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As Jupiter is an expensive bar they need to know their arse from their elbow, imo, like who works there.

A generous offer but I warn you I do need to be talked to and not too much sleeping please.

I have found it fun but my experience is many young men sleep a lot too so agreeing on the same time cycle can be an issue. If we want to start the day at 8am and the guy thinks 4pm is the right time to get out of bed we're not on the same page.

I've got lazier about visiting other towns in Thailand over the years, often settling for Bangkok and Pattaya, so I booked a flight to Khon Kaen for 3 nights. I always like places in Isaan. It's more low rise and spread out than I expected so I've used Bolt a lot to get around. Always prompt and efficient, except when I got caught in a thunderstorm yesterday at rush hour teatime and the app said a 19 minute wait so I started walking back. I stayed at the Romantic Hotel for about £16 a night so I don't know how it's making any money. Tuesday night I went to the Tawandang, which, as many of you will know, is a big pub/club with tables and an Isaan music/dancing show. I walked the 2km back to the hotel at midnight, occasionally fending off guard dogs. I didn't expect much re men and found Hornet much busier than Grindr here. But it was on Grindr that I found a 21 year old university student who was looking for extra income and we met up Wednesday night for a long chat in a music pub and a session in bed back in my room.

US citizens get 60 days visa exempt normally, if it's just a holiday. So you need to do nothing. Only frequent or business travellers need to think about a visa. During the 3 days before arrival you need to complete an online arrival form, a DTAC. This is not a visa.

Well one guy was working massage at BBB Inn, which had a very strict boss, so getting the time off would be an issue, and the other was freelancing and never had any money. I think these days, in high season, they could find the money for the bus, though it's not that attractive to do it for the day. My sense with the Vietnamese guys is that going for a little 'holiday', like one night in Pattaya, isn't in their list of priorities, even when they have money. Sending money to their family, debts, rent, visa runs, sickness costs, smoking, hanging out with their mates, parties, new clothes, all come first.

I have taken men away a few times. It can be fun, though expensive, as I usually pay them 4000bt a day, and the bar wants the off fee, plus travel and expenses. I once brought 2 men to Pattaya but ended that after one of them ordered a 6500bt lunch for three of us while I was at the atm. A happier memory is taking two young Vietnamese men from Bangkok to Pattaya for one night and their smiles as the taxi accelerated on the highway and they realised they really were going to the seaside.

I've always had an interest in the law. When I have had arguments with banks in the past I tell them that my father is a solicitor. This is a naughty lie, though it did help to get £100 out of one bank. Indeed my father was a solicitor but he died 72 years ago. He smoked a lot and had a heart attack at the age of 37 so I have no memory of him. Today I get a taxi back to Bangkok. Thoughts of travel to new places (Khon Kaen??) have been overtaken by the fact that two of my favourite men are in Bangkok, one Vietnamese, one from Myanmar. Both are good at kissing. I doubt Khon Kaen can compete.

Plus the lads from Gus Bar dancing in the interval to the Best Bar show.

In a bar a few nights ago I had just bought a Lao man, who I've known for years, a drink when the police arrived and arrested all the foreign workers, about 5 of 7 staff. I'm not saying where as talking about a business losing most of the staff might count as a negative review. That would be defamation and breaking the computer crimes act, as one guy found when he posted a negative review of a Thai hotel, the hotel complained and he spent 2 nights in prison. The hotel dropped the charges or it would have been more. The police took a photo of my bill where I'd bought the man a drink. Happily I was not arrested for conspiring to cause a Lao man to work but there's time yet, if going to bed together is work. The man has not replied to my message so it's not looking good. I haven't much to report, otherwise. I have seen some money boys, been stood up by one MB twice (1. sleeping 2. working; am I crazy for giving them a second chance? Yes.), seen old friends, played pool, watched the show at Best Bar and Gus Bar, noted that the chairs and umbrellas on Dongtan beach are closed on Wednesdays and enjoyed meals at the Pirate Cafe and Cheap Charlies.

For my first night in Jomtien I was still tired from spending so much of the previous night kissing the Myanmar lad. But I managed beers in 3 bars. At the first one the waiter swiftly winkled a boy drink out of me and offered to fuck me without a condom. I have finished my remaining prep so this is not going to happen. I had a walk through the complex and was sad to see 4t bar shut, though I had read the owner was not continuing the lease. And I know a lad who worked there so will have to find out if he has got a new job. The complex is looking quiet and in need of customers. On to M Bar, where I caught their 10pm show, which the lads do really well for a modest bar. The Mamasan is always welcoming. Over to Sunee Bar, where I bought a shirtless bar lad a drink. Messaged a different MB from Myanmar who I hope to see while I am here. Grindr is busy but not clicked with anyone yet.

Last night was the best so far, though very understated. I took off, just to drink, a Cambodian man from Dream Boys who I know from the past. Some 18 months ago I took him to Pattaya and to Phnom Penh for 3 nights in each place. He had never been on a plane and never been to his capital city. Please do not tell the men that once I have had a few drinks, if they tell me they have never been on a plane, I am liable to say: 'let's go!' The two men I have done that with so far read every word of the safety card. It was nice to play pool with him but the night was about to get better. I popped in to Freshboys at 22.45 to see the men, who are briefly on stage around that time in an interval in the show. Then to Goodboys where I took off a Myanmar man for short time. He was so good at kissing that it was 10am before he left and he seemed pleased with his tip. It made me realise again that I can be completely happy with kissing and cuddling for ages and I should welcome this change rather than think I have to perform 'sex' every time. Both of us having an erection is reinforcing but I don't need an orgasm very often. This may seem odd to you younger ones but it's my reality now. I just arrived in Jomtien so I will be looking for men who like kissing.

It's years since I have been but just hanging out in Sousse attracted offers 20 years ago. I was never brave enough to accept them but my friend started a 20 year relationship with a teenage Tunisian lad he met while we were drinking at an outside bar. After a few years the guy suggested my friend buy a house in Sousse as a love nest for them when my friend was visiting. But he didn't mention that he had got a Tunisian girl pregnant out of marriage and the girl's brothers had threatened him and forced him to marry the girl so he needed a house to live in. That led to a falling out between the guy and my friend but they resumed after a few months. Once I was in a back street in Sousse and a lad, about 16 years old, surrounded by younger boys, said hello and suggested, in English, that 'I try gay sex' and that one of his friends would look out for the police. I thanked him for the idea and kept walking.

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I don't recognise him from Freshboys and Good Boys.

I am soft but I do say no a lot too; it has to be done in these bars.

Sunday had started well with the Laos man coming to my room. He arrived on time and all went well. In the evening I had agreed to meet a Vietnamese man for a drink and give him 2000bt as he in a very serious financial hole. I have known him for 11 years and lent him cash in the past which he still owes. He asked for more which I refused and I found the conversation dispiriting as I don't see how he gets out of this problem. Later in Freshboys, while I gave away a good number of 100bt notes, I felt nagged for a tip by others. I don't like saying no as I appreciate their lives are not easy but we all know our limits on the cash we have available. I went on to Good Boys, bought a Thai lad a beer and gave him 300, and gave away a few more red notes. If I see a lad looking a bit depressed I surprise him with 100bt. Please don't tell them this.

I would also recommend the Raya (lift in car park so avoids reception and no discussion of men's id's), Tarntawan (strict on id's if one likes that), Quarter Silom (still newish and nice pool and English speaking staff) and Ibis Styles on Silom (responsive management). My favourite used to be Pantip Suites on Sathorn Soi 1 but Covid finished it off.

I'm currently in 56 Surawong which is basic and can be noisy so higher rooms are better. The wi-fi can be iffy so I run the laptop off an AIS card. They don't check id's of men I bring back so I prefer it to hotels which are strict about holding id's. Some may prefer the security of the latter system. Once in Pattaya the hotel gave my Thai friend the wrong id card back. He didn't check it and only realised as he was about to hand it to the guard at the entrance to Sattahip naval base, which is open to the public, if they have correct id. Happily the hotel still had his id when we returned. I do recommend 56 Surawong as a cheap option which is near the bars.

I've been to Malaysia twice. Maybe I caught a poor night in the one gay bar I went to but countries where gay sex is illegal have a hill to climb. I haven't yet been to Philippines, though I read about it of course.

7 nights, then 7 nights in Pattaya, then 11 nights to be decided

Occasionally customs search me at UK airports but I am not a shopper so 2 cheap t shirts, maybe costing £10 here, is all they have to look at.

Talked to at BKK. 'Why you come so often? Are you working?' Last time I was coming in the priority lane as over 70 and the IO showed me my passport full of stamps as I had a burst of visits here after the Covid lockdowns. Yes, we appreciate the sanuk as we know our time may be limited so we will keep squeezing.

I'm 73 and started coming to Thailand in 2011 after my bf died of alcoholism in UK. I have been here about 55 times so far, plus side trips to nearby countries. All visa exempt. I have been 'talked to' twice at immigration so because of that, and money reasons, I don't come as much as 4 times a year any more. Qatar landed at BKK at 19.00 on Thursday. Planes jammo as usual in economy but FA's very pleasant. I had printed out the DTAC so happily walked past the queue to use tablets to do it before immigration. BTS/MRT to Silom by 21.05 and walked to cheapish Surawong hotel, chosen as I'm trying to be more economical these days. You will soon see that I am not economical. Over to Freshboys to take out 2 of my favourite Vietnamese men for a drink. Take nobody back to my room as I slept a total of 15 minutes on the flights so not up to it. Friday I took out from Freshboys a lovely man from Myanmar for a drink and was embarrassed that I knew him from the past and already had him as contact on line. Maybe his hair was different. Saturday I took out a Vietnamese man from Good Boys I knew as a massage man from Silom Soi 6 to go to bed and that went well. He was into kissing which many Viet men are not. And today I invited a Laos man who I know from Pattaya, and is currently freelancing in Bangkok, to my room. He is even better at kissing. At my age I do like enthusiasm and I like to run winners. I know a lot of men from the bars and have them as contacts on Line or wherever so get requests for offs or help every day. While I am generous with 100 bt notes I stopped lending or giving more money some years ago as my finances declined. Many years ago on Soi Twilight I had a night where I decided whatever the lads asked for I would give them. That was a 30,000 bt night and great fun but I will try to avoid it on this trip.

Perhaps the place to find young, handsome Lao men is in the bars of Bangkok and Pattaya? I was disappointed by Luang Prabang. I had read about backpackers playing in the river but found a touristy market town, with even the massage shops not looking promising for a quickie. But it’s pretty enough for a short visit.