I hope it's different for you but when I have had 'relationships' with men in Asia over the last 16 years the requests for cash help start arriving, some from them and some from their families. You have mentioned the hopes for a new house for the family and expanding the family farm to raise goats and turtles. Filial piety is strong in Cambodia. Then there are emergencies, like urgent medical reasons and crashed motorbikes. Our urge to help when we see people in need is noble - but every step we make can advertise how wealthy we seem in their eyes. I once asked a Vietnamese lad, who I sent modest amounts of cash to, if his father knew who I was. He replied: 'He knows who you are when you send Western Union'.