Nepalese (Nepali?) Guys in Japan?

[joizy]

I’m in Tokyo for two months. I retired a year ago, and the US is too crazy right now (plus, I get bored at home), so I came here for a little sanity. I’m trying to hold off on hiring guys and have been exploring places I’ve never been before, like the Glory Hole Place (Suck’d Glory) and other saunas. The toilet in Shinjuku Station where I used to get lucky back in the 90s is still active, though the guys I’ve seen there are not really my type.

Anyway, one thing I’ve noticed is there are a lot of guys from Nepal. I met one in 24 Kaikan who then found me on Grindr and said he wanted to meet again (but when I saw him again this past Saturday, he wasn’t interested). Two very hot guys messaged me from Gunma prefecture and I decided to spend a few days in Takasaki, Gunma, just to see something else and also see if either of these guys were available to meet. 

I’m wondering if anyone has had experience with guys from Nepal. What’s the deal with them? Are these guys gay? Are they gay for pay? Am I asking a question about something that is nothing? It just seems odd to me that so many of them would be contacting me on Grindr. Or is it just not odd at all? (I’m just wondering why guys who are so far away would be contacting ME).

BTW, there was another guy, also from Nepal, who was very insistent on Grindr. I could see he was far, so I wasn’t really interested. In a case where I am not really interested, I have a saved phrase that I send immediately (helps weed out the scammers) “Show me your dick”. I sent him that and he said he didn’t have any photos, so I told him to take one. He said it was 8 cm. I asked, “8 cm?” To make sure he hadn’t left off a 1. He said it was big. I just kept insisting - take a photo. When he said he wasn’t alone, I told him to go into the bathroom. Normally, I would have just blocked him, but I was having fun in a strange way because the whole interaction was so stupid.

Finally, he sent me a photo of a big beautiful cock. But he forgot to crop off the bit at the bottom about where the photo came from (some porn site). I responded with a laughing emoji, but he persisted. Eventually, he did take a photo of his cock. I don’t know if it was 8 cm, but it was small. At that point, I just said, “you lied to me and I can’t trust you” and blocked him.

I’m off to Gunma today to see if anything happens, and if it doesn’t, at least I have a few nights in a new place. But, if you have had experience with guys from Nepal, either in Nepal, or in Japan, or anywhere else, I’d love to know your experience.

[PeterRS]

I have no idea why but Nepalis are the largest South Asian Community in Japan - approx. 233,000. Many are students but there is also a large pool of Nepalese workers in low-paid unskilled jobs. Increasingly more educated Nepalis are filling jobs in the IT sector. The majority of nearly 30,000 live in Tokyo.

No idea why you find so many gay guys other than the fact that Nepal is in the process of of legalising gay marriage.

[joizy]

2 hours ago, PeterRS said:

I have no idea why but Nepalis are the largest South Asian Community in Japan - approx. 233,000. Many are students but there is also a large pool of Nepalese workers in low-paid unskilled jobs. Increasingly more educated Nepalis are filling jobs in the IT sector. The majority of nearly 30,000 live in Tokyo.

No idea why you find so many gay guys other than the fact that Nepal is in the process of of legalising gay marriage.

Thanks. Apparently, there are many in Gunma prefecture, where I am headed now. I’ll report back. I’m intrigued.

[spoon]

Some of my regulars masseurs here in malaysia are nepalese. Many of then come here to work as construction workers or security guards and find their way to escape to different profession. Most are str8, often muscular and for me, they are very hot and accommodative, especially when you are their regulars.

[joizy]

Update on the Nepali guys I went to see.

The first one, who was really cute, had a nice dick and did a short video call with me, told me he was In Takasaki. When I did a little research about Takasaki, it looked like it might be a good place for a short visit, so I booked 3 nights in a hotel and went up by Shinkansen. When I told him I was going to be there, he then informed me he lived 45 minutes away. As I prepared for my trip, I wasn’t sure if I was going to see him or not, but I figured if I did, it would be a bonus.

The other guy who contacted me was in the capital of Gunma, also a short distance away from Takasaki.

Well, long story short, I never saw either one of them. But, I had the best time (non-sexual) in Takasaki. I visited three very interesting temples, and absolutely loved the place. It was like Tokyo but without all of the people, and I was definitely one of the few western tourists there. 

In the end, I was having more fun visiting these amazing sites and didn’t want the hassle of going to some guy’s place for what could be a disappointing encounter.

Back in Tokyo now and hoping to have some fun this weekend.

[spoon]

So it was you who decided not to meet the guys? All is well then. And glad to hear you enjoyed the city. I take it that the guy isnt hot enough to be worth all the trouble hehe.

[joizy]

9 hours ago, spoon said:

So it was you who decided not to meet the guys? All is well then. And glad to hear you enjoyed the city. I take it that the guy isnt hot enough to be worth all the trouble hehe.

The one who wanted me to go to his city was actually very hot. My issue was he must have sent me an expiring dick pic, so I didn’t have anything to look at. Even though he did a video call and showed me his dick, it still wasn’t enough for me to want to take several buses to get to where he was. I didn’t understand why he initially told me he was in Takasaki when he wasn’t. And in the end, I was having more fun visiting these interesting, out of the way sites, and it meant I would have had to give up at least a half a day to go meet a stranger. The second guy had a big dick, but in some of the pictures it looked really ugly. If he had been more insistent about coming to where I was, I probably would have said ok. It was a nice adventure, and sometimes it’s not about the sex. What really surprised me was that there was no one on Grindr. There must have been some gay Japanese in the area. How do they meet each other?

[PeterRS]

I am glad you are finding that Japan is full of surprises of the non-sexual variety (although these ones can also be a helluva lot of fun!). I assume you must already have been to Nikko. It's not difficult to get to from Tokyo by rain or bus. I am reluctant to give stations and lines because it is 12 years since I was last there and I am sure these might have changed. But I got the train from Asakusa station which required one short train change just before Nikko. 

Nikko is where you find the shrines of the first Tokugawa shogun, Tokugawa Ieyasu, and the third his grandson Tokugawa Iemitsu. It is quite a large spread-out area but utterly fascinating in its detail. The Imperial family also used to have a summer resience here and that is open to the public. 

I would not rely on apps like Grindr. Very occasionally you will find a Japanese who wants to meet up with a foreigner, but they are very much the exception on the western apps. The Japanese have their own apps only in Japanese. Better to visit some of the gay bars in Shinjuku ni-chome which welcome foreigners, or try your luck at the 24 Kaikan saunas. The main one for foreigners is in Ni-chome. There is also one about ten minutes walk from Ueno train and subway station which tends to have a more working class clientele. 

[spoon]

13 hours ago, PeterRS said:

The Japanese have their own apps only in Japanese

A quick google says the popular gay dating app in Japan is 9monster. 

[PeterRS]

10 hours ago, spoon said:

A quick google says the popular gay dating app in Japan is 9monster. 

Does that offer English translation?

[joizy]

On 5/23/2025 at 11:28 AM, PeterRS said:

I am glad you are finding that Japan is full of surprises of the non-sexual variety (although these ones can also be a helluva lot of fun!). I assume you must already have been to Nikko. It's not difficult to get to from Tokyo by rain or bus. I am reluctant to give stations and lines because it is 12 years since I was last there and I am sure these might have changed. But I got the train from Asakusa station which required one short train change just before Nikko. 

Nikko is where you find the shrines of the first Tokugawa shogun, Tokugawa Ieyasu, and the third his grandson Tokugawa Iemitsu. It is quite a large spread-out area but utterly fascinating in its detail. The Imperial family also used to have a summer resience here and that is open to the public. 

I would not rely on apps like Grindr. Very occasionally you will find a Japanese who wants to meet up with a foreigner, but they are very much the exception on the western apps. The Japanese have their own apps only in Japanese. Better to visit some of the gay bars in Shinjuku ni-chome which welcome foreigners, or try your luck at the 24 Kaikan saunas. The main one for foreigners is in Ni-chome. There is also one about ten minutes walk from Ueno train and subway station which tends to have a more working class clientele. 

I haven’t been to Nikko yet, but that is gorgeous, thanks for sharing the photos. I am trying to avoid places with too many tourists. Next week, I’m returning to Chichibu, Saitama for three nights. I hired a driver to take me to the 34 Kannon temples on the Chichibu Kannon pilgrimage. Chichibu shrine is apparently related in some way to this temple in Nikko, and I can see some similarities, but I read things and then forget, so don’t quote me on that.

I’ve been having some luck on Grindr and today went to 24-Kaikan in Shinjuku where I had much better luck than I did in Ueno (also on a Friday afternoon). I’m about to write a post about my adventure today. It involves a young Malay guy with an enormous cock who couldn’t get enough of my old ass.

[joizy]

On 5/24/2025 at 11:49 AM, PeterRS said:

Does that offer English translation?

I tried it when I was here in January/February and I really didn’t understand how it worked, so I deleted the app. I am meeting people on Grindr and to be honest, at my age, I really can’t handle more than what I’m getting. The equipment just doesn’t work like it used to.