farangyai

I think you have been given some very appropriate advice. I have always found the captains at Hero helpful and tip them for their help.  I always take the time to tell them what I want so they ensure there is no misunderstanding.
I have also had guys where the chemistry was not right the first time, but sometimes found that the chemistry improved the second time. I knew them a bit and better and they also knew me better and what I enjoyed. 
Some customers keep trying different guys looking for what they want.  I have had good results with staying with someone I liked, even if things weren't perfect and working to improve things.

ShyatFirst said:  I am not trolling , fake or telling lies. please believe me.
 
It would be much easier to believe someone if it didn't take two weeks to tell at least some basic facts of the story.
 
As others have commented, we have no way of knowing whether it is true or not. Assuming it is true, you are not the first one to be professionally lied to in the Land of Smiles. Don't let the Buddhist atmosphere fool you. Many on this board could point out to you the signs that you were being scammed and you should certainly see them all in retrospect.
 
The best thing anyone can do is to learn from their mistakes and MOVE ON. It sounds like there were many missteps in your situation as you seem to have moved apparently totally unaware down the path of the scam. How would you change that next time?  Rehashing it and beating yourself up over it serves no useful purpose. But it is useful to analyze the situation and learn what you could have done differently. If some Thai guy wanted to latch onto you tomorrow- what would you do differently??
 
Tell yourself you just paid for a very expensive course on how not to be scammed.  Now- what did you learn?

I suspect it won't make you feel any better but I would like to re-assure you that there are decent loving Thai guys out there.
I started coming to Thailand on holiday about 8 years met a couple of guys who I very soon realized were only interested in money.
5 years ago I met my current partner who is 35 years younger than me.
He never asked me for money, but one evening I phoned him from the UK and asked him where he was - he told me he was in a bar where he used to work and when I asked why, he said he was borrowing money because his mum was very sick and he wanted her to go to a private hospital
I told him I would send him the money (20,000 baht) - I don't know why I did it, but I instinctively knew he was different from the other guys.
It was the best money I have ever spent.
When I returned to Thailand 6 months later he took me to visit his mother and she was very sick and passed away 5 months later.
We took our relationship very slowly until we were both sure.
He came to live with me in the UK for 2 and 1/2 years where we had a Civil Partnership ceremony.
When I was sure we were both committed and he, as well as me, knew our good and bad points we bought land (in his name with a 30 year lease for me) in Isaan and a year ago built a house.
He is a great guy and really considers me and for my part I have to be prepared to trust him and appreciate he needs to see his friends and speak Thai or Khymer without me around.
For what it's worth, my view is don't give up on Thai men, its possible to meet  'the real deal" but take it slowly particularly with the financial side of things.

ShyatFirst said:  I am not trolling , fake or telling lies. please believe me.
 
It would be much easier to believe someone if it didn't take two weeks to tell at least some basic facts of the story.
 
As others have commented, we have no way of knowing whether it is true or not. Assuming it is true, you are not the first one to be professionally lied to in the Land of Smiles. Don't let the Buddhist atmosphere fool you. Many on this board could point out to you the signs that you were being scammed and you should certainly see them all in retrospect.
 
The best thing anyone can do is to learn from their mistakes and MOVE ON. It sounds like there were many missteps in your situation as you seem to have moved apparently totally unaware down the path of the scam. How would you change that next time?  Rehashing it and beating yourself up over it serves no useful purpose. But it is useful to analyze the situation and learn what you could have done differently. If some Thai guy wanted to latch onto you tomorrow- what would you do differently??
 
Tell yourself you just paid for a very expensive course on how not to be scammed.  Now- what did you learn?

ShyatFirst- I think we have identified the problem in your relationship. If you communicated by email, your bf probably got married and had a family in between your messages and lost interest and concluded you were a fake.