joizy

I'm on my way to PV next month. I've always had luck there, lately Grindr has been the best way to meet guys for me - free and for rent (in younger days it was the beach). Wondering if you made it and how your trip was. I read on another forum that the police have been harassing Mexicans who are on the beach with foreigners. This seems to strange since PV has always been so gay friendly. I was planning on checking out the sauna. I have a friend who went at the end of May and he said it was open, but I'm not sure which one. Would appreciate an update if you're willing.

I was wondering if Cine Lido survived the pandemic. It is one of my favorite places in the world - hot, rundown and full of big dicks waiting to be sucked. I've always had fun there! On my last trip, I stopped at that little Chinese place and bought a bottle of water before going to the cine. Had a great time there, as always. Your report makes me want to go back to the DR - my last trip was right before the pandemic and I had the best time. Thanks for posting.

Sorry you fell victim to the number one troll as well. I just joined last week and he has made my experience here hell. Reading through other threads, I see this is a pattern with him. People post trip reports and for some reason he decides to target them, saying they are not really where they are, and accusing them of a) being other people and b) having some nefarious plot to collect information about sex workers so they can harass them. It seems he has had a bad experience and that has made him super paranoid and perhaps delusional. I can totally understand why you'd want to post photos of your passport. It does not feel good to be called a liar, especially when you know you are telling the truth. I hope you reported his harassment. He needs to be shut down.

If you like the beach, Puerto Vallarta is always a good option. I've been to Guadalajara once and it has a pretty big gay scene. I was much younger when I was there, but met quite a few guys. I am trying to get administration to create a Mexico forum so we can share more information. Those are the only two places I've really had any luck in Mexico though.

Did that too. Not much better. I sent a request to administration to create a separate Mexico forum. I hope that's ok with everyone.

Thank you. I really appreciate your advice and understanding. I had no idea what I was stepping into. It was like jumping into a shark tank when I was expecting to be swimming with dolphins. I just learned how to hide people, and hopefully that will solve the problem, though I must admit, I'm really shaken by my experience here.

Hey guys, I want to apologize for engaging with the trolls here. When I found this forum, I was so excited because not only did I find a place with really good information, it seemed like a place where I could share some of my travel experiences that were not appropriate for Facebook or to share with my friends and family. Imagine my shock when out of the blue, one of the members started harassing me, and another called me names for asking a question (and then there was a sort of pile-up by some of the older members). I never felt so attacked before in my life, even as a gay kid being called names on the way to school. When I was young, I was too scared to fight back, but feeling attacked here, my first impulse was to fight back. I've since discovered that I can hide people. I wish I could block them altogether, because one in particular, seems obsessed with harassing newer members, especially if they happen to be traveling and having sex. It's really sad. But I want to apologize for adding to the toxicity. I will no longer engage with the trolls. I'll mostly stick to reading. I am planning a trip to PV in a few weeks and I might share my experiences if I find anything worth sharing. But if I'm called a liar again, that's it. I won't be posting again. I wish we could all be more supportive of one another. Some forums seem to be worse than others. It seems I stumbled into a forum that is controlled by someone who had a bad experience and now assumes every person here is the same person. I hope he can get some help, and more than anything, I hope he blocks me since my presence disturbs him so much. We still have a long way to go before we can reach full equality and acceptance globally. Fighting with one another here is not helping our cause in any way. I appreciate those who have been supportive and who have empathized with the negative experience I had here. I'm going to try to focus on the positive. I hope everyone else can do the same. Let's try to shut down the negativity in our community.

That is not what I see when I do the same search. Since you seem to be so smart, tell me why it's different. Do you really think I would have asked a question if I saw what you're seeing? Are you part of this "conspiracy club"? Like what do you think I was trying to do by asking a question. I just don't understand how it was a problem that I should be publicly shamed.

Thanks. I am using it now. Is there a block feature where I can block people completely. Troll number one seems to be following me around. He comments on everything I post now.

This is what I see. Where is Mexico hiding?

Thanks Rob. There is plenty about Thailand. And the people there actually seem very nice. If you look at the way forums are organized, you'll see the Asian forums name all of the countries and it's very well organized. The Latin American forum names only four - Brazil, Colombia, the DR and I can't remember the other. No mention of Mexico. And no, I didn't do a search for Mexico until today, and you know what I found? Nothing. So yeah, maybe I'm dumb. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. But to join this forum and ask a question and be called names and shamed was not what I was expecting. I really don't know what it is, but it does seem to me that there is one person here, especially in the Latin American forums, who has set the tone with his crazy conspiracy theories. It's Q-Anon pizza parlor pedophile level crazy. I wonder how many people he had driven away after attacking them and calling them liars.

Good points. It's not a place I'm likely to return to, I was just wondering if 12is12 ever made it and what his experience was. When I went, I was hesitant because of the human rights situation back then - it was not nearly as bad as it is now, but it was still not good. I don't regret going, because it was a beautiful country - nothing like any place I'd ever been, but I definitely would not go now. It's very sad for those who have to endure those conditions. I wish there was something we could do to help.

what did your mom have for lunch today?

I totally agree with you. Wish you'd defended me when I was called lazy and stupid for asking a question about people's experiences in Mexico. But let me tell you what my mom had for lunch yesterday.

Oh my God! What a wealth of information! Who knew that such a large and diverse country could be summarized in a post about one bar. Silly me for thinking I could open a new discussion without approval from the trolls.

You've been doing a whole lot of hollering - accusing people of being trolls when you're the troll.

There is one member of this forum who seems to be suffering from some form of paranoia. It could be related to his past drug use (which he admitted in one of his posts). It seems he believes there are people who make fake profiles, join the forum, provide helpful information about a place, and then try to gather information about hustlers. It is one of the strangest conspiracy theories I have ever heard, and unfortunately, he's targeting me and several other members. He even went so far as to accuse people of not really being in the places they say they are and one unfortunate member after posting photos of his passport to prove it, was still called a liar. The sad thing is to see others jump on this bandwagon and then harass newer members on the forum. It seems like the forum is not moderated, but is instead controlled by a group of guys who seem to live here. They are literal trolls, like the fictional trolls who live under the bridge and force you to pay them before crossing. Apparently, you have to kiss these guys' asses in order to be able to be a member of this forum. In another case, I tried to open a discussion about Mexico in the Latin America forum where there are way too many discussions about Brazil and garotos - this is where most of these trolls seem to reside. I was then publicly shamed and told I was lazy and stupid. Mexico is a beautiful and diverse country and yet there are no posts about it? It's strange. The member who shamed me seems to be Argentine, so maybe he has some sort of prejudice about Mexico. I hope someone will fill this void and post something about places to visit. I won't be doing that. It's not worth it for me to be called names. Ironically, this person who shamed me for asking a question then went on to post about his trip to Buenos Aires - it's the type of thing I put on Facebook - not something I'd share with a bunch of strangers. He told us about his lunch with his mother and even posted photos of her! Ok, maybe I don't understand the rules of the forum, but is that what this is for, so that some people can share every detail of their lives and the rest of us swoon over them? It's really sad that gay men are not more supportive of one another. Rather than encouraging discussion and welcoming new members, the older trolls seem to want to keep this forum for themselves so that they can tell us about a boring lunch with their mother. I got a lot of good information here, but it's not a place where I feel welcomed. I've been called a liar, a fraud and lazy because I asked a question. I feel sorry for these guys. Also feel bad about the other victims of one particular members paranoia. It has unfortunately made this forum a toxic place. I hope the moderators will take a look at some of the behavior here that discourages discussion and results in people not wanting to share or ask questions.

I think you need to get help. I really don't know what you're accusing me of, but you are way off. You seem a bit delusional. Are you on medication?

Not really sure what you're accusing me of, but I think you're all a little nuts. What a strange forum this is.

I'm browsing these forums thinking about places I'll go to now that we're sort of returning to normal travel again. I went to Myanmar many years ago. Back in Bangkok, which was my base, a Thai friend told me he had sex with guys in central Yangon, near Shwedegon Pagoda - they'd meet in a park and you could just stick your hand up their longi. I didn't do anything while I was there, but his story made me want to go back. Wondering if you went and if you had any luck.

I just returned from a month in Medellin and I can confirm that Paradise Lleras shows up on Motel Now as a love motel. Also, not sure about the police presence being a deterrant for a hustler to enter a motel. Protistution and love motels are legal in Colombia. Haven't read all of the posts here, but not really understanding the "detective work" which seems suspect to me. I saw Angelo on Grindr and definitely considered hooking up with him. He's really hot. "Guest" provided way too much detail for this to be a made up encounter.

We don't talk about P*bl*.

Hey guys! I just returned from a month in Medellin. Wish I'd found this forum before I went. Lots of useful tips. While there is a lot of good info here, I wanted to add a few more that I didn't see mentioned which I either knew before I left or learned the hard way there. 1. It may have been said elsewhere, but I'd like to emphasize that you should speak some Spanish. I found very few people who spoke English. Definitely learn the basics and keep trying to communicate in Spanish - translator apps work well and people will appreciate the effort on your part. 2. If your cellphone plan doesn't allow an option for international use - look at Airalo e-sim card. It's an electronic sim. You can download the app before you leave, purchase your sim and have it ready to go when you land. I found out about this when the sim I had installed on an old phone stopped working. Wish I'd known before I left home. 3. Look for a card that allows cash withdrawals without fees. I have a Charles Schwab investor "checking" account. I transfer money into this account and use it for travel. Best exchange rates and ATM fees are reimbursed. 4. Use Rappi - it's a delivery service that will deliver anything - food, medicine, whatever you want. 5. Approach Grindr with caution. Too many guys that seemed too good to be true. Ask for verification photos if you're not convinced. Some words that indicate a financial exchange - liga, disponible, solvente. 6. Use Uber instead of taxis if you can. They are unauthorized, so you sit in the front seat - just a "friend giving you a ride". You can plug in your destination and you know the fare. Their goal is to get you to your destination in the most efficient way, whereas taxis might take the scenic route if they figure out you're not from there. With all cars, close the doors gently. They are surprisingly light. If you use the same force you use at home, it will slam. Taxi drivers are especially unhappy when this happens. 7. Be careful at ATMs - I used the ATM inside of a supermarket. Don't flash your cash. 8. Beware of people slipping you drugs. I didn't read about this happening to gay men (though there were a few gay murders that I think are still unsolved), but I read on numerous forums about straight guys being drugged by women and ending up in the ER - of course with their valuables gone. While I had ZERO problems there, the hotness and availability of the men might lower your normal sense of caution. 9. Look for a local to show you around and help with your Spanish. I paid a guy to be my tour guide. He threw in some extras. I had the best experiences with him. Met him on Grindr. 10. Have fun. Medellin is a beautiful city and the people are lovely. Keep your wits about you, show some cultural sensitivity, and you'll have a great time.