Its good to have self esteem but at times it may be our fault for encounter not going well - , hygiene problems , overly aggressive or self confident behavior , having bad reputation among boys for being violent or stingy, being too young or too old for boy's taste , just to name a few.
I love those discussions about other people's money. It's payer and payer only who can reliably assess whether his money was or was not well spent, not even most sympathetic and well meaning bystanders and onlookers. If somebody's dream is to check whether that bulge in boys jeans is natural or silicon enhanced it's his free will to satisfy curiosity to get that boy naked, even at inflated cost.
( not my case but member's I was visiting bar with, 5 mins trip to bar toilet , inspection, 1000 baht changed hands, curiosity satisfied. Yes, I thought it's way too much where likely 200 would suffice but I could say both were happy. For curious minds, it was real but expected tip of an off quoted was too high even to my generous friend )