SolaceSoul

Sao Gonçalo is a 45 minute drive from Ipanema, on the other side of the Guanabara Bay. You sure you want to do that? Maybe just do one overnight there, so that he doesn’t feel offended.

I have a male cousin my exact age who, a few years ago, married his second wife. She’s a woman he met on a trip to the Dominican Republic — in Sosua. Anyone who knows anything about the DR, or heterosexual sex tourism, or prostitution period, has heard of Sosua. It’s almost exclusively for male sex tourists wanting to meet beautiful Dominican female hos on the cheap. Apparently he fell in love with a Sosua woman, married her, and about 6-8 months later, brought her to the States on a marriage visa (along with her teenaged daughter). I also must mention that my cousin has a really bad habit of lying about his wealth and success in order to impress more impressionable women. I am certain that he told her that the house that he lived in was his, when it is really his parents and the mortgage is far from paid off, and that his annual income was much greater than it really is. Well, as soon as she got here to the US, she quickly got knocked up, and pumped out his baby, and when that two year minimum hit, she applied to remove the restrictions from her temporary green card, filed for divorce based on verbal abuse and neglect, was granted a permanent green card, a divorce and child support. She now spends her time with Dominican-American men in the USA who are much hotter and more interesting than my dumbass cousin.

In general, I loathe reality shows but I live for this hot mess of a show, as well as it’s new sister show, “Love After Lockup” (which is about exactly what it sounds like it is). My only suggestion is these shoes really need gay couples — the drama and dysfunction would be tenfold.

Don’t hate the playa, hate the game. What... you mean to tell me your friend thought it was all about love? Tsk tsk.. A fiancé visa differs from a marriage-based green card. The latter is secured a minimum of two years after the sponsoring American spouse and the immigrant have been legally married and holding the temporary green card that is provided a few months after the marriage visa is granted. The former is sponsored by the American citizen, and can only be applied for and granted while the immigrant is abroad. The purpose is to test the relationship and prepare for a valid marriage in a 90-day period. If the American sponsor decides not to marry the foreigner within the 90 days, the foreigner must leave the country or he becomes a visa overstay. There is no possible adjustment of status in this case. For example, if Venezuelan Victor is on a K1 visa with Jimmy from Kansas City, and Victor meets Cindy Sue and prefers to be with her, Cindy Sue can’t do nothing for him. If Jimmy decides not to marry Victor within 90 days, Victor has to leave the country (at Jimmy’s expense) and can only legally return on another visa altogether. He couldn’t marry Cindy Sue, or Brad, or Old Man Fred, or get a work visa while he is here on Jimmy’s sponsored fiancé visa. And with a “failed” engagement, there is no risk of alimony.

I prefer to call it “experienced”. LOL

There’s no such thing as an airtight prenup — especially when one of the spouses enters into the marriage with nothing and the other has everything. You will most likely pay some “go away” money. Just tell the kid that you’re already married. In the USA, polygamous marriages are unrecognized. Or just bring him to the states on a K-1 (fiancé) 90-day visa, and break up with him before the 89th day and send him back home.

I already suspected such, but for newer posters who might not be familiar with your method, it would’ve been useful if you had originally posted that the information in which you were sharing is from 15-16 years ago.

Of course, something like this would absolutely never happen at the murderous hands of a nice older white man in North America. Oh, wait... https://www.nbcnews.com/news/amp/ncna865071

YMMV, but personally I wouldn’t be interested in “importing” a guy to one place that is less exciting (for me) to a place that is more exciting (for me). IOW, Rio for me is the ultimate, and Brasilia is just blah. There are plenty of pebbles in the sand at the beaches of Rio, while Brasilia is not a place where one can find a plethora of available hot guys (that are MY type — again, YMMV). So, importing a date from Brasilia to Rio is the very definition of bringing sand to the beach. Also, I would guess that ANY boy that lived in Brasilia would crawl over broken glass for a paid trip to Rio with accommodations in Zona Sul. That’s like asking a guy who lives in St. Louis if he’d like an all expenses paid weekend trip to Los Angeles. Now, if I had a trip planned to Brasilia, I would most definitely consider importing a Rio boy as a companion. But maybe Rio just doesn’t do it for you like that? If you truly require companionship in Rio, you can find it in Rio. Unless you really, really like this Brasilia boy, I don’t see why you can’t find a gorgeous guy already in Rio who suits you to be an overnight or daily companion. For the record, I absolutely love daily or overnight companions. I’m the type that likes to sleep with someone whose company I enjoy, and I’m careful to whom I extend such offers. I don’t do it nightly or daily on my trips, but I do always do them when I travel, and I select the ones that I really clicked with. I have almost never been disappointed in Brazil with these kinds of companions.

I don’t think Marcelo Vidal (not Armstrong, I don’t know where axiom got that surname from!) does Rocinho tours anymore because of the danger factor. However, he may still do Santa Marta favela tours. SM overlooks Botafogo and has the Michael Jackson statue st the top (he shot a segment of a music video there in 1996). https://youtu.be/QNJL6nfu__Q Santa Marta was always safer than Rocinho, and was in the process of being gentrified and pacified, but with all the current violence and bad economy, it’s best to check with the locals and contact Marcelo directly. Marcelo Vidal info@riogaytraveller.com

They used to have a Citibank in the Barra section of Salvador as well, just blocks away from the most popular beach. Unfortunately, the last time I went, it was shut down permanently.

Yes, that is ill advised, particularly under our current fascist wannabe dictator who has a hardon for getting rid of non-Norwegian immigrants. But to be cleR, ANYONE here in the USA on a tourist visa cannot earn one penny doing ANYTHING — escorting, modeling, massage, sacking groceries, picking strawberries — anything. I know of at least one case where a young man (now very popular on I stagram) from another country was refused his US second tourist visa because it was discovered that during his first trip to the USA, a photographer bought him a plane ticket and hotel accommodations for an unpaid photo shoot.

As well as in Europe. But no garoto would br granted a work visa for that “job” — in fact, there’s a related question on the USCIS form that if answered “yes”, would prevent any travel or immigration to the USA — especially if it occurred in the last 10 years. (Technically, there are also clients who could be barred from travel into the USA and certain other countries for the same thing. So, Nervous Nellies, beware.)

I personally haven’t had that experience there. As I mentioned before, I have only witnessed one guy at Lagoa that I would categorize physically as “AAA” (stellar in looks and body) who remained fully clothed and was surrounded / guarded by a client or clients, and made it clear through non-verbal cues that he was off-limits. But there were several others there that I’d qualify as “AAA” that were more available, so it didn’t make any difference to me. Some guys and girls (working or not) just don’t want the one-offs, and will only flip their switch for someone who can provide for them in sufficient quantity on a regular basis. I refer to this phenomenon as the “I’m not THAT type of ho” mentality: “I’m not a hooker or a street walker, I’m a call girl, or a kept woman.” My only suggestion for a solution to this “problem” you’re seem to be having is to re-invent yourself somehow as a sugar daddy at Lagoa. Of course, the main ingredient needed to be a sugar daddy Is plenty of sugar.

The “middle class” in Brazil and most of Latin, Central and South Smerica, is certainly not the same as the middle class of USA and Canada. That being said, over the years, in Brazil, I’ve met and become friendly with garotos who were alresdy or were studying to be police officers, civil engineers, lawyers, school teachers and physical therapists. Keep in mind that monthly salaries paid in reais are a fraction of what they would be for the same job in the USA — and a garoto can make much more than that at a sauna or through rent ads.

That article is dated July 2001. So, the 5 year period in the article is from July 1996 to July 2001 — 17 years ago. And if was 6 out of 7 people that received the vaccine and contracted yellow fever that died — not all 7 (not that much more comforting, but facts should matter). What’s more statistically important is that the number who contracted yellow fever and died after receiving the vaccine is very low compared to the total number who have received the vaccine. And as mentioned, most likely those people were young, elderly or immunocompromized. “"If you are traveling in an area of ongoing transmission, such as Western Africa or the Amazon, your risk of getting yellow fever unprotected by vaccine is many times higher than your risk of [having problems] from the vaccine," says Cetron.”

São Paulo is a VERY transactional city. It’s arguably the closest thing to New York City in the rest of the Western Hemisphere. The Garotos de Programa and even the hustlers there seem to reflect that — well before they age. Rio and other parts of Brazil just have a much different feel from SP.

I understand what you are trying to say. However, what you described in the latter part of your comment is not that much different in the USA. I do like the aggressive and more punitive anti-racism laws that were recently instituted in Brazil, though. I know of one (former) garoto that got his ass handed to him in criminal court for calling a dark-skinned black female Brazilian celebrity disparaging racial slurs on the Internet. It was publicized widely in Brazilian media. I wish we’d do more of that in the USA. Our racists here have recently become bolder and more emboldened to say and do whatever they please.

This is definitely a “YMMV” topic, but I completely disagree. Just like after a few years in the bright lights and big cities of New York and/or LA will turn even the brightest-eyed, bushiest-tailed freshest freckled-faced ingenue into a jaded and bitter seasoned game player, so goes the way of the Brazilians / Dominicans / Cubans / Africans that land in Europe. Maybe when they FIRST get off the plane or boat from their home country — but after a year or two, and definitely more, in a Western metropolis takes away most or all of the cultural charm and brings out the capitalistic vulture. I’m all for anyone wanting to do something that they view improves their station in life for themselves or their family, but if I wanted shady, shifty, robotic, greedy, mechanical, non-emotional, unsafe-sex-practicing, recreational drug-abusing, face-painted-for-the-gods hookers that make it clear that they are al about the highest dollar, I’d just keep my ass in Manhattan.

I’ve stayed at several AirBnBs in Brazilian cities that had safes in the master bedroom. I stayed at one in Cuba that had a safe. I just returned from Spain and two of the apartments where I stayed both had safes. They are more common than you think. You might want to do a search that includes the word safe or lockbox, or just read the apartment descriptions. Or you can just send a message to the owner and ask them directly before committing.

I was the one who made that remark. Perhaps I could have been clearer. Pele is the one who considers himself white — he said so in a famous American magazine interview in the late 70s (I wish I could find a link to it — but it created a bit of an uproar in the African-American community at the time, and is one of the things that “we” remember most about him and helped to formulate a somewhat skewed opinion amongst African-Americans about racial identity and race relations in Brazil. The comment was something along the lines of what you suggest: that his social standing has erased his blackness and that he is now white and experiences no racism. His three wives (I believe Xuxa was included) have all been white. He has never once stood up against racism in Brazil, or even in his own sport of football — and recently was harshly critiqued by a now more Afrocentric generation for encouraging black or pardo soccer players who encounter racism (and by extension, any black person encountering racism) to simply ignore it. I’d argue that Pele is more of a product of his nation’s peculiar culture and history of race, color and class than an anomaly of it. It is almost remarkable that a dark black man like Pele from the same era as a light-skinned black man like Muhammad Ali had almost the polar opposite belief and outlook on black pride, black beauty, anti-racism and activism. But that, IMHO, is just indicative of the differences in racial identity in the two largest nations in both of the Americas.

As a 20-year resident of New York City, let me be the first to say, “been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.” Need I also remind you how many garotos can be had for the price of one New York City escort? Or how many nights one can stay in a Brazilian hotel or apartment for the price of one night in Manhattan? And the weather, the food, the culture, the people? Yes, if you’re going to Brazil just for the boys, you’re missing out — but even if you’re going just for the boys, IMHO, it’s the best place to go to just for the boys.

The same (or probably even more so) could be said for all these skinny twinks that some fawn over at these boards. There are PLENTY of young, bone-thin gay guys here in the USA — some of them even think they are appealing enough to be sex workers! — so why waste time and money venturing to Brazil, or Thailand, or anywhere else for that matter, if you can find them in the States?

That security guard (Turkish?) was a sight to behold. On some days thereby, he was the only one I really wanted. Alas, he is unavailable. When one worker was a little pushy with me (wouldn’t seem to stop trying to make a sale with me, even though I didn’t express much interest), the security guard did come up to me to make sure everything was fine. I wanted to tell him how he could really make things better!

We would never have to fight over garotos.