PeterRS Posted Sunday at 04:23 AM Posted Sunday at 04:23 AM Recently, and for a reason that defeats me, I have been getting regular emails from Quora. Today there is one rather nasty one about how narcissists age. But it is quite interesting, even though I doubt if it reflects the type of existence many narcissistic personalities have led.. 1. First, they spend their lives hurting others. After years of hurting others, all the guilt and shame add up, no matter how much they may deny it. To avoid this feeling, they continue to do bad things in order to protect their false identity — their “False Self.” Picture each cruel act as a brick. And by old age, they are carrying a huge mountain of bricks. 2. Second, they always see themselves as the victim. When people react to their bad behaviour, they twist it and believe they are the ones being treated badly. As time goes by this attitude isolates them. They drive everyone away but cannot understand why they are alone. My covert mother at the end of her life felt miserable and said that everyone had abused her. She had a good life and a husband that adored her, giving her every gift imaginable. 3. Third, the aging process works on their mind. They lose control and no longer can conceal their inner self. If they were covert, the mask drops. They become more rude, selfish and more bitter, exposing their real self. Now you know - or don't as the case may be! Ruthrieston 1 Quote
Keithambrose Posted Sunday at 09:03 AM Posted Sunday at 09:03 AM 4 hours ago, PeterRS said: Recently, and for a reason that defeats me, I have been getting regular emails from Quora. Today there is one rather nasty one about how narcissists age. But it is quite interesting, even though I doubt if it reflects the type of existence many narcissistic personalities have led.. 1. First, they spend their lives hurting others. After years of hurting others, all the guilt and shame add up, no matter how much they may deny it. To avoid this feeling, they continue to do bad things in order to protect their false identity — their “False Self.” Picture each cruel act as a brick. And by old age, they are carrying a huge mountain of bricks. 2. Second, they always see themselves as the victim. When people react to their bad behaviour, they twist it and believe they are the ones being treated badly. As time goes by this attitude isolates them. They drive everyone away but cannot understand why they are alone. My covert mother at the end of her life felt miserable and said that everyone had abused her. She had a good life and a husband that adored her, giving her every gift imaginable. 3. Third, the aging process works on their mind. They lose control and no longer can conceal their inner self. If they were covert, the mask drops. They become more rude, selfish and more bitter, exposing their real self. Now you know - or don't as the case may be! Describes Trump very well! Ruthrieston, jimmie50 and floridarob 3 Quote
vinapu Posted Sunday at 01:02 PM Posted Sunday at 01:02 PM 3 hours ago, Keithambrose said: Describes Trump very well! +1 indeed that was what I thought reading original post floridarob and jimmie50 2 Quote
Members unicorn Posted 23 hours ago Members Posted 23 hours ago On 11/2/2025 at 1:03 AM, Keithambrose said: Describes Trump very well! Yes, except for the part about the guilt and shame adding up. Since he's a sociopath, I doubt he feels any guilt or shame. 😉It took a long time, but I think the swing voters are finally realizing that they elected a lifelong con-man: a smooth-talker who lies with every breath. a-447, vinapu, floridarob and 1 other 4 Quote
caeron Posted 14 hours ago Posted 14 hours ago 8 hours ago, unicorn said: Yes, except for the part about the guilt and shame adding up. Since he's a sociopath, I doubt he feels any guilt or shame. 😉It took a long time, but I think the swing voters are finally realizing that they elected a lifelong con-man: a smooth-talker who lies with every breath. I pray you are right. I believe you are wrong. Quote
Keithambrose Posted 11 hours ago Posted 11 hours ago 3 hours ago, caeron said: I pray you are right. I believe you are wrong. One of my friends, who lives in America said, "never underestimate the stupidity of the average American voter". Quote
Members unicorn Posted 2 hours ago Members Posted 2 hours ago 11 hours ago, caeron said: I pray you are right. I believe you are wrong. Time will tell, but the few clues we have from this last election suggest swing voters have had enough of Trump and his antics. Virginia is a swing state, which can easily vote for either party in statewide elections. Elections in that state are usually close, either way. The Democratic candidate for governor won with a 15% margin over her opponent. The Attorney General vote went to the Democrat by 5.5%, despite texts he sent in 2002: “Three people, two bullets. Gilbert, hitler, and pol pot. Gilbert gets two bullets to the head,” the text reads in part, referring to Gilbert and the two dictators. (Gilbert was the Republican Speaker of the [Virginia] House at the time) https://www.cnn.com/2025/10/04/politics/virginia-democratic-nominee-attorney-general-facing-pressure For Lieutenant Governor, Ghazala Hashmi won by an over 10% margin--the first Muslim woman in the nation to win statewide office. Every single one of those 3 positions was previously held by a Republican. https://www.cnn.com/election/2025/results/virginia In New Jersey, the only other state with a governor's race, the Democrat won by an almost 14% margin. https://www.cnn.com/election/2025/results/new-jersey A Muslim also won New York City's mayoral race, with 9% more than his closest opponent (and 43% more than the Republican), even though Jews make up 12% of the city's population. Zohran Mamdani won every borough except Staten Island. https://www.cnn.com/election/2025/results/new-york-city-mayor In California, an election to abandon nonpartisan commissions' role in drawing US Congressional districts (in response to similar moves in Republican states) won by an almost 2:1 margin, even though only 45.3% of California's voters are registered as Democrats: https://electionresults.sos.ca.gov/returns/maps/ballot-measures/prop/50 https://www.ppic.org/publication/california-voter-and-party-profiles/ Elections are decided by swing voters. I believe we know what swing voters are thinking at this time. Where possible, Republicans are doing what they can to dilute votes from Democrats, and lawmakers in several states, such as Texas, have been successful in doing that. We were touring Maine last month, and Republicans had put forth a measure to make it more difficult to vote absentee/by mail. We saw plenty of "Yes on 1" yard signs throughout the trip (much more than no signs), and were worried. Maine is another swing state, with one Republican US Senator and one Independent. That ballot measure was trounced, by an almost 30% margin. (Also a gun control measure won handily). https://ballotpedia.org/Maine_Question_1,_Require_Voter_Photo_ID_and_Change_Absentee_Ballot_and_Drop_Box_Rules_Initiative_(2025) Much can change in 1 year, and Republicans continue their shenanigans where they can (without direct voter involvement). I think that independent voters now have a dim view of Republican misdeeds, at least as of this time, however. Quote
caeron Posted 1 hour ago Posted 1 hour ago All true, except for the fact that he was a train wreck last time and they voted for him again anyway. I think the problem is that too many Americans are idiots with no memory. Probably racist misogynists too. When they're staring at the disaster, they see it, but the moment it is out of sight they begin to forget. That whole doomed to repeat thing. Quote
