PeterRS

Singapore still has the colonial British law Section 377A which prohibits sodomy - and which the government interprets as homosexuality. That's not to say there aren't lots of gays in Singapore or gay venues, but forget gogo bars. There are a few gay saunas and a few gay bars. There is no gay club but some mixed clubs attract quite a few gay guys. I used to go to Zouk in the 1990s which was fun. I know it's still open but have not been since then. Frankly, SIngapore is not really a gay destination unless you want to spend your time shopping and wandering around in high heat and humdity - although the subway is very extensive. The main shopping streets will have a lot of eye candy, but Singapore guys seem not to have a developed gaydar! As others have said, it's also expensive compared to most other Asian cities.

Strong rumours from Singapore suggest that the government is finally going to get rid of the Section 377A anti-sodomy law left over from British colonial times. This is part of a letter recently sent out by Pastor Yang Tuck Yoong of Cornerstone Community Church, a long-time opponent of the repeal of Section 377A and LGBT rights in general, to other church leaders. The ruling PAP has informed them that Section 377A will be repealed within the next few months. On Thursday, several of us were invited to meet with Ministers Shanmugam, Edwin Tong and Desmond Lee to discuss about the future of 377A To summarise a few salient points of the meeting which are important: In a nutshell, we have been informed that 377A will be repealed in the coming few months because there is a general understanding that though it may be a sin, gay sex ought not be criminalised. To balance this, the government is likely to put in a constitutional clause referencing the definition of marriage in the Woman’s Charter. This is different from enshrining a definition of marriage in the constitution itself. It is a technical move that merely prevents constitutional challenges to the standing definition of marriage (on the basis of it discriminating against homosexuals). This means that while the government of today says it is ideologically committed to a one-man, one-woman marriage, this is not set in stone. The definition of marriage can be changed with a simple majority of parliament rather than a supermajority if it was enshrined in the constitution. This puts the crosshairs of LGBT activists squarely on marriage and the new battleground of our country will shift to marriage. LGBT activists will seek to shape public consciousness of what marriage is, and attempt to get parliament to enact gay marriage because they believe that homosexuals should have a right to marry. Likewise, the church must now protect the definition of marriage as a comprehensive and conjugal union of a man and a woman, ordered toward reproduction and the raising of healthy children.

I love Taiwan. It's not only the beauty of the island as a whole, I find much to see in Taipei for a gay guy. The Red House in the centre is a great meeting place with its plethora of bars, cafes, restaurants and gay-related shops. Not that you are kikely to make friends there as Taiwanese tend to go out in groups. But there are other bars - even a leather bar with a very dark room and often shows - saunas, massage spas and one of my favourite attractions the hot springs developed by the Japanese mostly to the west of the city but easily accessible by the very efficient subway. One atracts mostly gay guys. Although there is rarely any action, you see many wonderfully toned young Taiwanese in all their glory walking between the pools and in the steam room (unlike Thais, Taiwanese have no issue walking around naked without covering their fronts). I have found chatting to some very easy, exchanged contact details with some - and made two very good friends The apps will be quite busy. Above all, I find Taiwan guys the most attractive and polite of all Chinese. It's such a pity that the borders remain closed due to covid. I was hoping they might open in time for the gay pride parade on the last Saturday in October but increasingly that seems unlikely. I have been to 7 of the Parades since 2011 and just love the atmosphere. Around 200,000 now attend, many from around the region. As with most similar Parades, there are official parties around the week-end. Returning to my first point, a few years ago I took a 5-day round the island tour. The scenery is understandably very varied but also incredibly beautiful. Well worth the expense - and the apps are certainly far from inactive outside Taipei!

@macaroni21 makes many interesting points. But I'm not sure this one is particularly valid, the more so if a visitor is even slightly adventurous. As a start it is just a short walk to the famous Wat Hua Lamphong temple which I find one of the most visually interesting of the many dotted around the city. Then the Silom/Suriwong area is very close to both Skytrain and MRT subway stations. It's now only 4 stops on the Skytrain to get to the river at Saphan Taksin. Take either the leisurely slow or the fast express public boats (both very cheap) to see Bangkok from the river (and note some of its Chinese heritage) and then arrive very close to the Grand Palace and the stunning Wat Phra Kaew and Wat Pho temples. Depending on the time of day, it's worth taking a taxi or tuk-tuk for the relatively short distance to see the famous Marble Temple (Wat Benchamabophit) with its perfectly symmetrical frontage, A short distance away is the fascinating all teak Vimanmek Mansion built by King Rama V in 1900. As with the Grand Palace complex, like many royal tourist sites there is a dress code if you wish to visit - no short pants, no sleeveless shirts revealing shoulders and no flip flops. Being main tourist sites, there will almost always be tuk-tuks nearby if you don't want to walk. Then if traffic is bad after your wanderings, the river is only about 1 km away and the express boat from Thewes pier gets you back to Saphan Taksin in something like 20 minutes. It all makes for a fascinating if perhaps tiring day trip.

It's certainly not only you - or at least, it certainly shouldn't be! I'm just surprised that reading between the lines of your post you have left it so long to consult your lawyer. Hopefully it's only to revise an existing wil. lt also took me too long to decide on a will, the more so when I had a property and a reasonable amount of savings and investments either in the bank or due to come in a few years. I was nearing 60 at the time. I should have consulted a lawyer a good 20 or even 30 years earlier so that as I earned and saved more provision had been made for my assets should I fall under a bus. I do suggest that this is an issue everyone must discuss openly especially with a long time partner. It's particularly true when, I suspect in both our cases, our partners are considerably younger. If it so happened that I died without a formal updated will, I hate to think of all the problems that would leave him.

Xi is unquestionably playing to his own power base. Frankly, I don't think at the present time he gives a damn what happens in the USA - or any other country for that matter. He has far too many major problems and developing problems at home to be concerned about other countries. If Pelosi makes the visit, Xi's hand among the power brokers in Beijing is strengthened almost whatever he does.

This is precisely the point made by the British historian specialising in international relations, economic and military might, Paul Kennedy, in his excellent 1988 book "The Rise and Fall of the Great Powers since 1500". Empires cannot last. Kennedy argues that there will always come a point when expenditure on the forces required to defend borders and overseas interests reach such a level it so destabilises a country's national economy that it has no option but to reconsider and retrench. This is particularly true in peacetime. Past empires have collapsed because over the longer term productive and revenue-raising capacities on the one hand could not continue to finance the military strength on the other. Thoroughly recommended reading.

Apparently according to news reports and a friend I just spoke to it's being very much played down. I looked earlier at the online edition of the Taipei Times. I can see nothing on the news pages but the lead editorial suggests her visit should be shelved. Against that there is an op-ed in which the writer takes the opposite view. But this writer is Dutch and teaches the history of Taiwan at the George Mason University in Fairfax, Virginia. Based in the USA it is perhaps not surprising that he very much spouts the Pelosi line, whereas the editorial is clearly the 'Taiwan view'.

In Taipei I always stay near Da'an Park. It's a small park and ideal for a short morning walk before breakfast. The Dandy Hotel Da'an Park is one of a big chain of hotels but very moderately priced and within meters of the Da'an subway station on the Red Line. Usefully this is the line that takes you to the main hot springs near Shipai station out west. It is also close enough to the very large National Taiwan University campus to be either within walking distance or a short bus ride. There are dozens of great cheap eateries around the Green Line subway stations by the University. And Taipei's main (perhaps only) sex shop is very near one of those Green Line stations! One comment I have heard many times from various guys I have met as well as a former long-term boyfriend is that there is a big lack of available older westerners in Taipei city. No doubt that's why in my view it is one of the easiest cities in the region to hook up with handsome young guys who are not money boys.

I don't think we are ever too old for sexual activity, although stamina may be reduced. I'm older than @Olddaddy and in Thailand I have my long time partner with me. Out of the country, though, I am let off the leash! A few years ago on a trip to Taipei when I was several years older than @Olddaddyis now, I relied on the apps. One day I had unusually set up two hook ups - one at lunchtime and the other late afternoon. Then just after breakfast a guy sent me a message. He worked nearby and would be going out soon to collect something for his company. Could we meet? I basically said I was busy, but he looked cute and pressed hard - so what was I supposed to do? He came, we met for a quick coffee in the lobby, he was indeed cute and - well, the next 45 minutes were extremely enjoyable. The only problem with 3 guys in one day is that I twice had to send out for dry towels! No doubt housekeeping was well aware of the reason! As I was relaxing after my last scheduled encounter, oops - it happened again. An art student had just finished a late class (I usually stay close to a university) and clicked on me. Could he see me before he went home? Although tired, he looked even more cute than my earlier encounters, and so I said ok but added I'd had a tiring day. He looked gorgeous both clothed and naked on the bed. He was also like a tiger and I had once again to work hard. But what a session! After he left, I went down to the bar for a stiff drink before heading back for a long sleep. All the boys were only out for sex. All seemed to enjoy being with much older westerners. As in the case of most on the apps in Taipei, none was a money boy. 4 is the most ever in one day and I have never come close to repeating it. One a day now is perfect for me. But what a day! What a memory!

With Congress Leader Nancy Pelosi seemingly determined to lead some of her flock on a visit to Taiwan despite the ire of the Beijing leadership, the US is once again misreading the signals and leading the USA into somewhat uncharted waters. Whereas the USA supported Chiang Kai-shek's often brutal dictatorship in Taiwan after he lost the war with Mao, it was purely for political reasons - precisely the same reason they supported the murdering, thieving Marcos in The Philippines. For well over a year the corriders in Washington rang out with the refrain, "Who lost China?" The thought of a second huge communist nation in the world was too much for the power brokers to accept. Many willingly believed in Chiang's boast that his refuge in Taiwan was merely temporary and he would soon return to defeat Mao and rule China again. Nixon's 1971 handshake with Mao in Beijing was the start of a major realigment in US realpolitik in the region. Soon, Taiwan was all but off the radar. US adopted a one-China policy which has remained firmly in place virtually since then. This is backed up by the Taiwan Relations Act, three joint US-China Communiques and six formal written Assurances. The US Department of State webpage makes it clear that US policy "opposes any unilateral changes to the status quo from either side; we do not support Taiwan independence" although it adds "we expect cross-Strait differences to be resolved by peaceful means." With China's National People's Congress meeting later this year, with President Xi hoping that his cronies will give him another 5 years in power, Taiwan has yet again become very much a hot button issue. In another thread elsewhere, I have detailed the wartime agreements made at Cairo and ratified at Potsdam in and after World War II that the Japanese would return all their colonial possessions to the countries from which they were stolen. As China had ruled Taiwan for some 250 years, naturally Taiwan was returned to China. But after China soon became communist, the USA did everything in its power to nullify those earlier Agreements, even conniving with the Japanese at the San Francisco Peace conference to change the return of Taiwan to China to the Republic of China. This has resulted in a field-day for international lawyers, but by far the majority accept and agree that the USA's tinkering isn't worth the paper it is printed on. But it did not all start with Taiwan. From before World War II US politicians were to get Asia so wrong for decades with often disastrous consequences. First Pearl Harbour. The staunchly isolationist US had cracked Japan's diplomatic codes, it had long known Japan was preparing for war and aware that a task force had sailed from Japan on November 26. In an era without satellites it just assumed it was heading to the Philippines and the oilfields in Indonesia. Yet The Philippines was only days away from Japan and no attack had taken place. The base in Hawaii was not put on any form of alert. Being a Sunday, many of its forces on the base were stood down. We know the result. Then Korea. Aware that Russia had taken over North Korea, when the US Secretary of State Dean Acheson publicly announced the US strategic Defence Perimeter in January 1950, the US was much more focussed on possible Soviet advances in Europe. So when Acheson forgot about Korea and left it out of his policy announcement, no one in Washington even thought about it. But the Russians certainly noticed it So in June they helped the North Korean regime to invade the South. As a History Channel series presently being shown in Thailand makes clear, the US and its allies were completely unprepared for war. Tactically General McArthur made huge mistakes. They were also totally unprepared for a Korean winter and Chinese participation, the more so when that country had no heavy weapons. Having turned around the initial attack and advanced into the North as far as the Yalu River marking the border with China, the retreat of US and UN forces that followed became a national humiliation. General McArthur, who had asked for approval to use nuclear weapons on China, was finally relieved of his command and replaced by General Ridgeway. Eventually, after huge personnel losses and tens of thousands suffering from frostbite, after 3 often senseless years the status quo was restored at the 38th parallel. Vietnam and Indo-China was a similar blunder. The USA totally failed to understand that Ho Chi Minh was in essence a nationalist. He had written to both Roosevelt and Truman begging them not to allow the French to return to their former East Asian colonies. It seems that neither replied. The US was staunchly anti-colonial and forced some of its allies to start a decolononisation programme soon afer the War. The French leader Charles de Gaulle refused. Allegedly he informed Truman that he would rather have Soviet troops march through France to the Atlantic than give up Vietnam, Cambodia and Laos. It was a bluff, but it worked. So the French returned to their murderous rule in Indo-China. Ho was far from a saint and his people in the north suffered considerably. But he and his excellent General Giap ahd learned from the Chinese tactics in Korea. They lured the French into an open area surrounded by hills. The French defeat at DIen Bien Phu was a total disaster for de Gaulle and the end of French occupation. But Eisenhower and then Kennedy believed the US had a duty to protect democracy in the south just as they had propped up the murderous Syngman Rhee in Seoul, despite South Korea's democracy being a sham. That south Vietnam had a hugely corrupt government and that few in the south had much faith in it meant nothing in Washington. It even had the CIA help engineer a coup to get rid of and murder one Prime Minister and replace him with another rifdiculous man as President, General Ky. As Max Hastings says in his excellent relatively new history of that war, "Ky was a slick dandy, with a pencil-thin moustache; he affected a custom-made black flight suit and impressive procession of wives and girlfriends. He was publicly affable, fluent, enthusiastic about all things American but the taste of Coca-Cola - and as remote as a Martian from the Vietnamese people." Even before then, the CIA had secretly and illegaly - as it was without Congressional approval - created what was effectively the world's largest airport in the jungle in northern Laos. Later came the secret and similarly illegal intrusion into Cambodia which was to so destabilise that impoverished country that it led directly to the rise to power of the Khmer Rouge. And we know what then happened. China now, though, is very different from the postwar period. Under Xi it has become more hardline, it has broken international law in Hong Kong and got away with it, and the world seems to pay little attention to the disastrous policy in Xinjiang Province with the Uighurs. Xi's re-election bid is not certain and he has to have a considerable number of enemies in Beijing. He needs to go into that Congress with the air of a strong leader. Pelosi's trip threatens at this delicate time to awaken the dragon. There is absolutely no need for her to go at this time. The US has a lot of military power in the South China Sea. If there is any degree of misunderstanding, could this be yet another US disaster in the making in the region? I would not bet against it!

Agree with @fedssocr. Bangkok is a great first choice - and not just for the nighlife. The temples are magnificent and there is so much else to see in and around the city which is all so hugely different from western cities. I used to adore Bali - but that was decades ago when the tourist invasion had hardly begun. 15 years ago it had changed so much and I felt sadly for the worse. Yet, if you want a totally diffferent experience from Bangkok and other regional cities, I would still recommend a week there. Instead of sticking to Kuta and the hotels in the southern Nusa Dua beach area (although a trip or two to one of the island's beaches is always relaxing), immerse yourself in Balinese life and culture by staying elsewhere. Try to watch a Balinese religious festival, listen to the feint sound of different gamellin orchestras practising as you walk by the rice terraces, see the various forms of Balinese dance including the spectacular kecak dance, visit the temple in the sea at Tanah Lot, watch the sunset from the cliffs near the little temple of Ulu Watu, attend an evening shadow puppet play and just watch as the local Balinese love it, etc.

Is anyone else having difficulty getting mileage tickets around their preferred dates? A month ago I tried to use miles from the Asia Miles programme for a return business class ticket BKK/UK on Qatar covering a fortnight in March 2023. I was informed there were no such tickets avaiable, not only on my preferred dates but on any flight within the 14 day period. I pointed out that QR has at least 50 flights to and from BKK to Doha and probably more from DOH to the UK during that period and it was inconceivable there was not one business class ticket on even one flight available during that period. I even tried a few days either side. Same reply. I was merely told to try later. I argued but as expected I got absolutely nowhere. Yet I did not want just any flights because flight connections at Doha can sometimes be lengthy. I really wanted the shortest ones. Two days ago I contacted Asia Miles again. To start I got more or less the same response. No biz seats but this time they could offer me economy. I kept pressing. When I asked the lady to look at other dates around the time of my originally requested flights, there was a long wait. Then I was surprised to be told that my return flights ex-UK did in fact have a biz ticket available. Checking outward flights in the 3 days before the original date, now there was a seat 2 days beforehand. All had the short plane change! I immediately booked it. I was told I would have to call QR in BKK to chose seats, but the e-ticket had allocated seat 2A in all flights. Clearly that seat is avaiable for mileage tickets on most if not all QR flights. Why it had not been available a month earlier, I have no idea! The only other issue I had is that the extra charges for mileage tickets have risen considerably. No doubt fuel surcharges account for part of that. But I have my tickets and that is the main thing.

All this is of little use given that Hong Kong still requires almost all visitors to undergo the most stringent quarantine regulations. You still need testing on arrival at Hong Kong airport followed by a longish wait, then 14 days quarantine at home or in a hotel with daily RATs - and you cannot move out of either.

It seems there are several vineyards now appearing in the Kingdom. Visiting the famous Dansai Ghost Festival in Loei Province some years ago, I was surprised when our minibus passed quite a large vineyard. I was informed it was the first vineyard in Thailand and that the elevation, soil and hilly region made it ideal for making wine. This is a description. I did taste one of the wines - can't recall now which one. Pleasant and drinkable but certainly nothing special. Over the years I am sure they will improve in quality. Chateau de Loei The Chateau de Loei winery is situated at 600 metres above sea level in the province of Loei, some 500 km north of Bangkok, and 60 km from the provincial capital, Loei. The first wines were vinified in 1995. Thus Chateau de Loei is the first winery in Thailand. With 130 hectares it is 60% bigger than the PB Winery and more than eight times bigger than the GranMonte Winery. Here, too, the Shiraz and Chenin Blanc grape varieties, which thrive best in the tropics, are cultivated. The winery offers a large selection of different wines. The inexpensive wines are cheaper than at the previously visited wineries. But these also cost THB 450 (CHF/USD 14.50) per bottle due to the high alcohol tax. Some of these wines are drinkable, but they were not a pleasure. Since the Chateau de Loei produces a large quantity of wine, there must also be enough Thai buyers who have become accustomed to these wines over more than 20 years. Near Chiang Mai there is also an amazing tiny distillery that makes liqueurs from Thai fruits. I visited with a friend around a dozen years ago as his nephew runs it. Both are Austrian. I thought the quality both original and quite stunning. As the output is so small, almost all is exported. But you can occasionally find a bottle or two in one or two of Bangkok's really top hotels.

Now there's agreat idea! Forget @fedssocr, with respect! GIve me an airfare, hotel accommodation and introduction to some gay venues and I'll start next week. I'll even take photos to prove my findings! 👌

Apologies in advance if this has already been covered for I have not read the full thread. But in the case of the provision of sexual services, in Thailand a tip is indeed just that - a tip! At least in terms of the law. The provision of sexual services for cash or other gain from an establishment like a gogo bar, host bar, spa or other such venue is illegal. If a bar was to pay a boy a living wage and then rent him out, that in the peculiar Thai way of logic is prostitution. Paying a bar fine is not because it denies the bar of the boy's time to dance or whatever. Negotiating a fee in advance between two people for sexual services is technically an agreed advance payment and is therefore prostitution. Tipping a boy or a girl at the end of a session is technically not payment for sexual services! But I can't imagine any of the boys in blue who get their monthly commissions are going to be too fussy about it LOL!

As I have to fly to the UK at least once a year, I did take BA once. The daytime 777 was filthy. My seat had not been cleaned and the toilets disgusting. That plus the 8-across business class seating made the entire round trip miserable. I vowed never to use the carrier again on the BKK/LHR route. I later learned that the three 777s that BA rotated on the BKK route were indeed three of their first deliveries. The old days when BA ran 747s as an extension of the SYD/LHR service were vastly better. Instead I took to flying to HKG where I could either take CX or BA's A380. The ticket price initially was cheaper until demand must have eased off for the non-stop service out of BKK and BA started lowering prices.

Having contributed to several Asian-based Boards over about 15 years, I have come across and engaged with a couple of trolls. In Thailand one contributed so many posts to two of the Boards that it took the combined action of several posters to get him banned from one. In one based in another country in the region that had a much younger membership, the troll admitted he was a near eighty year old and pretended he was a member to give advice to young guys. Cross him and inform him his advice was nonsense and he would rant and rave calling those posters all manner of crap. After being temporarily banned several times, he was finally booted off. Each time, I got really pissed off. I hope I have grown up since then. Trolls crave attention and I am sure @joizy is correct. Most, if not all, are sad, bored older men who need a fantasy personality to gain attention and give some meaning to their dull existence. Psychopaths? I'm not sure. Schizophrenics? Almost certainly! LOL

Hah! Too true! One of the perks of being based in Asia for so many decades was that Bangkok was merely a short flight away - and often just a short stop-over to another city in the region for business meetings. Perhaps it's the old rosy-tinted spectacles thing allied to general ageing but I find the changes have not been for the better. No doubt, too, the economic development of the country equally has had quite a major effect.

I wonder how often it has to be repeated that there is no such thing as a going rate. A tip is a tip is a tip. It is up to the customer to decide. There are no doubt parameters. Those who are perhaps better off financially than others may decide to offer a higher tip than those who are less well off. Also not everyone intends to off a boy every night of a visit for some visiting bars etc. live here. Irrespective of financial status, I always felt that performance played a part in whatever I tipped. And unllike many, I never once negotiated in advance. What @TotallyOz offers is his business, same as what @belkinDC offers is his.

A year ago it was virtually a dead duck. The A380 was the wrong plane at the wrong time, even though it was extremely popular with the flying public and I just loved it. Thankfully it used to extend one of its Dubai/BKK flights to Hong Kong. Since my first flight in 2010, I must have taken over two dozen round trips in its upstairs business class (relatively very inexpensive at 14,000 baht round trip including extra baggage, lounge access, seat selection, flat bed seating and the most extensive in flight entertainment in the air). I took two friends - separately - on trips to Hong Kong. They went crazy about the aircraft, especially the bar at the back! Apart from Emirates, most airlines dropped the aircraft when covid struck. It was too big and too expensive to operate. Now, though, with demand for travel much greater than anticipated, 9 of the former 14 A380 operators have brought some of them back into service. Emirates is even retrofitting 67 of the aircraft to incude a Premium Economy cabin which looks spacious and certainly worth trying. Some operators no doubt feel it is cheaper to operate than attempt to sell since the market price for a 10-year old A380 during covid had dropped to just $30 million. I took these photos at Hong Kong airport around 2015. Three A380s at adjacent bays. I wonder if we will ever see that again. https://edition.cnn.com/travel/article/a380-superjumbo-comeback/index.htm

Please remember that Bali is not Muslim. It has its own long-adapted version of Hinduism and almost all Balinese boys are uncircumcised. Those whom you meet who are circumcised are likely to be boys from neighbouring Java, often money boys.

Of the many good points in the @TotallyOz post, I think this is one most of us rarely think of. In 1979 I gladly tipped 500 baht short time and it always seemed equally gladly received. That was then worth US$20 and seemed to be the general rate. The inflation rate in Thailand in the following two years was pretty horrendous - in 1980 was 24.56% and in 1981 10.32%, but my 500 baht tips did not increase. In fact, I don't think I increased it to 1,000 baht till around 1990. After the Asian Economic Recession in 1997 it moved up to 1,500 and then later 2,000. Between that first visit in 1979 and the start of 2020 prices in Thailand have increased 361.7%. The value of my 500 baht is now 2,308.69 baht. But core consumer prices are now once again in a period of inflation. Inflation in July alone was 7.6% higher than the same month last year with food prices showing the highest increase. So if the working boys looked at offical rates (which I agree is unlikely), either I was overpaying in 1979/1980 or I should be considering a short time rate of at least 2,500 baht by the end of this year. At today's rate, that would still amount to less than US$69. So when considering any form of comparison, I sggest the above should not be disregarded. https://www.worlddata.info/asia/thailand/inflation-rates.php

And the klongs are supposed to be cleaned regularly specifically to avoid this. I suppose as long as people in Bangkok continue throwing all manner of rubbish into the klongs, nothing will change.