Medellín - my Grindr experience

[joizy]

This is my experience on Grindr. It may not be yours. I’m offering this as a report for those who may be interested. I know there are a lot of “Medellín experts” here. I am not one. This is my experience so far…

I arrived on Tuesday and as on my last trip here, Grindr immediately exploded.

I’m 66, in fairly good shape, but I am old. And I am only interested in sucking. I will bottom after I get to know someone and occasionally, I will top if the ass is right, but my profile is pretty clear what I am looking for initially.

That didn’t stop everyone from writing though, so my Grindr strategy here has changed from looking to filtering.

The Good News

Older men are very much in demand.

A lot of guys are open to just getting sucked.

This is a high volume Grindr population. It definitely seems to be the app of choice.

The Challenge

Even though my host said I could have visitors (I asked if I could have friends over for lunch or conversation), there is a security guard at the door until 4 and I don’t want to bring multiple guys in, so I am saying I can only host after 4. Much of the interest seems to be earlier in the day. I’m guessing people are working or studying nearby who then go home (I’m in Laureles).

People don’t read. I can’t tell you how many ugly asshole shots I have received. I honestly find the anus to be the least attractive body part. There are some pretty ones, but most are hideous. I’m also getting messages from guys who are hundreds of miles away.

People don’t understand no reply, and some don’t understand no. 

There are a lot of flakes (it’s Grindr).

My Strategy

1. Block - I don’t even waste time anymore since I’m getting so many hits. Blank profile with “hola” message? Immediate block. Asshole shot? Immediate block. I’m trying to keep track of the possibilities and weed out the time wasters.

2. I’m not chasing - if someone is interested, they will make it work. 

3.  My profile is clear - I have clearly stated on my profile that I am not interested if they are not in Medellín or an escort. I have clearly said what I am looking for and when I’m available. It’s not working 100%, but at least I am trying.

4. Patience - I am not looking for quantity. I’m looking for quality. Colombian men are incredibly sexy and I can wait for the right one. 

I’ve been working with Chat GPT since my stay in Reggio Calabria last year where we identified success factors for someone like me (older tourist who is an oral bottom).

My ideal city is smaller pool; fewer tourists; people living at home so the ability to host is a plus. Medellín is not my ideal city. But it excels in other ways - it is high volume and people are attracted to older men. And the men are incredibly hot.

The challenge has been to weed out the time wasters and find a way to meet those who match what I am looking for. I’m here for a month, and at my age, I’m not exceptionally horny, so I’m taking my time. I have about 20 guys in my queue who are potentials.

I think I will have fun here, but because of my limitations, it’s going to be slow going. I’m not going to be taking 100 loads a day or going wild, but I hope to meet a few quality guys who I can see more than once.

I’m staying in Laureles and I really like it. It’s a beautiful, green, quiet neighborhood and there are a lot of restaurants nearby. It’s very walkable and feels safe. The weather has been perfect, and I am enjoying the experience of “living” here.

So there it is. If you’re thinking of coming and not depending on escorts for fun, Grindr is definitely hot. If you’re younger, a top or verse, you’ll have even more possibilities, but I am very happy with the prospects for the month ahead.

[Mavica]

Thank you for the comments.  Let us know during the visit if your early expectations regarding Grindr are fulfilled.

[joizy]

Honestly, I was beginning to lose hope and in a fit of frustration, I bent my rule and agreed to meet someone from Sniffies who wanted to fuck. Big mistake. 

I won’t go into it in detail, but let’s just say - halitosis, old photo, and he had me balancing on a pile of pillows and didn’t know how to give a bottom pleasure. I finally told him I couldn’t do it anymore and jerked him off. Don’t think he’ll be back.

So today, Monday, some guys from the past and whole group of new guys contacted me. A lot of time waters. People from hundreds of miles away. Guys I wasn’t really into. A lot of “Como estás?, Bien y tu, Bien” back and forth.

I used one of my free “right now” sessions from Grindr and got a few hits. One guy wanted money and continued after I told him I didn’t pay. It was tempting, but he only wanted 50,000 and that is a red flag for me. I held my ground.

And then “Activo” contacted me. His photo wasn’t much, and his dick looked nice but not a “wow” dick like the guy who wanted money. But he seemed reasonable and sane. He said he was working and would contact me when he was finished. He contacted me when he was finished. He contacted me when he was 10 minutes away. I liked all of that. Major turn on for me - keeping me posted rather than hanging.

I went down to meet him when he arrived. He reminded me of the Rock - both face and body. Not as big as the Rock, but not far off. He looked a little mean, so I was worried that he was disappointed.

Let’s just say he was very hot and we had a really nice time. He kissed and cuddled. He like when I ate his ass, and his dick was beautiful. He looked way better than he did in his photo.

When I walked him back down to open the door, he said he’d write to me and send me his WhatsApp. I decided not to wait and sent him mine instead. He just responded and now we’re connected on WhatsApp. I do expect to see him again.

I really don’t need any other guys while I am here as long as I can see him regularly.

Even though the first guy I met made me realize I didn’t really enjoy getting fucked like I used to, this guy made me rethink it because the way he fucked my mouth, kissed and held me and caressed me after he came made me think he might know what he’s doing.

So things are looking up and now I can really turn up the filter on Grindr. The bar has been set very high. 

Not sure how helpful this is, but for those who are thinking of coming and wondering if they can actually meet quality guys on Grindr who don’t want money, it is possible. 

With this guy I know I am going to have a good time and don’t have to worry about getting robbed or murdered.

Other than that, it’s been almost a week that I have been in Laureles, and I love it here. It’s a quiet, tree-lined street that is close to cafes and restaurants. I’m going to do a few touristy things like museums, Comuna 13, etc., but mostly I’m here to escape Bay Area summer and have the experience of living in Colombia. After today, it could not be more perfect.

[Latbear4blk]

14 hours ago, joizy said:

’m going to do a few touristy things like museums, Comuna 13, etc.

Do not miss a walk in the Jardín Botánico, and a meal in the restaurant there.

[12is12]

Good for u, Joizy! 

Go also to Fidelina, for the food and the design.

 

[Blah]

On 6/20/2026 at 11:56 PM, joizy said:

Blank profile with “hola” message? Immediate block.

There are many good reasons why some people cannot post pics publicly. 

Don't let some gems go by, as they often will send pics to you privately, if you could have 2 mins patience.  

[joizy]

11 hours ago, Blah said:

There are many good reasons why some people cannot post pics publicly. 

Don't let some gems go by, as they often will send pics to you privately, if you could have 2 mins patience.  

My profile clearly says no photo no chat, and when I am getting 20-30 messages per day, even now into my second week here, I can’t reply to everyone. I’m not running a charity for people who can’t read. The main reason for people not sending photos in their first message is usually because they are a scammer (ie “Faza from Dubai”), or they know they aren’t my type. Easiest to just delete. My profile is very clear.

[Ian here]

4 hours ago, joizy said:

My profile clearly says no photo no chat, and when I am getting 20-30 messages per day, even now into my second week here, I can’t reply to everyone. I’m not running a charity for people who can’t read. The main reason for people not sending photos in their first message is usually because they are a scammer (ie “Faza from Dubai”), or they know they aren’t my type. Easiest to just delete. My profile is very clear.

Exactly, and some are just pic collectors and time wasters, just filling in time.

[Novarunner]

Just curious, have you tried using Grindr like this in Brazil too or do you only travel to Colombia?  Certain aspects of what you’re doing is a major part of how I fell in love with Rio.

[joizy]

On 6/30/2026 at 6:48 AM, Novarunner said:

Just curious, have you tried using Grindr like this in Brazil too or do you only travel to Colombia?  Certain aspects of what you’re doing is a major part of how I fell in love with Rio.

I haven’t been to Brazil yet. I was under the impression that it wasn’t safe to meet guys on Grindr, but I guess the risk probably isn’t much greater than it is here. 
 

The guy I eventually did meet is really high quality. Turns out he’s some kind of fitness influencer on IG. He’s super sweet and I really enjoy spending time with him. Still weeding out the flakes and time wasters. 

[Novarunner]

Grindr is as safe in Brazil as it is anywhere; plus, Brazilians are friendly and usually like foreigners so it works very very well.  It sounds like you found what you were looking for though so I’d understand if you stick with the good thing you have in Colombia.  The occasional slutty trip to Abrico Beach or whatever can be fun but I’m not really a fan of constant random dick either.  Chiseled abs are nice but having something to talk about after the fluids have been exchanged is better.  Actually getting to know the person you are fucking leads to authentic experiences that cannot be bought like sitting on the beach together and watching the sun rise.

[floridarob]

8 hours ago, joizy said:

Still weeding out the flakes and time wasters. 

This has been my worst experience on this Trip....WORSE in Bogota.

In MDE, was good the 1st couple of days with my regulars, but every time trying to get someone new, was so fucking complicated....

Thought I had someone good tonight, then when I paid him 200, he said NO it's 350...... I laughed and told him he just lost a regular repeat client,  I paid him the 200 no matter what his justification was, why the current crop is only thinking about what they make TODAY?

[joizy]

Today, Saturday, July 4, the scammers and time wasters are out in force.

First, I was contacted by a guy who has been writing me all week. I keep telling him after 4 (because that’s when my doorman leaves). We’ve been going back and forth and missing each other. Today, the doorman was gone by noon, so when he messaged me I told him I was free. He said he was going to shower and get dressed and be on his way. After one hour, I messaged him again and he said he was leaving soon. I wrote back that I was tired of messaging back and forth and wasn’t interested. He said “okay”. So he was never serious. Not sure what’s up with these guys who get their kicks out of just messaging and not following through.

Then this super hot guy messaged me. Something told me he was too good to be true. Grindr doesn’t let you take screen shots of photos anymore, so I used my phone and took a photo on my iPad and did a reverse image search since he had such a clear face shot. The guy in the photo is some sort of Brazilian Tik Tokker. I blocked that one after trying to do a video chat with him (he declined and said he was not alone).

Then someone messaged me and sent me a Porn Hub link. Even though my profile is clear what I am looking for and I repeated it in my message to him, he wanted me to watch the video and do what was in it. Instant block.

Be careful. If they are too good to be true, they are. And don’t click on any links anyone sends you.

 

[joizy]

I forgot one more gem from today. A blank profile, no photo, sent me a few messages - something like, Hello how are you? With rainbows and flowers or something dumb. I didn’t block, I just deleted. A little later, he wrote again. I just said “I’m not interested”. He wrote back and said something like “Why? I’m not one of those people who kills foreigners.” And then repeated a similar sentiment. So for those who think I’m missing out on “gems” by instantly blocking, you’re right. This one was definitely a gem. He’s now blocked. And I will go back to blocking blank profiles who just write “hola”. It’s clear, they are not the kind of gems I’m looking for.

[floridarob]

I met a good guy that's on Grindr and mileroticos tonight in Bogota, was still a challenge to stop him from being a clock watcher, but it seems that after all these years of me preaching,  telling clients to stop filling their heads with , you how much you would make in NYC, London, California... is why they've become this way.... them and their friends tell about stories where they get spoiled with rices and people throwing money at them.... why wouldn't they expect everyone to do this?

[joizy]

9 hours ago, floridarob said:

I met a good guy that's on Grindr and mileroticos tonight in Bogota, was still a challenge to stop him from being a clock watcher, but it seems that after all these years of me preaching,  telling clients to stop filling their heads with , you how much you would make in NYC, London, California... is why they've become this way.... them and their friends tell about stories where they get spoiled with rices and people throwing money at them.... why wouldn't they expect everyone to do this?

I haven’t hired any guys on this trip. As I get older, I get more selective (and I guess less horny), and I’d much rather be with someone who wants to be with me than someone who just wants the money. On my last trip here 4 years ago, I tried two guys from Mileroticos - one was a guy named Maycol, who has an enormous dick. Turned out his photos were ancient and he really wasn’t worth it. The other, a cutie from the Atlantic coast, was a lot of fun and definitely worth it. But this time I looked and the only guy I was interested in wanted 350,000 for an out call (300,000 in). Not worth it to me.

[joizy]

I finally hooked up with someone else from Grindr last night. He’d messaged me before and appeared to be a time waster, so I just deleted his messages. I should have blocked him.

He messaged me yesterday and after wasting more of my time, finally came over.

The many face and body pics he sent me were old. He’d gained weight, which wasn’t a huge problem for me, but I hate dishonesty.

And then when I was sucking him, he grabbed his phone and started filming and taking photos without asking if it was okay.

When we finished, he said I needed to be careful because there were guys who target foreigners. After the weird message from the guy earlier, it made me uncomfortable and I said, “ok well then you should leave”.

It was not the best experience so I was surprised when he messaged me afterwards and asked if I enjoyed it and said he wanted to be friends. After the old photos and filming me without my consent, I didn’t think it was worth explaining to him why I didn’t enjoy it. I just blocked him. I hope he enjoys the photos.

I met one really great guy so far and that’s enough for me. I have one more week and I will be blocking liberally.

[macdaddi]

On 7/4/2026 at 11:41 PM, floridarob said:

telling clients to stop filling their heads with , you how much you would make in NYC, London, California... is why they've become this way.... 

Send them my way so I can share a front row perspective of a paisa friend who is barely surviving in Barcelona and now preparing to return to Colombia. Gras is always greener blah blah. 

[floridarob]

1 hour ago, macdaddi said:

Gras is always greener

They are usually smoking it though....

[Novarunner]

On 7/6/2026 at 5:03 PM, floridarob said:

They are usually smoking it though....

And what exactly is wrong with smoking and staring at the ocean?  I find that it is best if you do it at sunset with a partner and a caipirinha.

[Latbear4blk]

18 hours ago, Novarunner said:

And what exactly is wrong with smoking and staring at the ocean?  I find that it is best if you do it at sunset with a partner and a caipirinha.

You are such a slutnic (mix of slut and romantic).

[Novarunner]

8 minutes ago, Latbear4blk said:

You are such a slutnic (mix of slut and romantic).

True but frequently we do it and play on Grindr to see if someone might be interested in joining us.  Is that less romantic?

August can’t come soon enough.  I need to get back to that life.