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On the right, your average middle-aged, overweight, balding sex tourist. On your left, a smooth, well built 19 year old. Each has come to the beach looking for one thing, and one thing only, and each has found it. After a fun frolic on the beach, the tourist's newfound companion accompanies him back to his room for the rest of the evening. Hmm...you think he had a good time?

I don't want to devolve into pedantry, and that is certainly a valid point to make. But from my (admittedly finite) knowledge of history, the East-West schism was driven primarily by political and cultural forces than by profound theological disagreement, though that was an element. The western church suffered a papal schism itself in the late 14th century, though it was resolved without splitting the Church itself. The Protestant Reformation, by contrast, was a profoundly theological schism. I guess technically speaking, Christianity in its very early history was quite fractured, which itself was the impetus for the Council of Nicea, Christianity's first attempt to obtain consensus on universal doctrine. And in its very earliest history, Christianity itself was just a faction of Judaism.

I try to refrain from socio-political debates on forums that are not expressly political in their outlook, but I do feel compelled to add my two cents here. Yes, Judeo-Chrisianity and Islam often include condemnation of gays. The big difference is that thinks to the scientific revolution by people like Copernicus, Newton, and Darwin and a post-Enlightenment secularism, Christianity has largely been whipped into minding its manners. Christianity arises from a radical apocalyptic preacher in the form of Jesus Christ who believed that the return of god was imminent. Hence his messages about giving away earthly possession, abandoning your family to preach this imminent return, and general disregard for the material world (e.g. render unto Caesar what is Caesar's and unto god what is god's). The Quran, on the other hand, is not simply a message of spiritual redemption but a template for how to build and run a society. It answers numerous political questions that are simply left unaddressed in the Bible. Jesus didn't concern himself with politics because he thought the end of the world was near. Mohammad, on the other hand, was attempting to build a civilization form the ground up. Islam also split into factions relatively early in its history, compared to the Church, which existed for a millennia and a half before its reformation. The nature of Islam itself simply does not make it amenable to building a society of secular pluralism.

The officer was actually working security inside the club. He engaged in gunfire with the assailant but was essentially outgunned and forced to fall back, lest he get killed himself. Local police were on the scene quickly, but it was initially being handled as a hostage situation. It was only when it became clear that the assailant was simply indiscriminately killing people, officers moved in and eventually killed him. The entire ordeal actually took place over a three-hour period. This assailant was somewhat atypical in that mass shooters typically go on a short-term spree killing and then simply turn the gun on themselves when police arrived.

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Okay.

Good for you! To each their own.

Just meant it to be an irreverent, cheeky post.

Bonus pic "wait for you..."

Over a period of years.

Where did I ever use the word "boyfriend" to describe our relationship?

The first "boy" I ever encountered in Thailand was sweet 19-year-old Mac. It was love at first sight...sight of his delicious bubble butt. In the nearly 10 years since that first encounter, Mac has since left the BKK bar scene and returned to the farm in Isan. But thanks to the wonders of modern technology, we have been able to keep in touch, and on nearly every visit to Thailand since we have managed to meet. My style tends towards the younger, twink type, but this boy has only gotten better with age (and he was amazing the first time). Here's some progress. And during our most recent encounter last month:

Arrived back in my home town of Florida, USA after a short (17 days) jaunt to Thailand. I have never been one for "trip reports." I have no problem with those who post them, and I can appreciate the vicarious and voyeuristic appeal to those on "the out," so to speak. So while I do not attend to give a play-by-play "report" of my last visit, I am inspired to share (for the first time with anyone other than my closest friend) a broader report of my experience and relationship to Thailand generally. For starters, a little background. I am a 34-year-old American born and raised in an upper middle class home in the city of Tampa, Florida. I came out of the closet around age 14-15 during the summer between my freshman and sophomore years in high school. Had no problems from the family (my mother and father had frequented local gay bars with friends and extended family since before I was born. I attended a selective school and had no problems with being an out gay student. In short, my coming out was rather painless and carefree. I dated my high school sweetheart (an adopted Vietnamese) for four years, from age 18-22; we attended the same undergraduate and lived together the entire time. Unfortunately, our post-graduate plans drew us in two significantly different directions, and we had an amicable (if painful) breakup. Shortly thereafter, I began a serious relationship with another guy (mix Chinese and Thai), and we were together for about three years. I was perfectly convinced that I had found the love of my live and was quite content to spend the rest of my life with him. So when the relationship crumbled and burnt, I was particularly wounded. After a rash suicide attempt with an automobile, I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and came away with a few insights: (a) I am a rice queen; (b) I am an ephebophile; © I cannot maintain a normal relationship (i.e. marriage or monogamous commitment to a single partner As for (a), at the time I was really convinced that it was simply a coincidence that both of my serious relationships were with men of East Asian extraction. I fancied myself a cosmopolitan bohemian prone to attraction to men of any number of ethnic or demographic profiles. Turned out I was attracted to slim, relatively hairless young men. Of which Southeast and East Asian men tend to predominate. Which leads me to my second insight- ephebophilia. This word, unlike its dreaded cousin pedophilia, has not really penetrated into popular use. Perhaps because the condition it describes is vague and ambiguous and relatively new, in human historical terms. The split between childhood and adulthood has long been a concern of the human condition, but it is only in recent times that we acknowledge a middle period described vaguely as "adolescence." Pedophilia is a specific condition that involves sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children, but given the degree to which people confuse legal consent with actual intellectual/emotional maturity, it is not uncommon to refer to someone as a pedophile, even though their sexual attraction was directed towards someone of sexual maturity (that's to say, post-pubescent), but beneath the outside legal age of consent. Sexual contact between an adult and a 5-year-old will typically garner more outrage than sexual conduct between an adult and 15-year-old, and properly so. So, having diagnosed myself with a paraphilia not really seriously discussed since the time of classical Athens, I come across a relatively new porn site called "privateboymovie." In particular, a video featuring "San." A preview is readily accessible to anyone who chooses to google my two quotes. Inspired, I booked a flight to Bangkok later that year (2007) and have been a regular, frequent visitor/pseudo-ex pat ever since. So while spending the last almost 10 years living out the fantasy of that site producer, why am I really no happier or more content than I was a decade earlier?

Probably depends a lot on the farang. Just be honest with yourself and ask a simple question: when you were his age, did you want to be seen walking down the street with current you? I think when I answer "no" to that question, I'll probably stop doing it, too. Probably.

Why does it matter what Thai guys generally prefer? Regardless of the answer, you're still going to have to face that question with each individual Thai person you meet. Even if 99% of Thai guys loved it, you could still end up with a one percenter until you know his particular likes and dislikes.

Honestly, I don't see how you are going to get satisfactory response. The information is simply too limited. Could it be drug-related? Sure. Could it be that the guy has a mental or emotional problem? That, too. Maybe he got a better offer from someone else, and he was looking for a way out. Maybe he was in a bad mood that day because of something that happened between he and a friend or he and a foreigner he talks to online. I mean, we can all come and type responses here that speculate about why some random person acted some random way one day, but I don't see much insight for you to gain. I think probably a lot of the problems that occur between Thais and faring is miscommunication (if you are the least bit discriminatory in your choice of partners). In the years I have spent in Thailand, I have never had a situation escalate between myself and a Thai person where anything remotely resembling violence or the threat of violence is involved. I accept that I might just have gotten very lucky over the years; however, I do believe that I put a good deal of effort into looking for people who are of a like mind than me. If they are not, I move on.

My strategy, such as it is, is to start by using GR's search feature and searching for the parameters I am interested in. I scan quickly at profile result and mark it as either pass or possible. After that, I go back through all the possibles, take a closer like, and edit the list down further. I am usually then left with about a dozen and a half or two dozen profiles. I send out short messages to all of them and then take the replies as they come. I usually move things off GR and onto a social app like Line or WhatsApp fairly quickly. I also like to request more photos, and this is usually never a problem. I've probably been more shocked by the change in a guy's appearance between meeting him at a bar and getting back to my place than I have from meeting someone online. Honestly, I only bother with the bar scene if I am entertaining a friend who is an infrequent visitor or just for the occasional lark.

I might as well add that I, too, have made quite a bit of use of apps like GR, Jack'd, Grindr, etc. and never encountered any significant problem. I can usually tell within a few messages back and forth how likely it is to work out. I think part of it is just a vibe thing. With experience you learn to pick up on the subtle signals. Plus some people just have more finely attuned BS meters than others.

SEMI-RETRACTION: It looks like I jumped to conclusions before having all the relevant info. My apologies. At least one Thai individual I know identified this individual from the photo at the link alone as a "producer" and involved in the pornographic industry. That response, along with the comments from the two users here, is suggestive of the fact that this individual is indeed involved in the videos' productions. That said, he is not the individual who actually appears and performs in the video. I imagine that it is the identity of this individual that is most curious to individuals here, rather than someone involved on the administrative or technical side.

I've seen a photo of the guy snapped by someone who appeared on the site, and it doesn't look anything like that. I also showed the pic to two other guys who appeared on the site, and they said it was not him. I remain highly skeptical.

That is not him.

p.s. just realized this probably should have been posted in the Comments/Suggestion forum...

Is there a method for deleting a post? I read that there "may" be a delete option next to the "Quote" buttons on posts but do not see any such option. Is it is possible to delete a post after you have replied to a topic?

Not sure. Just gives my 'BS' meter a slight twinge. How is it you happen to know so much about him personally and his business operation?