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"for gay men to discriminate so widely against other gay men as the the Japanese gays do is really a bit much" I wonder: I have limited experience of Japan, Tokyo gay bars and the Japanese but I do not agree. My feeling is that the attitude is not gay-related but simple xenophobia. I speak very limited Japanese. I only used it in simple exchanges, where I was certain that I had the proper language and honorifics. I found that Japanese strangers or officials most often could not believe a foreigner could express himself in their language.

I can't think of another case where the old saying applies more appropriately than to your stated problem: "if you do what you've always done, you get what you always got" Expat's advice may be blunt, but I feel he is correct. Save yourself considerable upset and heartache by moving on. Stop fixating on this one guy and his incomprehensible actions. There are lots of good-looking, well-muscled young men in Brazil who would welcome you as one of their customers.

Much as I love Melbourne, where I spend more than a month each year, I feel you have over-praised some aspects of the city. And I have to correct some misperceptions. "Hotel" is the term used in Australia to describe a bar. The title is anachronistic but Aussies recognise it and do not expect to stay overnight! There are quite a few gay bars. (And overnight hotels in Australia are not allowed to discriminate by law. I have never experienced any problem or attitude on checking in with my much-younger boyfriend - except once, when we were warmly greeted as a couple by the (straight) manager and promptly upgraded.) Sex-work is indeed legal and sex-workers are supposed to be registered. Many 'amateurs' do not register. There are quite a few brothels for heterosexuals, but I am only aware of 2 gay brothels in the city. Tipping is unusual in Melbourne whereas it is more common in Sydney, perhaps because it's more visited by US tourists and businessmen. Good service in high-end restaurants may merit a tip of 10%; the regulars in a good cafe may round up the check; taxi-drivers never expect a tip, and I have had taxi-drivers round down the fare to the next $. And finally, you omitted one of the most attractive, mixed gay and straight areas - St Kilda - which is close to the central business district and offers beaches with restaurants and cafes galore.

Interesting thread. I'd like to see it too. Does anyone know the duration of a typical performance? And which is considered better, the Winter or the Summer show?

Oh please! He's pale and Scottish, which means the only sausage he likes is square.

Did you ever read his memoir, Totally Oz? IIRC it was contemporaneous to that advertisement, and it sported the wonderful foreword: "This book is dedicated to my Dick".

I'm so glad you asked this question, BBB! I'm told it's popular with women, but I've never found it an easy nor useful site to navigate. But I do use Instagram a lot as various friends post there and I can keep up with photos of what they're doing and talk about.

I always use a condom for fucking (tho I don't like to wear one when I'm getting sucked off). But as a top playing with younger, muscled bottoms, I have been amazed at the number of guys who tell me 'it's OK' for me to NOT use a condom when fucking them. I know we all have different views on what constitutes safe® sex, but bareback is an absolute no-no for me and I try to educate the younger guys who say this to me. I find it's an increasingly common attitude among younger guys in LA and SF. I've only encountered it with young foreigners in London, not with UK guys. That said, I find lots of younger US and UK guys are happy to suck cock without a condom, to completion, and they like to swallow my load. Brazilians in London, in contrast, often suggest I wear a condom to get sucked or if they're happy to suck without condom, want me to wear one if I'm going to get sucked to completion.

I rate Barcelona highly. There are a lot of attractive young men who are available. Most are working more or less: some are 'professional' and have online profiles, some work out of Thermas while some just seek a little extra cash. And apart from the men, the city has a lot to offer by way of architecture, history, restaurants and theatre.

Is this the same Sheraton at the end of the beach and hard up against the 'favela' of Vidigal? If so, I would check that the drug-gangs have been cleared out of Vidigal. About 18 months ago, there were repeated shootings that came close to the hotel.

Legs crossed, Adam? ;-)

Interesting. Thank you Oz.

Intriguing report, Oz, but I have a couple of technical questions. 1. You say the guys are not necessarily gay so do you have both boys with you at the same time? How well do they interact or are they more responsive if alone with a foreigner? 2. Do you specify to the 'mamasan' upfront EXACTLY what you want to do/have done as part of the massage/sexual repertoire? I've no problem being direct but I would not like to be insensitive to the local culture

Surely Expat, given that the poor boy is likely to be unemployed now, you could find time to 'mentor' the young man? With his interest in business at Yale and the competition of many other hotties in LA, he may well prove flexible in his career choices.

The photo may be recent but it is definitely photoshopped.

Because an expensive gift should be wrapped well ;-) I feel both client and working man should start a session in sexy, tight-fitting briefs

FWIW I saw this movie on a British Airways flight to the US last month and I was very pleased and surprised at how uncensored it was

"tipping" Expat? And what would you use - the tip of your tongue, the tip of your penis or first one then the other?

I agree with Expat with an interval of 1 year. I think escorts are often flaky and may not advertise/show availability because they are kept busy with 'regulars'. Twice now, a guy has interested me tho he hadn't logged in for some time. As I was visiting his location, I sent an email asking about availability. In each case, I received a positive response, agreed the details of what I was looking to do and had a good time.

I really cannot understand why you would want to sully this message-board with details of what those vile heterosexuals get upto in rural parts of the US. Having followed the link and read some of the lurid claims, I feel the need to take a shower and cleanse myself of this previously unimagined filth.

Wonderful response, Hoover

I feel Lucky is being a little harsh, but I share his sentiments. I wrote something similar earlier but decided not to post. It is sad but Nelson Troy is not the first person I know of to die, whether murdered or by suicide, after becoming heavily involved with drugs or alcohol. My generation's stimulant of choice generally is alcohol, and I used to think that the younger generation had simply chosen another. Now I feel that drugs are much more powerfully addictive and dangerous than young people realise.

This post amused me. I had felt it was gay porn. Luckily in the UK the BBC has no 'banners'. So we get to appreciate the athletes in at least outline-detail, if not their full glory.

"In love" or more properly perhaps "in lust"? ;-)

Have you hired them to perform at your house yet? Surely a single appreciative person can constitute an audience ;-)