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My experience, as a holiday visitor for the last twenty years, is that yes they can be faithful; the older they are, the more likely that they can be, but let me immediately qualify that, by asking 'who are we expecting him to be faithful to?' Most young Thai boys shag like rabbits with other young Thai boys on a daily basis; they can have current Thai boyfriends but they rarely seem particularly enduring relationships. But as for us older farang boyfriends living abroad?, well that's a whole different matter. I currently have two 'boyfriends', one Laos, one Thai (who each know about the other). My Laos boyfriend I have known for about ten years now, we video-call every day, and we meet-up whenever I return to Pattaya, but we haven't had sex together for several years; he is much more of a companion now. He now talks quite candidly to me about his other three farang boyfriends; and I am aware that each of us supports him a little bit. He has just about abandoned his bar-boy job in boyztown now, and focusses instead on keeping all four of us happy by daily contact. He is over 30 now and his own sex-drive has dwindled; when he does feel horny he finds another Thai boy who will come and suck his cock, or occasionally fuck him - and he pays them to do so (500 baht manybe). But his English is just about conversational now and he is my daily contact with Pattaya, and when I am in town he is my friend and companion. My Thai boyfriend is the 'boom boom' boyfriend that I have known about six years now. In his late 20s, he is still a horny little bugger and constantly shagging other Thai boys (top or bottom) on an almost daily basis, either individually or at small alcohol fuelled 'parties'. He likes me and happily stays with me on holiday, but I know he drools over other Thai boys (not me! haha) as we are forever chatting about who he has seen that he likes. He is into threesomes with me, and effectively he uses me as an excuse to have sex with the other boys we meet in the bars that we both choose as our third (or occasionally fourth 🤣). I also use him for threesomes in that there are bar boys who will come to my room because they know that they will be having sex with him (as well as me). I fully accept that neither boy will end up pushing my wheelchair here in England in years to come; neither wants to come and live with me in England; they are both entirely happy living where they are, and why not? In Thailand they have their families, their friends, their culture, language and foods. So neither are really my boyfriends in the sense that we might traditionally understand; I am essentially a favoured customer, a status I pay for in one way or another. Of course, if I was an exPat living in Pattaya, available to see them 24/7, then my 'relationship' with either might be entirely different.

Stayed at the Zing many times now, they are totally guest friendly. I usually come downstairs when my guest has arrived to greet them and lead them upstairs to my room. If I see the same boy again, they then usually just make their way straight to my room; they have to pass reception, but that has never been a problem. As to M Bar, I love the place, stuffed full of baht-hungry boys. Most would be all to happy to drink with you and probably to be offed back to your room later. As to the boys on stage, if they are performing/dancing, they will be focussed on that; some may already have customers awaiting them off-stage, but most will be all to happy to accept a drink when their turn on stage is completed. I agree with other posters than you can always ask a waiter about a particular boy if you feel uncomfortable approaching the lad directly. The boys can leave you alone if they think that you are happy with your own company, but break the ice with the offer of a drink or two and you will find yourself having to 'fight them off with a stick' 🤣 I think the basic off-fee is 300 baht, rising to 500 baht for their main stage boys. Tip expectations are usually 2k for Short-Time, but 1.5k can still be negotiated with some boys. There are stage shows at 10pm and midnight, but many of the boys sleep above the bar and will linger inside, and out front for several hours after that. Many a night it has been between 2-3am before my boyfriend and I have trudged our way back to the hotel (either on our own or with a borrowed third for the night) and we have very rarely ever been the last customer to leave.

On my last couple of holidays I stayed at the Zing next door to MBar, and ended up there most nights, but I would go to the Midnight show at 12, usually that little bit more raunchy, fuelled by several hours of boy drinks. Many customers leave at the end of the show, but some of us hang around, buying even more boy drinks. The remaining boys, anxious for late offs or extra tips, can become MUCH more friendly; open trouser belts, maybe zips down, and sometimes hands-on (yours and/or theirs) on those sofas at the end of the bar close to the now empty stage. 100 baht tips, 200 baht tips and 300 baht tips depending on developing activities. The Midnight show usually finishes by 1am, but it has often been 2 or 3am before my long-time companion and I have finally tipped out and stagger back to my hotel room next door. On such nights MBar seems only to close when the remaining customers stop spending! 🤣 When the last few deviants, such as myself, have stopped molesting the boys left the inside of the bar, Madam M is still usually sitting outside with other boys and the last few customers in the big setaed area at the front of the bar. Hopefully I shall be back again in September; can't wait! 🥰

We (mostly) have a fairly gentle, self-depreciating, sense of humour that can even be lost on other countries far closer to home than SEA 😂. But back to the thread, I have been for numerous walks along the Complex and Dongtan Beach in the past, noticing the Thais are the ones usually smiling, whereas the exPats all-too-often are the ones looking as miserable as sin (although I thankfully know one or two very honourable exceptions 🤣). As a (n all-too-short) holiday visitor, I have never understood why that is so?; maybe related to age, health, wealth, or simply just jaded by having spent too much time in our gay 'Paradise'?

There is a very fluid grey area between, Twinks, Femme-Boys and Ladyboys themselves. Take, just for example, a very pretty twink boy from M Bar say in the Jomtien Complex (they have many!), grow their hair, take off their jeans and put them in a dress instead, add a little (more 😅) make-up, and lo and behold you are looking at a ladyboy. Conversely, take a 'pre-op' ladyboy from, say 'Katoyes Are Us', put them in jeans, cut their hair, wipe off their make-up, and all of a sudden you are looking at a Twink. Yes I know that it can be more complicated than that - personality traites etc. etc., but fundamentaly the difference is one of perception rather than physique? And here I am obvioulsy talkinging about pre-operation ladyboys without any 'bolt-ons' or the 'cut'. Somewhere inconveniently buried in the photo archive on my hard-drive I have a number of 'just for fun', then and now pics, of boys from boy bars that I knew dressing-up as ladies for fun, for parties, or to just see what they looked like. I don't think you would do well in Jomtien Complex with a Ladyboy Bar, there are too many prejudices amongst potential customers IMHO. But you could open (another) Twink bar and, say every month, put on a cross-dressing competition for your boys (with money prizes obviously)? I bet the reactions (boys and customers) would be interesting?

This topic has generated a lot of well-considered and thoughtful responses, articulating sometimes differing points of view, and, therefore I would like to modify/amplify some of my earlier comments. I accept there is a difference between bar owners and owners of other gay-related businesses trying to promote themselves, and the bloggers/you-tubers etec who walk up and down with their cameras recording, for example, people walking around the Jomtien Complex, or sitting inside the open bars etc. We might like to think of gay-bar owners naturally wanting to promote themselves using whatever social media is available to them in order to create more business both from those potential customers actually living-in or currently visiting Pattaya, and perhaps also those perhaps considering their first visit. But as we know most prove very poor at it, and with Thai owners/managers, language may still be a practical inhibitor. IMHO, currently the best and most prolific promotors are the major karaoke bars and massage shops that pump out stills/clips/live from their premises focussing on the many handsome boys currently on their staff, smiling, and waving at the camera as it passes. (Line groups from some of the BKK Massage/Sauna businesses are FAR more explicit in showing you exactly what each boy has to offer!) But, most of it is fully in Thai, captions, commentary, names, etc; we farang might be welcomed (more or less), but we are clearly not their target audience. I daily check out three Pattaya forums (I am Bi, I hasten to add); Pattaya Addicts (where I have been part of their Mod Team for the last 15 years), the Ladyboy Forum, and this one; I love all three in different measure. Of the three, this forum is by far the smallest, and also seems the most restrictive in terms of pictures, particularly pictures of the boys and the bars, (even when they are promotional pictures). For example, I can tell you that I met this really great lad in Bar X last night, who was also amazing in the room and I paid him x baht for his troubles. But currently I can't show you his picture (even fully clothed), or tell you his name, let alone share contact details (even when it is available on Hornet or similar). I understand the thinking behind that, and respect that (although its why I dont publish trip reports here any more), but it is in marked contrast to what regularly goes on on the other two forums. Traffic on this forum would be even smaller if we cut out all the unashamedly political posts; 50% of daily traffic here currently seems Trump related! 🤣. (By contrast PA bans any political posts completely.) I say all this by way of observation, and to support the probability that our activities and posts currently make very little difference to daily foot traffic across the gay bars of Pattaya; their fate lies pretty much entirely in their own hands, and so I do congratulate bar owners, like Charlie in Jomtien Complex, who do make efforts to promote themselves, their bars and their boys. His posts and video clips are what first got me into his bars. They are great fun in so many ways; I would show you if I could! 🤣

There is a balance to be struck somewhere, some people are desperate to avoid leaving behind any visible 'footprint' of their visits to gay bars, while other of us are less concerned. On the other hand we bewail the lack of customers and boys in Jomtien, especially in low season, and the consequent failure and closure of bars that we know and love. Some of us also bewail the lack of any effort of self-publicity by the bars themselves to promote themselves and their boys. In Soi 6, the girlie bars are always promoting themselves on social media, almost on a daily basis, highlighting the girls working there. Soi 6 is consequently always very busy, reaping the benefits of its publicity. Boy bars are so very far, far behind them in promoting themselves. My couple of boy spies working in Boyztown regularly report on activity there, often by video calls from their cameras, or rather the lack of customers there, and not just in low season. Toy Boys, for example, seems to have no social media presence at all. In Jomtien Complex, boss Charlie is an exception, promoting his highly popular M Bar, Gus Bar, Sunee Bar and now Jungle Bar which are (consequently perhaps) currently the busiest in the Soi. The massage shops in the Complex are also getting in on the act and now regularly appearing on social media. In contrast Facebook, TikTok are full of the various Pattaya karaoke bars promoting themselves, showing off the boys and their 'numbers'. A thriving gay bar culture in Pattaya/Jomtien needs visual publicity, but a consequence is that we, as customers, might end up getting caught up in that, even if only as a potentially identifiable bald-spot in the background of some bar 🤣 For me that is a price worth paying! 🥰

Must be because I literally just got one, and sadly I far from measure up! 🤣 I reported it as spam.

Boys are clearly getting prudish, they never used to bother hiding any manual or oral 'activity' with customers except up in the side-enclosed 'pulpit' where the action occasionally got full-on, or rather full-in! 🤣

I feel sorry for the boys that feel they need such enhancements. Once small Thai boy I know recently had such implants. He is a 'straight' karaoke boy, but with the misfortune of a very small penis; not so much an issue if you are primarily a 'bottom', but more of an issue if you are a 'top'. He had a couple of mooks and a wrap-around fat implant; looked awful poor lad. The shame is that he is a lovely, very handsome boy with a great, enthusiastic personality, and I will continue to keep seeing him not withstanding his 'shortcomings'. If I like the lad I will work with whatever they have got, big or small.

Maybe not the boy's fault rather than a greedy mamasan who was afterwards trying to extract some of his 'winnings' from him? In my experience a massage boy, happy with the way things went, would be keen to encourage you back again?

Lets hope some sort of work-around emerges given the large percentage of boys from Cambodia and Laos that populate the bars, particularly in Jomtien Complex for example. Many of my favourite boys could be effected and my boyfriend (Laos) is very concerned as he currently does regular bi-monthly visa runs. On the face of it (and until further practical details emerge), it would seem to me that they can either become seasonal visitors, or attempt to hide in plain sight and hope they don't get picked up? The cynic in me thinks that the police could do rather well out of this?

Likewise, I am overweight and over 70, so I guess there is still hope for me yet! 🤣 Roll-on my mext visit next year! 🥰

Thats a real shame, I was late to Sunee Plaza, first going in 2015, discovering the delights and debaucheries of Good Boys, Eros Bar, Winner Boys etc., although much of it was already engulfed in darkness. Since then the lights have progressively gone out as the darkness took over. Notwithstanding, I have some wonderful memories of Sunee, nowhere more so than Nice Boys. Drinks realistically priced, near naked boys on stage with helpfully loose-fitting underware that would fall to their knees the moment your eyes moved in their direction. 1000 baht note changed into hundreds, and an orderly succession of boys coming down off stage one at a time to have their cocks initmately inspected for a 100 baht tip. Chosen boys sitting next to you, their pants already down by their ankles as you ordered them a bar drink. Mamasan helpfully bringing over a toilet roll to 'mop-up' as you stroked/sucked the boy to completion. The boy getting up to go and clean-up (although I always tried to ensure that there wasn't that much cleaning-up left to do!), and other boys on stage looking hopefully, cocks already hard in their hands, hoping that they might be next to be called down! On many visits I would not leave empty-handed, taking at least one boy with me to help me back to my hotel 😅 And now this!; an over-greedy boss, with overpriced drinks, and fully clothed boys. I am hopefully returning next week for a holiday, so will probably visit at least once, if only for old-times-sake; but sadly it may be for just the one visit this time

And that is why we love Pattaya! 🥰

A couple of reminders of Winner Boys shortly after opening when Boss Paul was younger, healthier and more fired with enthusiasm (as indeed we all were back in the day). Only Nam (center of first pic with slightly darker skin) remains working there (occasionally); but he is still an absolute little star, and well-worth an off if you can find him - you will not be disappointed with him! Nowadays, you would be lucky to find more than two boys in the bar (or more usually sitting outside the bar). Paul remains, usually sitting outside, but sadly in poor health now. Closure has looked almost inevitable since Covid, but somehow it hangs on, and there is even scuttlebutt about a new investor! I hope to be back in Pattaya next month, and also hope to be able to provide a first-hand report from the bar once again! 🥰

In my experience most don't, but ... Again in my experience, yes some will, although they are hard to find, but they are certainly there to be found if you ask discretely, and often they do it very well. They are the 'keepers!' 😅 Same, same with straight boys and proper kissing!

My friends living there report that both are currently still open

Now I think more about it, I recall that Chet failed the army lottery and was conscripted for a year or maybe more?, thus disappearing from Good Boys before it closed. He had a mate who also had a huge cock, although a little bit smaller than Chets, who was also good fun! How do I know it was slightly smaller than Chets? Because I have happy memories of the two of them sitting either side of me in Good Boys, and having a cock in each hand But when I offed Chet from ABomb, it was after his return to civilian life, and he had rather let himself go a little, and now had a noticable paunch; but just as friendly as ever

I last saw him a few years ago now working In ABomb But no idea if he is still there on not?

Sanitary or salutary experiences? 😄 Maybe its because I am more into twinks, but clean, 'minty-fresh' and with (at least) hairless little asses to feast on. Pubic hairs caught in your teeth when you next smile is so NOT a good look! 😅 I do my best to keep me clean and sweet-smelling, and I expect no less of my boys. Ideally my clean white towels on the bed should still be clean and white at the end of the session, although the odd semen stain here and there is of course allowable 🤣

Looks promising, although well away from the main gay areas of Pattaya/Jomtien, I certainly does look very clean and new, although, that said, some of my best 'very happy endings' massages have been in poorly lit, grotty little massage rooms, but compensated by having a sexy and enthusiastic young lad to work on me 😅

I also plan to be in Pattaya in September Dancing in karaoke bars until daylight breaks ?

I believe that that particular ship has already sailed! With India/Pakistan, Ukraine/Russia, Gaza/Israel to 'his' credit (almost!) he must feel that that Nobel Peace Prize is (almost) within his grasp!

This is obviously worrying; I had rather naively hoped it would all have died down by now. Not just worrying for those directly involved of course, but also for its potential impact on the many Cambodian boys that currently work in Pattaya in massage and bars, etc. My Laos BF used to go monthly (bi-monthly now) to the Cambodian border to get his visa renewed, this last time he said he need to go back to Laos to do that, and of course he needed to fly as the bus journey was so long. No only did he fly there, he has decided to stay there a few days before flying back. Costing me a small fortune haha. A small group of other Laos boys working in the Complex, did pretty much the same thing, and like my BF are still in Laos for a while longer at least (I know one of the lads farang BF who, like me, has had to stump up extra cash!). My Thai friends in BT and JC say that at the moment the conflict is not an issue with their Cambodian friends they work alongside at the moment, but how long will things stay that way if this border dispute festers or escalates further?