joizy

There is one member of this forum who seems to be suffering from some form of paranoia. It could be related to his past drug use (which he admitted in one of his posts). It seems he believes there are people who make fake profiles, join the forum, provide helpful information about a place, and then try to gather information about hustlers. It is one of the strangest conspiracy theories I have ever heard, and unfortunately, he's targeting me and several other members. He even went so far as to accuse people of not really being in the places they say they are and one unfortunate member after posting photos of his passport to prove it, was still called a liar. The sad thing is to see others jump on this bandwagon and then harass newer members on the forum. It seems like the forum is not moderated, but is instead controlled by a group of guys who seem to live here. They are literal trolls, like the fictional trolls who live under the bridge and force you to pay them before crossing. Apparently, you have to kiss these guys' asses in order to be able to be a member of this forum. In another case, I tried to open a discussion about Mexico in the Latin America forum where there are way too many discussions about Brazil and garotos - this is where most of these trolls seem to reside. I was then publicly shamed and told I was lazy and stupid. Mexico is a beautiful and diverse country and yet there are no posts about it? It's strange. The member who shamed me seems to be Argentine, so maybe he has some sort of prejudice about Mexico. I hope someone will fill this void and post something about places to visit. I won't be doing that. It's not worth it for me to be called names. Ironically, this person who shamed me for asking a question then went on to post about his trip to Buenos Aires - it's the type of thing I put on Facebook - not something I'd share with a bunch of strangers. He told us about his lunch with his mother and even posted photos of her! Ok, maybe I don't understand the rules of the forum, but is that what this is for, so that some people can share every detail of their lives and the rest of us swoon over them? It's really sad that gay men are not more supportive of one another. Rather than encouraging discussion and welcoming new members, the older trolls seem to want to keep this forum for themselves so that they can tell us about a boring lunch with their mother. I got a lot of good information here, but it's not a place where I feel welcomed. I've been called a liar, a fraud and lazy because I asked a question. I feel sorry for these guys. Also feel bad about the other victims of one particular members paranoia. It has unfortunately made this forum a toxic place. I hope the moderators will take a look at some of the behavior here that discourages discussion and results in people not wanting to share or ask questions.

I think you need to get help. I really don't know what you're accusing me of, but you are way off. You seem a bit delusional. Are you on medication?

Not really sure what you're accusing me of, but I think you're all a little nuts. What a strange forum this is.

I'm browsing these forums thinking about places I'll go to now that we're sort of returning to normal travel again. I went to Myanmar many years ago. Back in Bangkok, which was my base, a Thai friend told me he had sex with guys in central Yangon, near Shwedegon Pagoda - they'd meet in a park and you could just stick your hand up their longi. I didn't do anything while I was there, but his story made me want to go back. Wondering if you went and if you had any luck.

I just returned from a month in Medellin and I can confirm that Paradise Lleras shows up on Motel Now as a love motel. Also, not sure about the police presence being a deterrant for a hustler to enter a motel. Protistution and love motels are legal in Colombia. Haven't read all of the posts here, but not really understanding the "detective work" which seems suspect to me. I saw Angelo on Grindr and definitely considered hooking up with him. He's really hot. "Guest" provided way too much detail for this to be a made up encounter.

We don't talk about P*bl*.

Hey guys! I just returned from a month in Medellin. Wish I'd found this forum before I went. Lots of useful tips. While there is a lot of good info here, I wanted to add a few more that I didn't see mentioned which I either knew before I left or learned the hard way there. 1. It may have been said elsewhere, but I'd like to emphasize that you should speak some Spanish. I found very few people who spoke English. Definitely learn the basics and keep trying to communicate in Spanish - translator apps work well and people will appreciate the effort on your part. 2. If your cellphone plan doesn't allow an option for international use - look at Airalo e-sim card. It's an electronic sim. You can download the app before you leave, purchase your sim and have it ready to go when you land. I found out about this when the sim I had installed on an old phone stopped working. Wish I'd known before I left home. 3. Look for a card that allows cash withdrawals without fees. I have a Charles Schwab investor "checking" account. I transfer money into this account and use it for travel. Best exchange rates and ATM fees are reimbursed. 4. Use Rappi - it's a delivery service that will deliver anything - food, medicine, whatever you want. 5. Approach Grindr with caution. Too many guys that seemed too good to be true. Ask for verification photos if you're not convinced. Some words that indicate a financial exchange - liga, disponible, solvente. 6. Use Uber instead of taxis if you can. They are unauthorized, so you sit in the front seat - just a "friend giving you a ride". You can plug in your destination and you know the fare. Their goal is to get you to your destination in the most efficient way, whereas taxis might take the scenic route if they figure out you're not from there. With all cars, close the doors gently. They are surprisingly light. If you use the same force you use at home, it will slam. Taxi drivers are especially unhappy when this happens. 7. Be careful at ATMs - I used the ATM inside of a supermarket. Don't flash your cash. 8. Beware of people slipping you drugs. I didn't read about this happening to gay men (though there were a few gay murders that I think are still unsolved), but I read on numerous forums about straight guys being drugged by women and ending up in the ER - of course with their valuables gone. While I had ZERO problems there, the hotness and availability of the men might lower your normal sense of caution. 9. Look for a local to show you around and help with your Spanish. I paid a guy to be my tour guide. He threw in some extras. I had the best experiences with him. Met him on Grindr. 10. Have fun. Medellin is a beautiful city and the people are lovely. Keep your wits about you, show some cultural sensitivity, and you'll have a great time.