per hour in Medellin and Bogotá has contacted me after I left asking for support. The  ones who did contact me were not the pros but the guys who hang out with me for long hours for a few pesos.